#Relationship Issues

[onceuponaweirdo]

One of the most horribly dreadful things about being an ace person in a relationship with an allo person is the impeding "I don't feel desired by you" talk. Man, I feel so worthless, so powerless that it doesn't matter what I do, how much I give of myself it all comes down to not having enough sex factor because that's the "connection" factor to them...

[strnilolover]

NNN - chris sturniolo - long distances

You and Chris had been together for a little over a year, content with one another and the company each of you had to bring.

Before hand — you were good friends, best friends to be exact. Not with just him, but with his brothers too, and it was nice to know nothing really changed after putting a label on the two of you.

Chris and his brothers were already in their filming career when you had gotten together — making videos and posting them twice a week for their fan base that was already growing so large within a short amount of time.

Though, one day, while cuddled up with chris on your couch at your home — he broke the news to you.

He was moving to LA with Matt and Nick. Having already made enough money to afford a nice little place there. It was shocking to hear, and at first you were upset — upset with the fact you couldn’t see him everyday and you wouldn’t be around him when you needed him or wanted him.

But, the upset had been replaced with excitement over time. Thinking of all the possibilities for Chris and how amazing it was that he was able to do this with his brothers. And of all the stories you would be able to hear about his new life in a busy and bustling city.

When the day had finally come for him to move — it was spent with tears and hugs and promises to one another that everything would be okay.

And for the most part it was, you called every night — texted each other too many times through out the day and stayed connected. But, at some point things started to change. Chris grew more busy with work and with his clothing line he was starting, and the absence made you feel empty. Like he wasn’t even really there.

There were less calls, more messages being left on read or delivered — but Chris at least would tell you when he was busy and couldn’t talk, which you appreciated.

Eventually, everything began to weigh down on you. And you needed to tell him — needed to let him know how you were feeling. That you were having doubts.

-

Your room was quiet except for the faint hum of your laptop. Chris’ face filled the screen, his familiar features bathed in the soft light of his LA room. He looked tired, his curls messier than usual and his celtics hoodie hanging loosely on his frame. You tried to ignore the hollow ache in your chest as you smiled at him.

“How was your day?” you asked, forcing a casual tone as your eyes looked around your screen, taking in the view you’ve seen hundreds of times already.

Chris shrugged, leaning back against his chair. “Same as usual. Filmed with Nick and Matt, ran some errands. We tried this new sushi place for dinner. It was good, but, uh… not as good as Boston sushi.”

You let out a soft laugh, even though it stung a little. “Boston sushi is definitely better. How’s the apartment coming along?” you asked — a question that would slip here and there.

Chris shrugged slightly. “Fine, I guess. Still trying to figure out where to put everything. Matt thinks we need more stuff on the walls, but Nick keeps saying we don’t. It’s a whole thing.” He gave a faint smile, his voice lacking its usual warmth. “What about you? How was work?”

“Busy,” you said simply, picking at the edge of your blanket. “Came home, made dinner… I made too much again. I keep forgetting I’m just cooking for one now.” you admitted. Being so used to his presence all the time, you often made dinner for two people — it was still a hard adjustment.

Chris’ smile faltered, guilt flashing in his eyes. “I’m sorry,” he said softly.

You shook your head quickly, brushing it off. “It’s not your fault. I just need to get used to it still — even if it’s been a little.”

The conversation then faded into silence, and for a moment, all you could hear was the faint rustle of Chris adjusting his laptop. He looked away, his jaw tense, and you felt the words building in your chest — words you’d been too scared to say for weeks right on the tip of your tongue.

It was now or never.

“Chris,” you began hesitantly, your voice barely above a whisper. “Can we… uhm - can we talk about us?” the words slipping past your lips felt like a burn on your own tongue.

His gaze snapped back to you, his expression guarded. “What about us?”

You hesitated, the lump in your throat making it hard to speak. “I just… I feel like things have been different lately. At first, we were doing so well — texting all the time, FaceTiming every night. But now… I don’t know. It feels like we’re drifting apart.”

Chris’s brows furrowed at your words, his shoulders visibly tensing. “I’ve noticed it too,” he admitted after a pause. “I just didn’t know how to bring it up. I didn’t want to make things worse.”

You blinked, surprised by his honesty. “You didn’t think I’d feel the same?”

“I don’t know,” he said, running a hand through his curls. “I didn’t want to say anything and make you think I was doubting us or something. And I’m not. I love you. But this…” He gestured vaguely, his hand moving between him and the screen. “This is hard. Harder than I thought it’d be.”

The crack in his voice made your heart ache, but you nodded, tears stinging the corner of your eyes. “It is hard. I miss you so much, Chris. Some nights, it’s all I can think about — how empty this place feels without you here. And then I start wondering… what if we can’t do this? What if it’s too much?”

Chris’s eyes widened slightly, his panic evident. “Wait, are you saying you want to—”

“No!” you interrupted quickly, shaking your head. “No — Chris, that’s not what I mean. I just… I don’t know how to fix this. And I hate feeling like we’re not as close as we used to be.”

Chris let out a slow breath, his shoulders slumping. “I feel the same way,” he said quietly. “I hate that I can’t just drive over and see you when you’ve had a bad day. I hate that I can’t be there to hold you. And honestly… sometimes, I feel like I’m letting you down.”

“You’re not,” you said firmly, leaning closer to the screen. “Chris, you’re doing the best you can. We both are. But we need to be honest with each other if we’re going to make this work.”

He nodded slowly, his jaw tightening as he processed your words. “You’re right. I’ve been holding back because I didn’t want to make things worse, but… I guess that’s only made things harder. I’ve missed you so much, and it’s been killing me not to tell you how much I’ve been struggling with this.”

Tears now spilled down your cheeks, and you wiped them away quickly with your sleeve. “I’ve been struggling too. And I was scared to tell you because… what if it made you think I didn’t believe in us anymore? I do, Chris. I love you so much. I just… I didn’t know how to deal with all of this on my own.”

His expression softened, and he leaned closer to the camera, his voice gentle. “You don’t have to deal with it alone, okay? We’re in this together. And if that means being brutally honest about how much this sucks sometimes, then that’s what we’ll do.”

You laughed softly through your tears, nodding. “Deal. And… maybe we can try to plan our visits better. I need to see you, Chris. I think that’ll help a lot.” you whispered, feeling yourself ease up a little at the thought of him here — with you.

His lips quirked into a small smile. “Funny you should say that… I’ve been looking at flights to Boston. I was going to surprise you, but… maybe we need this sooner rather than later. I’ll come next month. No excuses.”

“Really?” you asked, your heart swelling with hope.

“Really,” he said, his smile growing. “I need to hold you again. And I’ll do whatever it takes to make this work.”

A weight lifted from your chest, and you smiled for what felt like the first time in weeks. “I’ll hold you to that,” you teased, your voice lighter.

Chris chuckled, the sound warming your heart. “I love you. And no matter how hard this gets, I’m not giving up on us. Ever.”

“I love you too,” you said softly. “And I promise… I’ll do everything I can to make this work too.”

It wasn’t a perfect solution, but it was a start. The rest of the night felt lighter — the ache in your chest still present but less. You both were more cheerful — joking around about random things and teasing him about how his hair was too messy — along with his room.

You smiled at your screen, watching as Chris did the same. His hand coming up to his lips and blowing you a kiss through the screen — and you blushed.

You’re just hoping that whatever was said tonight…was going to stick.

[x-3winter54]

fear is one hell of a drug

[chocookittycat]

Would You Still Fall for Me? (Part II)

PART I

character: Shanks

trigger warning! infertility; angst; slightly nsfw

"I'll leave," I said in a hushed tone. His eyes widened.

"I don't want to make things difficult for you and I don't want to keep you from fulfilling your dream."

"Where the hell do you pull all this BS from?" He snapped, his voice modulated but his tone sharp.

"Do you think that's all I see in you? That I chose to stay with you all these years because I thought you could give me kids?"

"But..."

"But what?"

"But you gave me such a sad and disappointed face."

He looked surprised.

"I'm sad and disappointed because you didn't tell me right away, —because you thought I couldn't be trusted with something like this."

I took a deep breath and swallowed hard before I faced him.

"I know how much you want a family. To have kids of your own, little ones running around this ship, clinging to you, begging for your attention. I wanted that too, Shanks. I dreamed of us having beautiful children—our children—to dote on, to proudly show off to the crew. But tell me... how was I supposed to say I can't give you that? That I can't fulfill the dream we shared? That I—your lover—can't bear your children?" My voice cracked.

I took a moment to catch my breath.

"I love you… And I promised myself I'd do everything I could to make you happy. But this?... I can't."

I started crying, and he pulled me into his arms.

“I’m sorry,” I kept repeating, the words tumbling out as he just held me—no pressure, no rush—his warmth steady against my unraveling. I could feel him crying too—his tears soaking through my clothes—as we grieved together for the life we couldn’t have. When our sobs finally subsided, he spoke.

When my cries finally quieted to shaky breaths and hiccups, he spoke, voice low and sure.

"You have nothing to be sorry for, my love. It's heartbreaking, yes... but we’ll face it together. I don’t want to lose you—kids or no kids."

I hiccupped again, trying to form words, but he gently cupped my face.

"But your dream..."

He smiled softly, brushing away my tears with his thumb.

"My dream is you. It’s always been you. That future I talked about—raising kids, running around the ship—it only matters if it’s with you. If you weren’t the one bearing them... if you weren’t the one by my side raising them... then it wouldn’t be the same."

"It’s you. It’s always been you. And it will always be you.”

"S-shanks," I croaked out before pressing my head against his chest, his arms wrapping me in a tight, comforting embrace. He nuzzled his face into my hair while pressing a warm, and lingering kiss on the top of my head.

He lets out a deep breath.

"Still...." He pulled back to meet my eyes, while I looked up at him, both our faces tear-streaked, waiting for what he was going to say.

"I haven't forgiven you for keeping this a secret." His tone shifted to a dangerously low and suggestive one.

"Why don't you make it up to me. Besides, no longer worrying about pregnancy scares will give us all the freedom to just go at it like rabbits in hea-"

"OH MY GOD. SHANKS!"

He chuckled, cupping my face gently, his voice still teasing.

“Hey, we oughta look on the bright side, am I right, babe?”

"You're such a whore even at the most inappropriate times!"

"Your whore." He winked.

Yes. My whore. My man, the one who I thought I had lost but kept his hold on me. The one I thought I'd cry over in a cold, empty room, but instead cried with me while keeping me warm. Oh, Shanks… the man that you are🤍

The end･ﾟ✧

[sweetfreedom2107]

I stood by you when there was no one else. I grabbed your hand before you fell off the shelf. I took your hurt and made it mine and when I was crumbling inside I pretended that everything was fine. I know I'm a fool to love so immensely, to love those who never hesitate to just take and never give. But is it a crime? I hope it's not. I can't change it. I can't change me. I can't change the fact that I love recklessly. It's inborn. I have been programmed to love, to love immensely.

[ririgoreid]

'it repulses me.' – S. R.

-> "it's not that i don't want to, i just can't."

-> "no. you just don't try."

spencer reid / reader.

content – avoidant reader , reader is not too understanding , relationship difficulties , emphasis on this being seasons one and two spencer , fairly calm argument , not lots of dialogue , spencer dislikes touch.

this is a part one. part two will be kinder.

the floors are cold against your feet. your home feels more like a hospital. you suppose you should refer to it as a 'house' instead. home is a place of comfort. a place to retreat to in moments of uncertainty, unsafety.

this building didn't feel like that. not even when spencer would come home - which, of course, was not often at all. it got lonely, and you can understand why nobody in the bau could hold down a relationship.

you don't mean to sound all .. 'hey look at me, i have it worse than everybody!' but, you do. you do have it worse than everybody else.

"hey." you hear a soft voice call out. his voice. you continue slicing at the vegetables you'd planned to prep long ago, but you procrastinated. it's an internal dilemma. to or to not respond? you're not .. mad at him. necessarily. but you are upset. upset about what you got yourself into. because you can't leave without feeling like you're the worst person in the world. you told yourself you know what you were getting into, but, did you?

footsteps near the place you stood, and you hear the small thud and rustle of his bag being set down on the counter. you don't look up. you're tired of looking up. "hey ..?" he repeats, taking on a more inquisitive tone.

he furrows his brows at the lack of a response. it was a possibility you didn't hear him when he called out from the door, but this was unmistakeable. he felt insecure. uncomfortable. ".. is something wrong?" he asks. and his tone is too soft. you hate him and his softness. how his voice sounds like honey lines the walls of his vocal cords. how his hands felt like a thick blanket, the mound of his thumb in his palm like a soft ridge in freshly washed fabric. as if that's something you felt often.

you want to answer. you want to talk. but maybe he'd care more about you if you just didn't bother.

.. right?

he exhales quietly before moving to stand next to you. no, he doesn't hold you from behind. doesn't hug you. doesn't soothe or comfort you physically like a loved one does.

"sixty - seven percent of failed relationships are due to a lack of communication, it affects the ability to resolve conflicts in an effecient manner. talking would prove effective in building trust and fostering emotional intimacy-"

you scoff, and it almost sounds like a sob. "intimacy." you parrot with a broken voice, sniffling. stop crying. please stop. you hated being vulnerable - though, who were you kidding? you were vulnerable nearly all the time. because there was never any security and you couldn't come to terms with that. not now, not ever.

".. yes, emotional intimacy is crucial in order to ascertain a functioning-"

"stop talking." you interrupt, your thumb digging into your ring finger as your hand curls into a fist, your other hand tightening around the knife you held.

".. is something wrong?" he tilts his head, trying to catch your gaze.

"i'm sure there's many statistics you could spew about how when your girlfriend doesn't respond to you, it means she's angry with you. tell me, what's the likelihood of a relationship like that working out?" you retort, finally lifting your head, but still refusing eye contact. you find yourself feeling surprised that it was harder to look a 'loved' one in the eye than a stranger. maybe he was a stranger. he certainly felt like one.

he notes the tear stains that run their course down your cheeks, spilling from the source that was your eyes. ones he could stare at all day. they're big. cutely so. a deep brown, almost black, but they're so much lighter in the sunlight, and when it's cast down along your eyes, they're brighter. they shine as if that very star in the sky personally lights a fire in your irises. it reminds him of how your face lights up whenever he rambles on about his interests to you. though, right now, you seem anything but interested. especially in him.

you want to ask if he loves you.

truly. loves you.

"i- .. i don't think this is a very profecient direction to be heading in." he answers, and it's vague. almost like he is. and you think, maybe if you couldn't see, you wouldn't notice he was there anyways.

"okay." you concede, unsurprisingly. it was the only reason you and him never got into any heated arguments. where it started, it stopped. because you were too scared all the time. you know what you want. you know you need to put yourself first. you're worth doing that. aren't you ..?

"okay." he repeats, his eyes softening ever so slightly. as if the idiot wasn't soft enough. you almost wanna slap him. hurt him. see if he's really so soft then, because it's so abnormally irritating, having a man who just never breaks character. he's almost as consistent as his habits, and as much as you take comfort in routine and consistency; in times like this, it was unbearable.

".. can i-" he starts.

"why don't you touch me?" you ask. and usually, you'd scold yourself or profusely apologize for interrupting like you had done so many times in the last ten minutes, but you find yourself unable to care. and you wonder if this is what it feels like to prioritize yourself. gratifying. freeing.

"why don't i touch you?" he repeats. repeats. repeats. repeats. and god, does it make you sick to your stomach. does he really not have it in him to answer? to even give you any form of closure? "i- .. you know how uncomfortable i am with touch, i just don't know how to and i find it .. displeasing."

oh.

displeasing. he finds it 'displeasing'. touch is displeasing. that's fine. you have sensory issues too, you get it.

no. no you don't. why kid yourself? you don't get it. you don't understand why someone, who — if he'd ask — you'd give your entire soul to. submit. no questions asked. though, that might not be so true as of late.

your knuckles are white. almost as white as your face, and you assume all the blood left your body and decided to regroup in your heart and stomach, because they both felt this close to exploding, and not even remotely in a good way.

you don't even realize the time that's passed. why would you? when he says something like that so casually, as if you're meant to take it and shut up. which is what you always do. you've conditioned him to expect that. this is your fault. no wonder you constantly wallow in misery - misery that's your own, and not his fault. you ask for this. you accept it with open arms.

"are you-"

"no." you lie. you're a liar. you always resort to telling anything but the truth. especially to yourself.

"please talk to me." he pleads, and oddly enough, you finally decide to look up at him for a split second before averting your gaze again. it was a reflex. an involuntary response. you didn't want to look him in the eye. not now. and, maybe, not ever again.

there's silence before his footsteps slowly retreat, the wooden floorboards creaking under his weight. hesitantly at first, and confidently soon after.

you don't love him.

divider creds — @honeyluvsw @junabuggy , @cursed-carmine , @saradika-graphics

[divineawakeningoracle]

Relationship Issues in Natal Chart

The natal aspects listed below from my personal observation may attract unsustainable or unhealthy relationships to the native or the native may tend to gravitate toward unhealthy or unsustainable connections (Venus opposite or square Mars) With all of these aspects there is a higher purpose of evolvement that is the reason for such aspects to be present, or lessons to be learned in relations to others or themselves. Some of these aspects may cause the native to shy away from romantic connections or sabotage them in some way due to wounding from childhood (Moon square Saturn) Inner healing may be needed and or change of outlook in relations to others may be needed. The native may be non committal and fear that a connection may jeopardize their freedom (Venus square Uranus, Sun square Uranus, Moon square Uranus) There may be a tendency to obsess and or over romanticize connections and not see their partners for who they really are (Venus opposite/square Neptune) Saturn in the 7th House can cause delays in commitment or marriage or may cause the native to be reluctant to commit to someone because of very high standards or requirements. Saturn may want the native to evolve in some way before they are rewarded with the connection they want to have. Moon opposite/square Uranus natives are emotionally independent and tend to be emotionally unstable, this causes wishy washy behavior and discord in their connections. Lilith in Scorpio or Lilith in the 8th House may attract volatile, intense dynamics or controlling partners. North Node 7th House (Venus)/South Node 1st House (Mars) could have been independent, self focused and unapologetic regarding their actions in connections in the past life. This lifetime is about balance and fairness in their connections with others, in this lifetime they are forced to take a beat and think about their actions and how they affect others, learning compromise and patience with others is key. This may be a challenge as South Node tendencies are already ingrained in them. 1st House which is the Ascendant may come off selfish, and self serving a harmonious Venus and Moon can soften this energy. Venus in the 8th House can bring obsessive, transformative connections in love. Venus in the 12th house can attract sneaky links, situation ships, affairs and relationships that are hidden from the public. They may like to keep their connections private or be connected to someone who does not want to claim them publicly. Or they may be attracted to partners who are unavailable to them either physically and or emotionally. Venus in the 10th House natives may prioritize connections based off of social status or to further or advance their image or careers. It is not about love but more about appearances and what the partner can do for them. Pluto in the 7th House natives will attract partners who will help them evolve and transform how they feel and view partnerships. Their relationships will be intense and change their life (good or bad) in some way.

Pluto in 7th/8th House

Saturn in 7th House

Moon in 7th/8th/12th House

Venus in 8th/10th/12th House

Venus opposite/square Uranus

Venus opposite/square Mars

Sun opposite/square Uranus

Moon opposite/square Uranus

Venus opposite/square Neptune

Moon opposite/square Saturn

Venus opposite/square Saturn

North Node 7th House / South Node 1st House

Lilith in Scorpio and or Lilith in 7th/8th House

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[hellnokittyxo]

I have seen too much and now it haunts me.

[darcytaylor]

Are people mad that Luke Newton has a girlfriend? Or is it something more? A deep dive. Part 1 of 3.

***Because people like to twist my words, here are a few disclaimers for what this post - and this three-part series - is actually about:

This is a deep dive into why the backlash toward Luke Newton seemed to go beyond simply having a girlfriend. I explore how a series of public missteps - like inconsistent social media behaviour, unclear messaging, and mixed signals about his public persona - created tension and disappointment for some fans.

Throughout this series, I’m not making definitive claims about anyone’s relationship status. I’m talking about fan perception, public optics, and how certain actions were received.

This isn’t about hate. This is about exploring fandom dynamics, para-social expectations, and how public behaviour - intentional or not - can shape the response people have.***

I want to start out by saying, I have been following the Bridgerton train since the season one release on Christmas day. It was a show that I knew nothing about and I became enamoured.

I have followed along with the show and the actors since the release. I find looking at human behaviour fascinating, as I work in a very customer service based industry. It is so interesting to me to see how the actors have conducted themselves, especially Luke Newton.

This post will be about why I think people are truly upset by his behaviour.

(some of which I agree with and some I don't)

Luke Newton has been quite the monogamous dater. He dated his fellow co-star from The Lodge, Sophie Simnett. They were both very young at the time, it seemed like a sweet relationship, but young love normally never lasts.

Then he got into a relationship with Jade Davies. She is very active in the Theatre world and it seemed like this was a very good pairing. I think they complimented each other well. You could tell they loved each other. Ultimately they broke up at the beginning of 2023, because they 'grew apart', or so the tabloids have stated.

I do know that Jade did receive some hate (which is fairly common in the industry that Luke is in). I personally don't think that it was as bad as people made it out to be. A lot of people loved seeing Luke in love and proud of his girlfriend. They supported them as a couple. They supported it because there really wasn't anything to not support.

Luke Newton seemed to take a less grounded approach to his public presence (in my opinion). The kind of openly casual, rebound-heavy phase people often associate with ‘fuckboy’ energy. But he was just getting out of a long term relationship, it's not an abnormal thing to do.

This is where he made his first mistake - he made his dating life public and it definitely looked questionable. (and yes he made it public by following certain people and posting about all of his vacations). He had a 'type' going into this time in his life (young dancers). But ultimately fans were forgiving because he just got out of a long term relationship. He was hurting and it's okay to spiral a little at a time like that. Fans supported him because they wanted him to have a 'hot boy summer'.

At some point he meets his unconfirmed girlfriend Antonia. She seems to get a long with his close friends and people took notice of them spending time together. But I think fans thought he was still spiralling, so he wouldn't actually get into a relationship, he was only having fun.

Then the New Years kiss video was released. Fans did not like this. But ultimately I don't think that was what caused the biggest issue, I think his second mistake was befriending her on Instagram. This is what sealed them as an unconfirmed relationship. Had they decided to not make this decision, I think people could/would have left them/her be. It could have been summed up with 'it was just a New Years' kiss.

I think it's possible that Luke had the intention to make this relationship public. I think that could have been his goal that day. But because of the press tour coming up, he was told not to (maybe). I also think that made Luke spiral even more, he was upset that he couldn't show her off (and when you like or love someone you do want to do that) and decided to take some of his issues out on his career and fans (by liking everyone of her photos, letting her post photos with his clothing, letting her post photos with his arms and legs). (I want to add that he should have the right to do that, but in the world of celebrities, they have to do things like this with care or it will backfire).

His third mistake was mentioning that he was the most like his character on Bridgerton (he has said this multiple times) and his cast-mates also say the same thing. Hear me out on this one -

It can be easy to separate the art from the artist. That is simple enough for people to do (I have seen it happen on many occasions). But there were multiple times that he would say he is the most like his character (saying this made the task of separating difficult) - and lets be real Colin was made for the female gaze. He is charming, attractive, loving and isn't superficial. He fell in love with the 'outcast', the one that isn't the 'typical' beauty. Fans held onto this, because Colin as a character made them feel seen. They couldn't separate Luke from Colin because he kept saying he was like Colin.

When they look at Antonia they don't see the outcast, they don't see the girl that looks like them, they don't see a 'regular' woman. She is the opposite of who Colin would end up with, so that would mean that Luke wouldn't go for her. To some fans, she may represent a kind of person they felt excluded by in the past - someone polished, privileged, and hard to relate to on the surface.

(I want to note that I have no idea who she is as a person, she could be the nicest person).

So now that Luke has made a bunch of people mad they will go on a deep dive. The first thing that people will look into is the age. And she is quite young. I am on the side that someone his age shouldn't be dating someone who's brain isn't fully developed (this is a scientific fact), ESPECIALLY since there is also a power dynamic. (It's okay if you do not feel the same way).

Luke's fourth mistake was letting his friends post things about himself on social media. Yes, I know that you can't control everybody in your life. But they are his BEST FRIENDS, Luke could have asked them to not post anything about himself. That would have been the smart more.

Luke's fifth mistake was not having Nicola and the Bridgerton Instagram posts with notifications on. He could have avoided some backlash by staying engaged with cast and show posts - it’s a small thing fans notice, even if it shouldn’t matter so much. This would have appeased the fans, the fans love that shit. But instead he would like every single one of Antonia's photos. This decision further bothered fans because he stated that he was moving his social media to be work related. I will be honest - his social media is kinda a mess. His social media presence is definitely a mistake he has made.

He goes on the Bridgerton press tour with Nicola (who is amazing at her job), and all of the little imperfections of his life are even more exaggerated, because Nicola is fucking great. Even though Luke and Nicola are a pair when it comes to Bridgerton, people will still compare them.

When looking at this whole situation I think that Luke is continuing to spiral a little. I think that he can be a bit stubborn (but really who isn't?). He has to know the missteps he has made. He has to realize that he could have been involved with Antonia and not made it a whole situation/scene. If a celebrity doesn't want you to know something about their personal lives, you won't know.

Final thoughts - I think that Luke didn't think about how some of his actions would/could have been perceived, I think he was ill prepared in some of his actions, I think that he is still learning to be in the spotlight, and it has the potential to be destructive to his career.

I'm convinced Luke wanted to come forward months ago. I believe he was told not to and he didn't like that answer. It’s possible that frustration bled into some of his choices, intentionally or not. But I don't know the man. There are also other mistakes that I didn't get into, if you want a part 2 let me know? haha

Have I lost some respect for Luke during the past year? Sure. But it's really not that serious.

Do I realize that it must be hard to be in the spotlight? Yes.

Do I think that if Luke continues on this (maybe) destructive path he will regret it? Maybe.

Should we also give him a bit of grace? Yes.

Do I think he is talented? Yes.

Do I think this will ultimately effect him? No. He will be fine.

If you have gotten this far, congratulations and thank you for reading! It's been a fascinating deep dive! Another disclaimer: None of this is about condemning who Luke could be dating, but about understanding how his public choices - intentional or not - clashed with fan perception in ways that spiralled.

[ajmonarch]

People and their opinions.

You say you will "die on this hill", but why won't you realise that you wouldn't be so alone on it if you properly explained your opinions instead of rushing to defend them.

Lower the darn draw bridge.

Stop shouting from behind the gate.

Not everything has to be a fight.

(Besides, I have no interest in laying siege to your little castle of self-righteousness)

[pixie1111]

i wish guys would just be open about what they want

[esseisms]

where we connect is the same border that separates us

[s4ndg3m]

I wanna know ur wallmark divorce headcannons so bad

okokok. i had to type these all up separately so i could organize my ideas. i have like more in my head but they're hard to put into words so this is what you get

cw for alchoholism and general relationship issues. putting it all under the cut. remember these are just my headcanons and thoughts, nothing concrete.

General issues

Conflicting ideals on future life- Wallter being much more of a city guy, while mark prefers a rural setting.

Communication issues- Instead of talking things out they get accusatory and defensive, which means most talks end up arguments.

Further communication issues- They geniunely cannot understand the other half of the time. Wallter will attempt to be subtle in his communication, dropping hints instead of just flat out saying what he wants. Mark cannot pick up on these. Mark's direct communication sometimes comes across as rude and aggressive to Wallter.

General conflict- They have some shared interests, but there's also a lot of things that are important to them that they don't agree on. Like building materials, however silly that might sound.

Mark's issues

Alcoholism- Bit of A drunkard. He insists it isn't an issue but it is when it interferes with plans he and Wallter already had. "It would be weird if I didn't have a few with the boys after a job well done!"

Short-tempered- Which causes even more arguments over small things. (Def not physically abusive toward Wallter, even when drunk)

Abrasive personality- Mark would be more likely to make jabs or meaner jokes because he thinks everyone can take it. He wouldn't understand why someone would get upset over a joke.

He snores really loud- To the point where Wallter usually can't sleep. It builds tensions between them cus either Wallter is sleep-deprived or they never sleep in the same bed.

Dismissive- Wallter will ask/tell him about something that bothers him or something he wants as a gift for a holiday, but Mark usually won't listen.

Oblivious- Won't pick up on hints that Wallter drops, no matter the context.

Wallter's issues

Grey stuff. Wallter loves it, Mark loathes it. They argue over it.

Petty- Incredibly petty. Will make snide comments at Mark when he's upset about something.

Silent- He doesn't help at all with the communication issue, because he just flat out won't say anything! Until it's a big issue, of course. He might make hints but Mark cannot pick up on them.

Insistent on his own opinions- He will often push Mark to think like he does, instead of accepting their differences. It gets frustrating for Mark when he's constantly having to defend his thoughts.

Pretentious- Would absolutely try and take the moral high ground during arguments. He thinks talking in a level tone and not shouting means he's in the right, when really he's the one instigating most of the arguments.

Jealousy- I think he'd be the jealous type. He'd interrogate Mark about his friends and question his honesty often.

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I don't think there was one thing that caused the divorce, but a buildup of tension and frustration over the years of their marriage that was never managed. i think they both wanted it to work, even afterward, but neither of them are willing enough to see their issues and work on them. Even then, they kind of ruined the idea of a life with one another because of how horribly their marriage ended.

anyway these are just my initial thoughts on the two. enjoy!

[kelpseahorse]

Pros of Breaking Up with My Polycule

Less stress

Less secrets to hide from just about everyone

Save more money

Easier to make decisions for future

Get a boyfriend my parents would approve of?

Maybe God would listen to me?

Less bullying?

Happy?

Cons of Breaking Up with My Polycule

No partners to make me happy

Friendships ruined?

My ex would get his way

Sad?

I need everyone's opinion on this...

[bcloudsetior]

Cardan to Jude : you corrupt, corrosive mortal creature. TWO BOOKS LATER Cardan to Jude : my sweet villain, my darling god.

~The Folk of The Air series by Holly Black