#proud to be pan and nonbinary

[bisexualpositivity]

Pride 2024: Who We Are 🌈

Learn more about our project & take the survey yourself here!

[Image Text: What's one thing you love about your identity?]

Quote #1 - I love not having to worry about sex honestly, one less anxiety at least. Quote #2 - How I don’t find value in sexual or romantic relationships. Quote #3 - Women. Quote #4 - I like the term genderqueer in particular to describe myself because it's so ambiguous. What's up with my gender? I dunno, but I'm queer about it! Quote #5 - I like my sexuality because I have a lot of options. Quote #6 - How it makes me question gender roles and other things seemingly set in stone, how I can find beauty and understanding in men and women. Quote #7 - Being bisexual has taught me that some things are not that simple, not that black-and-white. Quote #8 - I love that I live in a time and a place where my being gay is just as normal as any other part of my identity. Quote # 9 - The freedom from rigid definitions of gender and relationships. I don't fit the mold in any way, which can be tough, but it brings so much freedom. I can do things my own way.

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Some quotes were cut short in order to fit on the page. Click on this link to read the full spreadsheet of individual answers in google sheets.

[starswirly]

[ * Happy pride month! Shout out to… the gays! ]

(Nightmare -> Jokublog, Killer -> rahafwabas)

[ * Goofy full picture— I like the Polaroid version better tbh ]

[bumblepony]

Taking my Eldest to the pride parade so they can walk with their school's GSA club!

[npookie0]

Killer Pride

Happy Pride Month everyone!

For this occasion I decided to write a quick spend-pride-with-your-serial-killer drabble <3 Each love interest comes with their own sexuality/gender identity representation so here is the list (only Misaki and Ronin's gender identities are truly canon!) - Ronin -> transgender, bi rep <3 - Misaki -> nonbinary, pan rep! - V -> Asexual rep! - Angel -> Demisexual rep (i hc her as a lesbian or at least bi with fem pref but i wanted this reader to be g.n. so demi was the best choice because to me she's a demisexual lesbian)

Happy Pride and enjoy <3

Ronin

You two were getting ready to go out and take part in a Pride parade that was hosted in Elysium. You were very excited about this occasion, it was supposed to be the first pride you'd be taking part in with Ronin and not for work!

You put on the accessories you found and made with your flag's colours and looked at yourself in the mirror. You felt like your very own Pride star, with the accessories and make up and it felt great, you felt proud of yourself.

"You ready yet, darlin'?" You turned around when you heard Ronin's voice behind you and you gasped, then a giggle left your mouth. "Oh god! Are you trying to become a whole pride flag on your own?" You just looked at him in disbelief.

Ronin, still in his edgy-serial-killer-lord-of-the-night clothes had more colour than you've even seen him wear. Staring from the giant trans and bi flags being attached to his belt, going to all the hand made bracelets he was wearing on his wrists, most of these were probably going to end up as a hand out for all the kids who aren't able to be as open with their queerness as he is. Even his beanie managed to get a rainbow chain hanging from one of the horns. You would never admit it out loud but somehow he looked adorable like this and a tiny bit funny.

"What's so funny?" He raised an eyebrow with a cheeky smirk. "Y'know I'd go all out baby, don't act like you didn't." He ruffled your hair.

Angel

You expected your Pride month with Maria de la Rosa to be rather discrete and hidden, she had some LGBTQ+ friendly companies working with her in previous years, but now you're dating and you were expecting her to be cautious of showing of her queerness in front of her fans, worried of their opinions and comments.

But you couldn't be more positively wrong!

Your girlfriend decided to take you on a walk around the city so she could film a video for her channel about Elysium's ways of celebrating Pride and the traditions that she noticed over the years. The biggest shock for you was the fact that she was holding your hand, talking to you how she always did and even decided to keep the shot of you two kissing on camera.

"So, Maria, could you tell us more about the colours you're wearing today?" You asked, sitting next to her on a bench, Angel asked you to do a little interview with her about her queerness.

"I'm wearing the colours of the demisexual flag!" She answered with her signature sweet giggle.

You asked a few more questions and she even gave you an in-depth introduction to demisexuality. You looked the shine in her eyes, the excitement at the idea of educating her fans, especially the youngest of them, about the community she belongs to.

"I'm so proud of you!" You kissed Angel on the cheek and put the strawberry milkshake in front of her.

"Thank you sweetheart, without you it'd be duller and just way worse." She took your hand in hers. "Happy Pride, I love you."

Misaki :

"Misaki my wrist hurts." You groaned.

Your partner was using your arm as a mannequin for their bracelet, which meant that you had to hold out your arm so Misaki could make the jewellery on you.

"Aw, but think about all the gay kids who will wear these later, our wrist can be sacrificed for this!" They said half jokingly and you just scoffed, a beaming smile on your smile.

"Fine, fine, the baby gays are a fair cause here." You replied and looked over at your forearm that was covered by many colorful bracelets, most of them were rainbow and some other were in specific flag colours. Your wrists weren't the only ones full of queer jewellery, Misaki had some bracelets on their own, mostly ones in nonbinary and pansexual flags colours. You could see the passion in Misaki's eyes, how excited she was about making small trinkets for all the people of the community who maybe couldn't be as open as you two wish they could be.

"Do you think we have enough?" You asked when Misaki started to take some of the bracelets off of you. This was the fifth round of making them and Misaki slowly started to lose the beads with how many she used already.

They looked over at the pile and titled their head, thinking about your question. "It's enough," they paused, "for today at least! We have the whole month to go, babe! We'll make even more."

"I'll get you a real mannequin for this, because my wrists are dying."

"Sorry, sorry! i went a little overboard here." They chuckled.

"Pfft, you're lucky I love you, you silly cat." You kissed their cheek and stood up. "Come on now, we should go now if we want to catch a glimpse of any parades."

V :

"Do you really think you're fine with it?" You asked V who sat in the chair in front of you, you were holding an eyeshadow palette and brush in front of his face.

You and your boyfriend were supposed to go to a queer youth charity event, one that V was very eager to sponsor even before Pride month. Since this event was specifically hosted for Pride every guest was asked to represent their own sexuality or gender identity if they felt comfortable with it.

You suggested that you could give V a asexual themed make up and he agreed, yet you were worried that maybe he felt pressured to do so to make you happy.

V opened his eyes and nodded. "Yes, I told you that I'm happy with this, didn't I?" He raised an eyebrow.

"Well yes, but..."

"My love, I'm an adult, I know what I agreed to and I still want to do it." He reassured you with that gentle and slightly sweet smile of his.

"Alright, sorry I guess I'm just worried since I never was on a big event like that before." You smiled mischievously. "I hope you won't mind a bit of glitter then mr. Valentin, 'cause I'll make you shine." With the playful threat you started to apply make up on his eyes, starting with white as the base and going through gray to black and then on the other edge you added purple. You weren't kidding when you told him about adding glitter, you really did add a tiny bit of silver glitter over the eye shadow for a better effect.

"What do you think?" You asked, giving him the mirror.

"You did a great job, thank you." He stood up and kissed you sweetly. "Do you think that I should also have a flag with me? They're small, but I bought one for me and another for you." He said and pointed towards the flags that were displayed on the bed, you couldn't believe that you didn't see them before.

"Yeah, I don't see why not, we could have them tied to our bags or belts, that's how many people were them too."

Yay! Happy Pride everyone! I was supposed to post this yesterday but well!!!!

Stay safe, hydrated and be proud of who you are <3

I hope to write more pride related fic for each one of them later this month cause these are just quick drabbles for funnsiesss

Also if someone has the pride month calendar pls send it my way I saw 3 different ones on tik tok and I'm not sure which one to trust ;w;

Nate <3

[gray-ace-space]

inflicting it on this blog's followers too

i'm sorry. i had to make this before it tore me apart from the inside. i was possessed. i'm not to blame.

[w3llf4ll]

Let’s see if tumblr let’s me keep this up! Freelancer headcanon, facecanon and height chart! I’m very proud of this, it took ages.

Extended version with bits and scar explanations

Going down the line…

Maine is 7’2” | Gay

North is 6’5” | Gay, questioning demiromantic?

York is 6’1” | Bi disaster

Tex is 5’10” | Bi, leans towards men she can bully /j

Carolina is 5’9” | Bi-curious but doesn’t have time for all that, so “straight”

Wyoming is 5’9” | Pan, Transmasc

South is 5’8” | Aroace, Transfem

Wash is 5’8” | Bi

Florida is 5’7” | Gay, Aromantic, Agender

CT is 5’5” | Lesbian, Transfem, Nonbinary

[multiplicity-positivity]

✨ Happy Pride Month! ✨

🌈 To the plurals who are collectively queer

💕 To the trans, nonbinary, and xenogender plurals

🌈 To the plurals who are mogai/liom or have coined their own terms to define their queer experiences

💕 To the plurals who are questioning if they may be queer in some way

🌈 To the asexual, aromantic, demisexual, demiromantic, greysexual, greyromantic, and other aspec plurals

💕 To the plurals who don’t define or put labels to their gender, sexuality, or romantic orientation

🌈 To the plurals who have queer relationships inside or outside their system

💕 To the plurals who are aplatonic, in queerplatonic relationships, or whose friendships are inherently queer

🌈 To the plurals who are BIPOC, disabled, neurodivergent, poor, or multiply marginalized

💕 To the plurals who are just beginning to find a home and belonging in the queer community

🌈 To the plurals who are bi, pan, omni, or multi sexual or romantic in some way

💕 To the plurals who reject amatonormativity and heteronormativity

🌈 To all queer plurals everywhere!

This is our month to shine and embrace who we are! We hope that every queer headmate and system out there can have a beautiful pride month filled with all sorts of queer things and activities that bring you peace, comfort, and happiness. You belong here, in both the queer and plural communities, just the way you are! Keep being yourself. Keep living your most authentic life boldly and proudly! We love you, we’re so proud of you, and we hope that this month will be filled with joy and acceptance for yourself and your system!

[genderqueerdykes]

yknow what really confuses me is why so many like generally chill but not super well informed cis people don't even have a concept of trans men and transmascs. like how do you hear about trans women and be cool with it and not mentally complete the inverse and assume there's probably trans men around too? why would it be so uniquely one way around and not the other?

it's so weird, i appreciate you pointing this out. this is why i try very hard to stress that outside of queer communities, people have NO clue what a trans man or transmasc is. like whenever you talk to the random uninformed potentially transphobic person next to you in public, they will "know" what a trans woman is (and by that i mean a transmisogynistic caricature) but if you try to bring up trans men they get confused and think you're trying to explain trans women but again

i am a trans woman and trans man. however, i have to use certain verbiage when talking to certain people. for example, my disability lawyer needed to know my name and all of my health conditions and what i look and sound like. i told him for the sake of simplicity that i'm a trans man because technically if you look at my documents, it makes the most "sense" for someone who's not up to date with queerness. he kept calling me a trans woman. even though i kept explaining to him that i was a man and transitioning into manhood, he would go "ah, so you're a woman."

like i've tried to explain trans manhood to a lot of people before. and so many people literally just don't. get it. they don't understand that someone would want to be a man. they don't understand that there really are "women" out there who put on men's clothing and dress and act masculine to feel like themselves. like it's not even the same level of awareness. people genuinely do not know that trans men exist

and people within the trans community perpetuate this, too, which is evil. i've met so many disenfranchised trans women who will sit there and explain how you CAN'T be a trans man and how trans women are the only "real" trans people. even going as far as to throw transfeminine nonbinary people under the bus as well. i've heard this time and time again from cis and trans people. that trans manhood just isn't a thing, that you can't do that, that you're just transitioning to gain more privilege

a lot of people (terfs, rad fems and their suck ups) love to tell gay trans men that they're confused straight women and are transitioning because they have a "yaoi fetish". i've seen a lot of people go out of their way to be misogynistic and transandrophobic as hell just to bang out the stock standard "people i perceive to be women are too stupid to think for themselves" bullshit they've been saying for decades.

can't be a gay trans man. you're told you're a straight cis woman. can't be a straight trans man. you're told you're a confused butch lesbian. can't be a bi/pan/mspec trans man. you're both of those things, now.

i don't get why people are proud to behave this way. it's not helping anyone. trans men exist. trans manhood is a good thing. the trans community isn't a monolith and never will be

[oc-challenges]

WELCOME TO PRIDE CHALLENGE 2025!

Hello guys, gals, nonbinary pals, and every other lovely person in this community! The time has come once again for pride challenge, now in a time where we need pride in our LGBTQIA+ communities more than ever. Check out the last day of the challenge to fill out the form to enter the exchange! BIG THANKS to @come-along-pond for being such a big helper and supporting me throughout the absolute nightmare of a few months it has been, as well as coming up with the brilliant culture idea.

Rules

This challenge is for LGBTQ+ ocs only… hence why it’s called the pride challenge.

Tag your posts with #opc2025 in order to have them reblogged. (please do not tag any non-challenge related edits with this)

DON’T steal edits. If you feel your edit or someone else’s has been stolen, report it to our submission box by following these guidelines.

If you want to make a crossover edit with somebody else’s oc, make sure the other person is okay with crossovers.

Feel free to send us any questions and keep in mind that all challenges are up for interpretation.

Be kind!!

WEEK ONE: IDENTITIES

Day One (June 1st): Gay

Make something for an oc that identifies as gay!

Day Two (June 2nd): Lesbian

Make something for an oc that identifies as a lesbian!

Day Three (June 3rd): Bi

Make something for an oc that identifies as bisexual and/or biromantic!

Day Four (June 4th): Pan

Make something for an oc that identifies as pansexual and/or panromantic!

Day Five (June 5th): Aro/Ace

Make something for an oc who identifies with the aro-ace spectrum!

Day Six (June 6th): Poly

Make something for an oc who is in a polyamorous relationship and/or identifies as poly in anyway!

Day Seven (June 7th): Gender

Make something for an oc who is not cisgender!

Day Eight (June 8th): Anyone Else (Or Again)

Make something for an OC who is LGBTQIA+ in a way we missed in previous days, or take the chance to do another oc who identifies with some of the previous prompts!

WEEK TWO: PROMPTS

Day Nine (June 9th): Terms of Endearment

Make an edit or write about the term(s) of endearment your OC calls their love interest, or the other way around!

Day Ten (June 10th): Live/Life

Show a moment where your oc embraces life, even if it’s messy, bold, or scary. Or show some of the most important moments in their life.

Day Eleven (June 11th): Revelation

Your OC discovers something important about themselves or their identity. What do they realize, and how does it change them or the way they see the world? Maybe a certain someone helped them come to this revelation?

Day Twelve (June 12th): Joy

Show a moment where your OC feels truly happy. What brings them joy, and what does it look like when they let themselves feel it fully?

Day Thirteen (June 13th): Reclaim

Your OC takes back something that was taken from them—like their name, identity, life, confidence, or a word. What are they reclaiming, and why does it matter to them?

Day Fourteen (June 14th): Pride

Your OC feels proud of who they are. What makes them feel confident, strong, or seen? Show a moment where they stand tall and own their identity, their journey of finding pride, or what pride means to them.

WEEK THREE: QUEER CULTURE

Day Fifteen (June 15th): LGBTQIA+ Visage

Choose a queer visual artist (painter, photographer, fashion designer, sculptor, etc.) and make something for your oc using their art, whether that's through writing or edits!

Day Sixteen (June 16th): LGBTQIA+ Writers

Choose an LGBTQIA+ author, poet, or playwright. What would your OC think of their writing? Create a scene, moodboard, or quote-based art that reflects their connection.

Day Seventeen (June 17th): Pride On Screen

Celebrate LGBTQIA+ film or television. Base your OC’s look, vibe, or a short drabble on a queer movie/show or character that resonates with them.

Day Eighteen (June 18th): LGBTQIA+ Music Icons

Pick a queer musician or band (past or present) and create something inspired by their work. How would your OC connect with this artist’s music or vibe?

Day Nineteen (June 19th): Queer History

Pick a moment, movement, or figure from LGBTQIA+ history and imagine how your OC would react to it—or how they’d fit into that time. Would they be marching at Stonewall, creating zines in the '80s, or finding kinship in underground spaces?

Day Twenty (June 20th): Role Models

Maybe you want another chance to highlight someone from the previous challenges, or maybe your OCs connection to queer culture and their queer role models are a fellow oc or character in their canon universe. Either way, celebrate the queer icons who helped your oc connect to the culture, accept themselves, or someone they aspire to be too.

Day Twenty-One (June 20th): Freedom for Joy

Celebrate any other aspect of queer culture-- perhaps your ocs pride outfit/celebration, your ocs drag persona, their coming out, or anything else you can think of!

WEEK FOUR: RANDOM

Day Twenty-Two & Twenty Three (June 22nd & 23rd): Alternate Universes

Put your OC in a different world, fandom, or setting—fantasy, sci-fi, historical, anything fun! Show how their identity stays true, no matter where they are.

Day Twenty Four & Twenty Five (June 24th & 25th): LGBTQIA+ Tropes

Tropes are a ton of fun, and there’s a trope for basically everything! Take a look at this list (or come up with your own) and apply them to your ocs!

Day Twenty-Six (June 26th): Survival & Strength

Share how one of your ocs navigated homophobia or adversity.

Day Twenty-Seven (June 27th): Before & After

Show their transformation in self-acceptance.

Day Twenty Eight & Twenty Nine (June 28th & 29th): Wave Your Flag(s) High

Celebrate your OC’s identity by drawing inspiration from their pride flag(s)!

Day Thirty (June 30th): Pride & Presents

Fill out this form by May 30th, get your match on May 31st, and send in your gift by June 26th! We're closing sign-ups a bit early to make sure everyone has plenty of time to create something truly special. This exchange will follow the same format as past @ocpotluck events! ONCE AGAIN, HERE'S THE FORM! Guidelines Gifsets: → 8+ gifs if using two smaller columns → 5+ gifs if using one larger column → Please only use gifs you’ve made yourself Graphics/Manips: → Minimum of 2 images Aesthetic Boards: → Must include 9 images or more Writing: → At least 500 words Playlists: → Minimum of 10 songs Drawings: → Must include some color → Sketches should be complete and decently detailed Mix & Match Gifts: → Totally allowed! Just be sure to include at least 4 total pieces (e.g. 2 gifs + 2 manips)

[bridgyrose]

For Pride month What are your LGBT+ head canons for ALL of Oz's little soldiers (the more you can include, the better)? (RWBY, JNPR, Ironwood, Qrow, Glynda, etc.)

Just going to do most of the main ones.

Ruby: Aroace trans bi. She's not really attracted to anyone beyond Penny, Oscar, and Jaune and even then, it's less romantic and more in a "I can't see myself living a life without you in it" sort of way.

And then there's whatever she's got going on with Cinder.

Weiss: closet bi. The thought of dating women is still uncharted and dating men has been the safest option.

Blake: canon bi and nonbinary. Gender is just an idea for her.

Yang: demiromantic pan. I know Im going to upset a lot of people for this, but I still think she's into men, she just needs to get to know someone before a relationship starts.

Jaune: trans and bi. I mean, look at him. Can he be anything else?

Pyrrha: bi and proud. Again, look at her. Could she be anything else?

Nora: token straight.

Ren: gender fluid

Oscar: maybe aro, but honestly, still figuring himself out. So, questioning?

Ozpin: he's been everything at least once.

Glynda: lesbian. The mean lesbian.

Qrow: he's a bicycle. Men, women, doesn't matter to him.

[savage-rhi]

LGBTQ+ Pride Scarfs I've been making this past college term. I have pan, nonbinary, trans, asexual (no tassels), and lesbian + rainbow/pride in progress. I don't normally share stuff like this on here but I'm proud of them.

Unfortunately, finding the bi-color skein is next to impossible right now, but maybe I'll have some luck later!

Below is a bonus pics of me trying them on

[sunnylovesgirlythings]

You have no idea how much I want the pride frankie doll. Like they are so cute, I'm waiting eagerly for them to come home lol

Saaaaaame. Both for the sheer importance that doll holds in terms or queer representation in children’s media but also because…

They’re so pretty. Like that’s a gorgeous doll.

The fact I don’t even care that they reuse a lot of accessories says a lot.

Because I understand they likely had to in order to get the doll cheap enough to produce that the execs would greenlight it and because they’re used well.

G3 Frankie is so important as a character right now and I feel a lot of the monster high fandom doesn’t even realise it.

Having an out and proud transgender nonbinary character is the exception to the norm. Not the standard.

They could’ve very easily ended up like characters such as Kai from win or lose for a recent example. Having it reduced to subtext or implication.

But no. They’re explicitly and clearly out, it’s never hidden. They’re allowed to exist this way boldly and comfortably as a transgender teenager.

They’re even allowed to fall in love and get a girlfriend in cleo. Who herself being an out brown pan girl is also incredible.

This? This should be fucking celebrated.

Not just in the monster high community.

Not just in the doll community.

But the queer community as a whole.

Frankie and cleo are a fantastic example of lgbtqia+ love in younger childrens media.

[gogobluedynamite]

Since its Pride month, I figured to share some Bleach orientation headcanons!

I'm not gonna go through every character (I don't hate myself enough for that), just ones I'm confident with my choices.

Uryu Ishida: He's not straight. I have full confidence in that. And (mayhaps its me projecting slightly) I can see him as asexual. I can see him as a nonbinary man as well, though I'm currently not 100% on that.

Ichigo: He's at least bicurious. I hesitate to see him straight.

Orihime: Same for Orihime, actually. Again, I hesitate to see her as straight.

Rukia: She somehow gives me pan vibes.

Renji: ...Straight? I don't know. At the same time, I don't think he's queer...interesting.

Chad: Definitely straight. And a full ally.

Yumichika: Is it stereotypical to call him gay? ...Maybe, but am I wrong?

Karin: I'd imagine by middle school, Karin would realize that she's not straight.

Soifon, Yoruichi, Kukaku, and Harribel are lesbian queeeeeeens!

BONUS!!!

Emotional constipation aside, Ryuken does support Uryu's preferences and identity (he only disapproves the whole Quincy thing). Uryu does *try* to hide this from Ryuken (because he'd think it'll just disappoint the man more and rather not face it), but, again Ryuken honestly doesn't care. As long as his son is alive. Also, I can somehow see Ryuken being rather cross with parents who would mistreat their offspring (child or adult) for their gender identity and orientation...especially if it risks that person's life. He will not hesitate to call that parent an idiot and give a long speech about supporting your child despite your personal opinions

Isshin will be the same way, but he will be loud with his support. He will dress in all colors of the rainbow and own each flag for the occasion...actual, it would be funny to imagine Karin (and maybe even Ichigo) afraid to come out to their father, but not because he would shun them, but because he would make the world know how proud he is of his children. Fear of embarrassment instead of abandonment.

[igamer12]

my htf humanizations \(^o^)/ girls and theys edition

^^^ original sketches! still kinda proud of them but there have been many design changes and improvements since then hahahah (especially in regards to giggles and lammy)

anyways!! additional info :-3 this is kind of an au but also i don't want to do much with it other than design the characters so idk lol BUT: they're supposed to be like. vague college students age-wise. i like to think doing childish things in their universe is just socially acceptable. at least in my au. also: petunia goes by she/they, giggles and lammy go by she/her, and flaky goes by any but mostly they/she/he ^_^ petunia is bi (with a girl preference), giggles is pan, lammy is aroace and flaky is nonbinary and questioning. also petunia and flaky are autistic now. hi

might make more in the future btw hehe :-3 i already have some ideas for splendid cuddles and toothy so they may be next

[mxnox]

I have a story about my transness to tell!!!

I can distinctly remember being a very small child and thinking “I’m a girl. But sometimes I feel like a boy too” and then following that up with “but I have to keep it secret. I’ll sound weird.” For context I grew up in an unsafe household and was constantly hearing homophobic and transphobic crap. What I did and what I said was heavily scrutinized in all categories not just to avoid looking and acting gay.

Then I got to middle school and began seriously being like “okay, I’m definitely a girl…except I also have a boy inside my heart too. I feel like two different people in one body” I didn’t have any words for how to express that differently. I felt split down the middle where the lines between my girl-ness and boy-ness blurred heavily. I still kept that hidden (or so I thought. Looking back on it it was glaringly obvious) but I also started going to my state pride festival with my best friend then too. We’d be in the parade, carrying the flag at the front, or walking with a float. It was so much fun.

Fast forward to high school and i met the first person id ever heard the word “trans” from. It used pronouns I didn’t get and introduced the concept of nonbinary to me though I didn’t understand it at all. It invited me to our school’s after school pride group and even though I felt extremely uncomfortable I kept going. Looking back I’m sure it was the intimate setting and being forced to confront myself before I was ready for it that made me feel so uneasy. I was in extreme denial and kept telling everyone I was cis and straight. (Everyone was like really???? Should have been my first clue🙄🙄). I finally confided in an at-the-time friend about how I felt I had a girl and also a boy inside me (but not in a trans way obviously). He ran with it and would often refer to me using both pronouns(over text only) which made me incredibly happy. He was the first person to suggest I try dressing up as a boy with binding and everything. I agreed and had to lie to my dad in order to get him to buy me ace bandages. I didn’t know at the time that it was super unsafe to bind using bandages so I went ahead and tried my best. Met up with my friend and “pretended” I was my boy self all afternoon. It felt amazing.

I graduated and thought “oh I should leave all that girl/boy stuff behind. It’s childish play pretend and I needed to grow up”. Then I went to the pride festival again as an adult and again faced the “oh when did you come out? :D” questions from my coworkers and I was immediately answering “oh no I’ve never come out, I’m straight and cis” and they’d respond with “hmmmmm 🤔” pretty much. Finally it was a random day, a year after graduating and it hit me like a truck. My brain was like “IM A BOY AND ALSO A GIRL” and then I was like “oh my god. I think I’m trans. I think I actually am a boy and a girl.” And that was all she wrote.

It was like the flood gates opened and all the repressed feelings I’d had just came out. I realized I was nonbinary, that I was ace, that I was aro, that I was pan, that everything I thought I had to keep secret and hidden because I’d be looked at weird, or wrong was my true self. That I’m not broken and I truly do exist and that it’s okay for me to be here and who I am. I grieved over having wasted all my childhood stressing over it and suppressing who I was. I wished I’d had the language and support to have been able to realize it sooner. I wouldn’t have spent so many hours agonizing over my identity growing up.

Now I have a child of my own. I’m teaching them how to be their true self whatever that may be. And they’re proud of who I am. It almost made me cry the first time they told me “mama I’m a boy and a girl!” When they were like five years old. It was no big deal to them then and nor is it now. They’ve never wavered in themself and it makes me happy to know they’re able to live like that.

Happy Pride 🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍⚧️

[rizzmodius]

sdv bachelor(ette)s gender & orientation headcanons

yeah technically theyre all canon bi/pan but this is the truth in my heart <3 adding a readmore because im nice :)

Haley: cis. comphet lesbian, duhhh <33 good luck babe! she used to date Alex, but during that relationship she realized she didnt ACTUALLY feel as interested as she thought she should have. it wasnt until the farmer (if a woman) that she realized shes a lesbian.

Emily: pan but prefers girls. definitely something going on w her gender… i think shes genderfluid, mostly between woman and/or nonbinary identities

Abigail: BISEXUAL. huuuge bisexual. i feel like she’d be a demigirl or bigender (nb&f) or something, shes got some sort of nonbinary in her (me too girl)

Leah: total lesbian yall. proud too. definitely got a butchness to her. love her <33

Penny: shes cis, she THOUGHT she was straight and tries so so hard to suppress any sapphic thoughts but she does in fact like girls (and probably is aspec too). has lots of internalized homophobia and shes always wanted to be the perfect child, perfect teacher, someday the perfect wife and mother, etc and this freaks her out a bit because she worries it means shes “wrong” somehow. YOURE NOTTT PENNY ITS OK TO BE GAY!!! everyone thinks of Haley as Pelican Town’s #1 comphet lesbian but i bet Penny is struggling with this a lot as well, just in a different way. (didnt realize i had so many penny thoughts wow)

Maru: aroace!!! shed be open to a relationship but i think she’d mostly prefer qprs. though dating isnt entirely out of the question, its not a requirement or a big interest to her. probably nonbinary/agender as well, but gender doesnt matter that much to her (i dont think she gets any/much dysphoria)

Sam: PAN and prouddd lol. i could see him being trans or cis, i dont know as much about him though. he could have some nonbinaryism too as a treat <3

Sebastian: bi without a preference towards either, and hes a trans guy. sometimes i forget that this isnt canon 💀

Harvey: bisexual and a flustered MESS lmfao. he could be cis or trans. i think, as a doctor, him being trans would be pretty awesome 👍 it probably influenced his career choice as well, to better understand hrt and surgery and all. thats always a cool thing to look into :)

Elliott: this is a gay man. cant imagine him with a woman, sorry ladies. either cis or a trans man, either way i can feel the genderqueerness radiating off of him (ngl i thought he was a beautiful literary woman at first 💔💔)

Shane: i dont think he labels his sexuality. could be aroacespec, could be multisexual or monosexual, he doesnt know and doesnt care. if he gets a crush, then he has a crush, whatever. i dont think that happens often though. probably nonbinary too but hes got a job so he doesnt have time to think about that right now LMFAO

Alex: cis. gay man who had an experience much like Haley did. they thought they liked each other and dated for a while but that experience started their realizations that neither of them are actually straight lmfao. closeted mlm wlw friendship !!! i like to think it was also the male farmer that confirmed his gayness lol <3