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I am sorry but this blog is closed for now

No ask will be answered here anymore. IF you seek for help, there are a lot of other blogs you can contact:

The Houses of Healing - LOTR/Hobbit/Tolkien

Peace of the Godswood - GoT/ASOIAF

Never In Fact Homeless - SPN

Honest Avengers - Avengers/Marvel

the-fandom-sanctuary - Multifandom (unaffiliated with us)

Children of Aslan - The Chronicles of Narnia

People there will be more than happy to answer you and give you tips!

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(Art pt 1) Hello, um, anyone. I fell like it's too much for me. Like I don't want to live anymore. I know I'm only 15, but I don't think I can take it much longer. But from the start: I am teased and laughed at in school. I've lost count on how many times I've been called stupid, ugly, usless or something like that, sometimes even by my own father. I don't like getting bad grades at school, it annoys me and sometimes I cry when I fail a test or something like that, but not because I failed but

because I didn't know something, because I didn't study enough. Sometimes I feel sad because my bestie did something without me, I know she has evry right to, but she's my only friend, and sometimes I feel like she's only person that truly cares for me, and I don't want to loose her. All this is getting stronger and stronger. It started around 2 years ago, but never been as strong as now. Even at my worst moments last year it wasn't that bad as it is now, and school only just started. I know, that shouldn't give up that easily, but even if I know, that I have my good points, my strenghts, I feel I'm getting closer and closer to the end. It's like I can't fight it anymore. Love, Art.

You know Art, when we are in the middle of a fight and feel that our strengths are abandoning us... what do we do? We ask for help. So this is what I want you to do. Go talk to your school counselor, maybe your mom, and your best friend, and tell them how you feel. How bad it really is for you. Don't hide them the truth, tell them and seek for help.

Like you said, you are only 15, your life is just beginning, you don't know what it is yet...so you think high school will last all your life? no! it is only a few years of it. what might seem never ending is actually such a short part of your life. And believe me, it is worth staying there and living it!

So go talk to someone.Isolating yourself with your pain will do not good. Not to you, not to anyone

Tonks

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Hi my name is Amy, I have depression and it seems to be getting worse everyday. I can't find enough reasons to smile anymore. My depression is caused by my life at home. I'm always getting in trouble for the stupidest things. My parents don't know that I have depression and I don't plan on telling them. It would break their hearts. I just need help.

You know what would break their heart, to find out that you suffered for years, maybe injured yourself, instead of telling them and seeking for help. Instead of trusting them enough to tell them that you were in pain. Is that what you want? 

Another way to see it: if it was your mom, or your dad, being depressed, would you prefer to ignore it or to know and be able to help?

I let you think of these two questions my friend and give me your answer...

Remus

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Hey, Remus? I'm Rose. Well...everyone around me seems to be getting worse and worse, they tell me, sometimes, other times I can just see it, but I'm getting worse too. Its strange, I'm not insecure, not self hating, not anything like it used to be, it's empty. Everything's just gone grey, I don't make an effort to talk to anyone or be friends with anyone anymore, I stopped trying, and I keep thinking of suicide, something that I also never did before. It feels numb and heavy, the only time (1/2)

The second part of the message doesn't hold more than a few words that aren't that important except for the fact that I can be a touch long winded. I also forgot exactly what I said, so, the first message has everything of importance. ~ Rose.

Hello my dear Rose,

Well, I am very worried about your message. What you describe could be depression, caused by a deficiency in iron or something, or by a deeper matter. I think, and I am even sure, that it is very important to stop isolating yourself in a first time. To make this one effort to talk to someone, for real, about your lack of interest for life and suicidal thoughts. This is very important, even if you don't want to or refuse to see it, I do. And I tell you that you need to tell someone, your parents, or a school counselor, and to work with them on what you can do.

In the meantime, try to make lists: list of the things you used to love, list of the tings you should try, list of the movies you want to see, books you want to read, etc, but also daily lists, to give you some stuff to accomplish everyday, from talking to one of your friends, to painting your nails or whatever Muggles use to do?

Let me know how it goes,

Your devoted

Pr Lupin 

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Rose

I would love to answer your message dear.. but i only have the first part. Could you send the second one again? Many thanks Pr Lupin

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You would be surprised with how many people in your life could be going through depression at this very moment.  People hide it like a paper bag over their heads out of fear of being judged, made fun of, seen as weak, or just not taken seriously.  Depression should not be taken lightly, it holds us down from our purpose and potential in life.  Those who tell you that it doesn’t exist have never experienced depression in their life, therefore not understanding the symptoms and how it’s something that cannot be fixed in a day!  So if you think you are depressed or if you think you know someone else who is, please talk to a friend, a family member, or anyone else in your life that you trust - never overlook the possibility of seeing a doctor for more professional help!!  Your feelings are real, your feelings are shared upon millions.  Don’t hide it, talk to someone about it.  With the right help, you can rediscover your confidence and begin life anew with our undying love and support! We are right here!!

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Hi Draco :) So I have this coworker, and he tends to refer to me using nicknames to annoy me. Usually I don't mind, but lately he's been calling me something that my dad used to call me and no one's called me that since he passed away. Telling him it bothers me will just encourage him, but I keep thinking back to when my dad died and it just seems like everything reminds me of him now, which is something that I just can't deal with right now ~ Meg

Meg, I am sorry but Draco must be, well busy being Draco and he is not available right now. Would you mind if I answer?

I do believe that you need to tell him he is bothering you. And to tell him why. Your dad's story. Only an insensitive toad would continue after that. You need to tell him. 

And if after you told him, about how it triggers you and everything, he keeps doing so, you have to report him to your supervisor.

But please, first, talk with him. He might not notice how bad it is for you and see this as a friendly thing. So talk with him and clear things out.

Let me know how it goes,

Tonks

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Fred and George? My cousin and I have always been best friends and we just had a big fight about my step-dad and now I'm crying and feel like I'm gonna throw up. Any advice? ~ lost

Wait for both your cousin and you to be calm and then go talk to him. Apologize. Not for your opinion, but for yelling. And try to discuss calmly with him. Family is not all puppies and love. There are fights too, but what matters is to talk about them. Do you think that George and I never fight? Pfff at least once a day!

Good luck

George and Fred

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Tumblr and suicide

Forced by life, I discovered that tumblr had prepared a support and prevention page for suicide, self harm, eating disorder etc. Unfortunately it is not very visible.

So here is a copy of the page. Please PLEASE even if you do not use it, reblog for your followers, you never know….

Counseling and Prevention Resources

Are you having a tough time? If you are struggling with an eating disorder, depression, self harm, suicidal thoughts, or just need to talk to someone, please reach out to counselors at one of the services listed below. They are ready to help and want to hear from you.

If you are, or someone you know is, in immediate danger, please call a local emergency telephone number or go immediately to the nearest emergency room.

Free and Confidential Counseling

In the United States

Chat anonymously with an Active Listener: 7 Cups of Tea

Live Chats: crisischat.org (2pm-2am ET) or imalive.org

National Eating Disorders Association or 1–800–931–2237

S.A.F.E. Alternatives for Stopping Self Abuse or 1–800-DONT-CUT (366–8288)

National Suicide Prevention Lifeline or 1–800–273-TALK (8255) or en Espanol

The Trevor Project (LGBT crisis intervention) or 1-866-488-7386

Rape Abuse & Incest National Network or 800-656-HOPE (4673)

Australia

Lifeline Australia or 13 11 14

beyondblue or 1300 22 4939

Suicide Call Back Service or 1300 659 467

Brazil

CVV or 141

Chile

Teléfono de la Esperanza or (00 56 42) 22 12 00

France

S.O.S Amitié 

Germany

Telefonseelsorge or 0800 111 0 111 (or 222)

Greece

KLIMAKA Center for Suicide Prevention or 1018

Japan

TELL Tokyo Lifeline in English/Japanese or 03-5774-0992 (English)

Spain

Teléfono de la Esperanza or 902500002

UK

The Samaritans or 08457 90 90 90

Other countries

7 Cups of Tea - find your country in the drop-down menu

Befrienders Worldwide - find your country in the drop-down menu on the top right

International Association for Suicide Prevention - find your nearest crisis center

Unsuicide - online suicide help directory

Learn More and Get Involved

To Write Love on Her Arms

Half of Us

Love is Louder

Self Injury Foundation

If you know someone who is struggling, please encourage them to use these services. Expressing how much you care can make a huge difference in that person’s life.

And to contact tumblr staff it is at the bottom of the page

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Hey my favorite twins (because yes, you are) well, I haven't out right told anyone yet, but my two friends, who are insanely sweet, have kind of picked up on it and keep saying really positive things and don't let me feel so alone any more. ~ Arlette

Hey Arlette, than these two (two is a magical number) might be good candidates right? Maybe you can try speaking with them more? And We are glad you have them to cheer you up and be there for you sweetheart!

Love from Fred and George

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Hey Fred/George! It's Aly. I told my supervisor and he said that there was nothing he could do for me unless he saw it happening. It's this guy's word against mine, and if I so much as look like I'm going to say something, he insists he's joking. The owner and my dad know each other, so pressing charges would be all kinds of awkward. I know, logically, that I should report him, but I'd feel awful and don't want to cause so much trouble. I'm thinking of resigning. It's not worth it, you feel?

It is your call love. But if you resign because of this man, you let him win, you let him do that to other girls. Do you want that? other girls to feel like you feel. He is the one wrong, why should you be the one paying for it?

Next time he is here, tell your supervisor so he can see it.

I also think that the next thing you should do is tell your dad. Maybe he can talk with the owner and fix the situation with this person. You should not be ashamed for a man not able to treat ladies properly! He should. You've done nothing wrong. So can you tell your dad and see with him what you can do?

Gred ad Feorge

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I'm not sure I know how to do that... I do have one friend that I know I could tell, I've told her a lot... I'll try to tell her? ~ Arlette

that sounds like a good start Arlette!

If talking is too hard, you can always try a letter.

Good luck,

your favorite twins (cause we are right???)

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Hey, Fred and George? I don't mean to bother and my message probably isn't that important, but...I feel I should (finally) talk to someone. I've never told anyone my problems and barely ever cried, but I think it's getting worse. I keep thinking poisonous thoughts about myself, enough to clog my head and fog my eyes, and even thoughts of suicide float around. I know that suicide is not the answer and that it won't fix anything, but the thought is stuck in my head. ~ Arlette

I think you already know the answer Arlette right. "I've never told anyone my problems and barely ever cried, but I think it's getting worse". For Fred (and ok for me too I have to admit he is right on this one). You have to tell someone. It is important. You are important. 

You keep the poison inside, and believe us, getting it out is the only thing to do with poisons, of any kind. So tell someone how you feel: friends, family, school counselor, ask for help and support, don't stay alone.

Let us know how it goes,

Fred and George

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This can go to anyone willing to answer. I've just recently discovered my gender- fluidity, and I'm still very young. My entire family are Christians, and not very accepting. I've no money and no place to go, and I don't even have enough money for a binder. My parents won't let me cut my hair until I turn 15, and they have attempted to get rid of the clothes that help hide my figure and make me feel safe. My anxiety and depression have worsened, with no therapy or meds in sight anytime soon.~KA

There is one magical place you can go KA: internet. There (still be careful) you can find people feeling the same way than you do, facing the same issues. maybe they'll have tips for you, or at least can bring you a moral support. I am sure you can find a lot of information online, even here, on this tumblr thing, you can find friends or just persons in the same situation. You are not alone.

As for your "real life", do you have friends you can talk to about that? a school counselor maybe?

Yours,

Fred and George

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Hey guys :) I have this job, okay? I've been working hard all summer and I'm super pleased with all the money I've made and the people I've met. The downside is this one guy that comes in pretty much every morning with some other men. He's 50-60 and I'm 16. He keeps making really inappropriate comments, to the point where I'll ask someone else to serve him because I don't want to be near him. He's really good friends with my boss, and I don't want to lose my job but I'm so creeped out. ~Aly

Dear Aly, his position or age does not excuse his attitude. Maybe you can try to bring it slowly. First, at the next comment, talk to the guy himself, tell him that his behavior is inappropriate. If he refuses to admit it or keep doing it, report him. yes there is a risk you lose your job, but if it is for a reason like that, you can lodge a complaint to the police. Because it is forbidden by the law to, first, sexually harass someone, especially a minor, second to kick someone out for reporting harassment.

Maybe you can tell your parents too, what he does is not allowed by the law, you are a minor he could have pretty serious problems. Remind it to him and your boss. 

George tell me we can also use our new tricks on him but we will keep it for the last resort ok?

Let us know how it goes please,

good luck Aly!

Fred and George

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Sirius or Remus? Hi, I'm Ember. I'm a recovering self harmer, but lately I've been struggling with it. I need to tell my mother about it; she'll find out eventually and I'd rather it be on my terms, but I can't figure out how to do it. -Ember

Ember, I want to congratulate you first for wanting to tell her. Even if it is indeed the best thing to do, it does not make it easy. But you are right to ask for her support in this hard time, without her discovering it accidentally.

There is no good way to say that, it will pain her but it will go once the chock of the news accepted. Just choose a peaceful moment and a calm environment. Tell her you have something important to say and that you love her, which is way you decided to tell her. Maybe start with how you felt when you started to self harm, before telling her that you did it. Once the context in place, tell her, tell her that you stopped but are about to do it again and so, that you need her help. And give her a little time and latitude in her reaction. She will need to process it.

Good luck

Remus

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Hi! this is the first time I've written to... whoever for help! I have something to think about this weekend and it's bothering me. I'm eighteen years old and in my senior (last) year of school. But I simply cant... do it anymore. I want to drop out and finally be free without constant mail about calling this person or filling out this form and keeping up with 17 courses in one year! It's very stressful and my previous year put me in a nasty depression. Do you have any advice? or kind words..?

Well, my friend, the best advice I could give you is to talk to someone about how you feel. Talking will help you release the pressure, but can also help you to see the situation on different angles.

So first, talk with your parents about how you feel, and then, to your school counselor too. They can help you with the stress or find another way to do this year for you. But don't stay alone with all this stress and fears.

Yours,

Remus