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At some point, we were like Marco!❤️

1. We were at the right place, at the right time, but never the right person.

2. We could have been the best choice, yet, we didn’t get the chance to be chosen.

3. We’ve shared a lot in common and interests, but s/he’s just not interested.

4. We’re always ready to say “yes” to any of her/his request, and we’re there when s/he needed us the most, yet we know deep inside we’re not really the one s/he “needs”.

5. We’re just someone’s temporary source of happiness, momentary companion, a favorite pastime. 💔

While they’re happy at the kissing booth, you were at the hurting booth.

Love and hugs to all the Marcos out there ❤️❤️

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ONE SIDED LOVE AND HOW TO DEAL WITH IT

By Carl Dave Black Ang

(WARNING: LONG AND PAINFUL)

Tinuod gyud diay nga usahay kailangan ka mag move on bisan wala nagka kamo. Kailangan nimo buhian bisan wala pa nimo nakuptan. Kailangan nimo humanon bisan wala pa moy nasugdan. Unrequited feelings. One Sided Love. Lain-lain og tawag but same pain, same struggles, same dilemma.

I'm sure we've all been in a position in our lives where we've had feelings or been in love with someone who simply does not share the same view of you.

Kanang mangluod ka kung eseenzoned.

Magselos kung naay laing kuyog or kaestorya.

Hatagan og sweet meaning tanan bisan wala ra to niya.

Masuko kung dugay moreply.

Mangitag importansya, nya, dili diay mo uyab.

This can be a tough thing to deal with. It is tough, very tough. Ang paghimo palang daan og decision is already a struggle, how much more dealing with its pain and rejection. Maabot ka sa point wherein kailangan ka mo pili, Do you have to let go? Fight for it? Try to change their mind? Play the waiting game? Or possible maabot naka sa point nga ethreaten nimo sya nga maghikog ka kung dili sya ma imoha.

For me, normally, once I felt like my feelings are unrequited, I will slowly let them go. Fighting for it is a TV/movie misconception, blame it sa sige nato’g tan-aw og teleserye and mga hopeless-romantic films. If you’ll come to think of it, the time you spend wasting your emotions towards that person is the perfect time you could be spending looking for someone else, someone “better”, someone who might feel the same way too or would reciprocate our feelings.

Now, I would like to share with you 5 ways on how to deal with unrequited feelings.

1. Be brave. Be brave enough to tell the person how you feel. Kay kung di na nimo ipagawas, motubo na ug mahimong dakong bugas sa imong nawng. Bitaw, walay mawala nimo kung mo tog-an ka, dako ang chance nga rejection imong madawat from the person, however, basin diay the feeling is mutual. Ayaw lang og asa pag ayo.

2. Be busy. Avoid the object of affection. Instead of spending long hours talking to that person, be more productive. The more you get in contact with the person, the deeper the feelings will become. Avoid being stagnant, or wala kay buhaton kay for sure mag hunahuna napod ka niya, ma tintal kag message niya. I know the feeling of acting like you’re busy, but in reality you’re lonely, but you have to do it.

3. Don’t take it personally. Di nato mapugos or masugo atong self kung kinsa atong elove, it’s not for us to decide. Ingon pa’s Jolu B Diago (akong friend), it’s a chemical reaction sa body (endorphin), so it’s a chemistry thing. If dili ka love sa person it doesn't mean that you're unworthy of love, or not good enough, the person may like you, but the feeling of LOVE isn't there. So DON’T blame yourself and the other person.

4. Be realistic. Accept acceptance. Sa 5 steps of grieving apil na sya, acceptance is always the key. Denial man ka pirme, mag sige kag asa nga basin diay pwede mo, basin machange iyang heart magka gusto pod sya nimo. You will just prolong your agony. So better just face the truth and the fact nga wala jud.

5. Know your worth. True love, by definition, needs to be mutual, because it is a shared emotion—a give and take. If you think ikaw ra pirme ang ga sigeg give, and you know for yourself that you deserve to be loved too and be appreciated, then stop what you’re doing. Self-worth is very important para makabalo ka kung asa ka kutob, unsa ra imong dapat buhaton, and what you truly deserve.

Dealing with unrequited feelings can be VERY difficult, so for your own sake, you have to pull yourself together and try to move on.

This was my goodby message to him.

"To be fair, I won't leave you hanging. So I’m giving you our closure. Hopefully this would me my last chat and our last convo. I'm tired and hurt. Everything I do would just remind you of your ex and your ex best friend whom you fell in love with. I no longer have my identity kay sila pirme imong mahinumduman. Cant you see, they left you. And the person who's here for you and would do everything for you is hurting, you’re hurting. Your eyes are clouded. You don’t see me at all. You see them instead. I don’t feel my presence being appreciated while you mean everything to me. Bisan unsa ko ka busy. I will drop everything just to entertain you. You're the first thing and the last person I talk to everyday. But never was there a time nga ikaw ang ni message og una. I know almost everything about you but never did you ask anything deep about me. Asking is a sign of interest. And I guess you are not interested. Never ko nmo gipangita. Feel nako mura’g samokan ka every time mo chat ko. Now, I ran out of reasons to stay because you never want me to. Guess I should never be a part of your life. Ako ra gipugos akong self. I wish wala nalang tka gi add. I wish wala nlng ta nagkaila. I was helping you then find yourself, but I end up losing myself. Salamat sa time. God bless ____. This is my closure. This is our closure."

Thank James Enrique Walson for letting me use your photo nga one-sided pod 😂

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I’ve got 7,641 reasons to love this country. Happy independence day, mahal kong Pilipinas!

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STAY OR LEAVE (kanus- angay mobiya)

By Carl Dave Black Ang

STAY or LEAVE? Stay kung kaya pa. Kung kahibalo ka nga love pa nimo sya, hangtod ma feel nimo nga kapoy na, hangtod mahutdan ka'g rason to stay, hangtod moingon ka's imong kaugalingon og "Sakto na!", "Dili na ko". That's the time nga mo LEAVE ka, when you already have done everything, para walay mahay.

Here are 10 signs nga angay nakang mobiya, so bess, stop na!

1. MA BORED NA KA KUNG MAG-UBAN MO. Dili na parihas sauna, nga excited kaayo ka makigkita, makiglaag, ug makigkuyog niya. Ug kung magkuyog gani mo, halos wala namo’y maestoryahaan (insert crickets sound).

2. IF YOU FEEL DISRESPECTED, UNDER-APPRECIATED, FRUSTRATED, HURT, LONELY AND UNVALUED MOST OF TIME. Kung mas daghan pa iyang “Sorry” kaysa ���I love you” nimo, hustona oi! Stop na besh! Wala na nanginahanglan ang GOMBURZA og usa pa ka martyr kay completo na sila.

3. ANG IMONG PIRME MA BANTAYAN KAY ANG MGA SAYOP NIYA (or vice versa). Gamay’ng bikil kay padak-on. Dali naka/siya sapton, usahay unware sya/ka unsay sayop nga nabuhat.

4. DISTANSYA = IMPORTANSYA. Kon medyo ni distansya na sya gamay, gamay napod kag importansya niya. Dili na sya ing-ana ka attentive nimo, panagsa nalang magparamdam thru text/call and most of the time kay ikaw pa gyud ang mo initiate sa text/tawag, kung ikaw maghimo og plano kay pirme sya mobalibad or naay erason nga dili madayon.

5. ASA TA PADONG? Wala na syay klarong direction or plano sa inyong relasyon, no plans kung unsa inyong future. In other words, murag respetar nalang nga kamo pa kay nasugdan na, hulat nalang na syag ikay unang makig bulag niya.

6. YOU CRAVE FOR SPACE AND PRIVACY. Feel nimo nalook na ka, or lupig pa niya ang pulis sa grabe pag monitor to the point nga ma paranoid na ka sa imong mga nilihokan or imong ipang posts sa Facebook coz you know iyang ginabantayan tanan nimong lihok.

7. ANG “KAMO” MAHIMO NA’G “AKO”. Halos ikaw nalang tanan mo initiate ug mo buhat og una, while siya passive na kaayo. Kung naa pod syay lakaw, dili na pod ka niya hapit inviton or e-inform. Samot na pod kung mas malipay ka kung ecancel niya inyong lakaw, moingon dayon kas imong self “hay salamat di madayon kay kapoy’g lakaw!”.

8. BODY LANGUAGE SPEAKS. Ma feel nimo if ganahan ang usa katao nimo thru sa iyang mga linihukan, sa mata, sa kilay, sa kamot, ug the way sya mo approach nimo. Kung sauna sobra ninyo kasikit, halos walay hangin makalusot, pero karon halos dili namo mag abot. No more holding hands or dili na sya hapit mohikap nimo, dili pa sya patay pero nimo kay cold na sya.

9. MAYPA SI. MAYPA SILA. kung mag sige na kag compare niya sa ubang laki (Maypa si kuan kay nindot kaayo manamit, naa pay tarong trabaho), or imong ecompare inyong relationship sa uban. Kuyaw na na Dzae, aside inyong relasyon walay sure, ikaw pod kay insecure!

10. TRUST YOUR GUTS! For sure ma feel gyud na nimo nga something is really wrong or things are really not working well, not unless manhid na gyud kaayo kay gi-injectionan kag usa ka litrong anesthesia.

Kay kung mo derecho ra kag pili sa duha, STAY or LEAVE, maglibog ka, samot ka mag lisod kay kabalo ka sa imong kaugalingon nga di nimo makaya pilion ang biyaan sya, ug kung mobiya ka nga dili pa ready, basin mobalik ra ka's agi. So for now, STAY, and when you LEAVE, never look back. You've done your part, and you've given your all. it's then time to think about yourself!

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HOW TO MAKE YOUR EX MAHAY

By Carl Dave Black Ang

After 5 months, finally naka blog nakog balik. Hopefully this is worth the wait, di parihas sa imong crush nga dili worth, busa ayaw na'g wait. 🙊

Ang panag buwag usahay is a blessing in disguise. This means that more opportunities will come your way, a chance to be with yourself again, friends, and do the things you love to do nga wala na nimo nabuhat katong nagka uyab namo. Kung ikaw iyang gipa MAOY, make sure imong Ex mag MAHAY.

So here are some tips on how to make your Y-A-U nga EX mag mahay.

1. #BalikAlindogProgram - Ang pinaka dali nga paagi para magmahay ang imong ex kay ang pagpa gwapa/gwapo, pa sexy/macho. Get back in shape, dear! Pa haircut and try a new and fresh look but make sure kanang angayan pod ka ha.

2. #ShowOff - Pag post og pictures on your Facbook, IG, etc sa nga panghitabo sa imong kinabuhi nga #goodvibes sama sa travel, party, events, etc. Ang selos usahay would inderectly lead to regret or pagmahay, the more sya makakita nga you’re happy and having a life without him/her, the more sya masuya ug mag selos nimo, so go out on weekends, ayaw sigeg maoy diha’s inyong balay, sa imong sigeg luha, muta ray mapala nimo ana. (tip:make sure to use exciting captions sa imong posts *wink)

3. #AyawParamdam - Pugngi ang kaugalingon nga mo like sa iyang posts, pictures, ug kung mahimo block him/her sa imong messenger or any messaging app para di ka matintal mo message/chat/text niya, abi palang wala paka ka move on niya (wala pa gyud bitaw).

4. #NoReboundPlease - Ayaw pangitag ipuli niya agad-agad a.k.a rebound. You’ll hurt the other person, and you’ll hurt yourself in the long run. Naay laing paagi para paseloson sya (refer to number 1), timan-i nga ang rebound is a desperate move, imong rang kaugalingon ang imong giilad kung mangita kag rebound, instead be with your friends and family, they’re the best support group. Kung mangita kag rebound nya dali ra inyong relasyon, mo ingon gyud imong ex og "tagam", which you don't want to happen.

5. #KillHim/HerWithKindness - Ayaw libaka, ayaw daota, ayaw ebully imong Ex, or ayaw na syag hisgoti. Bitterness is just for losers! Eat Krispy Kreme to make your life sweeter. Timan-i nga the lesser you talk about your Ex, the more curious she/he’ll become kay mahibulong na sya ngano wala nakay paki or wala na nimo sya hisgoti despite sa iyang gibuhat nimo. She/he would think nga mature na gyud ka ug unsa ka kabuotan gihapon niya after all what she/he did to you. Ergo, magmahay na sya nganong gibuhian ka niya. #KayBogoSya

6. #BetheBetterVersionOfYourself - Buhata ang mga butang nga wala nimo nabuhat katong kamo pa, achieve more, pa datu, pa gwapa/gwapo, pa promote.

Remember: Ex, No Why. Just make him/her Mahay.

Slowly but surely, maka move on raka lagi.

Life should be sweet, so don't be bitter to your Ex or even to yourself.

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1. Don’t rush. If there’s something you’ll miss, it will be the time you have now. 2. Stop wasting time blaming yourself and blaming others–things happen for a reason, even if the reason will make sense ten years down the road. 3. Don’t stay around toxic people just because you’re afraid of being alone. Being your own best friend has its perks, and there’s no one else you’ll spend more time with than yourself. 4. Be yourself, unapologetically. It may be embarrassing now, but you will learn that there’s nothing more interesting than someone true to themselves. 5. Don’t be afraid of voicing your thoughts, don’t be afraid of calling out people that hurt you. 6. Write. Write. Write. It will help you clear your mind and also distract yourself when you’re anxious. Writing will be your best friend. 7. Learn all you can, and enjoy it all you want. Knowledge is the only thing truly yours. 8. Be the friend you need, the friend you want. 9. Read all you can. You’ll find the words you can’t say in the lips of others, you’ll find shelter. 10. Love yourself. That’s the only love you will have, constantly, and the only one that will stick with you even if you fail.

Ten things I wish I could say my younger self // Flowerybooks. (via wnq-writers)

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Nature Runs Through Me. 🍃🌊🌿

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Life is like a coin. You can spend it any way you wish, but you only spend it once. So, spend it wisely! #Live2Wander #TrueWanderer⛰🏔 #wander #travel #adventure #explore #discover #life #live #nature (at Kayangan Lake, Coron, Palawan)

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Crush, mag relationship goal unta ta dinhi ron oh. Pero dili man ka nako, so kutob nalng kas pag like ani nga pic. 😏#wander #adventure #travel #explore #discover #wanderlust #nature #beauty #falls #love #live #life (at Mantayupan Falls, Barili, Cebu, Philippines)

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People went crazy over the 10,000 fake roses, and so they failed to notice how brilliant the moon was tonight. Murag gugma, usahay mas pilion nato ang tao nga makahatag og kalipay kaysa sa tao nga nahigugma natog tinud-anay. 😏🌹🌹 #hugotraphy #photourgraphy #wander #adventure #travel #discover #explore #moon #roses (at 10,000 Roses, Cordova, Cebu)

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Crush, nagpaabot ko nga ma FALL ka kay ako hagbay ra. Hapit na gani ko ma FALL-an na. 😏 #phoTOURgraphy #HUGOTraphy #wander #wanderlust #adventure #travel #travelPh #islands #explore #discover #beauty #love #live #life (at Ungab Rock Formation)

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It's nice to be back Bantayan! Pero akong EX, dili na gani to sya nice, dili napod to sya mo back. 😊🌴🏝#wanderlust #hugot #wander #travel #explore #discover #adventure #nature #islandlife #islands (at Budyong Beach Resort, Bantayan Island)

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Pag anhi nako last year, duna pakoy uyab. Pero karon, unsa gani na'ng UYAB? ✌🏻😅 #HUGOTraphy #phoTOURgraphy #wander #wanderlust #adventure #travel #discover #explore #nature #travelPh #live #love (at Santa Fe Port, Bantayan Island, Cebu)