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Today, I wrote about what I perceive as the return of Yellow Journalism.

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What if I didn't have Dyspraxia?

Today on Bad Action: What if I didn't have Dyspraxia?

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Today on Bad Action: Dating, Sex and Dyspraxia. Welp, there goes that sponsorship money.

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How would your life have been different if you found out about your disability while you were young? Now, imagine if your disability wasn't commonly known. You can make a difference, simply by talking about it! https://open.substack.com/pub/violentivy/p/talk-about-it?r=3g96y&utm_campaign=post&utm_medium=web&showWelcomeOnShare=true

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Today on Bad Action: how to care for yourself when the world is on fire.

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Let's talk about masking and Neurodivergence, basically.

https://substack.com/@violentivy/note/p-158256036?r=3g96y

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Love this

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I've told this story before but the non-negotiable in allyship really reminded me of my gaming group. So one of my best friends is a twin and while I know *her* pretty well I don't really know her brother as well despite knowing him for roughly same length of time. We play videogames together and her brother asked to join us so at some point I took him aside and had The Talk with him because we at that point had a recently out trans fem within the group and she had just barely started hormones and hadn't done any voice training etc so I fully intended to head any trouble off at the pass.

So I basically had the "respect my friend's pronouns or die by my sword" discussion because while he knows I'm a trans guy and had so far been chill, I didn't know if that extended to all trans people.

What I did not expect was for him to pull an uno reverse on me and invite his two trans woman friends to game with us as well and did a "no no, *you* respect *my* friends' pronouns or die by *my* sword".

When I was working at Petco, one of my coworkers came to me having a total panic and anxiety meltdown and when I finally got them to tell me what was going on, the revealed they had sought me out because they were having Transgender Feelings and wanted advice. I ended up giving them my old binders that were too small for me but a perfect fit for them, and one of my roommates gave them their first masc haircut.

A few weeks later a customer speaking Spanish was saying many nasty things about my coworker and reacting with disgust. Another coworker- a cis gay man who speaks fluent Spanish- came to get me first so I could pull the other coworker away while he effectively cussed them out in Spanish. He told us the sparknotes version of the English translation and it was mostly horrifically transphobic drivel. My coworker had responded mostly neutrally to me being trans, but for him to be visibly steamed the rest of the day over my other coworker definitely bumped my respect for him.

And I've talked about how a cis lesbian friend of mine visibly bristles at anyone she even thinks is being shitty to me about being trans to the point of making them splutter and back down.

A cishet woman I am only sort of acquaintances with once caught me wincing at being she/her'd at a trial and asked if that had been happening all day. When I responded the affirmative, she stormed off and I didn't see her the rest of the day. The next day, any time anyone referred to me there was an audible pause before a deliberate choice to choose masc versions.

Another trans woman who is a friend of mine once beat up a bully for calling her trans boyfriend a heshe when they were in schooling together.

It's about holding the line. It's about making the active choice to show up for each other. And it's about linking hands and refusing to budge.

If you cannot hold the line with me by your side, then we are not moving together.

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A correlation between Dyspraxia and Nonaffective Psychosis Spectrum Disorder? It's more likely than you think. Let's break it down on "Whose Brain is it, Anyway!" where your brain may no longer be your own. Bad Action - Right now on my Substack https://open.substack.com/pub/violentivy/p/bad-action-whose-brain-is-it-anyway?r=3g96y&utm_campaign=post&utm_medium=web&showWelcomeOnShare=true

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Are Dyspraxic people more or less likely to have better Emotional intelligence than their Autistic counterparts? How do Dyspraxic people equal up to their neurotypical counterparts regarding Emotional Intelligence? Follow the bouncing thoughts in this Freakonomics-style essay. Today on Bad Action: Emotional Intelligence and Dyspraxia.

https://open.substack.com/pub/violentivy/p/emotional-intelegence-and-dyspraxia?r=3g96y&utm_campaign=post&utm_medium=web&showWelcomeOnShare=true

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Today on Bad Action, we are talking about how darned difficult it is to walk without walking into people, walls or other things, as well as a brief history of my life in Information Technology as a disabled woman. https://open.substack.com/pub/violentivy/p/walking-into-walls-colleagues-and?r=3g96y&utm_campaign=post&utm_medium=web&showWelcomeOnShare=true

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Yeah I saw the lovecraftian horrors and didn’t succumb to madness. What- no I’m not a cultist, James. For Christ’s sake. What you’re forgetting my friend is that HP Lovecraft wasn’t a flexible man. His brain simply wasn’t stretchy enough to take it all in. I however, have short term memory issues. Flexibility is the name of the game when you can’t remember if you ate lunch or not. What’s the size of the universe? Big. You knew that already, James. Come on now. You don’t need to witness the terrifying ocean at the base of the entirety of reality itself to know that. Pass the brandy.

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u heard him ladies

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hey don't cry. 7,401 species of frog in the world, ok?

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I would absolutely do this shit.

My wife's favorite sleep noise app is the kind that lets you mix different noises, one of which is a snoring shih tzu, and she loves to create soundscapes that imply the dog is in imminent danger