#plastering problems

[transgenbur]

perhaps its just the toxic inniterisms but he was SIXTEEN and idk it just makes me really fucking angry. im glad that he's now grown up and more confident and clearly fine enough to talk about it pretty calmly but like. that was a fucking kid and he deserved better even just from what we know publicly, and given his allusions to how "horrible" some people were to him well. i think the death by hammers is justified

[dancing-dawn]

i just know the classic lit posters on here have blacklisted the bsd tag

oh, may our boyest of boys ever haunt those most unfortunate slaves to academia that dare verse themselves in the literate genre so brave and profound. but could they ever reach this state of divine revelation, as they are devoid of knowledge for this existence so fundamental to our very being?

a doubt strikes my heart, i fear.

so may they lay hold of those cheery eyes of void and fluffy monochrome bangs and shattered dreams into their very soul. may they be blessed. amen.

[fraternum-momentum]

WE'RE GETTING EVICTED FROM OUR APARTMENT.

[allastoredeer]

The thing that peeves me off about people saying Alastor would never bottom because of his EGO (besides everything you said about Lucifer's ego) is that it also shows such a patriarchal-ly drenched heterosexual view of sex, that they then apply to a MLM ship that drives me INSANE.

They think Top means big, strong man domineering over the small, soft, gentle woman (the bottom) and it's like, that's such a regressive view of heterosexual sex to begin with but now you're trying to apply that to two dudes. Especially two dudes like Alastor and Lucifer, who both have massive egos and other personal hangups that would shine through during an intimate moment with the two of them.

Like, if you think Alastor wouldn't bottom cause he always wants to be in control, but you think control and manipulation can only happen as the top? That the bottom has no power or control over the act? Maybe because I'm ace, but the idea that the bottom doesn't have any control is so weird to me? I'm not even talking about power bottom dynamics either, the bottom controls so much of the act (if it's consensual) cause if they don't like something, it ain't happening.

I dunno. I think it's perfectly fine to have a preference of top or bottom, lord knows I only interact with bottom!Alastor content (I see Al as ace and generally disinterested in sex, so he'd take the position that requires the lease work (in his view)), but I think it's a whole 'nother beast to take that preference and try to force it on other people. I think the people who claim a character in an MLM (or even WLW) ship would ONLY ever top or ONLY ever bottom strictly on the idea of "control" or "ego" need to reexamine their view of sex.

Sorry if this was all over the place, I have so many thoughts and frustrations on the whole bottom!Alastor thing, due in part to the amount of people that comment stupid shit on bottom!Alastor content, but you don't see anyone saying that shit on bottom!Lucifer stuff. ugh

"...is that it also shows such a patriarchal-ly drenched heterosexual view of sex..."

THIS! This here ⬆️ That is exactly it. Everything you wrote is 🤌excellent, but this line. THIS LINE sums it up so perfectly.

Because that's exactly what it is. In almost every patriarchal, heteronormative relationship, the man is seen as the top and always portrayed as big, dominant, and strong. Wheras the women is seen as the bottom, and portrayed as soft, submissive, sweet, and--a lot of the time--naive and innocent.

I hate the patriarchal, heteronormative view's of sex as it is, but GOD, I forget how messed up it is sometimes. It is, as you said, incredibly regressive. More often then not, it creates this unhealthy, pre-established dynamic between two people (usually a man and a women) that completely disregards how they might actually feel about a relationship and what their sexual preferences for a relationship is. And anything OTHER than this pre-established dynamic is seen as "other," or "not normal."

So taking THAT and putting it onto queer relationships just ljsfnlsjgbl it makes me want to rip my hair out.

"Like, if you think Alastor wouldn't bottom cause he always wants to be in control, but you think control and manipulation can only happen as the top? That the bottom has no power or control over the act? Maybe because I'm ace, but the idea that the bottom doesn't have any control is so weird to me? I'm not even talking about power bottom dynamics either, the bottom controls so much of the act (if it's consensual) cause if they don't like something, it ain't happening."

Anon it's like you're reaching inside my brain and pulling out all of my thoughts, and I love you for it.

One of my biggest pet peeves is when people use power dynamics interchangeable with top and bottom. Those two things are not the same. Submissive and bottom are not the same thing. Dominant and top are not the same thing.

Top and bottom (and switch!) is a preferred sexual position. Submission and Dominance (BDSM) is a consensual power-exchange in a pre-determined scene between two or more people.

Someone being a top does not automatically give them more power over the bottom. Or, at least, it shouldn't. There is no agreed upon power exchange. The person topping doesn't have more control than the person bottoming, nor should they.

And I completely agree, Anon. I've always been so weirded out, and unnerved, when bottoms are portrayed as not having as much control in sexual situation than tops. It grosses me out, honestly. I find it very icky, especially when it's perceived as the norm.

"I dunno. I think it's perfectly fine to have a preference of top or bottom, lord knows I only interact with bottom!Alastor content (I see Al as ace and generally disinterested in sex, so he'd take the position that requires the lease work (in his view)), but I think it's a whole 'nother beast to take that preference and try to force it on other people. I think the people who claim a character in an MLM (or even WLW) ship would ONLY ever top or ONLY ever bottom strictly on the idea of "control" or "ego" need to reexamine their view of sex."

Not me copy-and-pasting nearly all of your ask (LMAO) but I just love the points you're making. I have no problem with people having a preference for who tops and who bottoms. Fandom is supposed to be fun, and I want people to have fun. Like you, I generally only interact with bottom!Alastor, and so, I leave top!Alastor content alone.

It's when people try to argue that certain characters can't or won't top/bottom, because of a list of stupid reasons they make up, that I start losing my patience. Especially when their basis for who tops and bottoms is judged on ego or how much of a control freak a character is. People are not that black and white. People are complex and multi-faceted.

And, I know, sometimes people just want to read smut. They want pure filth (amen to that 🙏), and enjoy having a specific character be a submissive bottom and the other a dominant top. Just don't try and push that onto other people by arguing against a dynamic that you don't like. It's weird.

Thank you for the ask, Anon. It's everything to me.

[vvitchering]

Tumblr you are one of the last true bastions of the old social media landscape. Can you please fix your damn mobile app.

[roaldseth]

Bluesky cannot upload custom GIFs yet so I made this for nothing! \o/

[somegrumpynerd]

Woke up and immediately stepped on a sewing needle, bad start

[isaacathom]

my friends and i have been watching the star trek movies and i have soooo many thoughts about first contact but its been like 3 years since i watched the borg episodes in tng and im like. fuck do i need to rewatch those rq to figure out if my faint gripe with first contact is valid or not? shit, man

[cheddar-baby]

I can't post it here cause it'l get my blog wiped but Wolfgang Tillmans has this really beautiful photo Nackt, 2 (Nude, 2) that is just this extreme closeup of some dudes butt and ballsack and it makes me want to shoot some beautifully lit high art nudes. I would love to do some Mapplethorpey photos shot on my big 4x5 camera on a really lovely film stock. Im just not much of a model myself so i'd have to find a guy to pose for it.

[bouquetofrosys]

I Saw the TV Glow and a Theology of Accompaniment

So the other day I watched I saw the TV Glow with one of my friends, and both of us being trans, I often acting as an elder queer in our relationship, had me really thinking about the relationship between Maddy/Tara and Owen/Isabel in the movie and comparing our friendship to theirs. I shared with my therapist the last time we met that I was thinking over and over about "the lesbian character" (Maddy/Tara) in the movie and how it made me reflect on what my responsibility to my friend is in the way that Maddy came back after finding out their own experience of transition trying to convince Owen to come along. And my therapist said something along the lines of Maddy did what they have the obligation to do for their friend when they offered the option they knew would be helpful and set boundaries saying that they were going to go back to what they knew was good for them without forcing Owen to do anything. Which I think is a very strong reading and most likely the most helpful one for the way that I was projecting myself and my own problems onto the character. But it still left me with this feeling of how do you help someone who is trans and/or otherwise queer in their process of transition/coming out without ever forcing them to do something? I feel that I personally have the obligation to help everyone I meet live their most fulfilled life that they can, so I want to help people transition for whom that would lead to their most fulfilled life without being able to make that decision for them.

And this feeling of how can I be with someone who is struggling without taking away their pain myself leads me to the topic often discussed in my grad school classes about a theology of accompaniment. Now I feel that accompaniment gets a bit of a bad rap when it is perceived to be only about someone with privilege attempting to minister to someone facing marginalization by merely being with them in their struggles. While this is a giant step up from white saviorism or telling people to pull themselves up from their bootstraps, folks I speak to can feel it is a cop out for acting for real social change or can be patronizing and paternalistic in its application. However, when I think about accompaniment in the context of I Saw the TV Glow, I am not thinking about someone trying to relate in a topic they have no experience but someone trying to help another through the struggles they have faced themselves. Where one can share in the other's struggles because it is one and the same. Both Maddy and Owen were trapped in the real world away from their "true selves" in the Pink Opaque. And while Maddy has found their way back, they cannot drag Owen along with them. They can only share in each others pain and support Owen's own attempts to get back to the Pink Opaque.

Tying this back to my own problems that created this dilemma for me, I often feel helpless in my friend's transition, knowing that she could be happier than she let's herself be. I have seen what it is like to come out and live a very open life where I can let my transness guide my actions and alter my appearance very publicly to better affirm my own sense of self without worry of others. But my role isn't to drag her, but to show her what I have done. To show that there is a way out like Maddy showed Owen. To show her that she isn't alone. To be there. And as I accompany her on her journey, she is accompanying me and helping me be not so alone.

[reflection-s-of-stars]

William Shakespeare I want to kick your ass so bad

[gogolography]

red white and royal blue widgets

made a bunch of these widgets for my friend's birthday... quotes are all from the book/movie, images also from movie. enjoy :))))

(these work with the small/medium widgets on widgetsmith for ios)

[pagerunner-j]

One of the worst things about April Fool’s Day on the internet: it basically goes for two fucking days straight. It’s not even noon on the 31st where I am and already my feed (on other platforms, not this one so much) is full of bullshit that purports to be “pranks” but is actually just people lying, lying, lying for hours on end.

*Gollum voice* We hates it.

[manchesterau]

if they have a leak in the roof then what the hell else is going on in that house 😭

[sekaicards]

not to tell you how to run your blog or nothin but i feel like the votes might be more accurate if the cards were under the cut just to make it clear that it’s the hairstyle models we’re voting for and this isn’t just like a lim tournament popularity contest lmao

anon i need you to trust me when i say i tried to make the layout of these polls look good and this was the nicest looking i could do