#plural problems

[the-bar-sinister]

I'm very worried about you cause you behave like someone who is posessed. I mean this seriously, you seem friendly and wholesome but you might have opened yourself up to evil spirits. I am COMPLETELY SERIOUS. This is not a hate message, it is a message of concern. I really hope you're safe!!! The list of things that trigger you are the same things that posessed people usually hate. Again, I do not hate you, I hate the evil spirits that are maybe surrounding you. You don't have to make this message public of your uncomfortable with that, but please seek help.

We're sorry to disappoint you, but there is no "me" for you to not hate.

This body is in fact occupied by a collection of evil spirits and no one else.

There is no one to be possessed, we are simply spirits who are currently sharing a mortal body, and yes, we are in fact evil.

This is not news to us, we've known this for more than 20 years.

Your concern is adorable.

[sovereignsystem]

"DID looks so fun! I wish I had friends in my head!"

Three of us just got into a fight and froze in place for 10+ minutes because we all wanted to do different things, we can't even just indulge in hobbies and leisure because we "have friends in our head".

- 🍄 (he/mush)

[cupofdirtandworms]

We got SIX new guys in the span of like 2 minutes... Are we trying to speedrun plurality or something???? Wtf??????

[astral-wings]

Question for fellow genderqueer systems

What do you do when two alters front but both are trans in the opposite directions (transmasc and transfem)

Finding clothes to wear whenever Sadie fronts is a fucking dysphoric nightmare.. I'm transmasc but she's transfem so whatever each of us put on just doesn't work well

I can't fucking stand super fem stuff but she loves fem clothing so what do we do :( I want her to feel seen but I hate the thought of people seeing the body as a girl

For now, our only solution is representing her in a more subtle way, like jewelry and makeup (since I love both)

-💫

[stxrsys]

Plural Problem OTD

[ which, at this point, might be a series ]

Our hair is a choppy chin length type of cut right now. Half of us want to grow our hair back out to their length. The other half wants to chop it off to match their hair.

Instead, we all suffer

[wasteland-treehouse]

I have no clue about Endos, i know y'all aren't faking, you may just be plural from nuerodivergence, spirituality, etc., and i wanna interact with y'all. but I'm still uncomfortable because I've been harassed by some endos, so maybe some endos could interact so i can learn more about y'all experiences?

just know i block freely so don't harass me if you don't wanna get blocked, I'm trying to be nicer to endos and move on, not hate them <3

[the-haven-keepers-collective]

Anyway it's Xiao today and I've fronted once for a short period of time before and that's it. Ever. So uh. I don't know shit about myself but also seeing my simply plural was a jumpscare bc wHO THE FUCK GAVE ME A PROFILE PICTURE AND WHY IS IT THAT-

I'm gonna skin someone I swear to fucking God. I don't even believe in God.

[thedocruby]

Shoutout to my fellow Median and Blurian systems, those brothers and sisters where the lines between alters begin to blur. I know your pain. And I know how hard it is to fight the self-doubt and fakeclaiming that comes with it...

To the Blurians: your lack of amnesia barriers does not disqualify you as a system. And no matter what anyone tells you, amnesia barriers are not origin dependent; you can be traumagenic without amnesia, and you can have amnesia as an endo. Everyone's mind handles plurality differently, and you are allowed to be the system nobody expected.

Blurian systems come with just as many challenges as benefits. I know how you feel; It's not just the privilege of remembering and the ease of communication, its also the burden of confusion and lack of quiet. Not knowing who's memories are whos, struggling to keep straight who likes what, frequent switching, inconsistencies, and constantly blurry front. Ignorance really is bliss, but unfortunately, you don't have such luxuries. And when you try to get some alone time to think, but you have to question which thoughts are even yours... I know your pain, and you are not suffering alone.

We see you. You are real. You are loved.

To the Medians: All the things your headmates have in common do not disqualify you as a system. And no matter what anyone tells you, they do not disqualify you from your origin. There is no requirement that traumagenic or fictive-heavy systems be a random assortment of characters. Nor is there any requirement that endogenic systems have any sort of deliberate order to them. Whether you have a host identity or not, your origin is still valid regardless. Everyone's mind handles plurality differently, and you are allowed to be the system nobody expected.

Median systems come with just as many challenges as benefits. I know how you feel; It's not just the unity and connection with the rest of the system, it's also the confused/unknown front, struggling to find your individual identity, trying to force individuality on yourself just to feel like you're real... Frequent switching can also be a problem here, as the lines between the alters are thinner. Doing things the same way as your headmates, sharing common interests, having the same opinions and emotions... These are all very human things to do, especially with people you hold so close. And still, it becomes so easy to doubt yourself, so hard to find yourself, and in the end they will claim that you are just pretending to suffer through these confusing feelings... I know your pain, and you are not suffering alone.

We see you. You are real. You are loved.

That's all. I hope you have a wonderful day 💖

[blueberri-buni]

I'm confused on my gender again

I've been identifying as genderfluid for about 4 years and I added genderfaunet about a year or 2 ago

I'm not sure if I connect with those anymore, but I don't know what I am if I'm not that

I'm trans, I know that

I've identified as transmasc for as long as I've identified as genderfluid and I'm still sure about that part of my gender

In recent months I've also added transandrogynous and transandromasc, and I still feel connected to those too

I'm not a woman or girl or female or anything like that

I identify heavily with femininity, but that femininity is in no way related to being female

I identify with femininity in the way a man or nonbinary person would

I don't identify with anything that connects femininity to being female or a woman

Sometimes I'm more masc and sometimes I'm more fem and sometimes I'm in between, but I'm no longer sure if the fluidity is my gender or if it's just my presentation that is fluid

Lately, I've also had bouts of feeling genderless but I think that's just because my headmate Vis is hanging around a lot (it's transnull)

That's another thing, being a frontlocked system host makes figuring out my gender and sexuality much harder because my headmates feelings tend to blend into mine when they get near the front

[bluenightcomedies]

unpleasant plural moment, i guess: i'm nobody? i'm not anybody. i don't have a face, name, or persona to put to myself. i can like... look back into memory, but none of them are me. i'm trying to think and remember who "I" am and coming up blank. i'm not freaking out or anything, but it's really weird and uncomfortable. it's like uh... if someone asked who you were and you realized you can't actually answer that. how does that even work? ...this must be what amnesia feels like. hm. well, it'll/i'll probably pass but might as well leave a record and see if someone's got answers.

[sovereignsystem]

I hate to say it. But sometimes, you'll doubt yourself until something bad happens.

Because it's easy to deny you're dealing with something if that something is just inconvenient, if it's annoying, if it's just another thing about you

Until it gets bad. Until it's embarrassing. Until it hurts. Until it isolates you. Until you're scared.

Until something bad happens.

[cupofdirtandworms]

I'm about to start dragging people to front by the legs so they can explain to me why they left their SP profiles HALF FINISHED

-Four 4⃣🪽

[strawberry-graveyard]

it’s so hard when your support/comfort people are in your head. like my headmates are the most important people in the world to me, i’m so glad im here with them, but it’s hard when you need a physical person to help with something. and i don’t know if i trust anyone in real life as much as i trust the ones in my brain.

[stxrsys]

Possibly one of the less fun experiences of plurality is not being able to switch conveniently. Before we go home every day we hug our out-sys best friend, which is always so good, except in two common cases:

1. The person who really wanted to hug isn’t at front (bonus; the person who doesn’t like hugs is fronting instead), thus no one’s happy

2. We’re blurry/floaty, so we barely feel the hug and thus don't benefit from it. Which sucks because we only ever hug him, and no one else.

[www-sys-net]

BEGGING at this point for plural discord servers that aren't fucking dead 😭🙏

[the-haven-keepers-collective]

This is a post where you need to know who's typing it right away, so hello, it's Neuvillette. And I'm going to lose it. /j

I was looking for a better profile picture, scrolling through our Tumblr downloads for fanart, and… instead I find. A horrific* doodle of me as a worm on a string, with someone's fist clenched around it. It's silly, I'm undeniably entertained, I just also want to smite whoever put it in our phone.

The real salt in the wound is that I can't, because I don't remember who did it. We functionally share a memory but that memory does not function.

*to be clear this is not an insult to the artist in the slightest, this is because it was meant to seem a little cursed and drawn purposefully messy! This is said with affection I swear.