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AVPD is a personality disorder in cluster C. 34.91% suffer from alcohol dependence. 19.56% suffer from drug dependence. it is NOT the same as social anxiety disorder (SAD). it is NOT a lack of discipline.

thanks for reading y'all, this turned half informational post half vent, hope you can still appreciate what i'm trying to say.

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“ i’m permanently chained to you. the iron digs deep into my soul. i wish it would dig into my skin instead , at least then i’d have physical scars to show when im questioned about your abuse ��

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Friendly Reminder that Bi Lesbian is inherently biphobic, transphobic, lesbophobic, and acephobic

Reminder: i am speaking as a trans and biromantic person on the ace spectrum and i have asked lesbians on the matter. One of my best friends is an asexual lesbian who helped educate me on the matter. I have also done my research and i know what im talking about.

Bi lesbian was a term that has roots in the Lesbian Seperationist Movement, AKA the same movement that would actively exclude bi women and trans men due to them being seen as being on the side of men due to their attraction/gender, regardless of their actual values.

Bi Lesbian as a label is often used by terfs who don’t consider trans women real lesbians because of the false idea that they are still men. The same terfs also don’t consider cis lesbians being attracted to trans women to be real lesbians for the same reason. This sort of mindset boils trans people down to their genitals, rather than their actual gender identities.

the label boils both bi and lesbian down to just sexual attraction, excluding other types of attraction. Speaking as a demisexual biromantic person, that type of exclusion treats bi people and lesbians as just sexual beings. This has also lead to some bi lesbians claiming to be more “pure” than run-of-the-mill lesbians because their attraction isn’t purely sexual (as though ace lesbians don’t exist)

Bi people and Lesbians were never and are never consulted on whether or not a label like that could exist, is a common experience amongst their groups, or even make sense. Speaking as a bi person with lesbian friends, often times our opinions on the matter are disregarded and invalidated. Once again, this is likely due to Bi Lesbian as a label having roots in the Lesbian Seperationisy Movement which lead to the label splitting into Bi and Lesbian respectively.

Bi Lesbian is inherently self contradictory and actively ignores the modern definitions of bi (attraction to two or more genders) and lesbian (people who don’t identify as men being exclusively attraction to people who don’t identify as men). Once again, bi and lesbian people are actively ignored when this is called out. It also completely disregards the way language can evolve and change to better suit certain things and how much we’ve learned as a community since then.

Bi Lesbians are often men who are trying to invade spaces not meant for or inviting to them. Lesbians are people who don’t identify as men exclusively attracted to people who don’t identify as men, not nonmen occasionally attracted to men. Labels are not always about comfort, they’re often more about safety. And you cannot be comfortable unless you have safety. And this label creates less safety for lesbians and trans people alike.

if you’re going to argue, do your research first and consult the people this negatively affects. Remember that it’s not about you, it’s about making sure groups like lesbians, trans people, bi people, and ace people feel safe enough that they can express who they are without their identities being threatened or completely disregarded for the sake of comfort.

If you’re uncomfortable with the idea of women existing without men, imagine how lesbians feel when their safe spaces are invaded. Have some goddamn compassion with a little sprinkle of empathy, and educate yourself for once.

Made some edits to this to make it easier to understand and to update the info!

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Friendly Reminder that Bi Lesbian is inherently biphobic, transphobic, lesbophobic, and acephobic

Reminder: i am speaking as a trans and biromantic person on the ace spectrum and i have asked lesbians on the matter. One of my best friends is an asexual lesbian who helped educate me on the matter. I have also done my research and i know what im talking about.

Bi lesbian was a term coined by a terf who didn’t consider trans women real lesbians because of the false idea that they were still men. The same terf also didn’t consider cis lesbians being attracted to trans women to be real lesbians for the same reason. This sort of mindset boils trans people down to their genitals, rather than their actual gender identities.

the label boils both bi and lesbian down to just sexual attraction, excluding other types of attraction. Speaking as a demisexual biromantic person, that type of exclusion treats bi people and lesbians as just sexual beings. This has also lead to some bi lesbians claiming to be more “pure” than run-of-the-mill lesbians because their attraction isn’t purely sexual (as though ace lesbians don’t exist)

Bi people and Lesbians were never and are never consulted on whether or not a label like that could exist, is a common experience amongst their groups, or even make sense. Speaking as a bi person with lesbian friends, often times our opinions on the matter are disregarded and invalidated.

Bi Lesbian is inherently self contradictory and actively ignores the definitions of bi (attraction to two or more genders) and lesbian (people who don’t identify as men being exclusively attraction to people who don’t identify as men). Once again, bi and lesbian people are actively ignored when this is called out.

Bi Lesbians are often men who are trying to invade spaces not meant for or inviting to them. Lesbians are people who don’t identify as men exclusively attracted to people who don’t identify as men, not nonmen occasionally attracted to men. Labels are not always about comfort, they’re often more about safety. And you cannot be comfortable unless you have safety. And this label creates less safety for lesbians and trans people alike.

if you’re going to argue, do your research first and consult the people this negatively affects. Remember that it’s not about you, it’s about making sure groups like lesbians, trans people, bi people, and ace people feel safe enough that they can express who they are without their identities being threatened or completely disregarded for the sake of comfort.

If you’re uncomfortable with the idea of women existing without men, imagine how lesbians feel when their safe spaces are invaded. Have some goddamn compassion with a little sprinkle of empathy, and educate yourself for once.

Made some edits to this to make it easier to understand!

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Transmasc lesbians who hate that “mspec lesbian” bullshit… we are soooooooo sexy

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Truth need to be told: You are not radical, cool and inclusive for believing in mspec lesbian.

You are just some dumb idiot who accept literally everything that comes up to you and you doesn't critizes anything, you doesn't think twice about what you heard, you just go with: "it's for good faith"... Good faith is my dick inside your mom's asshole, wait until you discover that not all things that comes with "good" in the label is actually good.

If you were young enough, you would easily believe that nazists is a "good faith" movement, because you don't fucking care of what information and sources you receive! You will NEVER try to think the opposite of what people have told you! Someone could come to you say that a dog isn't a dog, it's actually a cat, and you would believe it without doubting! You're easily manipulable, and guess what? I will say those things and you'll still ignore it because you're so trapped inside of your own "good faith sexuality", however, it's not going to be my fault when you end up in a rabbit hole where you can't get out, just don't mess up with things that harm me, other people and yourself!

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Actually no you cant compare panphobia and ace/arophobia to being against mspec lesbians because they are literally just trying to steal an already existing label. The only label that doesn't include men.

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Love people assuming I'm blaming bi women for an ideology that hurts both bi women and lesbians when i literally never mentioned them perpetuating the whole "bi lesbian" argument. When, get this, I never said bi women specifically.

When I say "bi lesbianism will only strengthen the argument of lesbians just need good dick/the right man and they'll be 'cured'." I'm talking about fucking conversion therapy rhetoric. I'm not just talking about men flirting with lesbians because I KNOW THEY DONT GIVE A SHIT. It's for well meaning allies and other GBT+ people who are literally agreeing with homophobic talking points in the name of inclusionism

If you assume I'm talking about bi womem when i talk about people in general perpetuating bi lesbianism then you're the problem and you gotta sort that out yourself. I talk about EVERYONE perpetuating that rhetoric.

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having a personality disorder doesn’t make you a bad person, your actions do.

STOP. STIGMATIZING. CLUSTER B. DISORDERS.

- sincerely a very frustrated avdpd lesbian

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PUHLEASE don't cancel me for this but like... hot take...

Just because you have a cluster b disorder doesn't give you an excuse to be a BITCH

Yeah, cluster b abuse doesn't exist. You can still just be simply ABUSIVE though.

Yeah, I get that the symptoms can enable you to be abusive (ex. No empathy, splits, mood swings, etc) but that is NO excuse.

You can still control how you treat others. Paraphrasing something a friend with BPD told me, "You still know what you're doing when you split. You can still control it"

A lack of empathy is no excuse to treat others like shit, you still have sympathy and you can also just?? Fake empathy???

I see SOOOO many horrible mfs with cluster b disorders blaming all their bad behavior on their disorder. YOU CAN STILL CONTROL HOW YOU TREAT OTHERS!!!!! ITS LITERALLY NO EXCUSE!!!!!!!! SHUT UP!!!!!!!!!!

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i’ve noticed there’s like , no terms for those with cluster c pds. like , two flags maximum.

ive also seen some creators get asks saying “hey can you make a (cluster c) disorder flag?”

then it’s like,, “so i couldn’t find any ideas so i made cluster b ones instead!!” like huh.

idk i’m grumpy about this today because cluster c n a people have like zero representation.

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It’s always funny—no, pathetic—watching endogenic systems spit venom at traumagenic ones for “trusting psychiatry,” like that makes us obedient little pets licking a boot. Newsflash: I’m not loyal to doctors. I’m loyal to truth. And the truth is, you don’t get to claim a TRAUMA disorder without trauma. That’s not elitism. That’s definition.

You don’t get to cherry-pick clinical terms while simultaneously denying the disorder they come from. You don’t get to walk into trauma-centered spaces wearing a mask you made out of someone else’s suffering and call that resistance. That’s not defiance. That’s theft. And if you think disrespecting survivors is punk, then you’ve clearly never bled for anything in your life.

I’m not here to coddle delusions. I’m not here to clap while you cosplay pain you never lived. You want to feel special? Get a new hobby. Because this—this identity built from shattered memories and carved from years of surviving what should’ve killed us? It doesn’t belong to you.

Being punk means burning down systems that hurt people. Not stealing the scars of those they’ve already broken.

You’re not punk. You’re a parasite. And no matter how loud you scream or how many buzzwords you throw like confetti, you’ll never be what we are.

You’ll never get it.

And you’ll never be us.

-Misfits

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Casual reminder that the following things are considered traumatic to small children

- neglect (physical and/or emotional)

- living in an emotionally unstable environment (for example, having parents that fight often)

- any kind of physical, emotional, or sexual abuse (not just from parents)

- consistent bullying

- etc

Remember that what is traumatic to a child is not the same as what is traumatic to you now. So think again before saying your trauma ‘isn’t bad enough’

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ANEIOWPWN. finally … another anti good faith. holy shit these ppl say “read queer history” YES I DID !! FUCKOFF

real!!