#need more trans/trans masc/nonbinary content

[halfpsychic]

trying to have sex with dr robby but i have to take 5 minutes to pull off my sweaty binder first

[least-transmcytshowdown]

Joel Smallishbeans:

Submitted for: Hermitcraft, Third Life, Last Life, Double Life, Limited Life, Secret Life, Wild Life, Empires SMP Season 1, Empires SMP Season 2

Headcanons: Transmasc, he/they; Trans man, he/him; Genderfluid, any pronouns; Trans masc, it/he/she; Transmasc Genderfluid, he/any; Identity not specified, they/he

Propaganda: “He’s just a silly little terracotta man with only a vague understanding of human gender he tries to impersonate but fails at.”

“Lizzie and Joel are a t4t bi4bi couple in [the submitter’s] heart. Lizzie transfem (she/her) Joel transmasc+gender fluid (he/any).”

“Basically anywhere you see him. Just like, the constant ‘Ooh i'm so manly, the manliest, I’m so tall and strong and handsome,’ and always insisting that he’s really tall despite being super short and the way his voice will sometimes get all high and squeaky these are all very transmasc coded things. He’s one of us, okay, he’s got the vibes, trust, he’s got our humor. Every time he goes mining on Hermitcraft there is always a caption that’s like ‘straight white male mining content’ which is more of his constant need to assert how macho and manly he is and in double life he says he’s not going to get in the pool cause he’s ‘ashamed of his Minecraft body’ which is very trans behavior. He’s got that confidence he can wear a dress for mcc and still know he’s a man which is very transmasc cause other men just got handed it, but we afab men have to look at masculinity and go ‘yeah that’s me’ and then make sure everyone knows it like that’s how you know being trans isn’t a choice because men kinda suck and I still went out and actively was like um guys I’m actually a man sorry. Some days he’s cool with just throwing gender norms out the window and some days he feels the need to yell for the whole world and the next couple galaxies as well to hear that he’s DeFiNiTeLy NoT WeArInG a CoRsEt GeM. Can you tell [the submitter’s] projecting? Cause [they’re] projecting. You can pry this headcanon out of [their] cold dead hands lol.”

“He has fluctuating chest dysphoria so sometimes he doesn't bind and sometimes he does. His bad dysphoria days are rare enough that he's not gonna bother with top surgery.”

“Transmasc Joel Smallishbeans is everything to [the submitter] and [the submitter] like[s] to think that forming the bad boys is what made him plug the tv back on and turn the brightness to the max, like he went ‘Oh we’re bad boys?? Guess I’m finally a boy now!”

“Nonbinary bad boy Joel except he is not a boy.”

"First, [the submitter] think[s] she was raised as a gender that just. doesn't exist here. She was raised in Mezalea where how gender works is just. different and, because she has a beard, everyone assumed she was a man but she's NOT and in recent years has been figuring out her own identity and pronouns in a way she hasn't ever thought about before and also she and Lizzie are butch4femme, amen. Or bi4bi. Both? She’s a masculine person and she likes stuff like the bad boys because it's more of a title separate from her gender. She’s just a masculine woman, amen.”

“He's a sopping wet tanooki (cat /j) and [jizzie] are t4t bi4bi coded.”

“Joel hasn't been called girlfriend/wife/girl by his friends for NOTHING. Bro’s the definition of gender and he slays in a dress no matter what (in Minecraft and in irl)."

Joel Smallishbeans:

Submitted for: Hermitcraft, Third Life, Last Life, Double Life, Limited Life, Secret Life, Wild Life, Empires SMP Season 1, Empires SMP Season 2

Headcanons: Transmasc, he/they; Trans man, he/him; Genderfluid, any pronouns; Trans masc, it/he/she; Transmasc Genderfluid, he/any; Identity not specified, they/he

Propaganda: “He’s just a silly little terracotta man with only a vague understanding of human gender he tries to impersonate but fails at.”

“Lizzie and Joel are a t4t bi4bi couple in [the submitter’s] heart. Lizzie transfem (she/her) Joel transmasc+gender fluid (he/any).”

“Basically anywhere you see him. Just like, the constant ‘Ooh i'm so manly, the manliest, I’m so tall and strong and handsome,’ and always insisting that he’s really tall despite being super short and the way his voice will sometimes get all high and squeaky these are all very transmasc coded things. He’s one of us, okay, he’s got the vibes, trust, he’s got our humor. Every time he goes mining on Hermitcraft there is always a caption that’s like ‘straight white male mining content’ which is more of his constant need to assert how macho and manly he is and in double life he says he’s not going to get in the pool cause he’s ‘ashamed of his Minecraft body’ which is very trans behavior. He’s got that confidence he can wear a dress for mcc and still know he’s a man which is very transmasc cause other men just got handed it, but we afab men have to look at masculinity and go ‘yeah that’s me’ and then make sure everyone knows it like that’s how you know being trans isn’t a choice because men kinda suck and I still went out and actively was like um guys I’m actually a man sorry. Some days he’s cool with just throwing gender norms out the window and some days he feels the need to yell for the whole world and the next couple galaxies as well to hear that he’s DeFiNiTeLy NoT WeArInG a CoRsEt GeM. Can you tell [the submitter’s] projecting? Cause [they’re] projecting. You can pry this headcanon out of [their] cold dead hands lol.”

“He has fluctuating chest dysphoria so sometimes he doesn't bind and sometimes he does. His bad dysphoria days are rare enough that he's not gonna bother with top surgery.”

“Transmasc Joel Smallishbeans is everything to [the submitter] and [the submitter] like[s] to think that forming the bad boys is what made him plug the tv back on and turn the brightness to the max, like he went ‘Oh we’re bad boys?? Guess I’m finally a boy now!”

“Nonbinary bad boy Joel except he is not a boy.”

"First, [the submitter] think[s] she was raised as a gender that just. doesn't exist here. She was raised in Mezalea where how gender works is just. different and, because she has a beard, everyone assumed she was a man but she's NOT and in recent years has been figuring out her own identity and pronouns in a way she hasn't ever thought about before and also she and Lizzie are butch4femme, amen. Or bi4bi. Both? She’s a masculine person and she likes stuff like the bad boys because it's more of a title separate from her gender. She’s just a masculine woman, amen.”

“He's a sopping wet tanooki (cat /j) and [jizzie] are t4t bi4bi coded.”

“Joel hasn't been called girlfriend/wife/girl by his friends for NOTHING. Bro’s the definition of gender and he slays in a dress no matter what (in Minecraft and in irl)."

[sorin-sunchild]

I 100% understand it's aggravating that people forget that 'trans masc' is a category of nonbinary and sometimes an umbrella and not just a synonym for FtM.

I understand binary trans men who would rather just be called men and the categories be separate ("trans men and trans mascs" rather than "trans mascs").

I understand wanting to be allowed manhood not just masculinity.

But y'all can't fall back on this whilst being exorsexist.

I don't need to see trans men saying they don't consider "he/theys and they/thems" to be 'really trans' and actively trying to exclude tmasc NBs from conversations, engagement with FtM content or any trans spaces. I don't need to see accusations they're 'trying to make it about them and don't understand our real struggles' when they ask to be included.

There's so many ways to be nonbinary and some of us are in fact men, as well as other things, or in ways you aren't as a binary trans man.

Acting like trans masc people are the reason you're not taken seriously as a man is stupid and toxic. Their masculinity also isn't taken seriously (for those who are just masc and not men) and you can relate to each other a lot more than you think.

The real enemy here is cis transphobes. So instead of half agreeing with transphobes and jumping on the 'transtrender theyfab' train because you think saying "trans men aren't allowed to be men, just masc" protects you from being exorsexist, stop. Just stop. This has such old discourse, don't bring it back.

[yoinkschief]

meow happy pride or something

Little extras: (btw these are all headcanons that take after Season 6, so just keep that in mind with some of the character designs :p)

Aaron - "Straight" ?,,, he's never really had a relationship outside of Aphmau and Jenny but that was more of a situationship than anything so he's never really,,, explored that part of himself ?? there's a good possibility he's not entirely straight but he's content with where he is now so he's probably not going to be exploring it any time soon

Aphmau - The watermelon looking flag for those who don't know is "Abrosexual" which means her attraction to people often fluctuates, but besides that she's all inclusive obviously since most of her friends are queer lmao - also, she's hiding her ears and tail in this pic, I wanted to show a difference between her and Garroth, who I think would be unable to hide his ears and tail due a lacking of Werewolf Genes that Aphmau had prior to her transformation

Garroth - I like him to be Gender Non-Conforming,,, I do love transfemme and bigender and whathave you gender fuckall Garroth, but I mostly just see him as a man who really loves more "feminine" things, even though he might not be able to explore that side of himself all that much thanks to basically being the face of his father's company now that he's suspiciously absent

Zane - I can only ever see the lightness of the back of his head in that season 6 design as him getting a shaved head,,, I'd like the think that he did so under the guise of "I need to look drastically different to throw suspicions off my back" but it was really just because he's always wanted to try a more alternative hair style but again, being a Ro'Meave and all, it was heavily frowned upon by his parents, so this was the perfect opportunity to do so

Vylad - His love is solely to travel, truly cannot be bothered to stay in one place for long, so there's no real point for him to try and make a connection - not that he really wants to, not when he can go backpacking across the equivalent of Europe in MyStreet,,, also toying with the idea of him being nonbinary,,, maybe a tad masc leaning but I'm not quite sure it that really fits him or not

Laurance - There was going to be a joke here but I mean. Yeah. Man kisser or whatever. I know a very popular HC is for him to be Bisexual but I just can't shake how fucking gay he is holy shit. He screams "I only date women because that's what's expected" - Same with Garroth but to a different degree lmao

Travis - He only has a lot pointer of ears and teeth due to the Demon Warlock taking over his body - I'd like to think that because he is still technically his son that once he took over his body, not everything reverted fully back to normal, think of it like "unlocking" some of his more dormant genes, but the vitiligo was there before hand,,, also trans FtM and he's been on testosterone since college :3

Dante - I'm so sorry if you see Dante as anything queer. that is a devastatingly straight man to me.

Katelyn - I like to see her as a Demi-Girl, using She/They pronouns, since she's been seen to have a struggle with her femininity in the past

Nana - Her ears are based off of American Curls :3c I'd like to think that MCD has like more feral/wild animals for the Meif'Wa and Werewolves (Such as different Wolf and Wild Cat Species) but MyStreet, being modern, would have a lot more domestic breeds instead (like house cats and dogs)

Lucinda - I see a lot of people HC her and Travis as POC and I love it so much,,, I was tempted to do so for Travis as well but,,, he lived in the snowy mountains bro that is a sad pathetic little white boy - also the flag with the flower on it is "Sapphic", which in short means femme for femme, without it having to be specifically woman for woman

Kim - There really isn't much to go off of here in terms of why I think this other than. just. the vibes... unfortunately she's not a very developed character beyond being very skittish and introverted

[genderfluid-culture-iss]

for the baby genderfluid tips!!

this could just be me lmao, but DO NOT donate your fem clothes if you feel masc for longer than usual. or vice versa.

keeping a gender journal is something that can be really helpful to actually look back on and see how it changes (and also have proof of fluidity for when you begin to think "hmm actually im just a trans girl. nothing else." no, you probably aren't. you felt completely boy/nonbinary/etc just a month ago, and thats okay.)

basically it can be really hard to embrace that your gender is not static, especially if your gender stays stable for a slightly longer period. it took me so long to stop rotating between "im a girl always" "no, im a boy always" "actually, im nonbinary always" to just admit im genderfluid.

also, make genderfluid content. you don't have to show it to anyone, but sometimes it can really help to make poetry or art or write a story about being fluid and your experience in particular. i have an easy avenue for this since i write fanfiction (haven't published any of it yet lmao) and i just hit my favorite characters with my genderfluid beam and go nuts

follow people who are genderfluid, read genderfluid books, maybe join a genderfluid discord server (there are barely any, so actually maybe make one), try to make genderfluid friends. you are not alone, even though it sometimes feels that way.

if you have plushies or anything similar, make them genderfluid. i have a genderfluid squishmallow who i use she/they pronouns for, and a little husky that switches between he/she. idk it just helps sometimes lol

some of us change gender daily, or multiple times a day. some of us change gender only a couple times a year, or even less. we're all different and that's fine.

tips for presentation:

if you have a day when you can't figure out gender, go neutral clothing-wise

take little things to ease dysphoria if you switch when you're out somewhere (ex. lipgloss, eyeliner, leather bracelet, etc)

if you can, get pronoun pins. seriously, get pronoun pins (or a colored bracelet for subtlety or if you're not out). you can wear multiple at a time, you can switch them whenever you need to. you aren't a burden if your pronouns change. you don't have to stick to they/them to be easy for people.

if you can, get a versatile hairstyle that you can make suit your gender no matter what. if you cant, try to get a hairstyle that makes you the least dysphoric overall.

if you are organized enough, separate your clothes based on gender/what you feel comfy wearing on different days. do not pressure yourself to fit stereotypes. some people can only feel comfortable in skirts when theyre boys, so they only wear skirts on boy days. do what works for you.

it's kinda complicated, but if you can expand your vocal range to sound more fem or masc depending on how you feel, it can help. alternatively, vocal train to make it more androgynous.

keep makeup wipes with you in case you need to take it off part way through being out. basically, make it as easy as possible to be able to change/tweak your presentation if necessary.

this could just be me, but having lots of hoodies in different colors and styles will save your life

sometimes you might have "blender days", which is what i call it when your gender feels like its in a blender in a bad way and you can't tell at all what it is, everything feels wrong, it's changing like every 10 minutes, etc. tbh on these days all i can do is put on sweats and a hoodie and feel dysphoric. listen to music if it helps. do a hobby.

non-clothing items can help a lot. a blue tshirt and jeans can be whatever you want it to be based on what you wear it with. (ex. sneakers/ballet flats, leather bracelet/sparkly necklace, baseball cap/eyeliner)

and lastly: YOU ARE AMAZING. keep being you, keep being incredible, and know that being genderfluid is a gift. be proud to be who you are, have fun, know that you are unique and special and wonderful!! we're ever-changing, and that's awesome. you are precious. i love you.

🩷🤍💜🖤💙

dont wanna link my tumblr, but my name is kiley if you want to attach a name to this!

Okay this is a lot more than I was expecting LMAO /pos

Thank you so much for this Kiley <33 I’ll start working on a masterpost with links to all this.

[kisakis-boyfriend]

...Top Five Charcters You'd Hit With The Transmasc Beam

And To The One Anon I'm Sorry That I'm Not Sorry

*cracks knuckles* You've opened this can of worms, now lie in it– (you're also getting 10 because the world needs more trans men/mascs. Also not listing Kafka because I already mentioned him–)

1. Arlecchino - genshin. This is one of my newer HCs, but he's equally as important as the rest. Nothing in particular spawned this HC, he just screams transmasc to me. I think he would use he/they pronouns, lean more towards masculinity, but still embrace some feminine aspects (such as androgynous/fem clothing)

2. Scaramouche - genshin. Where do I even begin with this one? A puppet created to be the Raiden Shogun (a woman), thrown away because he was "too emotional" (something typically said about women) who erased his very existence from the world (therefore erasing the person/puppet that people used to know) and reinvented himself under a new identity– yeah. I'm just going to leave it there.

3. Dabi - BNHA. This is one of my older HCs, and I will not budge on this one. Dabi is 1000% a trans guy.

4. Shigaraki - BNHA. He and Dabi have always been trans men in my mind. I was really attached to them back when I first got into BNHA, and these headcanons have stuck with me through the years.

5. Deku - BNHA. Again, I don't know why I have this HC, but trans guy Midoriya was super important to me back in the day.

6. Sho Minamimoto - TWEWY. MY BELOVED MATH NERD <3 I'm going to direct you to this post to explain my reasoning (not mine, someone else just worded it better.) His theme song is literally named "transformation". He radiates autistic tguy swag. I'm linking his song and the neo version because I think everyone should listen to it.

7. Dazai & Chuuya - BSD. It's a two for one special because you can't separate these two. They're very t4t and definitely lean on each other throughout their transitions.

8. Prompto - FFXV. It's been so long since I played this game. I think this headcanon may have been inspired by someone's fan art. Either way, Prompto will forever be a trans man in my mind now.

9. Mikey - Tokyo Rev. He immediately gave me transmasc vibes. From day one I knew that this dude was NOT cis in any universe. I think he would lean more towards nonbinary/genderfluid/other non-cis identities, as opposed to being a binary trans man.

10. Naoto Shirogane - Persona 4. I don't even consider this one a headcanon, y'all. There is a ton of evidence that points towards him being canonically a trans man, but I believe that the devs backed out at the last minute. Honestly, I could talk about the overwhelming amount of queer content in this game that is watered down or got cut from the final product, but don't even get me started– 🤬

11 (bonus). Barbara - genshin. I don't know if this HC fully counts as transmasc, but I'll list it anyway. I think this one counts more as transneutral or nonbinary, but (thanks to someone else) I do use he/they/she pronouns for Barbara and consider them not cis at all.

[genderqueerdykes]

I'm transfem but boymoding in public. I have HRT on my shelf waiting for me, I'm getting more tired of hiding myself every day, but so many of the trans women I see, especially online, just seem miserable?

I tried talking about community building and creating trans normal and trans contentment at an event and got told that people are tired of trans joy and community building and there needs to be more trans anger.

I can deal with bigots. It's literally my job to deal with bigots, but I feel like I'm being put off at this point because so much of the community defines itself by suffering and I do not want to suffer.

I feel like if I start HRT I'll be too trans to be accepted in public but won't be able to find community among trans people because I don't believe in TMA/E divisionist bs

thank you so much for taking the time to send this, i really appreciate you. thank you for taking the time to share your story

I tried talking about community building and creating trans normal and trans contentment at an event and got told that people are tired of trans joy and community building and there needs to be more trans anger.

holy. fucking. shit anon i am so, so sorry you were told that. how the hell are people "tired of trans joy and community building"? what the FUCK does that mean? how jaded and bitter and disenfranchised do you have to believe that "everyone" is "over" being... happy about being trans? trans anger has its place but how is anyone "over" being happy? that is the most defeatist shit i have ever heard in my life. that honestly sounds EXACTLY like the bullshit negative headspace you get into when you're VERY depressed that just makes you hate literally everything. you don't just have to roll over and be miserable because things suck. you don't have to consign yourself to a life of misery just because you're transfem. what the hell. how the hell is that supposed to empower anyone?

thank you for pointing these things out. what a lot of trans women and transfemmes are doing right now is wallowing in their misery. misery does not keep you safe, it keeps you trapped in your pain. focusing on how miserable you are is keeping yourself stuck in the past. you will never progress beyond misery if you refuse to try to break free of it. yes, we suffer. yes, our lives are hard. but why are we focusing on the bad all the time? you can have trans rage and experience trans joy at the exact same time. they're not mutually exclusive.

I feel like if I start HRT I'll be too trans to be accepted in public but won't be able to find community among trans people because I don't believe in TMA/E divisionist bs

that hurts me deeply to read, i am so sorry. i was just standing on my porch having a similar thought, which is i feel more alienated by the queer community right now than i do the general public. i get less flak from cishet people than i do other queers. isn't that fucking sad? we've made the community hostile to our own, each other, not even outsiders who are genuinely trying to oppress us. we're more hostile towards transmascs and men than we are cops trying to enter our spaces. we kick masc nonbinary people out of queer spaces, but then gladly let rad fems in.

i'm glad to hear that you also don't believe in the TME/TMA bullshit, but it sucks so bad that you feel like you will be alienated from other trans women because of it. i really want a lot of the transfems and trans women who do these things to understand that they are hurting other trans women and transfems, NOT just trans men and mascs. like this behavior affects more than just trans men and mascs- it's alienating you from your own community. literally where you belong, and you feel alienated. you're not the only trans woman who's reached out to me about this. how is this behavior supposed to uplift and empower trans women if all it's doing is alienating us from our own communities?

take care of yourself, anon. i hope things improve for you. you have every right to not want to continue suffering like that. you're not obligated to sulk and focus on how bad you have it every single day just because you're transfem, you literally KNOW how bad transfems have it. you don't need to be repeatedly reminded how bad we have it. you don't need to constantly be thinking about it. you don't need to constantly remind yourself that you're miserable in order to be a transfem.

that's your reality. you don't want to stay trapped in the parts that suck, you just want to be yourself, and that's what transness is all about. i hope you're able to start HRT soon and stop hiding and just be yourself. you deserve that. there are still plenty of kind, open minded transfems and trans women who don't behave this way, and i hope some make their way into your life so you can talk to people who get you without fear of being made to feel bad for no reason. if you have any questions about it or need any help, please feel free to come by and ask any questions you may have, we'll be happy to help! you've got the right approach, other people just need to catch up. thanks for stopping by, feel free to come by again any time

[skele-bunny]

Fuck you, more trans Terzo & Primo content cause some of y'all are TRANSPHOBIC.

Primo's never felt... Right, to say the least. Didn't feel like they fit in any gender category or binary. That they were just, them, to say the least. Of course, presented masc as that's all they really knew, and despite being in a very supportive environment, they just didn't know. It wasn't until during their Papacy that they learned the proper wording, from Chain who was exactly that. Nonbinary. It felt comfortable. The pronouns felt right, not being restricted to a binary felt right. Of course their brothers and ghouls were supportive, but they never really... Came out. Still mainly in the closet, and always would be. It's simply not common knowledge unless the topic comes up as a lot of ghouls go to Primo for advice, they've always been a "grandparent" figure for everyone.

But, to them, that's simply who they are and always will be. They love themselves and they don't need anyone else's but that. They're happy. They're content. If you ask, they'll simply tell you "I guess it just happened. Couldn't tell you how." And then starts babbling about their new gardening project. They're VERY quick about it LMAO

Now, Terzo? He knew VERY quickly. More knowledge accessible and adamant about it all. Wasn't even 6 when he'd start crying with dresses, and constantly hated being called Terzi. Around 8 was when Phil found him cutting his hair for the first time, just wet puffy eyes and determination. ("I'm not gonna stop." // "I'm not stopping you. Just let me help, you've got a fuck ass bob going on.")

Same day, went through his closet and got rid of any feminine outfits. There was a gentle agreement on when he'd start hormones, and he was fine with that in the end. Faced some issues with the higher-ups of the ministry but kept up headstrong and that confident attitude. Cardinal Terzo was who he was, and everyone else could kiss ass about that (his exact words.) Once he got top surgery and more deep in his testosterone, did he start feeling comfortable to play with feminity again. Trying heels, stockings, even lipstick and more fem earrings. Still a man, he just likes feeling pretty is all. AND FLASHY. GIVE THAT MAN GOLD EARRINGS AND HES YOUR BEST FRIEND.

[twyla19]

Hello,

This is an offering to those looking to support a college student who is an artist.

If you are interested in digital pieces, i am looking and would like to be commissioned! Here are some of my fave most recent pieces.

I am a queer, trans, disabled artist who has been working on getting my craft the best for my abilities. It would mean so much to me if you are interested to DM me.

Pricing, gosh pricing. Basic works like sketches and line art will start at a base of $25 (plus the hours), and a full color, shaded, and background piece will be $75 minimum. I have cashapp and venmo for online payments. This will be DM'd to those who commission (unless people want to support me without a trade-off, but I'd need feedback on that)

THESE PRICES ARE AT THE LEAST AMOUNT

Due to hours of work it will get higher in price. Especially due to this being a hobby. i can't just beep boop them out. I want my art to be the best it can be, but also what others want for their pieces.

I know a year or two back, i did make a post similar, but I wanted to reshare that my commissions are open, and if i get many people, i will have a waitlist. I am a college student, after all.

Edited: i forgot about this draft for months on end but finally made the effort to post. I am concerned about finding a summer job and would like to make others happy with the art i create! I want to get into creating more content and art in general again.

[Alt text: image 1. A cartoon illustration of a non-binary person with green and purple money pieces in their hair with blonde elsewhere, wearing purple and green cat ears, expressing a lively and whimsical spirit. They are wearing pins of the nonbinary and asexual flags as well as a 6 teirer bracelet with the colors of the rainbow, red, orange, yellow, green, blue, and purple Image 2. Two men, Wolverine and Deadpool characters. Deadpool is being held in Wolverine's arms. Wolverine is unamused at deadpool's whimsical pose. There is a spotlight on deadpool. Image 3. A young woman with brown hair is sitting in a chair unamused by the way she has to sit. Her legs crossed in a layered dress with an apron overlay. And a corset on top. Image 4. A well-dressed trans masc individual in a renassaince-like suit. A white ruffled shirt underneath. They have a flirtatious facial expression. Astrid's hair is blonde tied up into a bun. 5. Astrid, with their blond hair and roots of brown growing in. Facing off in the distance with a jean jacket, rolled up button-down shirt, and jeans. Their jacket has a bunch of pride patches and more. Their arms are above their head in a relaxed lean against a wall. 6. This is Twy's Loki varient. They have dark academia attire with a long purple cloak. Leaning against a table. Their staff is brown with a purple snake wrapped around it with an emerald green crystal on the top. ]

[miilkyrolls]

okay fine, Murder at homecoming, YOU WIN

so i finally finished MaH after putting off continuing past chapter 1 since like...february and, i almost used this book as a diamond mine cause i preemptively was like "this looks lame 😒"

... i came, i laughed, i gasped, i yelled, i cried and i left... then i CAME BACK BECAUSE HOLY MOTHER OF REPLAY-ABILITY BATMAN🥲

but no this book hits right where it needed too. I know one of the biggest upsets people have with MaH is A) the villain being guessable and B) not solving Perdita's disappearance and sorta C/ B.2) it being a standalone. and imo for A, that's up to you to feel that way. imo cause choices is a visual form of content, it's kinda hard to have genuinely surprising "twist" villains cause the visuals already clue you into who done-did it unless they pull the twist straight out they ass(i feel this way about movies and shows too. the only way surprises genuinely get me is in books or podcasts, so non visual entertainment)

and B/C, i actually think NOT solving perdita's story AND making it a standalone was actually very mature of PB (first and possibly last time i'll ever say that in this day and age 💀). it's possible they might've made it their next teen drama series if they had the budget. But unfortunately it's honestly realistic. unfortunately a lot of women go missing and rarely do they get found alive and in a short amount of time (esp if you have as a bipoc mc/ perdita). it's an extremely tragic cookie crumble that unfortunately a lot of mysteries in our lives often take us our entire lives to solve and a lot of them we'll never solve in our lifetime. it's a great paradox / parallel to gabbie's death. it took us all of say 4/5 months (cause in the US, most schools go on winter break in late December) to solve with justice being fairly swift, fair, and harsh but unfortunately a lot of victims don't get their day for a long while, if ever. it's a healthy ying and yang of enjoying fictional justice but it being unrealistic with acknowledging the devastation of losing real victims while acknowledging those lost and their unsung stories that we should never completely give up on their days to come. (ofc however, i hc that perdita is still alive and uncovered corruption in the city and knew that making her family deal with legal repercussions would make their lives more difficult and be ostracized by the elites of Beachwood, so she just left and changed her identity. i like to think she did it also cause MC deserved to have a normal teenhood and not be ousted for her actions)

also i love the open and candid conversations around the treatment of queer children, bipoc mistreatment , misogyny, sa and grief. idk why but the ability to choose if you'd experienced homophobia/ transphobia based on your pronouns and who you've romanced, and tyler talking about thinking he was straight before meeting us (i had a masc body) idk why but i like that touch. i feel like PB kinda grazes over the aspect of being queer / trans and the concept of love, coming out, and society acceptance when your same sex romancing/ nonbinary so it's real shocking when they actually..idk address that thing😭. it's nice to have characters acknowledging their sexuality rather then just be automatically playersexual and everyone around them is just immediately accepting/ suddenly bigotry just seems to evaporate for mc's life/ society

also also, WE CAN BE POLY AND LIKE ITS CALLED POLY AND EVERYONE IS HAPPY AND THE LI WE DON'T CHOOSE AREN'T FORCED ONTO US/ GIVEN AS A OPTION

smaller things: i like the heavy usage of sound effects, idk why but i do. i like the flashbacks into mc's and perdita's relationship, the mix of free and paid clues that are non linear, STEVIE (yes she needs her own category)

overall: 9.2/10. i really like this book, it's going on my personal shelf next to the likes of crimes of passion (minus proposal...), Queen B, big sky country, blood bound, immortal desires 1, and with every heartbeat for my good book shelf

[solarmagickstar]

Not super into Jessie Gender, but I watched their video on "how we talk about trans men" and I've gotta say it was disappointing asf.

As a trans masc/guy I feel like I can't really have an opinion? Like for me it's like I'm too scared to be angry, like if I am it's just gonna be thrown back at me like "oh it must be those testosterone hormones coming out" or "well of course your all angry your a man" like men can't be sensitive at all or something? It's almost always said in a way to "give me euphoria" cause that's how we're supposed to treat men.

At times it really feels like we're being pushed out of queer spaces because we'll if your a guy you wouldn't wanna be a part of the marginalised group ya know cause "we're escaping to get to privilege" right?

I don't feel like our experience with gender is allowed to be expressed openly and we're absolutely not allowed to be GNC. And honestly the same could probably be said for GNC trans fems too, I don't see a lot of them either.

I feel like in Jessie gender's video they kinda didn't *actually* wanna sit with what they said originally? Like when it came to the Barbie movie I wanted to participate in the conversation of girl hood and how that's still relevant to me and how it's shaped me as the person I am today, how much I enjoyed the Ken dolls experience and how they played with masculine fashion in a way I hadn't seen in a while. But honestly I felt like well this movies for the girls so I probably shouldn't say anything.

Sometimes I wonder if we partially do this to ourselves because a lot of us keep to ourselves and don't really wanna be seen half the time. I haven't talked to the trans masc I knew since we all left Facebook, it's so lonely out here and the more I look for trans content the more I see trans fems and basically only white trans masc (with like maybe 2 poc ones but is that really all we get?) It makes me feel like I don't exist. The only places I can see poc trans masc viking or existing is on sites run by a variety of trans people or is run by a trans masc person living free.

When I see that I think, thank god your fucking real. Thank god I see someone like me thriving and existing out there.

I wanna see more of y'all, like actually see y'all, I feel like I'm fading away as more and more content keeps talking about how bad trans fems (oh and non binary but let's not define what you mean or who you're talking about we just throw them in there cause let's be more inclusive right? But only to you? Great) but the amount of trauma that's in the trans masc community is horrific and is not talked about or addressed at all.

In men's spaces there's not room for queer most of the time, so to find a place to belong and essentially get told my issues aren't as important or that trans fems ("and nonbinary" cause again you're lying to yourself by saying this even if your non-binary) then you're fundamentally missing out on our lives. I don't even feel like we have enough data on us because even the trans masc get lumped in with nonbinary or GNC like that's just fucking normal.

I remember a study was out on trans masc and GNC women about how often all of us deal with sexual assault and it's the closest I've seen and it wasn't even good findings it was depressing. I wish I could find it again. But again that study put us with GNC (pretty sure it was cis) women!

Please not this is coming from someone who's been SA'd pre and post coming out as trans. Did you know some people see us as a way to see if they're gay or bi? Like experiment on us, get us drunk and tell us we should just take it because "well you're supposed to be a man right?" We can't even get to these conversations yet and I'm worried we never will.

Do we even exist? Are we allowed to voice our opinions? Are we allowed to be mad? Are we allowed to be upset with our community? Can we do our own studies? Should we be more visible? I'm scared to, I don't wanna show my face I'm a very private person, but do I need to address that? Is that a bad thing? Is it perpetuated by my environment?

I don't know and honestly I just wanna see more variety of trans masc people, I'm scared we're just gonna stay under the radar and continue to deal with the bullshit we always have.

Ps. Jessie gender 100% did the I have a trans masc friend, no matter how much they said "I'm not doing that" they literally were doing it and there was almost no self reflection on that at all. This wasn't really the video I think they thought it was cause all it did was tell me they don't talk to us very often and that at this point I've just seen heart reacts to comments on their video's comments and not any actual responses to what anyone's said on there. It'll be a process I get it but this video was not good at all and I feel like any trans masc who's getting excited about being seen by a bigish YouTuber is like me desperate for anything validation cause that's kinda how starved we are out here tbh.

[eternityafraid]

am always in the mood to discuss ships btw AND since i'm putting off working on my final project i'm putting a summary of shippable muses under the cut to make things nice and easys <3 these don't have to be like soulmate level things either btw i love plotting exes and flings and one night stands and all too

anthony (20ish, gay, trans man). speaks to ghosts. obsessed with getitng ghosts to Move On to a point where he's annoying about it. like in a white knight way LMAO. into anyone who is vaguely offputting. bonus points if they've also got some sense of ESP.

laurel <3 (16, straight, cis woman). very very cutesy. volunteers on the weekends. good little catholic girl. she doesn't know what she likes because she got killed before she ever got to try dating </3

ruth (17, nonbinary, attracted to men). pretends to have it all together. very, very jealous of people. tends to get crushes she can't pursue (read: her older's brother's ex-situationship who is too old for her and is also kind of a dick) and then gets mad that she can't pursue them.

connor (19ish, nonbinary, pansexual). rich. so insanely rich. sleeps with whoever would be the worst person to sleep with at any time (read: their friend's homewrecker; their other friend's worst enemy; their ta; etc) attracted to precisely two types of people: femme fatales and grimy mascs.

vi (18ish, cis woman, lesbian). probably doing cocaine in your bathroom right now. diagnosed kleptomaniac. does not mean well, but she's hot, fun, and here for a good time.

joey (18, cis man, bi). has a one year old daughter who he loves soooo much and so she better love you too before he even considers a long term relationship. feels like he needs to Settle Down now that he's a dad but also he's 18 so like...okay. likes the type of people you meet at a party 50 miles away from home and then never see again.

bri (22, cis man, bi). planned to be a project manager, whatever that means. now he's more into philosophy. and spirituality. and rationality. and psychology. and anything else he thinks will give him answers. bad at being in relationships ngl </3 he has one ex gf that he hasn't quite gotten over yet

alyson (20, cis woman, straight). this is a fun one. she's got a fiance, but that's ending whenever she's done being in denial. technically cheated on him once already (in a simulation where she thought he was dead, albeit). she's NOT a chaser, but she tends to be attracted to trans men more often than straight men. wanted to be a housewife, but she's rethinking that recently.

love (26, nonbinary, pansexual). a tiktok influencer who gets tons of views for their GRWMs, political content, "call out" posts, and react content. dating love means you're going to be in the public eye, both because she gets recognized often and because she expects you to be in her content.

magda (18, cis woman, lesbian with hella internalized heteronormativity). has a martyr complex but never actually does anything for anyone else. has a victim complex, but to be fair, she is very often a victim. gets crushes on anyone she wants to Be (hot, successful women).

ken (24, nonbinary, queer). plays rugby! stereotypical winger. can take and throw a punch. mostly attracted to women, but not opposed to anyone else. note: ken uses he/they pronouns but primarily identifies with femininity; they'd date a lesbian, but not a gay men, for example. loves athletes and anyone who can take and throw a punch <3

[least-transmcytshowdown]

ZombieCleo:

Hermitcraft, Pirates SMP, Witchcraft SMP, Third Life, Last Life, Double Life, Limited Life, Secret Life, Wild Life

Transfem Nonbinary, she/they; Demi-girl, pronouns not specified

Uses she/they irl

“T4T cletho. They’re both nonbinary and divorced (in an active relationship) and take turns on who's the ex wife and who's the ex husband.”

“Love how Tibby has had the lion's share of the propaganda so far and Cleo is still well ahead. They don't need the propaganda. They’re the baddest trans bitch around and they know it (please, please, please, Cleo has cracked so many eggs. Her community is so, so trans friendly. [The submitter] literally wouldn't know [they were] trans if it wasn't for Cleo)”

“Cleo is literally a 42 year old fat nonbinary bisexual. They are the goal for all of us. If you can think of anyone more deserving of being the transest mcyt, [the submitter] would be shocked.”

“[The submitter thinks it speaks a lot on Cleo's power how there's so much propaganda for Tibby and yet Cleo is STILL ahead (even if not by much). Keep voting Cleo guys, they didn't join Gaslight, Gatekeep, and Girlboss on Last Life for no reason.”

Joel Smallishbeans^16:

Hermitcraft, Third Life, Last Life, Double Life, Limited Life, Secret Life, Wild Life, Empires SMP Season 1, Empires SMP Season 2

Transmasc, he/they; Trans man, he/him; Genderfluid, any pronouns; Trans masc, it/he/she; Transmasc Genderfluid, he/any; Identity not specified, they/he

“He’s just a silly little terracotta man with only a vague understanding of human gender he tries to impersonate but fails at.”

“Lizzie and Joel are a t4t bi4bi couple in [the submitter’s] heart. Lizzie transfem (she/her) Joel transmasc+gender fluid (he/any).”

“Basically anywhere you see him. Just like, the constant ‘Ooh i'm so manly, the manliest, I’m so tall and strong and handsome,’ and always insisting that he’s really tall despite being super short and the way his voice will sometimes get all high and squeaky these are all very transmasc coded things. He’s one of us, okay, he’s got the vibes, trust, he’s got our humor. Every time he goes mining on Hermitcraft there is always a caption that’s like ‘straight white male mining content’ which is more of his constant need to assert how macho and manly he is and in double life he says he’s not going to get in the pool cause he’s ‘ashamed of his Minecraft body’ which is very trans behavior. He’s got that confidence he can wear a dress for mcc and still know he’s a man which is very transmasc cause other men just got handed it, but we afab men have to look at masculinity and go ‘yeah that’s me’ and then make sure everyone knows it like that’s how you know being trans isn’t a choice because men kinda suck and I still went out and actively was like um guys I’m actually a man sorry. Some days he’s cool with just throwing gender norms out the window and some days he feels the need to yell for the whole world and the next couple galaxies as well to hear that he’s DeFiNiTeLy NoT WeArInG a CoRsEt GeM. Can you tell [the submitter’s] projecting? Cause [they’re] projecting. You can pry this headcanon out of [their] cold dead hands lol.”

“He has fluctuating chest dysphoria so sometimes he doesn't bind and sometimes he does. His bad dysphoria days are rare enough that he's not gonna bother with top surgery.”

“Transmasc Joel Smallishbeans is everything to [the submitter] and [the submitter] like[s] to think that forming the bad boys is what made him plug the tv back on and turn the brightness to the max, like he went ‘Oh we’re bad boys?? Guess I’m finally a boy now!”

“Nonbinary bad boy Joel except he is not a boy.”

“First, [the submitter] think[s] she was raised as a gender that just. doesn't exist here. She was raised in Mezalea where how gender works is just. different and, because she has a beard, everyone assumed she was a man but she's NOT and in recent years has been figuring out her own identity and pronouns in a way she hasn't ever thought about before and also she and Lizzie are butch4femme, amen. Or bi4bi. Both? She’s a masculine person and she likes stuff like the bad boys because it's more of a title separate from her gender. She’s just a masculine woman, amen.”

“He's a sopping wet tanooki (cat /j) and [jizzie] are t4t bi4bi coded.”

“Joel hasn't been called girlfriend/wife/girl by his friends for NOTHING. Bro’s the definition of gender and he slays in a dress no matter what (in Minecraft and in irl).”

[eveningrelics]

For the record, we love making games and want them to be approachable.

This whole debacle has had us discuss trigger warnings for the future because some people are only sensitive to certain sub-sets of issues, myself included.

On a store page and in fane, however, these warnings could be lengthy.

Would it be good, I wonder, to have the lists on the store page and at launch, as we have thus far, and then each respectively direct you to where you could read more about each trigger type?

For example, a longer warning might be:

Transphobia:

Depiction of violence against a transwoman; scene includes aftermath of physical altercation

"T Slur" appears twice if player interacts with [PC in Chiyo's room]

Online abuse against a transgender individual (Sexual harassment and dehumanizing language)

In-game, I think it should be fairly easy to do a trigger warning directory with breakdowns and possibly examples of each?

It's time consuming, but if it's something that would make people feel more comfortable playing horror games, I am always looking to explore new options.

I don't think doing this would have mattered in the recent abuse, but it does matter to us for making sure players are comfortable moving forward.

I mentioned these things in my itch.io response on Mare's page before comments were closed.

For what it's worth now, the "T slur" was used because people who tear us down really don't give two shits if I'm nonbinary, trans masc, or whatever. Being trans is enough for them to hate me.

Maybe it's regional, generational, or whatever, but it's been applied plenty to trans masc and nonbinary people around me as much as transfemmes because people who hate us don't really see a difference.

As far as trigger warnings in games though, I am always happy to discuss ways to improve on it further. Z and I are both neurodivergent, queer game devs and I am also disabled.

Making stuff accessible is very important to us, so I would genuinely like to have a conversation about what makes approaching dark subject matter feel safe.

However, given the recent targeted hate campaigns, I will Not be engaging with anyone who comes to this in bad faith.

You will be blocked immediately, and I encourage others to do the same rather than engage.

[askanallo]

Hi! I don't know if this ask will make any sense, sorry if it doesn't.

I'm asexual, aromantic and agender and there is something i don't get about hetero/homosexual and romantic attraction.

Gender is a social construct and is something you feel on the inside (I'm guessing here, correct me if I'm wrong) and gender presentation is the way you present to the outside world (clothing, mannerisms, etc.). So how can you be attracted to a specific gender, what is the difference between a masc presenting man, woman or an enby. Have you ever been attracted to someone who you thought was a man, but later learned wasn't? and if so did that information change your attraction to them?

Thank you in advance! This has been in my head for a while and I needed to get it out.

Jesus, this is not an easy question. I feel like there's probably academic literature on this topic, or at least a few articles by people with Gender Studies PhDs. You might be better off looking up that stuff, as this goes quite a bit beyond the scope of one person's experiences.

I don't really know whether to put a content warning or what here? Just be aware this is a cis person talking about gender.

A closeted trans woman and a cis man look the same. I could be attracted to someone who's actually a woman without knowing, despite being heterosexual. I don't think the internal feeling people have of their gender is actually very relevant to attraction, which is a process that goes on in another person's head.

I'm also not super sure about gender presentation. My boyfriend has definitely been into me even when I had no make-up on, was completely unshaved, and was dressed head to toe in men's clothes (...that I took from his closet lmao), including boxers. About the only feminine thing on me was my semi-long hair, and I don't really style it. If it was mostly about clothes and styling, I don't think he would have liked kissing me while dressed like that.

…so what's it really about? I'm not really sure whether I can actually answer this question. I'm not sure how gender-based my attraction even is. If my boyfriend came out to me as nonbinary but looked the same, or maybe experimented with fashion a bit or something, I'd continue being attracted to him. But if he started changing his (visible/percieved) sex through hormones and surgery while still identifying as a man then, I don't know. I don't think I would be into him? But I couldn't say that with 100% certainty.

Doesn't help that I'm in a regressive society where attraction is absolutely viewed through the lens of sex and where I don't really get into contact with trans and gnc people. Everyone I've talked to and been attracted to has been cis to my knowledge, so that probably informs the way I view my attraction in more ways than I consciously know. There is very likely queer literature about these topics, and there's definitely a few Tumblr posts - I'd probably go looking there if you want more experiences. Ones with way more perspective, probably. If you are genuinely interested in this topic, you will have to continue looking if you want a conclusion. I'm sorry.

[drdemonprince]

Have you read any of Leah Lakshmi Piepzna-Samarasinhas works on disability? I find her stories especially about activism initiatives and groups like sins invalid but I've been completely thrown off by their use of "femmes" as an umbrella term. I'm worried I might be missing some context on the usefulness of the term because of my white context but ur recent post in response to a question abt womxn seemed like an insightful and confident assertion of the terms limitations so I wondered if you had any advice for navigating the kind of jarring experience of seeing someone use identity language in the pursuit of justice that feels super uncomfortable in its vagueness but being worried that your own internal prejudices might be the source of that discomfort.

It all comes down to discernment I think.

Fundamentally there's a degree of self-trust you have to build in your own ability to pool information and thought from a wide variety of sources, taking what is useful, releasing what is not, reflecting upon what challenges you in a meaningful way, and then synthesizing all of that into a greater understanding of the world that is distinctly your own, without finding it threatening that others are also doing the same thing with what information that they have and will always arrive somewhere slightly different.

I don't agree with their use of femmes. I have seen other activists of similar orientations use "femmes" to highlight the fact that a lot of organizing labor falls onto women, and I get what they're trying to do with the term -- and I think it's completely misplaced and that they'd have a better way of talking about it if their work was more informed by the contributions of transexual people, especially trans women. I think the perspectives of butch people and trans mascs are also largely absent from that analysis, particularly Black trans men.

But I don't expect anyone that I'm reading to be a perfect reflection of my own beliefs and my politics. I am the reflection of what I know and believe, I don't need anybody else to be that, and thus somebody having a slightly differing view or base of knowledge from me is not an existential threat.

Whenever I notice that someone does use different language from my own, I pay close attention to what they are meaningfully saying, and I ask myself whether their use of language reflects a set of biases that skews their overall worldview.

In many authors who use language like "women and femmes," I do very much see an exclusion of butch women, nonbinary people, trans men, and trans women, and a lack of awareness of how being perceived as masculine effects Black trans people. But this is revealed to me by their broader attitudes, the way they summarize and explain social problems, the examples they choose to give, and the overall deeper content of what they are saying -- not their choice of a single term or another. I take a person with a grain of salt if they use that term -- but I still take them.

On the whole there's a lot to be valued within that authors' work. And they also have areas where I think they are less prepared to be a reliable source of expertise. And the same can certainly be said for me. In general I think we need to stop searching for catchall gender terms -- especially those of us who are transmisogyny exempt and/or non Black and distinctly positioned to not really "get" the ways that we're failing at it, and that includes both Lakshmi Piepzna-Samarasinhas and me.