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Hello! I absolutely love your blog! I just finished reading your post about being a timeless woman in a world full of trends and appeasing the male gaze. I'm currently a Junior in high school and elegance and femininity have always fascinated me. I try to embody it every day. It could be hard, especially in my environment and surroundings. Could you pls give me any advice? Thank you 🤍

Hello lovely, I’m more than happy to give you a few pointers.

You have to be okay with being a lone wolf. A timeless woman is a rare gem. 1 of 1.

If the environment you are in isn’t inspiring you or supportive in your journey then you need to do three things

1. Learn how to set internal boundaries.

this may look like

I will not discuss my personal life with people who will project their limiting beliefs unto me

I will only spend a limited time on tiktok & instagram

I won’t hang around people that negatively influence me

Customize this to your own life as we all have different circumstances.

**Notice how these boundaries, don’t involve talking to other people

2. Learn to give yourself validation

As an elegant young lady, you have to set your own standards regardless of what other people think. You have to learn to get validation from yourself and not from society.

this may look like

Dressing how you want to dress despite what the girls in school are saying

Deciding to be more exclusive rather than being the most popular girl

Taking your education more seriously even if it’s not considered “cool” by others

Again, customize this to your own circumstance.

3. Create your own environment

If you can’t physically be around like minded people then use social media to your advantage.

how you can do this

Get a list of 5 online mentors & listen to atleast 1 person per day ( podcast, blog, youtube chanel ) this will help you stay grounded even if your physical environment isn’t supportive

Follow likeminded people on social media. There are so many girls on tumblr you can make friends with & share tips (be safe plz)

Pray/Affirmations - If you’re finding it hard to embody who you want to be then ask God to guide you. Remember you’re never alone. Ask God to bring the right people, right information & right circumstances to you & have faith that it will come!

I hope this lesson helped you in the way you needed it to 🤍

I also offer personal 1:1 coaching calls to help ladies of all ages to identify their blocks, kill their distractions & assist them reach their goals! email vivaciousofficiall@gmail.com

xoxo, Vivacious

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HOW TO BE A TIMELESS WOMAN

TIMELESS

; eternal; everlasting

adjective. without beginning or end.

In a world filled with never ending trends and unrealistic beauty standards, it can often feel like the beauty goal post is always out of reach. Be it the 90s model thin or the bbl era in the late 2000s, collectively women have been changing their bodies to satisfy the demands of the masculine gaze.

However we would notice that throughout history there are certain women that somehow seem to always be relevant in conversations. Women like Audrey Hepburn, Princess Diana, Eartha Kitt, Carolyn Bessette Kennedy, Cher, Sade, Grace Kelly and so many other iconic women.

Timeless women surpass all beauty standards.

As a timeless, there are certain traits that you possess that go beyond petty, fleeting aesthetics. If you were a bag you’d be a classic Mini Kelly. Simple, elegant yet extremely expensive.

Signs Of A Timeless Woman

1. A Classy Woman Is Timeless -Style & Grace Will Never Be Out Of Fashion.

Insecurity is loud, confidence is quiet. Never the loudest in the room but always noticed. A classy woman never needs to brag or show off.

A wise man once said “behave as if your parents raised you correctly even if they didn’t”

The word "classy" or "elegant” seem to get a bad rep in today’s world. I assume it is due to the conception that these words are for a particular set of people ie. high society.

The truth is class has nothing to do with your economic class but rather your manners. It is about how you choose to present yourself to the world and how you treat the people around you.

simply put, class is showing respect for yourself & others.

What makes a woman classy?

Personal style

High self concept

Manners/Kindness

Communication Skills

Boundaries & Standards

Exclusivity

2. A Self Focused Woman Is A Timeless Woman.

Where attention goes, energy flows.

Learn to focus on yourself.

A woman who minds the business that pays her will always win. You would be surprised at how far ahead of everyone you would be if you could maintain a laser-like focus on your goals in a world where everyone else seems to be distracted and keeping up with everything but themselves.

The key is to train your mind & kill your distractions

Do not let the fear of missing out stop you from becoming your best self.

Common distractions.

1. Social media.

2. Partying.

3. Drinking/Smoking.

4. Bad environment

5. Negative friends

3. An Influential Woman Is A Timeless Woman.

The term "influencer" has been used carelessly ever since social media started gaining popularity.

An influencer doesn’t necessarily need to have 100,000 followers or be a celebrity.

Simply put, an influencer is someone who has the ability to motivate or impact those around them.

A timeless woman has the capacity to create change in people’s lives by her words & actions. This woman goes beyond the materialistic things of the 3D and influences the mind and spirit. People are constantly inspired by her uniqueness & grace.

The best way to influence the world around you is to start with yourself. There is information everywhere. People don't require additional knowledge. They require those who embody it.

If you enjoyed this post, don’t forget to follow & reblog so it could reach more Timeless Women!

xoxo, Vivacious.

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Anxious Attachment

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Wellness Series : If you want to get prettier, get HEALTHIER.

Holistic health is an approach to health and wellness that addresses the mind, body & soul. One of its core beliefs is that physical, mental, emotional and spiritual well-being all contribute to the overall health of an individual.

Therefore, it seeks to improve the WHOLE system rather than just the physical aspect.

Over the past year, I observed that as my health improved, so did my looks. I noticed I began to have a youthful glow, lost weight, toned up & achieved an overall vibrant look.

It's a beautiful journey & I am still learning everyday.

Whether you're new to this space or not, here are two holistic approaches to wellness to get healthy & sexy at the same time. Enjoy x

Juicing/Smoothies.

This is a beginner friendly approach to living a healthier life. One struggle most people face is adjusting to the taste and texture of greens. Juicing is a great way to get your nutrients in without all the hassle.

Tips

Slowly is the fastest way- You can start 2-3 times a week & go from there. This gives your body grace to adjust to the extra fibre.

Do your research: Books, podcasts, blogs, Interviews can all be accessed easily. Learn recipes that fit your particular needs.

Be consistent & patient: Don't just try it for a week and give up. It takes time and effort.(compound effect)

Releasing Stuck Emotions In The Body.

This is another powerful way to get healthier (prettier).

When we experience trauma as children & we are unable to process our emotions, we tend to internalise it and think there must be something wrong with us. As this continues, we begin to store negative emotions within our body.

Stuck emotions can manifest in numerous ways like : poor posture, low self esteem, anxiety, depression, poor self concept and even health conditions. As you begin releasing stuck emotions you start to look younger, vibrant, healthier and glowy.

Ways to release emotions in the body

Daily Movement

Therapy/ Coaching

Meditation

Inner child healing

Journaling

Yoga

Cord cutting rituals

Forgiveness of self and others.

Tips for beginners: Do not try to make huge changes all at once but rather small changes everyday.

Share this with your wellness bestie today !

xoxo, Vivacious

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I Am The Prize. (A Queen's Mentality)

2024, we are stepping out of our baby princess era ( victim mentality) and entering our Queendom.

Gone are the days of sending paragraphs, feeling powerless, being overly emotional, no boundaries, low standards & not taking proper care of ourselves. Kiss it Goodbye.

If you are reading this, then you are ready.

Here are three shifts you can begin to implement to kickstart your Queen Era.

1. INDEPENCE ON ALL LEVELS

True freedom is living life on your own terms. Some of us have spent too long in toxic friendships, romantic relationships and even family situations because we are codependent. We struggle to stand on our feet. We seek their attention, validation, approval , money etc.

We have forgotten our power. We have forgotten that we can give ourselves these things. Independence is key.

2024, we are working on providing ourselves with everything we need.

Start by

Moving more on your own time.

Get your finances together

Take care of your health

Know yourself ( the real you, not the mask you've been wearing)

Start seeking your own validation ( an independent thinker)

Go out by yourself

Educate yourself

Practice Celibacy/Abstinence

There's so much you could do.

2.EMOTIONAL CONTROL

This is so crucial. Emotional control is a must. If you let your emotions run the show , you lose every single time.

A baby princess cannot see beyond her emotions. she's trapped in the world of fight or flight. She's in survival mode.

A Queen knows emotions are just information. She is the observer. She's able to sit back and think about the best way to respond NOT react.

She's cool, calm and collected. No one sees her break a sweat.

Start by

Taking a deep breath when you find yourself getting triggered

Realizing no one has power over you. You get to decide how you want to show up everyday

By being selective on what you give your energy to.

3.SELF AWARENESS

Google accountability. A baby princess lives life as if it is happening to her. She has forgotten she is the co creator & it always takes two to tango. The truth is deep down, she's addicted to being the victim.

A Queen knows she is a powerful creator. If she constantly finds herself in certain unpleasant situations, she knows she has the power to change it because she created it.

Start by

Observing how you show up in life. How do you see yourself ?How do you act in your interpersonal relationships? What are your daily thoughts like?

Ladies, 2024 is the year we win. Its time to thrive. We got this.

xoxo, Vivacious.

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green juices, alo, pilates x strength training, range rover sport, infrared sauna, lymphatic drainage, vintage chanel, james turrell, silk bedding, meditation, spiritual retreats, agent provocateur, venus et fleur, blow outs, gua sha, sea moss, cartier panthere watch, personal shoppers, green salads, french tutor, travel, business meetings .

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I will not allow another human dictate what i get to have.

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if you want to get prettier, get healthier.

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Affirmation Of The Week

These are some powerful affirmations i’ve been loving lately.

Repeat as many times during the day as you can.

1. I love and accept myself wholeheartedly.

2. Abundance is my birthright

3. I am enough.

4. My worth is never in question.

5. Money comes to me easily, frequently & it stays.

Tip: I usually recite my affirmations while i’m taking a shower or oiling up my skin.

Speaking your affirmations out loud while engaging in self care, in my opinion, has a lot of power.

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3 Level Up Tips You Can Start Today!

Hello ladies,

I’ve decided to share 3 level up tips that could really assist you on your self development journey.

These tips might sound different from your everyday tips but one thing i’ve learnt is that most people go for the easier tricks that just conceal rather than fix.

As a woman of high value you must be willing to go through the journey & not the low hanging fruit.

I am constantly learning new ways in which I can be better & of course help you be better too.

Enjoy :)

1. Inner work

Before we get into skin care, working out & all that juicy stuff let’s talk about INNER WORK.

What is inner work?

Inner work is a process of taking control of your thoughts, beliefs, emotions, habits & transforming into a better version of yourself.

The truth is you can buy all the charlotte tillbury you want but if your inner world is a mess then your outer world will reflect such.

Beauty can’t save you,

Money can’t save you.

Power can’t save you.

We’ve all seen certain celebrities act in very surprising ways & we wonder how someone with such wealth, beauty or influence could act in such a manner.

Truth is if you're a mess and you become wealthy, all that will remain of you is a mess with money.

Whereas if you develop qualities like integrity, discipline, and honesty, your riches will enhance those qualities even more.

Inner work is the process of going inside oneself deeply to confront our problems, spend time with them & heal. (Usually what we’re avoiding)

It’s easier to blame your ex & find a new man.

However you will find yourself in this negative loop of constantly "attracting" toxic men till one day you sit with yourself & realize that you’re the problem.

Ouch.

How does inner work improve your life?

As i mentioned earlier, your outer world is a reflection of your inner world. If you’re constantly struggling in your relationships, your finances, and/or mental health then inner work would be most beneficial to you.

Ways you can do inner work

1. Therapy.

2. Coaching.

3. Shadow work

4. Meditation

5. Journaling.

Why is Inner work crucial?

In order to be a successful woman, you need to know who you are, what your values are, what your strengths & weaknesses are.

You must have a certain level of emotional intelligence & control.

You must be able to communicate with people properly.

You must be able to take constructive criticism without getting overly triggered.

You must learn how to handle tough situations like an adult.

= inner work.

2. Nutrition

You are what you eat

Everyday you make a decision on whether to heal yourself or hurt yourself based on what you consume.

Do you know what most people aren’t doing? eating right. If you want to have big results then you have to do the things most people aren’t willing to.

Research how poor eating habits is one of the leading causes of the ailments we suffer from today.

Listen, i can come on here and tell you to develop a 9 step skin care routine but that is not going to solve your problem.

If you really want glowy glass skin, you must work from the inside out.

Is it easy ? no. Will you be a pro immediately ? no. Start small & be consistent.

It’s time to start incorporating more fruits and vegetables into your meals.

It’s time to start eating more whole grains.

It’s time to cut back on refined sugar.

it’s time to cut back on dairy.

It’s time to start your day with a green smoothie.

It’s time to cut back on the fast food!

It’s time to eat foods that nourish, energize & heal you.

3. Personal Grooming

Personal grooming is essential on this journey. It is a form of self care. Showing up for yourself is how you slowly build self esteem.

No matter what people say, i wholeheartedly believe in looking good.

I know certain people may say it’s superficial or vain but personally i disagree.

it’s only superficial when you’re not doing your inner work & trying to overcompensate by hyperfocusing on your appearance.

There’s a big difference.

5 Tips & Tricks ;)

1. Hygiene is everything. Brush your teeth thoroughly, scrape your tongue, floss, shower regularly, shave, invest in good a deodorant, moisturize your skin, take care of your nails & oil your scalp.

2. Invest in good quality clothing: Quality > Quantity. Get your color analysis done. Invest in good undergarments.

3. Skin care : Start with the basics then build up. Cleanser. Moisture. Toner. Serum. Spf.

4. Etiquette: Many people dislike this word and think it denotes someone who is insincere or pretentious.

While I'm not advocating altering your personality to fit a particular perception, you would need to make some changes if you wanted to live a particular lifestyle.

Xoxo, Vivacous.