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top ten jbd characters → 7. Eli Chandler. 

“I know what it’s like to put yourself out there for somebody you really like and have it not come back the way you were hoping .”  

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Have you seen a man so beautiful you started to cry?

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Can't wait for it 💓

This is gonna be my next painting.

Because omg how cute is he

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these are two smiles of the same coin but i still would die for them

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You so💓 fuckin’ 💗precious💕 when you💞 smile/unemotional💝

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Beautiful Human being

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Byran Dechart liking things on twitter like “connor in dbh is a damn s n a c c” or “is this detroit actually good or does everyone just wants to fuck connor?” is a M O O D

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Feeling crap these days I just saw this post and even without reading it I already feel much better with myself 💓 Gotta show it to my lil sister :')

I decided to create a masterpost that would help you with what you are struggling with. Hopefully any of the links below will help you! Reminder; You’re going to be okay. What you are going through will pass, just remember to breathe. 

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Distractions;

Here are some distractions to help keep your mind occupied so you aren’t too focused on your thoughts. 

-Draw something

-This website translates the time into colours.

-Create your own galaxy.

-Play flowing.

-Make a 3D line travel where ever you like. 

-Listen to music.

-Calm.

-Ocean mood, do nothing for two minutes.

Sleep issues; 

- 8 hour sleep music.

-Rainy mood. 

-Meditation.

-Coping with nightmares.

-How to cope with nightmares, 11 steps.

-Calm

-Foods that can affect your sleeping, both positive and negatively. 

 Uncomfortable with silence; 

-Rainy mood.

-10 hours of rain and thunder.

-3 hours of rain and thunder.

-Human heartbeat.

-Rainforest.

-Sound of rain on a tin roof.

-Autumn wind.

-Rain on a tent

-Traffic in the rain.

-Soft traffic. 

-Fan.

-Train.

-Simply noise.

-My noise.

-Rainy cafe.

Anxiety; 

-How to stop worrying. 

-Tips to manage anxiety and stress.

-The 10 best ever anxiety management techniques. 

-Self-help strategies for anxiety. 

-Helping a friend with anxiety. 

-All about worrying.

-8 myths about anxiety. 

Sad, angry and depressed/depression; 

-“I’m always sad”

-Feeling sad.

-Going through trauma.

-“I’m always angry”.

-Anger management. 

-All about anger.

-National helplines and websites.

-Self-help strategies for depression.

-Dealing with depression at work.

-Dealing with depression at school.

Isolation and loneliness; 

-Pets and mental health.

-All about loneliness. 

-“I feel so alone”

-10 more ideas to help with loneliness. 

-How to deal with loneliness.

 Self-harm;

-Alternatives to self-harm and distraction techniques.

-146 things to do besides self-harm.

-More alternatives to self-harm.

-Self-harm alternatives.

-How to take care of self-harm wounds/injuries.

-Getting rid of scars.  

Addiction; 

-How to help a friend with a drug addiction.

-What is addiction?

-All about alcohol and addiction.

-The facts about drug addiction.

 Eating disorders; 

-Helping a friend with an eating disorder.

-Eating disorder treatments. 

-Support services for eating disorders. 

-Self-help tips with eating disorders.

-Eating disorder recovery. 

-Recovering from an eating disorder. 

-100+ reasons to recover. 

-Understanding and managing eating disorders. 

 Dealing with self-hatred;  

-3 ways to ease self-loathing. 

-How to turn self-hatred into self-compassion.

-Self-hatred resources.

-10 step plan to deal with self-hate. 

 Suicidal; 

-International suicide hotlines (1)  (2)

-Preventing suicide. 

-Reasons to stay alive.

-Dealing with suicidal thoughts and feelings.

-Coping with suicidal ideation.  

 Schizophrenia;

-All about schizophrenia.  

-Helping a person with schizophrenia.  

-Understanding and dealing with schizophrenia.  

-Delusions and hallucinations.  

OCD;

-Managing your OCD at home. 

-Overcoming OCD.

-How to cope with OCD. 

-Strategies for dealing with the anxious moments. 

Borderline personality disorder; 

-Helping someone with BPD. 

-All about personality disorders.

-Treatment for BPD.

Abuse; 

-Healthy relationships VS abusive relationships. 

-Emotional abuse

-Overcoming sexual abuse. 

-Hotlines services. 

-5 ways to escape an abusive relationship. 

-Domestic violence support. 

-Signs of an abusive relationship. 

-What do to if you’re in an abusive relationship. 

-Surviving abuse. 

-What you can do if you’re sexual harassed. 

-Sexual assault support.

-What to do if you’ve been sexually assaulted or abused. 

 Bullying;

-How to stand up against bullying.

-How to protect yourself when it comes to cyber bullying.

-How to help stop people bullying you. 

 Loss and grief; 

-How to cope with a suicide of a loved one.

-Grieving for a stranger. 

-Common reactions to death. 

-Working through grief.

(Other loss and grief)

-Moving away from friends and family. 

-Coping with a breakup.

 Getting help; 

-Seeking help early. 

-All about psychological treatments. 

-Types of help.

-All about age and confidentiality. 

Things you need to remember; 

- Don’t stress about being fixed because you’re not broken.

-Remember to remind yourself of your accomplishments. Tell yourself that you’re proud of yourself, even if you’re not. 

- This is temporary. You won’t always feel like this. 

-You are not alone. 

-You are enough. 

-You are important. 

-You are worth it. 

-You are strong. 

-You are not a failure, 

-Good people exist. 

-Reaching out shows strength. 

-Breathe. 

-Don’t listen to the thoughts that are not helping you. 

-Give yourself credit. 

-Don’t be ashamed of your emotions, for the good or bad ones. 

-Treat yourself the same way as you would treat a good friend. 

-Focus on the things you can change. 

-Let go of toxic people. 

-You don’t need to hide, you’re allowed to feel the way you do. 

-Try not to beat yourself up. 

-Something is always happening, you don’t want to miss out on what��s going to happen next. 

-You are not a bother.

-Your existence is more than your appearance. 

-You are smart. 

-You are loved. 

-You are wanted. 

-You are needed. 

-Better days are coming. 

-Just because your past is dark, doesn’t mean your future isn’t bright. 

-You have more potential than you think. 

- Your value doesn’t decrease based on someone’s inability to see your worth.

Please remember to look after yourself and know that you are more than worth it and you deserve to be happy. Keep smiling butterflies x

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No one’s ever really gone.

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✩ *॰ May the Fourth be with you ॰ *✩

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He really is the Strongest Ally 💞💞

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Ben is SO in need of love

This quite literally makes my heart hurt when I think about it but I’m gonna go there ANYWAY

Can we PLEASE just take a moment to realize how in need of love poor sweet Ben Solo is. Whether or not you’re a Reylo shipper, it is evident that he is so desperate for affection, affection that he has never properly been given in the way he needed it.

He’s SO deprived of it that any close, intimate interactions leave him so obviously affected. He can’t help but show the way he reacts to any affection or care because he’s too busy focusing on it itself and it’s rarity. I personally love this so much because seeing his facial expressions is so beautifully painful.

It just hurts SO good

We are gonna try to ignore how utterly beautiful Adam looks in this scene and fail miserably and focus on the way he’s reacting. He has a connection with this person, a connection he doesn’t understand. It has to mean something, and he knows it does,

“This… this is something else.”

It’s intimate and special, something he is completely unused to. He’s clearly enthralled and extremely focused on this moment, when she calls him a monster. What’s so interesting about this moment is that he replies:

“Yes I am”

which in the novel, he says this with “only misery” in his voice. He knows what he has become, and he knows that’s what everyone thinks of him. He has been called and treated like a monster for the majority of his life, and now this person who he is beginning to see as special is calling him that too. There is no anger here. I almost see this line as a plead to Rey, almost like he’s saying, “I know what I am, please help me be more.” I have found that Ben is very minutely calling out for help multipe times in The Last Jedi and it hurts so much.

In this scene he is telling Rey to let the past die, and to stop latching onto people as if they are her parents. He is telling her, “Let the past die, kill it if you have to, it’s the only way to become what you were meant to be.” when in a way, he’s telling Rey what he wishes he could do. He hates the past so much because of the way he was treated by everyone, he despises it, and wants to forget it but can’t. He’s so damaged, so fragile, but acts like he is so rough on the outside by saying this. Look at his face during this encounter, he’s so present and (as the novelezation so perfectly puts it) knowing and hungry.

Okay this one is the fucking kicker I can’t understand that this is canon to this DAY I can’t understand but, he LITERALLY is reaching out here. He is crying out for Rey to reciprocate what he is giving out. Rey confides in him, and this is new as well. He sees how trusting and forgiving Rey is here, as she tells him her feelings and discoveries in the cave, that she has never told anyone else. To comfort her, we ALL know he dives in and tells her that she’s not alone.

This ^^ is what he looks like immediately after he says this to her. You can’t deny the desperation, tears in his eyes already. Is it from empathy for Rey? Is it out of the needing of affection? He’s so deprived of anyone showing him ANYTHING. DO YOU PEOPLE HEAR ME?! HE THINKS NO ONE LOVES HIM. His eyes are SEARCHING hers for a response for something, ANYTHING to make him feel wanted, needed, or cared for. He says it first, he reaches out wanting to help her and needing to be comforted in return.

When they finally touch hands and Rey starts crying god bless my girl’s sweet HEART, Ben looks very intriguied. In my mind it’s almost a confusion or realization that, she wanted to touch his hand, his skin, that those tears are for him, that she is feeling this emotion for his sake, and because of what touching his hand is making her feel. Also we aren’t even going to go into the fact that he took off his glove to touch hands with her, not only is he deprived of care but also of any touch, or intimacy.

He is seeing them together, so he must think she’s seeing the same thing (which she is but in a different way) So he is literally sitting here, watching Rey shed tears over the fact that he could end up with someone, someone who loves him. Imagine how he feels in this moment. In a way, this is better and more intimate than kissing or touching more intensely would be. She is simply seeing a future with him, and seeing him turn, and that is why she is crying. It’s so special and SO revolutionary for Ben to see someone care about him in this way.

Seriously, look at this next gif and TELL me he doesn’t need love, he’s begging. Rian Johnson said that though this scene comes off as manipulative, and it is, that Ben did not do so on purpose, and was not aware of the manipulation, and that in his mind it was just him asking her to love him. My heart is ACHING.

He is begging her. Even just after the few bonds they had, he is begging. She’s the only person in decades to show him the slightest bit of affection and he’s putting it all on the line.

And here we are, this moment actually kills me. He tells Rey, about her parents, “You can’t stop needing them… looking for them everywhere, in Han Solo, and now in Luke Skywalker.” As if he is any different. This poor boy has been robbed of any true love that he has current memory of, and he is latching onto the first and only person who has given him any.

He’s on the verge of tears and there is no denying his pain. This scene represents, “please don’t leave me”, “please don’t go”, “I’m sorry”, “please forgive me” in every way shape and form. He leaves behind any embarrassment or shame for this pleading, and just feels what he feels, shows what he shows.

Rey does the right thing, but that doesn’t mean that Ben isn’t heartbroken. The ONLY person who had given him the time of day in years, the person who wanted to touch his skin, and who found comfort in him, who fought side by side with him, is walking away.

Don’t mind me while I go sob, now, thank you for your timE :-)

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This is how I feel like when it comes to Marvel 😈

Dear Starlord,

sincerely me

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T’Challa: I am the Black Panther, protector of Wakanda, and this is my Black Panther supersuit. 

Peter Parker, a millenial who knows exactly what a furry is: :/

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#team smol bride that would love tol wife

there’s a genre of gal gadot photos where she’s with another woman who she likes and who likes her and i stg it looks like an engagement photo

and then there’s the hair stroking thing that she does with other women who are often adorably much shorter than her

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Concept: Rey for whatever reason was unconscious and wakes up to the sight of the fully masked knights of ren like this

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Times Adam Driver put words to what we all feel.