#no community is without fault

[sysmedsaresexist]

Hot Take

Maybe instead of asking why or how some trauma-based systems turn to pro/endo spaces and mistakenly believe themselves to be endogenic, we should be asking why they felt invalidated about their trauma and experiences in CDD spaces

[poorly-drawn-mdzs]

How did A-yuan celebrate Mother's Day with his honorary mother, Wei Wuxian?

He already has a (grand)mother to celebrate!

[scorpiohive]

mars-pluto/ 1H lilith/ moon-mars/ sun-lilith/ saturnians & mercury-pluto natives

[nicorobinphd]

stg, being an enjoyer of jane twdg is like being forced into an expert-level course on the way misogyny manifests in video game spaces.

god forbid a woman be complex or difficult or provably mischaracterized (see tags) at the end of her arc to service the culmination of a man’s storyline.

[girlbob-boypants]

Still just so uninterested in the Treviso Minrathos decision

[pilonciillo]

lol didn’t think someone giving money would give me anxiety

[mistylacrimosa]

So AO3 is down again and I didn't get to download stuff after the last crisis two days ago so I am here again to scream into the void.

[timetravelstudies]

ok ill just say this i was one of the “girls” salò shit was being done to in ms like straight up movie style psychological torture type bullying and tbf i dont tend to use the phrase “female camraderie” in general or esp about myself since im a man now. but if you asked me if I’ve experienced it i would say yes for instance in the countless intimate hushed conversation in bedrooms ive had with cis, straight women (same type of girl that was torturing me in ms) bonding over shared madness inducing experiences such as being in extremely abusive relationships with men. So i wouldnt jump the gun on that one. But whatever

[forcedhesitation]

man people REALLY can't tell when larian is full on joking in their patch notes, huh? the gale thing was a legitimate bug and people are crying that they changed him as they did lae'zel. reading comprehension these days is abysmal.

I can't be surprised, though, because back when astarion's kiss animation was bugged, I saw discussions that it was "suspicious" that his kiss animation wasn't bugged for the default guy body, but was bugged for the default gal body. you know, as if larian somehow fucked up their own game's code on purpose, specifically to slight women who want to romance a canonically bisexual man that has flirtatious dialogue with the lady companions regardless of your tav's interest in him. totally checks out.

the complaints about changing lae'zel are entirely valid and I agree that her personality should not be toned down to appeal to the delicate sensibilities of the heterosexual man. I'm fairly certain that lae'zel's change was actually the only one that intentionally altered a companion's dialogue to be less abrasive. the alleged change to shart was also a bug fix, not an attempt to alter her character, if I remember correctly.

but by all means, let's accuse the devs of "ruining the game" every time they improve it. even better, let's all campaign for the addition of another romance! solely so that we can have sex with a popular NPC! rather than, oh I don't know, putting more pressure on them to add more material to the stories of wyll & karlach!

I swear, some people really do NOT know what it feels like to play a game where the devs truly and honestly are not listening to the playerbase...or where it takes literal YEARS for them to respond to even a fraction of the players' reasonable concerns & feedback.

[slightlytoastedbagel]

I've kinda sorta turned my stardew farmer into her own sona in the last few hours please help

[mallach]

mage has changed quite a bit in the interim since i've last posted her. she is still supremely cute.

[thephoenixandthecrocodile]

Alex Phillips (they/them) the ace non-binary traumatized journalist from my adult queer fantasy noir podcast. They are reporting on Kingsley’s trial for war crimes because that is easier than deal with their own trauma and their wife’s life-threatening miscarriage.

[danidoesathing]

The thing about League Jayce/Giopara is that, while he is an ass, he's also somewhat in the right (or at least Has A Point).

Like, League Viktor did do some pretty shady shit-like come up with a concept for a Diving Suit that could remove a person's ability to feel fear, which would have all sorts of potential for being exploited ad turned into full mind control. Giopara was understandably horrified, and reported Viktor to the Academy. (I don't know if Giopara expected for it to escalate into full-on exile, but I think reporting your partner for doing something you think is super unethical is a reasonable thing to do.)

(League Viktor also tried the "turn people into Hive Mind" thing, but only once as far as I'm aware-and on a much smaller scale than on his Arcane counterpart. He doesn't do it anymore, and he's very express about consent in all of his lore after that, but he did try it once.)

So yes, Giopara's a raging asshole-but it's not entirely his fault that his and Viktor's relationship crashed and burned. (I don't think he's entirely innocent in the affair-far from it-but he at least had a good reason.)

oh yeah like. from my (admittedly limited, take whatever i say with a grain of salt and all) knowledge of the lore it was very much a "they both got a point but neither of them can be normal about it or sit down and have a reasonable conversation to save their lives".

like the glorious evolution thing is some fucking insane eugenics bullshit, viktor's ethical and human rights violations are probably in the triple digits at this point, and he is constantly breaking and stealing giopara's shit, but at the same time. giopara has the tendency to "act first think later" in a lot of situations, has a terribly black and white view of things (they both do, to some extent), and him viewing (or at least saying? i think?) the robotic augmentations as removing what makes them human is also. kinda really fucked up. the removal of emotions temporarily is not necessarily a bad idea, there are plenty of situations it could be applied to save lives, but it could easily be exploited by people with bad intentions. but it was still just a concept, not even in any workshop phase, so im not sure if reporting it (especially given viktor's tract record with the academy already fucking him over once and their view on him) was the right call. I get why he did that, but it still escalated things and pretty much ruined viktor's career over a proposed concept. the factory incident wasn't giopara's fault entirely (you know vik maybe refusing to explain the body horror shit you're pulling off and trying to kill him right off the bat is a bad idea but hey you do you) but like. people still died because he smashed that crystal.

zaun lacks a lot of the resources piltover has and viktor's augmentations genuinely does help a lot of people, but has so many internalized issues he's taking out on the world and again the eugenics shit is really bad. giopara does genuinely want to do good and get through to viktor but he's also an asshole who acts without thinking and has a hard time seeing each other's worldviews. both of them have a point but they won't properly communicate it with the other and decided to make it everyone else's problem.

if either of theses bitches could have a proper discussion (like actual adult fucking communication good lord) and consider each other's views for five minutes maybe we could get somewhere.

tldr get these bitches some fucking therapy. individual AND couples. good god

[leori-the-unlearned]

the way digimon does conflict/drama between two characters who should be or are close: chef’s kiss <3

the way sonic idw handles creating conflict/drama between two characters who should be or are close: *wilting flower*

[mountain-lion-gremlin]

a good reason to leave for me:

i honestly think it would be safer for me and therians to not be in the same space sometimes haha. P-shifting isn't safe for many and it can really hurt others.

Although I would love to stay, I know that it's probably safer for everyone to no longer teach it and keep to myself about things that involve how to shift and such.

P-shifting isn't a joke and can harm people who suffer from mental issues and other things of that sort. Its just not safe to teach in a large public space. It's something only some can stomach and be safe while doing. Plus some communities that are too unregulated exist and may mess with people's reality and how they perceive it. Some are too open to allow people to start p-shifting right off the bat and it's just too dangerous that way. (including those that say "oh just wait you will shift eventually but you cant control it at all" those are even worse.)

Theres a very good reason why newer communities are very apprehensive about teaching, or telling, or allowing new people who know nothing about it just hop in and start shifting. Usually if you are coming to the "learning" community (as in, you are following steps laid out by others to understand your identity) there is guidelines, there are warnings, etc. It's just too risky to not follow these guidelines and not listen to the warnings.

Dont start p-shifting right when you find out. Take the time to start a journal. Understand that what you are getting into isn't something that will make you cool or quirky. You risk your mental health if you are not careful. You have to be born to be a p-shifter. You must first mental shift before you can even think about p-shifting. P-shifting is not easy and will take years to even get to a point where you start getting somewhere physically.

The list goes on. When someone who is teaching shifting slacks in saying these things, you can harm someone. It takes a very long time to even get to the point where you may be ready to p-shift. Some never will p-shift. You have to accept these realities too. Not to mention how some older guides, although effective, can be so incredibly risky. (Such as completely shutting out the world and being an animal 24/7. Some people just take it too far and do it too early and ruin themselves.) Its just not worth it sometimes.

Thats why I'm leaving Tumblr. Too open, not safe for neither me nor others looking in. I know I usually don't have these sorts of posts, but I just saw someone in an anon saying how unstable their reality and they were after lurking in the community and it just.... its just so hard to see. Nobody deserves that sort of mental torture. Sometimes I forget that p-shifting actually can be dangerous to some if nobody teaches how important it is to regulate yourself, check in on yourself, and remember that p-shifting isn't for the faint of heart.

It's only for those who have spent so much time over years of their journey, exploring themselves, askong questions, taking breaks, questioning themselves so many times, and checking in, to finally be able to claim that they are able to p-shift. (There is so much more to it than that obviously.) My fourth year of shifting is coming up, and after so long I might be ready to leave the online community permanently and start my journey. (of physically shifting i mean. I spend more time teaching others rather than doing the practice itself right now lol. When i say p-shifting im trying to refer to the whole process, but really talking about the mental shifting and phantom shifting etc. Sorry if its been unclear, many know the whole community as "p-shifters" when in reality "p-shifters" are only those who havw actually preformed a p-shift. I havent yet in my conscious memory so i just call myself a shifter or nonhuman.)

Please be safe. Please, if you are curious about the p-shifting community, remember that it is a mixed bag and not for everyone. As always any community can be a mixed bag, but p-shifting "learning" communities can spiral and be too lax on the warnings and importance of these warnings.

Thats all. (make sure to read all tags fully too.)

[lith-myathar]

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