#invalidation tw

[auschizm]

This is plain not true! It might be partly true for a couple low support fully verbal high functioning autistic people, but autism is a genuine developmental disability, and if an autistic person struggles socially it's NOT just because they "aren't trying" and "didn't care to learn." And it's very ableist to imply that

[lifeafterpsychiatry]

Opinion: when non- psychiatric doctors who hear about any mental invisible disability/disorder they start lecturing the patient about how they should learn to live life happily rather than focus on past but they won't even give the patient a listening ear! The patient is to understand their unsolicited opinion and reflect when there's so much going on at the same time.

I really don't think psychiatrists are excluded from this phenomenon nor that it's limited to invisible psychiatric disabilities... Ableism is far broader and more insidious than that!

[ekowolf]

okayyy tumblr i need you to be less based today

"low support needs disabled people are often not believed to have a disability at all and therefore struggle to get accommodations."

"high support needs disabled people's accommodations are often seen as 'too much' and therefore are not met."

"neurodivergent people's needs are often dismissed because nothing is physically wrong with them."

"physically disabled people people often cannot physically access buildings and people refuse to do anything about it."

"invisibly disabled people are seen as lazy by society."

"visibly disabled people are ostracized from society."

IT'S ALMOST LIKE THERE'S NO SUCH THING AS A SOCIALLY ACCEPTABLE DISABILITY

[aro-ace-chaos]

Good god, amatonormativity is everywhere and it's so fucking annoying

I was having a normal conversation with a coworker, and she happened to ask something along the lines of "and then what about when you get married and have kids?"

I just really casually said "Oh, I don't think I will." (because I was not coming out to random coworker as aroace because like nobody irl ever even seems to know what that means, and I don't exist to educate everybody everywhere about the SAM, asexuality, aromanticism, and all that.)

And she reacted like she had never heard anything like that in her life. This woman genuinely asked "How?" How was I going to not get married? How was I going to not have children? Like... I'm just gonna not do those things. You can just not do a thing.

Why is the default state of being in society's mind for an AFAB person "in a straight marriage as a stay at home mom with multiple children?"

Fuck allonormativity. Fuck amatonormativity. And fuck patriarchy, too, because in the end, that's a huge role in a lot of aphobia imo. Maybe I'll write out my full thoughts on that one sometime

[supernaturallyliterate]

I think this was the hardest thing for my mom to understand when I was diagnosed with a chronic pain condition. She wanted to fix it. Make it go away. Take the pain away. Find some miracle cure.

And I did too, for awhile. Until I slowly started to understand my condition, to learn how to adjust my daily routines to work with my chronic pain rather than against it. Until I grieved. Accepted.

She is still grieving

Sometimes I don’t think people get that chronic means chronic. It means forever. I’m going to be stuck with this for the rest of my life and I’ve had to learn to make peace with that myself. Telling me ‘hope you get better soon’ and ‘it won’t always be like this’ is pointless because you’ve completely ignored the definition of chronic illness.

[xvelvetcoffinx]

[auschizm]

Maybe it's less about me "not seeming" like I'm mentally ill/neurodivergent, but more about some people being unwilling to re-contextualize their negative judgment of me as the ableism it is

[lifeafterpsychiatry]

Sometimes I feel like my struggles are invalid cause it’s not Actually Pain. It’s always nausea or dizziness or fatigue. Sometimes people lash out at me as a result of pain because their pain is worse than mine. It’s true but I still wish that they were more understanding

Pain isn't the only valid way to struggle with your health. There are tons of debilitating symptoms which aren't defined by pain and they can be just as much of a struggle to cope with. Don't let the internalized ableism convince you otherwise ❤️

[sokkabaddiebender2021]

honestly i think it’s so gross how many adults i have seen on this app upset that heartstopper is a show rather mild in its sexual content. it’s a show that’s target audience is young queer people….about young queer people……played by young queer people. the show is not “anti-sex” at all, if you actually watched the show charlie and nick discuss that they WANT to do more, that they want to “go further” some day. charlie has a boat load of trauma (including trauma about having his physical boundaries ignored) however and nick is still processing his sexuality, so why are you pushing for them to be intimate?? i’ve known people who have dated for years and didn’t actually have sex until they were adults and mature enough to do so.

viewing this show as a adult woman i find it honestly disturbing that there is this fixation on the necessity of sexual content including children. because that is who these characters are. children.

the show does not bash sex (uhh the teachers very clearly banged??), it merely advises against forcing yourself to be sexual before you are ready. the queer community has always been demonized as a “hypersexual” group of people, but that is merely a label forced upon us. heartstopper is the one of the only queer pieces of media that defies this expectation, and tells queer kids everywhere that it’s ok to take your time, and that sex is not the end all be all.

[vannalamba]

it’s always “just fiction, doesn’t matter” when it’s an abusive/toxic relationship and/or sa but it suddenly becomes real when it comes to pronouns

[pr0-dollie]

Cw: talk of trauma + trauma dysphoria + kinda long lol

I did not feel comfortable reblogging this person at all.

- Melody[host]

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[This is more tri-harmed thing at first but I do bring up, full trans-harmed things like no trauma at all.

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Also these feelings I'm talking about is for me and not for everyone]

I actually want to feel this /srs /gen

I'm already traumatized but it isn't enough? People always and will forever undermine my [cis]trauma, and my [cis]trauma is already unseen or not as important and I've internalized this for so long that words of reassurment doesn't help.

My dysphoria gets to me so bad and if this is the only way to be valid is to live ashamed, uncomfortable, emotionally unstable and with nightmares I would do it, no questions asked, the only way I can be valid if I go through my trans-trauma.

But also identifying as my trans-trauma is kinda euphoric because if not all then most trans things are valid.

Also, not all people's trauma responses is like this, that's stereotypical responses[not saying if you have stereotypical responses you're invalid, you are completely valid <3], there a different responses to trauma.

Also I would feel special if I did go through my trans-trauma.

And then people with absolute NO trauma, maybe not all but I know some of them just want trauma because it's the only way for them to be seen or heard because people make trauma a competition and badges.

So if you actually feel that strongly about this, then let's go to the root issue and stop the glamorization of trauma, stop saying one trauma is worse then the other, stop making people feel special for their trauma, stop blaming people for feeling like they need more trauma as a result of trauma and then already invalid feeling people seeing other people get seen and heard while their unseen especially if they dont have a 'normal/big trauma/'everyone has it''/mainstream trauma, make ALL trauma seen, stop it all <3

But you won't. and you'll continue blaming it on rq's and transx's even though most of the time their trying to cope from society's doings.

And since you and most people won't try to stop or spread awareness to the main root of this all + it's already too far in how society and people see trauma/not normalized/not seen trauma for it to be reversed, transharmed people will always and will continue to use these labels to cope, for fun, and ect.

And you'll continue blaming them when it's not their faults.

- Melody [host]

[Also reminder not all transharmed's feel this wayz this is just my take on it]

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[Off topic/short talk about my tri-harmed-ness]

Also I might just refer all my cis-harmed ids as trans-harmed ids, idk why but it makes me feel better, when I don't refer it as my cis-trauma, makes me feel normal or something, like I said before I have contradictory feeling and in contradictory to myself lol (-ω-｡).

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[hikakaomybeloveds]

*VENT POST*

cw for mentions of cocsa, grooming, and intrusive thoughts (specifically surrounding csa)

note: i am talking about my own incredibly personal trauma here. please do not speculate on what may have happened to me outside of what i say here, and please do not ask invasive questions. thank you

okay. i need to vent rn.

i'm so FUCKING SICK of antis.

i'm so sick of them and their stupid fucking rhetoric around fiction.

i am a survivor of cocsa. i lost my early teenage years to grooming due to the vulnerability caused by that sexual assault. i am proship and a shotacon who ships both shota/shota and non-shota/shota. THEY ARE COPING MECHANISMS. shipping yuu and tsubaki has genuinely *made me feel better and less gross* about being in a relationship with a 17-year-old when i was 12 because i was being groomed. i don't know why. i can't explain it. i just know it helps.

i also have HORRIFIC intrusive thoughts that often involve graphic imagery of me committing csa, specifically against my own siblings. don't feel this needs to be said, as it's kind of in the name, but these thoughts bring me immense distress.

antis will say, with their full chest, that i'm a groomer and pedophile and need to be kept away from children because of the things i ship and the kinds of characters i am attracted to. they will tell me i should not be able to see my own siblings because i'm going to harm them. this is DEEPLY triggering.

i live in fear that one day i will hurt a child. i don't want to. i know that. but i've had intrusive thoughts about it regularly *since the age of 11*. i am so scared that one day i will act on those thoughts. and regularly seeing people call me a child abuser for the way i cope with my own trauma is absolutely not making that any better.

genuinely fuck antis and their moralizing bullshit about the ways fiction affect reality. try this on for size: you are actively triggering a childhood sexual assault and grooming survivor when you call shotacons or proshippers in general pedophiles.

fuck you.

[lapetitechatonne]

fun fact, bi/pan people exist, and saying that a character that has shown to have real interest and feelings for both men and women are exclusively gay/lesbian is in fact ✨bi/pan erasure✨ and is a shitty thing to do

[tbalderdash-art-blog]

From 14/01/2025. Based on the WikiHow page for cuddling, I want to draw more like this

[rainningtulips]

"Do you think there's something wrong with me?"

"Well, no. You're just a teenager with trouble regulating emotions."

I'll cut myself in front of you if that can prove anything to you that this shit isn't some fucking "we can just fix this by talking it out" bitch

[auschizm]

I'm not sure if this is an okay place to rant because I don't know if I technically count as both autistic and psychotic, or just autistic, but I need to vent to someone. I just got discharged from my local Early Intervention Psychosis team after only one appointment because I'm "not paranoid enough". So now I guess I'm just meant to deal with the increasingly bad hallucinations and other stuff by myself??? My doctor has referred me to talking therapy but it's a months long wait list and they always insist on a limited number of sessions of CBT, even though CBT doesn't work for me because I'm autistic and I know I need long term therapy, but I can't afford private. I'm very glad we have free healthcare in my country but often it feels like the systems are designed to just ping pong you between departments without actually helping with anything.

I'm really sorry that you aren't able to access the treatment you actually need, and you're in your full right to be upset about this.