#yes it is a parasocial relationship leave me alone <3

[meraki-yao]

TN Candies Part 2

HI! I’m back with more candies to share :D

Part 1

Again, preface for precaution, but it’s the exact same stuff as last time, so if you know it and you’re okay with it, feel free to cut the chase and go straight to the main event under the cut.  

1, This post contains content regarding real-person shipping. If you’re uncomfortable with the subject, again, please don’t read under the post

2, I don’t have all the candies because I really just view them in passing, so I’m just gonna write/translate the ones I’ve seen, remember and find at least a logical speculation

3, I need to reiterate this in case my position in this gets misunderstood: Me writing about “candies” isn’t because these are MY opinion or things *I* found or *I* believe in them being evidence. I am just a translator and messenger.

4, Chinese people have a very difference understanding of platonic/romantic affection/relationships compared to the Western world, and that they look at the candies with rose-tinted glass. Chinese/Asian people are generally a lot less affectionate with their personal relationships, for example friends wouldn’t say “love you” to each other if they’re just friends, nor would they expand their friend group to the others easily or other stuff. And these people who look for candy go into their “investigation” already with the belief that “they are together”, everything remotely resembling a close relationship will automatically be interpreted as romantic. I thought about it a lot, and honestly among the “candies” I’ve seen, most of them are a matter of interpretation: yes those are things couples will do, but it wouldn’t be weird if friends did it too. So they’re not that seriously or up for further speculation. There is I think only one “candy” that I can’t quite say the same, which I will explain and elaborate on in this post. 

5, Please remember that the people who do this do it in good nature: something I didn’t make clear in my post yesterday, which is on me, is that the fans do want them to be together, but they’re not like… yandere level or something. If they’re just friends the fans won’t be upset or betrayed or anything, they just prefer to see them as romantic. They don’t mean any harm, and they don’t cause any harm because China is physically and digitally too far away for them to actually fuck shit up, and they understand the lines of parasocial relationships: those who met with Taylor during his China trip in December know to, and didn’t bring up this in front of him. They know where to draw the line, and whoever doesn’t and starts becoming a problem gets kicked out of the community. This is meant for fun.

Ok with that being say, main event under the cut:

Lexi Galitzine

Preface for this one, and I cannot emphasise this enough: I did not fact check this one, I don’t follow Lexi on any social media. These are discoveries of the original posters. Please do not disturb Lexi and respect her privacy, especially since she is not a public figure. This is observation and speculation all done in casual, good fun, please respect her and leave her alone.

Starting from 20th December, Lexi Galitzine, Nick’s older and only sister, starting following Taylor on Instagram, which is quite odd since it was past rwrb’s promo period. Even during the promo period, Lexi only liked the rwrb official account’s post on twitter. And it’s her personal account, not her work account, so this is a personal thing.

She then proceeded to like Taylor’s post from the 20th, 23rd , and 29th. All of which are pictures from his China trip, and therefore has nothing to do with Nick.

Lexi is a graphic designer, so she mostly follows artist and designers. For Nick’s co-workers, Lexi only follows two female co-star who are very close to Nick. Taylor’s the first male friend of Nick’s that Lexi followers.

Your Man

As we all know, on Taylor’s birthday, Aneesh posted her (so far) last rwrb photo dump, and among those ones was Taylor and Nick singing together (which was adorable)

They sang “Your Man” together, which is quite a romantic and sweet song if you look at the lyrics

Taylor then commented under the post, and I quote “You recorded Ahahaahhaa”, implying he didn’t know that this was recorded at the time of the video. But… from the video, Aneesh isn’t that far away from the boys, and Taylor’s facing Aneesh, unlike Nick, who was facing Taylor.

(This is fully up to interpretation) There’s such a… vibe between them in that video.  

(To me this is a stretch but) Taylor’s at Nick’s trailer. And if we recall the “OHHH THERE’S THE MOVIE STAR” little video where Nick got all adorably flustered since Taylor filmed Nick getting out of the lift, it means that Taylor was waiting for Nick, and Nick wasn’t surprised to see Taylor, so this has been going on for a while. If there is more than one lift, then Taylor also somehow knows which one Nick’s coming out from. They know each other’s route/place and meet up a lot.

Aneesh posted a video of both of them singing on Taylor’s birthday, and when wishing Taylor happy birthday, she posted that video on her story. It’s Taylor’s birthday, it would have made more sense to post either photos of just Taylor, or Taylor with her, which is what she did for his last birthday.

Nick’s Tiktok

Mentioned this yesterday but I’ll translate it here too: Nick originally followed 83 accounts on Tik Tok. On 11th January 2024, Nick cleared out his following, and only 7 remained: Camila Cabello (Cinderella 2021, Cinderella), Ayo Oedebiri (Bottoms, Josie), Rachel Sennott (Bottoms, PJ), Sio Torley (M&G, Crew), Inez Ella Clark (M&G, Makeup), Cameron Valetina (Model), and Taylor. Taylor is somehow, the only guy remaining.

Among these seven people, Nick mostly likely only introduced Taylor and Camila to Lexi, because Lexi only follows those two on social media

Later Nick followed a 4 generally accounts, but then three days he unfollowed two of those. So he has 9 followings now: 2 content accounts, 6 girl, and Taylor.

Please note that I did not fact check this, and I literally cannot fact check it because Tik Tok is completely unavailable here. Everything I translated is from OP and the screenshots she provided.

I think I’ll leave it there for part 2! Again there is still more, so lemme know if you want a part 3!

Again, this is all in good fun. But after the shit storm yesterday, I kind of wanted to use this to remind people in the rwrb who love them both and are understandably bothered and upset by the haters that the boys are proven to have a good relationship, and this is evidence. Whether these acts are platonic or romantic is none of our business and up to interpretation, but these show that they have a good relationship regardless. Don't let the assholes get to you, and have fun with these :D

Tagging a couple of folks:

@lfg1986-2 @tal-vez-o-quizas @na-18dia @mylucayathoughts @androgynoustriumphclown @hopefulblizzardsublime

[paris-geller-was-straightwashed]

I am about to say something that will probably put a giant fucking target above my head, but against all good reason - I fucking hate this whole 'gaylor' trend.

let's get the facts out right now: 1. I am a non-binary dyke, in case anyone wants to play the queerphobia card 2. I've been a fan of taylor since fearless first came out when I was 11 (before some of you had probably even reached double digits) and 3. yes, this is inspired by the recent ny times article.

honestly I'm usually too much of an old man to be interested in a lot of celebrity news, even for artists I like, so I generally stay clear, but this came through my morning news feed via, bizarrely, ctv (fucking ctv thought this was NEWSWORTHY enough to put on their site which is bonkers, and if you're not canadian, ctv is a nationwide news broadcaster). and it made me livid - because this has now far beyond stretched the line of acceptable.

fucking ny times. this would be perfectly expected for rags like daily soap dish or enquirer or some other bullshit circus, where they spend all their damn days crafting celebrity stories of who's secretly pregnant and who's getting an underground divorce. ny times, in case they fucking forgot, do still have some sort of legitimacy to their name, but I guess they decided they'd run out of enough stories to now outsource to conspiracy theory level fans who's parasocial relationships with their favourite celebrity reaches deity levels. dear ny times, there is actual news still happening in the world in case you're out of ideas.

putting aside this bizarre so called attempt at 'journalism', onto the second point - which is that this. is. gross!! I've had issues with the whole 'gaylor' thing since the start. we, as a fanbase, have seen taylor ripped apart and broken down by this intrusive and harmful celeb culture that analyzes her every move for who she might be seeing, who's she interested in, which male friend could be a potential partner, etc etc, over and over, and how it's been both damaging to her and her love life as she's said. fans have even criticized the media for it and said to leave taylor alone! but now, all of a sudden, just bc you're a fan or bc you're queer or both, it's okay??? it fucking boggles my mind when so-called 'gaylor' fans gush about her and her work, always at her defense and say they care about her, and then do this 180 where they partake in a super invasive thing at her expense and don't even blink an eye??? making your own guesses by yourself is one thing, but creating a whole plot around the fact of taylor secretly being gay and pushing her to come out is a whole other ballroom of nuts.

let's get this out onto the table - she hates this. she doesn't like that you guys do this. she's already stated so and you all keep doing it. just because you're replacing the male character with a female one doesn't mean shit when you're doing the same harmful activity, just switching pronouns. you're not subverting anything, in case any of you need to be told. as a queer fan, this is embarrassing. it is such a gross over-stepping of someone's private life, and now that the goddamn ny times have posted it about it, makes the behavior even more legitimized!! while nothing excuses homophobia, if taylor eventually starts distancing herself from anything and all things queer and starts pushing back, I don't want to see any fucking one of you crying bc it'd be your own damn fault.

thirdly, even if, even if, taylor was gay - it's none of our fucking business!!! it's like all you up and completely blanked out what it was like to be closeted. if you're staying closeted, it's because you're not ready to come out!!! you don't want to or it's not a good time for you or whatever there doesn't need to be any reason for why someone doesn't want to say they're gay!!! it's hard enough trying to make that choice, and then you have the rest of the whole world posting ''''articles'''' about your sexuality, putting a million pairs of eyes on you - fuck, that'd send me back ten more layers into the closet if it happened to me! it's super rude not only to discuss someone's sexuality like it's the weather over brunch, but even worse to demand they say something about it! this is queer etiquette 101 people - you don't run around gossiping about someone's sexuality bc whatever that person decides they doesn't need your fucking input!!

basically if I could spray you all with a spray bottle I fucking would right now - nobody needs your input on their sexuality, celebrity or non! all this does is perpetrate harmful celebrity gossip that just hurts the artist you claim to love so much. taylor is a real person with a real life, she's not a storybook character to speculate over! please, I am begging you, stop this! go outside! touch grass!!

and at the risking of being meme-ified, leave taylor alone!

[thecatamaranlad]

15 OC Questions

Jumping on @ibuprofen-exe‘s open tag, and leaving this as an open tag for whoever wants to participate (except @justeliiijah, @twillprobably and @re-alku: I'm poking you guys with a stick egging you to do the thing). Please feel free to tag me—I would love to see your answers.

I'm going to write about Sam the Motorcycle Man (check my 'raptors' tag or 'sam the motorcycle man' tag) because he's FUN.

Are you named after anyone?

“Myself.”

2. When was the last time you cried?

”When I fucked up and Carla left. Then afterwards, when I got blindingly drunk trying not to think about it (it didn't work). Wait, no, I also cried after I heard she and Tai were safe from the tornado."

3. Do you have kids?

”Not unless you count Tai. ;)”

4. Do you use sarcasm a lot?

”Define "a lot". But yes.”

5. What's the first thing you notice about people?

”Whether or not they have cool tattoos or piercings. Also whether or not they seem queer in some way. I'm not trying to, it's just like a *finger guns* eyyy, you're my people kind of thing.”

6. What's your eye color?

”Gray, and not in the cool color-changing way.”

7. Scary movies or happy endings?

”Happy endings, I guess, but don't tell Carla I said that.”

8. Any special talents?

”I mean, I have a PhD, so I'm at least good at crying in front of a computer screen for years on end.”

9. Where were you born?

”South Carolina. Not going back."

10. What are your hobbies?

”Motorcycles and video games. Which I pick depends on the weather.”

11. Do you have any pets?

”No, but I have a parasocial relationship with my ex-roommate's cat. She's named after a hurricane, I have to love her.”

12. What sports do you play/have you played?

”I am 5 foot four on the dot and a huge geek. I do not play sports.”

13. How tall are you?

”See above. PSA: Don't fuck with short guys. I don't play sports but I can and will kick your ass.”

14. Favorite subject in school?

”All the sciences, but especially physics and meteorology. I should probably not find climate change as cool as I do. I also used to really like art and, believe it or not, literature."

15. Dream job?

“Having a steady job would be real nice. Bonus points if it pays decent. I guess I like making forecasts for people and trying to figure out where they can go to be safe... as long as they don't lose the connection with me in the middle of a damn tornado... There's a caravan that keeps asking me to sign on with them as their weatherman, but that would mean I couldn't go where I wanted to anymore. I've gotten used to being alone.”

Thank you for reading (⁠｡⁠･⁠ω⁠･⁠｡⁠)⁠ﾉ⁠♡

[millionancientbees]

People on this hell site are so proud and feel so superior that they are not on TikTok but I unapologetically love TikTok because

-being able to see and hear disabled people talking, signing, and communicating and going about their day to day is genuinely so important to me as a disabled person and I learn so much about different disabilities, accommodations, and also just…feel less alone

-I’ve built a little tiny community of fellow artists who are weird and hype each other up constantly

-there are people in the world who have never seen people who don’t look like them doing every day things. Do you know how many white people think POC don’t love and cherish pets? When is the last time you saw a cat lady that wasn’t white in a tv show or movie? When is the last time you saw a Black man lovingly and methodically caring for house plants and info dumping about them in a tv show or book? When you think of what people’s houses look like in popular media is there a clear difference between what white people have and POC have? Being able to see people be just like you is genuinely so important and we’ve been robbed of this experience.

-People also happily show their differences; I’ve learned more about other cultures on TikTok than I have anywhere else because the information is easily accessible and works for my learning style, and it’s allowed me to bridge some of my gaps in knowledge so that I can go on to do more efficient meaningful self teaching in my own time. It is very hard to figure out what you do not know if someone does not show you, and sometimes someone showing you is them just…talking about their day

-I have a hard time leaving my house for many reasons and listening to people talk and seeing their face is comforting and I don’t have to scroll through YouTube for 3 hours trying to find someone I can listen to for 30 minutes when there are thousands of short videos I can jump through without getting bored

-I can literally have a question about any topic in the world and find a specialist who will make a little video quickly and accessibly answering it if they haven’t already

-before my brain therapy started to help my brain be able to read, reading with my eyes was taxing and I don’t have or want a screen reader. I also had unmedicated adhd. Reading huge posts was impossible most days. I can however listen to people talk for hours and hours.

Yes they steal your info, yes they censor things and it’s horrifying and dystopian, yes every 4th post is an ad, yes there is a lot of misinformation and young people embarrassing themselves and there is a risk of parasocial relationships etc etc but where is that not the case.

I am begging people to let people enjoy things and to pull their thumbs out of their asses please god

[bulldyke-rider]

I need some of y'all to watch sisterwives clips so I'm not alone in this battle. I have opinions on that family no one else has, I swear.

Like, the demonization of Robyn goes way too far for me. I don't think she's this evil mastermind manipulator. I don't think she's behind the scenes laughing with Kody. I do think she doesn't wanna be alone with Kody because Kody is a flaming red banner. He's openly a controlling asshole. And I do think she married him for money. They paid off all her debts, and she has barely worked since she joined the family. He says all the time she's the most loyal wife, I'm pretty sure she was in an abusive relationship before him and I think she's probably the most obedient wife. Parasocial this and that, but I think she runs on fear. Fear that she's gonna lose everything she has, fear that he's gonna turn on her after what he did with all 3 other women (and it looks like he's already starting to because her trying to keep the family together to keep her shit paid for means she has to be less obedient to him. He did not like her talking out of turn when she was begging Meri to stay). She didn't marry Kody for Kody, and she does not want monogamy with him. But he wants monogamy with her, for now.

People say Christine is super transparent. Now, I don't think she's a liar, but she is performative. She puts on a show. She speaks very intentionally. And I do like her. She is my favorite, but she tells everyone's business even when they don't want her to. A lot of her conversations with Janelle when Janelle was on the fence about leaving Kody felt disrespectful. You could feel her wanting to call Janelle an idiot. She talks over Janelle. But also, she was raised in polygamy, was told that was best for her, and then it didn't work out and took up so much of her life. So I understand why she's a little mean about this situation. I understand why she airs things out and why she gets rude when Janelle is still open to polygamy. She's in new territory if we're honest; her church told her what kinda woman she needed to be, and she's learning to actually be her. She's learning to listen to herself, to serve herself. And if it takes a little cattiness to make her way there, okay. Fine.

I don't care if Meri is a super ultra mega cunt. Yes, she agreed to polygamy, but the entire story of her marriage is a tragedy. I'd be mean as hell too. People get onto her about using her "first wife" status and acting like she's the boss. Well, would you not want to be the boss of your own family and the first woman in your spouse's eyes? Like, we can all agree Kody can't "grow beyond himself" and love 4 women equally and give them equal attention and shit, but we're mad at Meri because she can't grow beyond herself?

[erigold13261]

Heyo Eri!

I just wanted to check in on you and see how you were doing. I saw what was going on between you and that anon and I'm completely stunned that a person would be hassling you like that. I honestly hope that anon gets a grip on themselves and leaves you alone, because that kind of behavior is not okay.

Also I must applaud you on how you're handling the situation, because you're being the bigger person here. As someone who has dealt with anon hate towards my artwork one time, I wish I could've come up with the clever comebacks you're dishing out.

Anyway I hope you're day is going good! And keep it up with your art and head canons because I enjoy them so much with my whole heart <3

Aw, thank you! I'm doing good and hope you are too (and that you didn't have to deal with anon hate at all).

I will say, this anon isn't even attacking my artwork itself, they are attacking more like my writing and me as a person. Which is weird since I don't post everything about myself online or feel like I write enough for them to be so upset (like yes I do write long asks, but it's not like I tag the main media I am talking about lol).

It's just a super parasocial relationship on their part. They see my vent posts and think my whole home life is shit and my family is full of complete bigots who want to kill queer people or something like that. This anon doesn't understand I my vent posts are me VENTING in a moment of heated emotions (sadness, anger, happiness, etc.) so what I am writing isn't gonna be 100% accurate.

And even if it was, I'm not posting EVERYTHING about my life. Imagine seeing a celebrity being happy all the time and so you think they are never sad, only to find out that celebrity has depression. That is like what this anon is thinking lol. They are taking my small snippets of my life and using that to paint a whole picture of me.

Plus they are upset I am making characters have trauma or be diverse, as if those are not things that happen lol. People asking me about my history for a character with no canon backstory, so I give my version, and this person is so mad at me. Half the time I am literally answering asks to what other people want to hear.

Anyway, rambling now aside, I don't even think my comebacks are all that great. Especially considering I was drunk last night when I wrote my answer to that anon's ask lol. So that makes me feel better you think my response was good!

One of these days I'm gonna just screenshot and post the asks and let people read them for themselves, but for now I am saving them and sending them to my best friend or showing my family so we can laugh at this absurd situation! :3

[acaunite]

how we met?

we met at 5.53 pm. you and I found each other in the blue hour sky

you will not believe this pathological disease I met in such a chronicle event leads me toward you

i met you when my individual sense of identity goes worsening day by day, trying to adjust my psychological issue every day. trying to fit in this world without anyone around me (as my intrusive thought told me)

Imagining you are in my life taking part in it, sharing the same burden, wound, unfinished business, or the same childhood memories that I couldn't rewind. been hallucinating this scenario several times

and did you know how cruel my brain works when it comes to cope some affection, deny it? trying to give a harsh logical reason to leave it alone. yes, my affection to you.

ini lebih parah dari yang kamu bayangkan, aku kira aku cuma butuh sesuatu buat attachment or "oh i have so much love to share so I run into you"

NO.

dari yang paling mula entertainment-social reason, intense personal and the worst thing is borderline pathological

collecting your trivia, watching your stream, keeping up about your information day by day, it's not enough for me

the feeling keeps growing. it's like feeding your intense and compulsive obsession to you. OMG, I FIND HIM. God, I'm tired fucking with men I want him. yes I know it's worsening right

then the last couple of days, I write your name as some fictional character in my love storyline

me as Sagara Ananjani the sea child born from dad of the sea and mother earth Rinjani Mountain and you are the male lead.

how sweet it was until I know I put myself on the edge of the abyss of pathological borderline disorder

the strongest level of parasocial relationship ADDICTION JENG JENG HAHAHAHA

aku sampai over-identified you as my future partner njeng, can you imagine it? no? of course it's sick. i know, but it's so tempting to set your ideal character like my preference using shallow trivias around

intinya gua mikir why it's so easy to fall for you? is it cause you are such good communicator? extrovert coversationalist? hardworking? nice sense of humor? you smart? cz you are good in everything you do like singing, dancing, gaming even our height is the SAME! you good with girls? then you said boys and girls like you?

or you make them cry in your high school era because it's you who broke their heart?

yes men yang GUA PENGEN yang anjengg gua pengen jadi elu! bro kenapa bisa perfect banget bro, gua parasocial level sirik ke eluuu sampe mikir, ANJIIIIIR GUA KESEL sama diri sendiri. like wtf did you do to me?

I HATE YOU for making me hate myself

like who are you make me this miserable absurd unexplainable feeling? how dare you

or is it just my borderline personality disorder take over this mind and soul

they said my paraso caused by attachment difficulties in early childhood, an insecure-resistant attachment style.

insecure- resistant attachment is an exaggerated expression of attachment needs. pokoknya kayak harus ada caregiver disekitar anak ini memiliki kecenderungan ragu dan susah meng explor lingkuangan sekitarnya dan suka dengan perhatian dari pengasuh atau caregiver nya

ini pernah kejadian nih pas gua TK. anjir. karakteristiknya kek anak kecil yang ngasih sinyal kalau dia juga susah mendapatkan kenyamanan dari pengasuhnya. biasanya nakanak yang punya attachment observed in strange situation emang punya insecurity dan anxious ambivalent clingy sama sosok ibuk tapi mereka ga percaya sepenuhnya sama ibunya.

saat kita beranjak dewasa kita punya juga attachment yang kek gini tapi dibagi menjadi 3

proximity seeking

secure base

protest at disruption

ok lemme tell you about this individual attempt to reduce the distance between themselves and their attachment figure kek stay on YOUR PERFORMANCE schedule nyet, gua nyalain notif ama tweets elu, your live streaming, your fuckin schedule tp gua ga keeping up sama orang-orang terdekat gua karena gua menepis kedekatan yang harusnya gua jalin secara natural sama orang2 yang gua sayang. karena apa? karena gua takut ketergantungan gua jadi sama mereka. iya gua jadiin jadwal elu pelarian yang seharusnya gaperlu

you unconsciously provide me your safe haven. your fana safe place ahahaha iye, you offered a contemporary sense of security for individuals, allowed me to explore your tiny-trivia-cute-chaotic-majestic world without judgment. you should not reject me at the first chance. you shouldn't do that.

ditambahkan gue punya ketakutan buat ditolak yee, ku pikir it's the safest way for me to know your world better, it think I can adjust this world with you by myside 'ceunah mah kitu' pikir ku, with our imaginary relationship as much as I want you to be my boyfriend. like bubble 85K every month kpop fandom, I'll pay you for it.

i think it should be fun and FINE. we used to have relationshit in this situationship yk what I mean, and yk what to do!

ok ini konteks nya anak ngamuk2 karena nyari penyakit

im seeking this from you, the encouragement to have a relationship with you cz I'm not emotionally available with anyone, yes I know because my psychological adjustment is so poor.

but then I realize it's not your fault when my psychological condition is so poor and it's my own responsibility

i want to claim your support so bad so it can be my strength, dengan interaction kamu, orang sekitar mu, picture yourself as cool talented chaos guy

i hate it

you know then it makes me realize it too soon, too early. loving you is such a sickness madness that I choose. more madness to cover up my current condition

[cuntess-carmilla]

I was listening to a podcast by Lacrimosa fans the other day and they were talking about what countries they do or don't play live in. Turns out that despite being a band that started in Germany, relocated to Switzerland and includes a Finnish member in the duo, they don't tour around Europe much, not even around Germany or Switzerland itself.

Like, they do it, but when they do it, again, even in Germany, it's always in small shithole venues because they're actually not too popular in Europe.

And then they started to talk about their reception in Latin América. They said that the first country here that they played at was México in 1998, that it was in Circo Volador, a venue that can hold up to 4000 people, and, the story people tell is that after the show was over and the band went backstage, Tilo burst out in tears as soon as they closed the door at the grown age of 26, because up to then he was used to playing in shitty small venues with barely any audience and with a bland ass European audience at that, that barely dances a little to what they play, but in México the people were screaming and crying with every song, dancing and jumping to every single note, and the crowd filled that pretty big venue.

Not only that, but most of Lacrimosa's lyrics are strictly in German, and the last thing Tilo expected was for their Mexican audience to sing along to EVERY SINGLE SONG, since not even audiences in Germany, Austria and Switzerland do it much.

It seems that's what started Lacrimosa's intense and very well reciprocated love affair with their Latine audience, including Brazil. They've played live like, 10 times more in México alone than in their native countries, it's been over 60 times in México. They've played 9 times in Chile so far and we're a tiny country! Their first concert here was in like 2009 or 2010.

I remember when I was reading an interview they were doing for their 30th anniversary tour when they were about to play here in Santiago and in it Tilo wouldn't stop praising their Latine audiences and saying how much he adores playing live for Chileans because we bring great energy and passion. Here they play theaters instead of small bars and we crowd them up like hell. Seriously, it was hell.

I love him so much.

(They're relatively big in Russia, China and Japan too!)

[blueink3]

Blue, I love your response to the Anon who’s worried about an unhealthy fixation. Can I add something from my own experience? I've been getting these feelings too, and I think part of reason is the recent gossip about the cast. Before, I was simply a fan of the show and was following the cast for their projects, not their personal lives. At worst I maybe had a mildly parasocial relationship with some of them, but it was all based on their public interviews. 1/4

But the recent chatter sent me down an unhealthy rabbit hole. Just today, I found my way to a very gossipy SC tumblr and I was scrolling scrolling scrolling and the negativity and invasive hearsay was really bringing me down. So I’m redrawing my lines back to where they were. Yes, I’ll still look forward to seeing the cast in their future projects, but I’m not going to engage with the other stuff. 2/4

I will also say that I stopped rewatching SC a while back, mostly because I don’t want to dilute its meaning and impact. I sympathise so much with Anon about that vague uneasy feeling that the thing you love isn’t bringing you joy any more. I know I’ll go back to the show one day, but AUs are really where I get my healthy SC fix now (and you’re a huge part of that, Blue!). I think that’s the space where the focus is on the characters, not the real people involved in the show. 3/4

And I love AUs because they don’t affect my relationship with the canon. But even with that, yes, I agree with you that moderation is key. I think it’s actually helpful that the pace of new fics has slowed down quite a bit. Sorry, this got really long. Maybe too long to share the whole thing, but it will hopefully be helpful to Anon just to know that she’s not alone in this. 4/4

I will happily share because given some of the recent anons I’ve gotten, I agree with you. I don’t know what’s in the water, but there’s this desire to create discourse and find issues when there aren’t any. I’m sorry that your faves aren’t together anymore, but don’t make up problems just to find things to talk about. People move on. We still have the work they left behind.

And certainly leave me out of it. I have zero patience for it.

[reddd-robin]

🐦  Robin’s top albums of 2021  🐦

These aren’t in order of my favourites, but I like these alot and i listen to music from them ALOT. you guys should see my brain its mostly these guys and some stragglers. im just gonna name them in order lol

1. Do- Cosmo sheldrake

This is Cosmo’s newest album and it bangs really hard though i espesially like ‘Did don’t do’ it’s my favourite outta there. I usually play this when I’m writing beacuse it’s not as heavy as other stuff i listen to so i can pay attention to the words i write lol

2. Hissing Fauna, Are You The Destroyer?- Of Montreal

this almbum is so good it managed to make Of Montreal one of my top artists within the month i first listened to it. insantiy incarnate. this one is a really good walking album for me, like i put it on and i am enpowered with the energy to speedwalk. 

3. Through the looking class- Siouxsie and the Banshees

very good album but also i mostly listen to it absently and not specifically as an album. im mostly there for spellbound, you’re lost little girl, gun and this wheel is on fire. those are the ones i like i skip the rest lol oopsie

4. Chumpfrey- Feed me Jack

god i love this album its so so juicy and i really like the sounds they do it makes me happy in the brain. rosies is a great example but also pirate muse. those songs are amazing and the whole album is really good as a whole but those guys are the best like i specifically cant wait for them to come on when i know they’re in a playlist. love

5. Just a Lad- Oingo Boingo

goes insane goes evil rolls around on the ground scratching and clawing. this album is the best ever it should be sent to space so aliens can listen to it. This entire thing is pure gold its my favourite thing ever. the specific sound of oingo boingo in general i love but this whole ablum encapsulates every single thing i LOVE into one place. this is the only album i repeatedly put on as an album and not because alot of the songs are in my playlists. its insane. listen to this thing if you want but only the enlightened can survive

6. People who can eat people are the luckiest people in the world- AJJ

Dont make me talk about this thing i’ll explode into a bajillion peices and make a firework noise as my meat bits are launched into the sky like a bloody lightshow. This album is so so so so good its my favourite AJJ album it holds a special place in my heart. this album is just important to me and i love it. love

7. A history of public relations dilemmae- Petrojvic Blasting Company

this is a little unfair since this is their only album asides from their offical work in Over The Garden Wall, but i really really love this album. I love the jazz mixing with folk and it just. lights up my brain. Like princess andy and SINKING SHIPS oghhh i love sinking ships. love love. SIMON WAS IS ALSO RLLY GOOD i love this. theres some songs in here that are only okay but even still it doesn’t effect my love for the album. heart

8. Bury me at makeout creek- Mitski

Guys im sorry you see me Mitskiposting im very very feeling the winter and she’s my best friend. i listen to mistki talking about falling from balconies and kissing people drunk and not caring it sucks and i go a heem heem yes mitski me too mitski. close to being here was the only heartbreaker or Retired from sad new career in buisness. mitski forever

9, Testosterone!- Talkshow Boy

ok im transgender, alright? what do you want from me. i can be a little emo. a lot emo, actually! leave me alone. i like this album alot and it reminds me of 2015 in a good way and i like the funky sound. The contents are very fucked up like seriously this guy is having a bad time but we’re besties its ok. He’s fighting a tiger on the floor and i’m watching. thats my cousin. parasocial relationship with this guy he’s my weird friend’s brother.

this was fun actually i havent talked about my music like this before lol. Thanks to Anne for tagging me <3

urhmmmmmmmm i have to think of who to tag eruru

@heyits-hardy @elesketchii @beeapocalypse​

thats all i can think of lol if you want to be tagged or untagged you can just ask

[dragynkeep]

(Tw: Talking about abuse and abusive relationships)

You know, the argument of “LGBT People can’t do any harm!” Is detrimental to abuse victims. Someone in an abusive relationship may see something and think “oh, my S/O is LGBT, they CANT be abusive.” Which is...bad and dangerous.

As someone who was on tumblr during the “women can do no wrong!” Phase, I took it all to heart and didn’t leave an abusive relationship with a woman because I kept seeing “woman can’t be abusive”

Being in the lgbt community does not stop someone from being a bad person. Being LGBT doesn’t mean you can just cross boundaries.

If Kdin is crossing boundaries, she is not above criticism for it because she is a trans woman. Everyone should keep this in mind, even if your fave person is in the lgbt community, you shouldn’t turn a blind eye to any bad stuff they do.

Also, if you feel as though your partner may be abusive, get help. There are phone numbers you can call. There are plans that you can follow. Stay safe y’all!

absolutely. when i was in a relationship with a woman, despite it being online only, she was incredibly abusive to me & i stuck with it because i was only just coming into that part of my sexuality & i thought it was my fault. even though i'd recognized other abusive women in my life, i thought that they couldn't be abusive in a queer relationship. unlearning that was hell & so freeing all at the same time.

being queer does not afford someone a riot shield against being criticized, especially if their actions are harmful & kdin's are. parasocial boundaries exist for a reason. there is no reason for her to be in a fan's private dms, let alone three different fans lmao.

also yes, abuse survivors & those still in abusive relationships, you're safe her. we want to help, whatever way we can. <3

[kamil-a]

right. various trains of thought.

1. vivaldi (childishly, again) , really really likes to parade alice and how close she is with her around in front of other people- ace, peter, blood- to show off. EXCEPT, nightmare, who she shows off a bit to but then seems to really want to leave her alone. might you be having some embarassing crushing lovey dovey thoughts, hmmmmmmmmmmm? ;) she has a reputation to uphold. its a power move to show off your arm candy, but not a power move to be caught loving.

1c- yes this is correct i added it later- thats kind of like what blood does too, huh? hes all a big flirt guy till he gets called on it being serious, at which point how DARE you accuse him of LOVING SOMEONE. but with blood i think the dichotomy is more like "im very sexual"/"how dare you think i LOVE", whereas with vivaldi its "people belong to me"/"how dare you think i belong to people". idk idk idk thats just my initial thoughts

1a. haha nightmare's big ol crush on alice.

1b. Haha alice's immediate I NEED TO SHIP NIGHTMARE AND VIVALDI RIGHT NOW projecting but also "it kind of irks me that im not the only one to see this side of vivaldi" , but well i guess he is a mind reader so he knows EVERYBODYS squishy brain side.

2. Peter event! I saw peter's second event, and some VERY interesting things happened- first off, alice is blaming herself for spending time with him despite The, You Know, The Prologue, and he immediately says to put the blame on him, to accuse him, it's his fault she keeps showing up. which really really pinged for me as a reason that you find sometimes find ppl, especially women, writing romanticized assault/rape/dubious consent in romance novels- people, this school of thought says, especially women, are made to feel bad for wanting and desiring, and this allows the woman target audience to experience what they want without the guilt of wanting it. honk continues to be a really really good fiction-as-escapism allegory, and while i do not necessarily agree with how they handle consent (LOLOLOLOL UNDERSTATEMENT), im very intrigued by the paralell drawn here, that honestly i am willing to hand to them as being on purpose. (shriekcast voice The Auteur's Respect)

2a. alice realizes that something feels off about his love confessions, almost like they're empty, almost like...almost....almost........

2b. Here's my guess: parasocial.

2c. You all know i cant stand peter but i am fully prepared to be Boo Boo The Fool and love him after his routes lololol. the clown makeup is ready

3. I love the sibling relationship between blood and vivaldi, the way they snark at each other (you invite me in DAYTIME?? my LEAST FAVORITE TIME??? i am going to drink you out of house and home), but also the way that at the end of the day they are very much enemy territory leaders, that the rules come first, that vivaldi in her stay route doesnt even name him when she tells alice she used to have a brother because the Queen Role has no parents or siblings, it no longer matters. its very sad. in another world they could rely on each other, maybe. here they can trust to not poison each other when rules dont allow it, but if it came down to it, if they found themselves on the other side of a scheduled war or duel ... who knows?

3a. lololol alice like I DONT KNOW WHAT YOU LOOK LIKE NAKED CAUSE I DONT LOOK AT YOU WHEN WE HAVE HOT TUB TIME. ....alice. girl. u are sooooooo repressed.