#it is incredibly aspec to me

[mar64ds]

no one has said it yet but i think robot dreams is very aspec

[sunbloomdew]

do you ever see a person and you are overcome with incredible fondness? and you just think "oh." but not in a romantic or sexual way you are just filled with warmth and it makes you happy, it just does. and you think "i'm so happy you exist. i'm happy you are somewhere out there in the world, doing your thing". it's love but also not entirely

like people are lovely and i feel it in my entire chest like a burning candle that smells like roses and a sunny day

[morally-earl-gray]

shoutout to nine-year-old me who was very much aroace but didnt know the difference between hyperfixating on a character and having a crush on them so for the next few years i told everyone that the only crush i ever had was on lord voldemort

[zhoras-bitch]

Riz Gukgak will forever be my special little guy, because in a world where aspec characters are borderline non-existent, he was not just a cool character who happened to be aroace. He also had an incredibly compelling character arc unique to him as an aspec, and the character arc was so iconic it birthed one of the most memed moments in the entire series.

[so-you-melted-22]

Honestly, I forget how little representation there is for ace and aro people every year, until pride month rolls around.

There are all these posts going around recommending queer movies and books and tv shows and comics and what not and it covers most identities and has a wide variety of different stories, but if there is anything with aces or aros included it’s always the same three shows. It’s kinda sad and annoying.

Most (of the few) depictions of asexual and/or aromantic characters are in tv shows aimed at highschoolers, which isn’t wrong, but once you’ve graduated it stops being particularly relatable. I wish I had some extensive history of aro-ace film and literature where I could pick and choose based on my mood and personal preferences. Instead I have to scavenge the internet high and low for something that might possibly have characters that are like me. Wether or not the rest of the plot seems enticing to me be damned.

[tategaminu]

Maybe it's just me loving the first love= love of your life/ one and only tropes but it's very sad when I read people commenting that characters in their 20s not having prior relationship experience is a bad writing choice or unrealistic. As someone very demisexual/romantic who has never dated anyone‚ it can be very discouraging. I'm not even against getting into a relationship but some people just work differently‚ it's harder for them to fall in love with someone or just want to wait for the right one. It's not unrealistic. It's not being a weirdo.

I'm not saying there's something wrong with second loves or past relationships I'm just saying not having them at a certain age is ok.

[amphibifish]

to be real i've never seen a more aromantic cast than tdiapt. something about all these characters are so aro coded to me. despite the incredibly loud romance plot lines. they're all aro. And You Have To Trust Me

[good-beansdraws]

Finally finishing my Lukas-Fuuta swap art -- I was really happy with the original armor switch and thought some alternate outfits could be fun to go full-out with :3 I was so tired of drawing the uniforms so just have my sketch for that and the resplendent alt 😅

[shitpostingkats]

hello hello!! i came across your post about baron in the aromantic tag and omg i JUST. needed to say that i am having the EXACT same experience as you right now 😭, aroace watching fantasy high for the first time (though in not as far in as you im on like sy ep 6), but ive seen clips of the baron scenes before and it's just like oh my goshhhh isn't it CRAZY?? how a silly goblin boy in a dnd show makes you feel more seen than anything else on planet earth (for me at least)?? And he's such an amazing character on every single level too, i think about him and him and his mom every day... of my Life....

It's just likeeee. LIKE. Oh my gosh it's just so good. he makes me very happy. i literally started watching fh BECAUSE i saw clips of the baron scenes and knew i just needed to see this. anyway yeah this got really long but. Isn't he just the best ever TBH ....

aegfvhjksjhdl I had the exact opposite experience. Saw a single animatic for Baron's introduction scene like a million years ago and completely forgot it was from fantasy high until I got to The Scene and was like "Wait. I think I've heard this before."

Not to give to many spoilers, I came into Fantasy High knowing Riz was canonically ace but like... I wasn't sure how much of a thing it was going to be? Idk, I just figured it would be the (still very nice!!!! and important!!!) representation of just saying he's ace once or twice.

HOOOOOOOOOO boy I was not expecting to have multiple scenes that examine aceness and growing up ace that cut me to the bone. I felt seen while listening to Baron's second appearance, just validated and moved and really emotional. I straight up cried, which was doubly surprising, because the last time I cried over a piece of media I was in middle school and had just finished reading the Gregor the Overlander series. Brennan and Murph just wonderfully captured a lot of really hard to articulate emotions, emotions I was always convinced were never really going to be understood by someone who hadn't experienced them first hand. And that meant all the more to me, listening to it. We are not alone. We are not incomprehensible.

Riz Gukgak being aroace is so important to me.

[purplecelestial-buddy]

I can't lie

I love my little echo chamber where I say "Hirano is aspec" and everyone agrees

[shiningnightstars]

ive been in a primarily aspec community for so long that when i see some of my favorite characters getting shipped together im like "wait what. what do you mean you want them to kiss and have sex. i thought most people saw friendships as friendships and without any romantic undertones. what." and then i remember. im very much so not around many allos. whoopsies

anyways friends are very cool and if you think otherwise then do whatever you want forever 👍

[sergeant-angels-trashcan]

Ok I have confusion

(This is a very queer confusion so buckle up)

So. Like. What's the difference between romantic love and platonic love? Normally, I'd be like "sex" but in thinking about it, that's a false dichotomy. People have sex with people they aren't in love with all the time and vice versa; that's a different axis of relationships. I'm not talking about physical expression or sexual desire, I'm talking about love the...emotion? Love the action? Because if you remove the physical axis, what's the difference?

I am genuinely confused. I went to a Jesus school and they were very big on Love is An Action Verb, it's not mushy emotions, it's something you do. We also learned about the different Greek words for types of love like philos (brotherly) eros (sexual) and agape (unconditional). Maybe another kind that's familial idk. Again, learned it at Jesus School, large chance something in there is incorrect.

So if having sex isn't the main definer of romantic love, what's the difference between romantic and platonic? Like the definition of platonic is based around what it is not (romantic or sexual attraction) but those aren't the same thing. Because you can have a romantic relationship without sexual attraction so it seems to hold that you can have a platonic relationship WITH sexual attraction. And some definitions are like "it's only the outward expression of physical desire that makes it romantic vs platonic" which seems incredibly incorrect I'm probably just going to disregard that

I feel like this is something I'm supposed to intrinsically "know" like I'm supposed to innately understand the difference between romantic and platonic bc they just feeeeel different like obviously the love you have for a family member is different from the love you have for a friend which is different from the love you have for a partner but it seems like the only actual differences are desire and physicality, and if you take away that axis (I keep thinking of it as a third dimension, sorry) what's the difference? I care about all of these people, I want them to be happy and healthy and spend time with me, I want to know what they like and don't, what they want out of life, I want them to be able to do what they want and be safe and take care of them, and the intensity with which I feel those things doesn't change the type of love it is (does it???)

Is the answer really just "it FEELS different, you'll just know it" or am I just missing a component here? Or did I accidentally open a can of queer worms?

[scorittanius]

I never know what's going on in the communities at any given time but honestly it feels really bad to try to find community only for all the aro and ace community /experience blogs to be all AROACE DNI like. man. I know it's probably just bc aspec-allos are tired of seeing us all over the communities and some people are probably annoying about it but that still doesn't make having to split my identity in two just to be 'allowed' to talk about my experiences on either side feel any less awful...

[portentorum]

i consider andrew to be loveless. he didn't experience love growing up so it just doesn't mean anything to him now and is therefore not a concept he applies to himself. he defines his feelings and relationships in his own way.

[sky-scribbles]

My book on aromanticism and asexuality comes out in a month! Shout-out to my publishers for just... giving me free rein to ramble about:

How amatonormativity hurts absolutely everyone

Why there are so many nonbinary and gender non-conforming aspecs

Why asexual awareness is essential in pushing back against incel culture (because men and boys deserve to know that manhood is not defined by sexual desire or prowess)

Why coming out as aspec can be so incredibly complicated, espeically for aspecs of colour

Advice from aspecs on how to navigate sex and relationships as an ace and/or aro person

A really wonderful bunch of stories from aspecs on what their non-normative relationships and families look like, from queerplatonic partners to poly aspecs to best friends raising kids together

How refusing amatonormativity can help us fight the loneliness epidemic, by encouraging people not to retreat into two-person units and instead invest in multiple close relationships of every kind

What steps we need to take to challenge aspec discrimination in medicine and the law

Why all you aspec people out there are an indispensible, revolutionary force that helps us all explore and create new models of love, relationship and family

So uh please do check it out if you think it might be up your street (or just because it'd really, really annoy a certain children's author who's decided aphobia is the new big thing)

[cosmicredcadet]

Hey you! yeah you stop! don't type another word! listen - listen I know what you're trying to do. you think you're being helpful by going on someones post and telling them to look at a specific media that has the basic similarity to what their post is asking for. But I'm going to tell you a secret, okay? They probably already know it. People have probably already told them about it. they probably have checked it out. because when you have such limited options it's kind of impossible not to hear about these things...and guess what...guess what - they might not of even liked it. Because if someone is asking for representation they likely want it in a story that they'll enjoy. yeah, not everyone wants to read YA drama/romance books just for the representation, crazy i know. Yeah some of us actually want well written stories about things we actually care about. some of us want characters to be like us while they fight dragons or something.

so stop typing that message about how OP should totally check out X media. maybe, if you really wanna recommend something, maybe just ASK OP is they are looking for suggestions and what kind of stories they like so you know if that's even what they're looking for. trust me, they'll appreciate your input a lot more if you just ask.