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How to Cope with Depression

Depression can often be difficult to fight as it usually drains you of your energy. And though you can’t overcome it by willpower alone, you still have some control, no matter how you feel. The suggestions below can help you with this.

1. Keep doing the activities you previously enjoyed (even if you don’t enjoy them as much when you’re depressed).

2. Try and build some exercise into your day as it releases endorphins – the body’s “feel good” hormones.

3. Know what your triggers and your risk factors are. For example, loneliness, stress, disappointment and pain are common triggers and risk factors for depression.

4. Stay in touch with your friends. Often those who are depressed start to isolate themselves – but that leads to loneliness - which makes depression worse.

5. Try and maintain some kind of routine, especially when it comes to getting up and going to bed. Taking naps in the daytime can cause insomnia and leave you feeling drained, so you have no energy.

6. Try to get a handle on how much you tend to worry. Take note of your thought patterns; don’t dwell on negatives. Instead, challenge faulty thinking so it’s much less pessimistic … and try to be thankful … and look for positives.

7. Make sure you do things that make you feel more relaxed. Often people who’re depressed feel uptight and agitated. So it’s important that you find things that help you to relax.  

8. Resist the temptation to self-medicate (especially through alcohol or substance abuse.) That will lead to greater problems - and make you feel much worse.

9. Seek out support. Talk to a good friend, or someone that you trust. You’ll usually find there’s someone who genuinely cares.

10. Talk to your doctor. It may be medication is the answer for you so don’t be afraid to try and get professional help.

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how to stop trying to think yourself into happiness and actually arrive there

Jonathan Safran Foer once said that he’d thought himself out of happiness a million times, but never once into it. But maybe that’s the very thing that we’re all doing wrong: we keep trying to think ourselves into happiness without ever accepting that loneliness and self-loathing and the feeling of wanting to jump off a building are all just part of human nature. We’re trying too hard to project ourselves into an emotion that we could reach much more easily through action, as if by thinking good thoughts we’d automatically never think any more bad ones.

It’s like when you were younger and you lived next to your best friend and you always tried to figure out a way to get from your house to theirs in the middle of the night. You could imagine yourself crossing a little rope bridge attaching your window to theirs a thousand times, but you were never once able to physically make it happen because you never gathered the rope and the wood and the hammer and nails that would have made it all possible.

It’s the same way with happiness. Happiness is something that cannot be imagined into reality; it’s something that has to be physically brought into reality. So stop moping about in bed all day, lying underneath the warm covers and staring at the ceiling counting every single crack in the plaster. Instead, get out of bed. Stop hitting the snooze button. Put on a comfy sweater and some jeans and hiking boots.

Go make yourself a nice hearty breakfast, eggs and bacon and French toast or something like that with a strong glass of orange juice, and eat every last bite, wipe the plate clean with your fingers if you have to. Leave no crumb untouched. Even if you have to force the food down, do it anyway, because filling yourself with something as simple as basic nutrients is better than constantly stuffing yourself with self-loathing, plus you get the added bonus of taste too.

Now go out for a hike. Leave your cellphone at home, your laptop, your iPod, your headphones, everything. Don’t bring anything but yourself and a bottle of water and maybe a few snacks or too. Find the tallest hill or cliff or trail you can walk and go for it.

Pump your arms and legs and push onward; tell yourself encouraging things as soon as you start to huff and puff. I don’t want to get all sappy but this really is a metaphor for climbing out of your unhappiness, and if you can’t climb up a hill, then you’ll never be able to climb out of all those toxic feelings either.

Once you get to the top, stand there and admire the view. Don’t say anything, don’t sit down, just stand there and look out over the horizon and look at the colors of the sky and the tops of the trees and watch the birds flying in the distance. Look at all the wide open space around you and feel how small you are in the midst of all those great things, how tiny you are in comparison.

Your problems can be that tiny too.

Now, close your eyes and step as close to the edge of this cliff as you can get. Get so close you can feel the wind tug gently at your sweater and knock you around a bit; stand there and taste the salty air with your tongue and keep your eyes closed, just think about how close you’ve been to happiness sometimes, how close you were to falling off the edge of unhappiness and into happiness, but you were never willing to make the necessary changes to get yourself where you wanted to go.

Once you understand that, turn around and go back home the way you came. Because sometimes in life you’re gonna have to retrace your steps and follow the old path to get back to a new one.

When you get home, do some spring-cleaning. Throw out all the sad CDs and the old love letters from exes and the moldy cartons of Chinese food from when you were too depressed to cook yourself dinner. Open the curtains, make the bed so you’re not tempted to get into it again, fill the trash bags with stuff upon stuff upon stuff.

Get rid of your ratty old hoodies and comfort clothes, the candy wrappers from the chocolate you used as a coping mechanism, the boring law books. Delete all the text messages from friends and ex-boyfriends and girlfriends that made you feel worthless and put-down and unloved and less than human.

Once you’ve thrown it all away, stand back and look at the trash bags. Look at everything that was holding you down. Look at the rows upon rows of stuff and look at those bags like they’re all the unhappiness you carried around on your back like a wooden cross or a really heavy backpack.

Now pick them all up, go outside to the Dumpster, and slam those fuckers in there.

Shut the lid.

Breathe the open air and look up at the sun.

Maybe you were never able to think yourself into happiness, but you walked and talked and hiked and cleaned your way to it, and if that’s not something to be proud of, then I don’t know what is. 

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you are not alone in the way you think you are

While you are up here, standing at the edge of the roof with the intent to jump off, first look beneath you at the street below and all the people walking along it. There are probably a few joggers wearing backwards baseball caps and sports bras, couples strolling along hand in hand, young mothers rushing with their small children to run errands, even a homeless man or woman sitting on a nearby park bench.

Each and every single person on the street below may be a complete and utter stranger, but if you jump, they will forever be connected to you irrevocably. If you jump off the roof, your body will fall to the pavement below and you will hit like a smashed blood orange. One of those strangers will watch you fall and will be able to do absolutely nothing about it. Maybe it’s the jogger who watches you fall. Then, at the physical moment of impact, another stranger, maybe the young mother this time, will rush to your body, the life already draining from it like water from a bathtub, and will call 911. Her young child will witness your death and will have no idea what is going on.

You may think that the jogger or the mother or the child will forget about the incident, that you are just another body in a long line of bodies that they hear or read about in the obituaries every day, but that’s where you’re wrong. The jogger who watched you fall also watched you die, and will forever be changed by the fact that they were unable to save you. They may wake up in the middle of the night with a pulsing heart, covered in sweat, reliving the event over and over again, and in the dream they’ll be about to reach out a hand to grasp for you, or they’ll see an abandoned mattress lying by the side of the road, and they’ll drag it over to the spot beneath your body, but the dream will end seconds before you hit the ground. You’ll keep dying over and over again in their dreams, and over and over again, they won’t be able to do a thing about it. They’ll never stop hating themselves for it.

The mother who called 911? She’ll forever be changed too. Because she will be with her child, and she will be thinking about her child growing into an awkward, unsure teenager, someone who likes heavy metal and wants to be shut up in their room all the time. She will be worrying that what happened to you will happen to her child too, because her child witnessed it. She will be terrified that one day, her child is going to be so full of pain like a shook-up bottle that they will do anything to release the pressure of that bottle and let the pain out through a hole in the side of the plastic. That mother will spend the rest of her life in constant worry and fear that one day her child is going to be the person you were and will end up like you did.

For the child, it will be but a brief moment in a series of colored flashes that are the memories of children, but this one will stick out more so than the others. It will be what is termed as a “flashbulb memory” in psychology. Years later, they will be able to remember exactly what they were doing and wearing at the moment of your death. They will remember that they were wearing a red short-sleeved shirt, black shorts, and mini Birkenstocks, and that your body as it fell looked like an angel’s because of the way your arms were held out at your sides like wings. They will not know, at the moment of your death, what you were doing, but they will figure it out later, and they will know that they saw a life being purposely cut short before their very eyes.

Yes, your parents and friends will have to go to the hospital and identify your dead body, and they will hold your cold clammy hand and marvel at how their child, whom they brought into life like a candle into the dark, has now been removed from it before their time. Yes, your sister will no longer be able to joke with you about dates or her boyfriend’s unhygienic habits or her teacher’s tendency to chew on his fingernails while his class is taking a particularly difficult test. Yes, your grandparents will not attend your graduation because you will have not graduated, because it is no longer possible for you to walk across the stage and accept your diploma.

Yes, your friends will never be able to laugh with you and go out for ice cream with you, or gossip and relive favorite past memories of childhood and elementary school. Yes, they will move on into their lives with a hole the precise shape and size of you cut into those lives, like a cookie cutter slapped suddenly into dough.

Yes, the people closest to you, people you loved and people that loved you in the most overwhelming, incredible way in return, will miss you dearly. Your death will forever have an impact on them, and they will see your ghost everywhere they turn.

However, you know full well that even with friends and family surrounding you, you can be alone as ever. You can be the loneliest person in the entire world; you can feel as if you are the only person on the planet.

But what you don’t understand, at this very moment, as you are standing on this roof, is that you are not alone in the way you think you are. You think you’re the kind of alone that means alone in a crowd of strangers, alone in a room full of people you’ve never even met.

You think no one cares that you are standing up here on this roof, waiting to die.

But the reality is that each and every single person beneath you on the streets and sidewalk right now are living and breathing, and if you jump, they will continue living and breathing, but in a vastly different way than before. They will be forever changed. The jogger, the mother, the young child, the couples, the homeless men and women-their lives will never be the same, because they will witness the ending of a life when they have already been so deeply taught that the beginning of a life is the most precious thing of all.

All these people form a web, an interconnected web, and you are at the very center of it. They surround you like insects, and you are the spider.

You can do what you wish right now. You can catch them or you can let them escape.

Whatever your choice may be, a spider in a web surrounded by insects is never alone. It is connected to them by billions and billions of threads.

You are not alone. You are the furthest thing from it at this very moment.

So step back from the roof now.

Turn around and climb back through the window.

Shut it. Roll down the curtain.

Breathe.

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How to make a comfort box

A comfort box is a great simple idea that you can try at home. A comfort box is a box which you can fill with things that relax you or calm you. Bags and backpacks can also make great portable alternatives to an actual box.

Here are some possible things a comfort box or bag could include:

Your favourite chocolate or candy

Stuffed animals or toys

Your favourite Books or poems

Colouring kits or drawing materials

A journal

Play Doh

Dummies

A soft blanket

Non triggering films or TV series

Comfort food recipes

Playlists of soothing music

Bath or shower items (bath bombs etc)

Scented candles

safety plan printable cards

Bubble wand

Ear plugs

Body lotions

Pictures of loved ones and/or pets

Herbal tea

Stress ball

Jigsaw puzzles

Relaxation or meditation exercises or audios  

Old birthday cards

Friendship bracelets or recovery bracelets

scented handkerchiefs

glitter jars

favorite t-shirt

encouraging notes/letters

essential oils

money for ice cream

consider keeping a small food comfort box in your refrigerator/freezer

Poofy sweater 

List of reasons to stay alive 

List of things you like about yourself 

Rubber bands 

Stickers 

Bubble wrap 

Worry Stone 

Rosary or beaded necklace

Crayons and a coloring book/printed coloring pages

Letters from loved ones

Book of variety puzzles

Do you have something that calms or relaxes you that you would place in a comfort box that isn’t on this list? Please feel free to leave a message in our inbox and we will update the list.

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Thought Diary

Challenging your thoughts isn’t something you should do in your head, as this can get messy and confusing. The best way is to write it down.  To help you through the process, we suggest using a Thought Diary. 

This helps you work through the challenging process step by step, on paper, making everything clearer and more helpful for you. The goal of working through a Thought Diary is to develop healthy and balanced beliefs. Start by thinking of a recent situation when you felt unhappy or distressed.  You will need to practice challenging your thoughts many times before the process becomes easier and more automatic. Here are some guidelines on how to complete a Thought Diary:

Guidelines for Completing a Thought Diary

Identify the ‘A’ or Activating Event. This may include an actual event or situation, a thought, a mental picture or a physical trigger.   

Identify the ‘C’ or Consequences. Ask yourself: “What emotion(s) was I feeling?” There may be a few. Choose the feeling that most closely represents the emotion you actually felt at the time and underline it.  Rate the intensity of this emotion between 0 and 100.  The higher the number the more intense the emotion.  What actions/behaviours did you engage in?  What physical sensations did you experience? 

Identify the ���B’ or the Beliefs. Ask yourself: “What was I thinking? What was I saying to myself? What was going through my head at the time?” 

Identify the original  thought. Choose the most distressing thought that is most closely connected to your emotion you underlined in Step 2.  Don’t try to challenge all your unhelpful thoughts and beliefs at once.  Take them on one by one.  Underline your original thought and rate how much you believe this thought, between 0 and 100. 

Identify any unhelpful thinking styles that might be in operation, such as black and white thinking, catastrophizing & irrational thoughts. 

Detective work. Referring to the original thought, ask yourself: “What is the evidence for and against my original thought?” 

Challenge your Thoughts through Disputation. Ask youself questions such as: “How might someone else might view the situation? How else could I view the situation?” 

Develop balanced and helpful thoughts.  After looking at all the evidence for and against your original thought, and having considered the disputation questions, replace the original thought with helpful, balanced thought(s).  

Re-rate the intensity of the emotion that you underlined in Step 2, between 0 and 100. 

Re-rate the strength of your original original thought, between 0 and 100. 

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Anxiety Grounding Techniques

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Grounding Techniques

Grounding is a technique that helps keep someone in the present. They help reorient a person to the here-and-now and in reality. Grounding skills can be helpful in a variety of situations: with dissociation symptoms; and managing overwhelming feelings or intense anxiety. They help someone to regain their mental focus from an often intensely emotional state.

Grounding skills occur within two specific approaches:

1) Sensory Awareness

2) Cognitive Awareness

Sensory Awareness Grounding Exercise #1:

Begin by tracing your hand on a piece of paper and label each finger as one of the five senses. Then take each finger and identify something special and safe representing each of those five senses. For example: Thumb represents sight and a label for sight might be butterflies or my middle finger represents the smell sense and it could be represented by lilacs. After writing and drawing all this on paper, post it on your refrigerator or other safe places in the home where it could be easily seen and memorize it. Whenever you get triggered, breathe deeply and slowly, and put your hand in front of your face where you can really see it – stare at your hand and then look at each finger and try to do the five senses exercise from memory.

Exercise #2:

• Keep your eyes open, look around the room, notice your surroundings, notice

details.

• Hold a pillow, stuffed animal or a ball.

• Place a cool cloth on your face, or hold something cool such as a can of soda.

• Listen to soothing music

• Put your feet firmly on the ground

• FOCUS on someone’s voice or a neutral conversation.

Sensory Awareness Grounding Exercise #3:

Here’s the 54321 “game”.

• Name 5 things you can see in the room with you.

• Name 4 things you can feel (“chair on my back” or “feet on floor”)

• Name 3 things you can hear right now (“fingers tapping on keyboard” or “tv”)

• Name 2 things you can smell right now (or, 2 things you like the smell of)

• Name 1 good thing about yourself

Cognitive Awareness Grounding Exercise:

Reorient yourself in place and time by asking yourself some or all of these questions:

1. Where am I?

2. What is today?

3. What is the date?

4. What is the month?

5. What is the year?

6. How old am I?

7. What season is it?

Source: http://www.peirsac.org/peirsacui/er/educational_resources10.pdf

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My mental breakdown is imminent.

I'm just holding it together until it's safe to do so. I don't want my 3 year old to see it. I'm so fed up with life. There's a storm raging inside my mind, tearing through my carefully erected defenses. I've got 35 years of shit that I can't seem to keep contained any longer.

What else do you do when you've grown up broken, firmly believing that your emotions are EVIL and must be squashed? You are and will always be a disappointment, and can never to fit into those binary gender roles set out for you. You develep core beliefs that YOU are something to be reviled - that anything good in you is overshadowed by the terrible, which is only serving to betray your true nature, and surely everyone will soon see what you are and shove you away. It's no less than I deserve. Until now, it's what I've truly believed.

I feel like there isn't anyone equipped to help me. Even my counsellor. It's like she kept changing subjects. People ask me how they can help, but I have no idea. I honestly don't. Because nothing ever really seems to help. Of everyone I have told about how I feel this is happening soon, they just don't understand the weight of this. It's uncomfortable, I get it. But it's like my mind is checking off who I can't talk to anymore. I feel weak enough, I don't need the reminders from you. I doubt myself all the time - grow up, stop overreacting, get it together, other people can do this, why can't you?

I have resigned myself to this. This is how things have to go. Maybe I can finally escape this endless cycle of brief periods of mild happiness which only seem to eventually descend into dark pits of self loathing and thoughts of suicide. I've a sense of relief that this is finally going to happen, that I can finally let my guard down, but I'm also scared because I don't know what things will look like when they come down. I don't want to subject anyone to this hurricane. I want to be alone, but I also know that I need to be safe. My husband will be here, or make sure I'm safe. I know about crisis supports, and have shown the resolve to use them when necessary. I have two crisis phone lines and two crisis text lines in my phone.

If you've read this far, I'm surprised but grateful. If you haven't, you won't see this message, but know I understand. I don't want to deal with this, why should you?

I wrote a poem a few years ago, in university, when things were "going well". I think this only shows what's always beneath the surface.

THE BLUEPRINTS OF FALLING APART

no one tells you how it’s done

how do you even know

if you’re doing it right?

when everything is going wrong

at least you should be capable

of breaking down correctly

there’s these seven stages of grief

but where you are

doesn’t even seem to apply

they all tell you to

hold it together

yet no one supplies you with the glue

and maybe you could if you had enough hands

but you’re crumbling

from all sides

all those dusty corners

places you didn’t even know that you had

an unknown force rips out

all of your seams

and it’s all you can do to keep from

exposing yourself

it’s not your fault you’re naked

yet you still shoulder all the blame

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Ok so this post is extremely long and I put it all together for my blogs Feeling sad page but as I don’t have a huge amount of followers I realize so many people are not seeing this information so I’m posting it here too!

alternatives without harming yourself:

holding/squeezing ice.

splashing your face with water.

getting a rubber band and snapping it against your skin (this could hurt, though it’s better than other ways that people usually choose to self-harm).

take a hot shower or bath.

eat something sour. it will take your mind of the urge. (lemon, sour lollies)

massage where you want to self-harm.

get a red pen or red paint and draw/paint over where you usually self-harm.

remind yourself as to why you shouldn’t do it. (scars, harms organs, leave memories etc…)

describe what you are feeling. (is the urge/pain in your chest, fists, legs, arms, head).

killing yourself will not help. it is not a solution.

you have your whole life ahead of you. you have so many more years that you can accomplish things in. for example;

having a family.

getting married.

to watch the sun rise.

to watch the sun set.

to save someone else’s life.

finish school.

get your dream job.

to laugh.

to smile.

to go camping.

travel to new places.

to wake up every morning to the person you love.

friends.

family.

to keep that promise you made.

to accomplish a goal.

to meet your idol.

to listen to new music.

theme parks.

video games.

chocolate.

to be able to look back and say “i made it”.

what you’re going through is temporary.

in case you need to hear this:

you are loved.

you are wanted.

you are needed.

you are beautiful.

you are handsome.

you are important.

you are not alone.

you are okay.

you are strong.

you are worth it.

you are smart.

you are not a failure.

you are useful.

you are going to be okay.

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the dawn room

the comfort spot

control a rainstorm

calm

how to make changes in your life

imalive

crisischat

7 cups of tea

kids help phone

positive love network

trans lifeline: 877-565-8860

depression hotline: 1-630-482-9696

suicide hotline: 1-800-784-8433

lifeline: 1-800-273-8255

trevor project: 1-866-488-7386

sexuality support: 1-800-246-7743

eating disorders hotline: 1-847-831-3438

rape and sexual assault: 1-800-656-4673

grief support: 1-650-321-5272

runaway: 1-800-843-5200, 1-800-843-5678, 1-800-621-4000

exhale: after abortion hotline/pro-voice: 1-866-439-4253

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If they only knew...

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“I’m sorry the wind never calls us by the names our mothers gave us.”

— William Evans, from Still Can’t Do My Daughter’s Hair 

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QUICK RESOURCE GUIDE FOR THE LGBT COMMUNITY

Some resources are good for everyone

Anxiety

• http://www.adaa.org/ • http://youth.anxietybc.com/ • http://www.helpguide.org/topics/anxiety.htm

Asexuality

• http://www.asexuality.org • http://www.asexualawarenessweek.com

Bisexuality

• http://www.biresource.net/bisexualyouth.shtml • http://www.bisexual.org • http://www.pflagcentralcoastchapter.net/uploads/BisexualityResourcePacket.pdf • http://queerdictionary.tumblr.com/

Coming Out

• http://www.thetrevorproject.org/section/YOU • http://www.hrc.org/resources/entry/resource-guide-to-coming-out • http://amplifyyourvoice.org/youthresource/youthresource-comingout • GLBT National Youth Talkline: 1-800-246-PRIDE (7743)

Depression

• http://www.helpguide.org/mental/depression_teen_teenagers.htm • http://kidshealth.org/teen/your_mind/mental_health/depression.html • http://us.reachout.com

Eating Disorders

• http://www.nationaleatingdisorders.org/find-help-support • http://www.helpguide.org/mental/eating_disorder_treatment.htm • http://www.eatingdisordersanonymous.org/

Family and Friends

• http://theparentsproject.com/home/ • http://community.pflag.org/ • https://www.genderspectrum.org/

Gay and Lesbian

• http://www.advocatesforyouth.org/index.php?option=com_content&task=view&id=730&Itemid=336 • http://www.advocatesforyouth.org/index.php?option=com_content&task=view&id=726&Itemid=516 • http://www.pflag.org/fileadmin/user_upload/Publications/Be_Yourself.pdf

Healthy Relationships

• http://www.scarleteen.com/article/relationships • http://www.breakthecycle.org/learn-about-dating-violence • http://www.thehotline.org/ • http://www.asexuality.org/home/relationship.html • https://rainn.org/ or call 1-800-656-HOPE

Homelessness

• http://www.ourtruecolors.org/ • http://fortytonone.org/ • http://nationalhomeless.org/ • http://www.aliforneycenter.org/

I Have A Crush

• http://us.reachout.com/facts/factsheet/do-i-want-a-relationship • http://us.reachout.com/facts/factsheet/maintaining-a-happy-relationship • http://gayteens.about.com/od/crushes/

In School

• http://www.stopbullying.gov/ • http://www.glsen.org/ • http://www.gsanetwork.org/ • http://www.campuspride.org/ • http://www.athleteally.org/

International

• http://suicide.org/international-suicide-hotlines.html • http://www.befrienders.org/ • http://iglhrc.org/ • http://ilga.org/ • http://www.iglyo.com/ • http://transactivists.org/ • http://www.oraminternational.org/ • https://www.nomorefearfoundation.org/faq/

Mental Health

• http://www.nami.org/ • http://www.reclaim-lgbtyouth.org/ • http://www.aglp.org

Out and Proud

• http://www.glbtnearme.org/ • http://www.outloudradio.org/ • http://www.transadvocate.com • http://www.genderfork.com

LGBTQ and Religion

• http://www.hrc.org/topics/religion-faith • http://www.pflag.org/fileadmin/user_upload/Publications/Faith_Families.pdf • http://www.transfaithonline.org/ • http://www.religionfacts.com/homosexuality/index.htm • http://www.religiousinstitute.org/lgbt-equality/

Christianity-specific

• http://believeoutloud.com/ • http://www.gaychristian.net/ • http://www.gaychurch.org/ • http://www.welcomingresources.org/

Islam-specific

• http://www.muslimalliance.org/ • http://www.imaan.org.uk/ • http://theinnercircle.org.za/ • http://mpvusa.org/ • http://www.well.com/user/queerjhd/

Judaism-specific

• http://www.keshetonline.org/ • http://www.nehirim.org/ • http://www.jqinternational.org/resources/jewish-lgbt-organizations/

Self-Injury

• http://www.helpguide.org/mental/self_injury.htm • http://www.siriusproject.org/alternatives.htm • http://everyoneisgay.com/self-harm/ • http://www.safe-alternatives.com

Sexual Health

• http://www.plannedparenthood.org/ • http://www.scarleteen.com/ • http://www.sexetc.org/ • http://www.aids.gov/ • http://youngwomenshealth.org/ • http://www.youngmenshealthsite.org/ • http://cdn0.genderedintelligence.co.uk/2012/11/17/17-14-04-GI-sexual-health-booklet.pdf • National Abortion Federation Hotline: 1-800-772-9100

Suicide

• http://www.afsp.org/ • http://www.save.org/ • http://www.suicidepreventionlifeline.org/ • http://www.befrienders.org/

Substance Abuse

• http://www.samhsa.gov/ • http://www.drugabuse.gov/ • http://www.ihra.net/what-is-harm-reduction

TRANS* AND GENDER  IDENTITY

Gender Identity

• http://genderqueerid.com/ • https://www.genderspectrum.org/ • http://www.thegenderbook.com/

Intersex

• http://inter-actyouth.tumblr.com/ • http://oiiinternational.com/ • http://www.apa.org/topics/intersx.html#whatdoes

Trans*

• http://transstudent.tumblr.com/ • http://www.advocatesforyouth.org/index.php?option=com_content&task=view&id=731&Itemid=177 • http://www.imatyfa.org/ • http://www.wpath.org/

PLEASE REBLOG

source: The Trevor Project

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Your experience is yours alone and no one can tell you the "right" way to live it.

hot take but closeted lgbt people are so fucking brave. being closeted doesn’t mean you’re lying to yourself or to others. that’s bullshit perpetuated by cishets to make us feel bad about ourselves and there’s no shame in being closeted. coming out should be entirely up to you, for you to decide how to come out and who to come out to. no one else is entitled to that information unless you want them to be and whether you’re closeted to stay safe, because you’re unsure or not ready to be out, or you just feel more comfortable being in, you’re not hiding and you don’t deserve to feel guilty. i’m proud of you and hope you can come out when you’re ready or want to, and it’s safe to do so

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