#harsh advice

[katcantstopthinking]

End things, stop holding off on it. You’re making excuses for a boy who doesn’t prioritize you and isn’t properly caring for his girlfriend. If you continue putting up with mere boys who treat you like this then you’ll never truly find the man you want. You’re holding onto a version of him you liked at the beginning, that guys gone now and you should accept that. You’ll look back on it wishing you would’ve ended it sooner. Stop with these stupid decisions, you should know better.

oh lawd I needed this

[writerinneverland]

Either you stick to your plan now, or you'll have to stick to someone's else's later.

[poolboyservice]

PSA/Crush Advice except it's based off of life experience:

If you have a crush on someone, and they don't notice you, maybe don't fucking send 7-8 people individually every fucking day for a week to tell them you like them??

Like first 2 people on through 1-2 days? Fine, people can be anxious and may be shy so they send a few friends, I get it.

But you keep sending different people to tell your crush daily for about a week and said they STILL don't talk to you about it?? MAYBE FUCKING STOP????

**by the way: This isn't like some stranger I never noticed, this was someone I met before who literally told me TO MY FACE that they had a crush on me before they did this.

So additional advice: if your crush does not share the same feelings, or does not show mutual interest, please do not harass them and try to change their mind.

[exploresmallworlds]

Telephone

Gabi got off the phone. She had spoken to her mum, and this was something that she used to discuss the issues in her life and the people around her. This particular day had been discussing the way that Jessica had dealt with her dating. While Gabi understood in a general sense the fact that men were sometimes strange and she’d had some interactions to this effect, she had never delved too deeply…

[sweettalkertime]

Blue Days

Hear me out. As we grow, we start to reflect on the days when we were growing up (in childhood), to be more specific. Sometimes, reliving specific memories brings up strong feelings within us that make us question who we were then. This is entirely normal. However, one thing that is not told to us is how to deal with those negative feelings we get. Some suppress the feeling until it consumes…

[lamusedhermes]

Curate everything.

Curate your hygiene routine, curate your clothing items, curate your home, curate your habits, curate your nutrition, curate your environment, curate your circles, curate you socials, curate the content you consume, curate your social skills, curate your financial situation, curate your emotions, curate the version of you that shows up in public, curate your hobbies, curate your knowledge.

[pooks]

Charlie: How about some friendly brotherly advice? Percy: I don't need your advice. Charlie: *inhales and tries to not explode* How about some unfriendly brotherly advice?! Percy: *unimpressed* Try me.

[feminismisstillahatemovement]

Why Are Men Walking Away From Women?

[vintage-tigre]

[asktheritochampion]

Hey uh mister Revali. Think you can give some archery tips? One of my Rito friends seems to keep using his bow horribly in combat. And he doesn’t even know bow maintenance. 

Let me ask you a question, kid. Where is your friend right now? Why are you here in his sted?

My tip? Tell him to quit before he gets hurt.

If he doesn't care enough about improving his own skill to seek his own advice or training, then he doesn't have what it takes to be a Rito Warrior.

Bow maintenance can be learned by picking up a book or speaking to a bowsmith. Basic combat skills can be picked up with enough training. Your friend is lazy. He desires the glory of being a warrior without wanting to put in the work - and if he continues down that path, he will end up dead.

There are many roles in the Village for those who do not have what it takes to be a warrior. If you truely care about your friend, perhaps you'll encourage him to take up one of those instead.

[sanadevoe]

[lamusedhermes]

Kind reminder that a degree will not get up one day and leave you, cheat on you, cut your funds, disrespect you or assault you. A degree will be worth a thousand sleepless nights and rivers of tears, because in the end it does matter more than anything else. A degree will make you an independent and undefeated woman, so stop belittling the importance of education nowadays. Every woman who studies is a woman who is ensuring a greater future for all women.

[teh-nos]

i have this one very specific problem for some reason.

[createwithintent]

Maybe the next time you're moaning about how you didn't get your desire, or how it didn't arrive fast enough remember that you could have had it by now if you didn't overcomplicate everything.

You want something so you get it; is all.

So the next time you manifest assume you have it and by the law, it will happen.

Now get to work.

Elle

[bonefall]

post/734733274896809984/do-you-ever-worry-your-own-writing-might-come-off that makes sense. i was asking because i'm afraid of accidentally writing misogyny myself and i kind of admire what you do

Hmm... I wish I had better advice to give you on this front, but honestly, the only thing I can tell you is to consider the perspective of your female characters.

Women are people. They have thoughts and feelings of their own, so like... just let them have their own arcs. A lot of the worst misogyny in WC comes from the way that the writers just don't care about their girls (or, in the case of tall shadow, actually get undermined and forced to rewrite entire chapters), so they're not curious about their lives, or WHY they feel the way they do or what they want, or any direction for their character arcs.

Turtle Tail as an example. She'll often just end up feeling whatever Gray Wing's plot demands. She's gotta leave when Storm dumps him to make him feel lonely. She shows up again to love him in the next book. Lets her best friend Bumble get dragged back to Tom the Wifebeater, but is sad enough about her death to be "unreasonably angry" with Clear Sky, and then calms down and accept Gray Wing is right all along.

And then she dies, so he can have his very own fridge wife.

In this way, Turtle Tail's just being used to tell Gray Wing's story. They're not interested in why she would turn on Bumble, or god forbid any lingering negative feelings for how she didn't help her, or even resentment towards Clear Sky for killing her or Gray Wing for jumping to his defense. She isn't really going through her own character arc.

She does have personality traits of her own, don't misunderstand my criticism, but as a character she revolves around Gray Wing.

So, zoom out every now and then, and just ask yourself; "Whose story is being told by what I wrote? Do my female characters have goals, wants, and agency, or are they just supporting men? How do their choices impact the narrative?"

But that's already kinda assuming that you already have characters like Turtle Tail who DO have personalities and potential of their own. Here's some super simple and practical advice that helped me;

Tally the genders in your cast. How many are boys, how many are girls, how many are others?

And take stock of how many of those characters are just in the supporting cast, and compare that to the amount you have in the main cast.

If you have a significant imbalance, ESPECIALLY in the main cast, fire the Woman Beam.

It's a really simple trick to just write a male character, and then change its gender while keeping it the same. I promise women are really not fundamentally different from men lmao. You can consider how your in-universe gender roles affect them later, if you'd like, but when you're just starting to wean yourself off a "boy bias" this trick works like a charm.

Also you're not allowed to change the body type of any girl you Woman Beam because I said so. PLEASE allow your girls to have muscles, or be fat, or be old, or have lots of scars. Do NOT do what a cowardly Triple A studio does, where the women all have the same cute or sexy face and curvy body while they're standing next to dwarves, robots, and a gorilla.

Or this shit,

If you do this I will GET you. If you're ever possessed by the dark urge, you will see my face appear in the clouds like Mufasa himself to guide you away from the path of evil.

Anyway, you get better at just making characters girls to begin with as time goes on and you practice it. It's really not as big of a deal as your brain might think it is.

Take a legitimate interest in female characters and try not to disproportionately hit them with parental/romance plots as opposed to the male cast, and you'll be fine. Don't think of them as "SPECIAL WOMEN CHARACTERS" just make a character and then let her be a girl, occasionally checking your tally and doing some critical thinking about their use in the story.

(Also remember I'm not a professional or anything, I'm just trying to give advice)

[plasticbabyart]

Is Dark Spyro going to have a redemption arc?

Was going to answer this earlier but I was still tired haha!

but, YES !! I want him to be redeemed and not DIE as soon as he's interesting. But its' a slow redemption, its' about Spyro recognising his fears, angers and anxieties- because that's the only way to accept Dark Spyro as part of him.

They wouldn't get along all too well, but it becomes more like a sibling thing- Dark Spyro just becomes a very, very useless Skylander (He's lazy and stubborn and gives JV a run for his money)