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Slow down for a moment. Allow your heart to guide you, to tell you if there is really a message here for you... And whatever the answer is, feel free to listen to it or to let go. Remembering that when you will be ready or will have the need, your true message will find its way to you.♡

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Yes. Because, even though it's unfair, even though it was so overwhelmingly painful and challenging - it was necessary. Because you're so persistent and ready to fight for what you love, for what you consider right... that you would've never been able to let it go. To see the reality, understand and accept the fact that it was more harmful than right for you. That situation. That decision. That person. The ones that the world decided to protect you from, stepping in when you needed it the most. Even if you are starting to realize it only now. Now that, not so gently but for your own good, you were pushed away. Into a new and different phase of your life.

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Even though this journey was always meant to end... Its transformation into that battle that you've had to endure was not the way it was supposed to happen. Your heart, so powerful, convinced and ready to fight for what it feels is right... Was too strong this time. Had too much resilience to make this work, no matter how, no matter how much you would've need to try. And although there is absolutely nothing wrong with it... Sometimes it's exactly this desire and perseverance that makes us lose sight of the reality and what is right.

Especially, when we are running from our past, determined to don't make the same mistakes that scared us so much. To the point that it's easier to sacrifice ourselves to make everything change and adapt, then to accept that no matter how much we tried to avoid it, we found the same pain and nightmare even if in someone new, far away from the past.

But everything is alright now, even if it still hurts and every memory makes your heart tremble. You are fine now. You are safe. You escaped and found your right path once again.

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Pile Three, the six of wands

You handled it much better than you imagine. You made the right choices even if the wounds they created make you doubt. It happened. But it doesn't really matter why or how. It's already in the past, as the time keeps running and drags you with its passage. With all the new beginnings, new people, new moments and emotions that almost overwhelm your life. Not leaving you a second to process and allow yourself to take a break and realize...

But rather than being a cruel joke and coincidence, it's more of an awkward way of this world to not allow you to fall into that spiral in your mind. It's their way to not allow you to focus on anything but your strength, courage and all the things that still await you in your life.

Because the most important thing, truly, is that you are here now, and everything about what happened... is already far far away in the past. The one that you already faced and survived, and that doesn't need anymore the attention of your heart and mind.

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"The Bouquet", 1900, by Wladyslaw Czachorski.

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Slow down for a moment. Allow your heart to guide you, to tell you if there is really a message here for you and in which pile it hides... And whatever the answer is, feel free to listen to it or to let go. Remembering that whenever you will be ready or will have the need, your true message will find its way to you.♡

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When they see you, when they look at you... They see the strength of someone who keeps trying, even when every part of them is so tired and consumed. They see the eyes of someone who got through it all, but that still tries to calm down that resentful voice that can't but highlight the worst now in this world... They see someone that tries its best to remain the same gentle and loving soul. While feeling the shift in each part of you that tries to face it all, by becoming rigid and unfazed by all the challenges that you are forced to endure. They see someone who is worthy of that love, affection, and serenity that slowly but finally is flowing in your life again...But they see also someone that can't win completely against their hurt and tortured heart that keeps seeing the danger in disguise in every moment... And they truly would like to help that precious and poor soul of yours. Help you to remember that there is more, that there isn't only darkness, loneliness and cold. And that you deserve a chance to live and feel it. You deserve much much more.

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They see in you the version of them that they already lost. The reflection of what they once so ardently desired to be, to appear in this world. That strength and courage in learning, from others, from your own self, in seeing not only the hurt and bad in this world, but also all the other beautiful things that can grow from those. Transforming a wound, remains of a destroyed love or dream, in a new beginning, in gained knowledge, in the strength to live for more. They look at you and they are mesmerized, overwhelmed with admiration for you but also regret and judgment for themselves. For the moment they stopped to look around for more convinced that everything that there is - is not worthy anymore. It might not look like it... But every moment with you, every word you speak... It's gentle but still a hard to swallow pill for them about how there was indeed a different way of coming out of all those challenges and nightmares. That there was, there is, still something to live and fight for.

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P.s. See the full painting at the end!♡

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Slow down for a moment. Allow your heart to guide you, to tell you if there is really a message here for you... And whatever the answer is, feel free to listen to it or to let go. Remembering that when you will be ready or will have the need, your true message will find its way to you.♡

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There isn't really so much room for a risk... When you already spent so much time doing it, or to be exact imagining it, in your mind, putting yourself in the shoes of those that you were silently jealous of. Their life so different from yours.

There isn't much to check, control, be sure of. Simply because consciously and unconsciously you waited for this, you prepared yourself. Going through every way it might feel and be. It's not uncertain, it's not improvised and sudden - you were and are ready for this. You only can't find the courage to make that first step, leaving your current live behind.

But it's not so tragic, it only feels like it. Because it's something so new but at the same time that one thing that you wanted and missed for so long. But it won't be this life or that, this beginning or your older path. Nothing will collapse, shift so drammatically, leaving you without any way out of it if you won't feel convinced about this new journey and opportunity in your life.

In reality it will be much more subtle, gentle, step by step. Because this is just an opportunity for you, a chance, to taste and check this idea and desire that you've had. It's a possibility to understand it more, finally feel it, instead of only dreaming and imagining. So you can really decide if this is something of which you would like to have and experience more.

And if it will not be... If it will be so different from the image that you painted in your mind... You will still be able to make steps back. To your old but for this reason safer life. Where you will have the time to calm down and rest, getting ready for a new idea that you will want to try.

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It is not really a matter of is it safe or not... It's more about whether you will decide it to be one. Whether you will allow yourself to take this path, this opportunity and chance for something more and different... Even if there is so much that is uncertain and uncomfortable for your anxious and still so inexperienced mind.

It depends on whether you will go for it, finally and fully being aware of the fact that, as always, one way or another, you will make it work. Enjoying this journey, using those scary or confusing parts of it to transform it in something even more exiting and beautiful. Something that is worth to be proud of, of the fact that you lived and experienced it on your own.

It depends on whether you will allow this chance to help you to come out of this shell, this old and tiring life that so ironically you got used to, to the point of being afraid of letting it go. It depends on whether you will allow yourself to simply enjoy it, without thinking already now, before making even the first step, of all the obstacles and turns that you might need to face.

It depends on all of this, it depends on you. Simply because your heart and mind are so powerful. To the point that they are shaping an experience that you yet still need to do. Something that you have so little information and idea of... But that you can already picture so well in all those worse scenarios and chaos that your mind shows.

It depends on you. Because this chance it's something that you truly earned, worked, planned and dreamed hard for. But that in the same way you can deny yourself, letting it go before even holding it in your arms that deserve it all. All the emotions, positive or negative. All the moments, new and old.

All the changes and even more beginnings that this journey holds for you. And that to receive you need only and simply to allow yourself. Allow yourself to find the courage for this first step only once.

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We could look at this opportunity from all the different perspectives. We could look at the future, at what it holds for you if you follow this path... But no matter the answers, the results, risks or successes, it will be all useless in front of the one and simple fact - this step is the one desired by your heart.

And even if you will leave this chance behind, after counting the pros and cons, even if time will pass and you will convince yourself that it was for the best and you weren't really ready.... it will still never leave your mind. How it could've been, what you would've experienced, if it would've changed your perception of this world, your life or who you are.

So listen to your heart for this one. Follow this desire. Not because it's the safe or the right one. But simply because it's exciting and new for you, and this is what already makes it worth the try.

You can enjoy things just for what they are, for the moment they create in your life. It doesn't necessarily need to be part of a bigger picture, a bigger plan. It can be just for now and just for you. Gifting you the emotions that you crave so much right now.

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"Rainy Season in the Tropics", 1866, Frederich Edwin Church

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Slow down for a moment. Allow your heart to guide you, to tell you if there is really a message here for you and in which pile it hides... And whatever the answer is, feel free to listen to it or to let go. Remembering that whenever you will be ready or will have the need, your true message will find its way to you.♡

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Deep down you already know and feel it, what they see when they look at you, what they feel when they stand so close to you, when you are in the same room... You feel and know it because the reason you really saw them was the incredible intention, gentleness, interest in their every word and gesture towards you.

You saw them because of the different rhythm in their steps, a different tone hidden in their voice as they talked and smiled at you. And while you now feel so unsure, while you are so afraid of projecting only your desire and seeing in them much more that there really is...

They can't stay still, looking for the right way to come forward, being still so unsure that you might accept them and allow them to come closer, allow them to see and feel more of you and of your world.

Because even if you know so little for now about each other, the desire to understand more pulls you both in and closer. Creating an exciting possibility for more.

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Although it's not by mistake that you feel something subtly moving and shifting between you as you continue to spend time together and learn about each other more... It's not the right moment to allow your heart and mind to be overwhelmed by this idea, by this chance for something more.

You are much more similar than you can imagine now, you are both so familiar with the pain of a betrayed heart. And while you are trying to overcome it thanks to the hope that someone new might be completely different from others... They are trying to heal themselves by protecting and hiding this part of their soul.

They are not ready. Not only for you or for this possible connection, but in general to love and be loved again. Simply because it still deeply hurts.

And being so soon, something more is really uncertain in this future that still needs to be written. And that depends on how much and when their heart will be ready to overcome.

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Slow down for a moment. Allow your heart to guide you, to tell you if there is really a message here for you... And whatever the answer is, feel free to listen to it or to let go. Remembering that when you will be ready or will have the need, your true message will find its way to you.♡

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Not every single opportunity and chance, no matter how good they are, needs to be taken and accepted into your life. Even if you wanted it for so long. Even if you waited. Even if you worked so hard for it before feeling this shift in your heart... You don't owe nothing to noone, but your own self and what simply feels right for you now.

There is nothing wrong in pursuing something and then discover that you are not really ready for this step now. It is okay to try it, and then realize that it's different from what you pictured in your mind.

It is fine and safe to don't take this chance, allow it to pass, leaving it to someone else. Because it is not the first nor last one. And even if it is - this shouldn't be the only reason you go for it in the first place.

We are complex, we constantly grow and change, feel so many different things, have so many ideas... And if by the time this opportunity came you just don't feel about it the same way anymore... It is okay.

Don't force yourself, if you already feel deep down that it's something that you don't want. Don't judge yourself only because you changed your mind and chose something that attracts you more now. You won't miss on anything, nor will you betray someone or yourself. You will just choose one journey instead of another, exactly like this life it's supposed to be.

And this opportunity will go to someone that feels like it's the right one for them, who will feel ready and truly excited about it. Leaving in your life more space for something that aligns with what you feel and crave now. For a different path, for a new beginning. Because it is not the end of this world or your life, it is only an end of a phase. And it's absolutely fine this way.

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There is nothing wrong in standing your ground, in protecting your life, who you are. There is nothing wrong in not allowing others to change this aspect of you, of the way you see and feel this life. It is always and only should be up to you, to write your story, and to mold it adopting to new phases of your life.

Don't judge yourself, don't feel sorry for speaking up. Because if it's important for you, it should be important for others close to you too. And it shouldn't be a matter of if they allow you to live and embody this part of you or not. It should be only about whether they understand and accept your heart.

And if they don't... It is deeply sad, but it is right. It is right to protect yourself and walk away, from those that only love and support you when you do the things in their way.

It will be fine. You will make it through. You will find those that notice you and cherish you exactly for this part of you. And as time will pass... Even they will understand it. Seeing how much they lost when walking away you took from their life this part of you too. And finally understanding how much they were asking you to lose of you.

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Life is all about the experience. About experiencing different moments, trying different ideas, feeling so many emotions... Until we find the right ones for us, until we find out who we are and who we want to become. Life is all about trying, making mistakes, understanding that it's not for us and trying again. It's not about judging yourself for your progress, for your "luck", for the way our heart and mind change their decisions so often or so fast. Because there is nothing wrong with that, there is nothing wrong with living this way.

Because it is exactly how our journeys are supposed to be so we can truly feel it and understand it. The effect things have on your heart or our mind. Because you are not wrong, not committed, not intelligent, stable or mature... you are just a human who is growing each day. And that does it in the most natural way.

Don't try to limit yourself, your character, your emotions and ideas, the courage that you have to try. Because it's what makes you - you. It is what is molding you in the person that you are supposed to be, through all the experiences and answers, realisations, that it gives you each time.

Don't judge yourself only because others do. Life is different, experiences are infinite, and the way to go through them and live them depends only and exclusively on what we feel in our heart and the rhythm with which it chooses to pound for what makes it feel alive.

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"In the Garden of the Palazzo Colonna in Rome", 1867, Ludwig Von Hagn

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Slow down for a moment. Allow your heart to guide you, to tell you if there is really a message here for you and behind which image it hides... And whatever the answer is, feel free to listen to it or to let go. Remembering that when you will be ready or will have the need, your true message will find its way to you.♡

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You have still so much to experience and live through, so many moments to create and feel... And yet what you got through until now left you already with so many scars and so much knowledge about how to heal and take care of ones tired heart and soul.

It's not an easy awareness to have within you. It makes your own feelings be overwhelming, so clear and much stronger then many people could bare and feel. It makes you unable to look away when others feel something, when they are the ones to feel turn apart and filled with pain. It makes you feel responsible, for you, for others, for this world... Even if you are not at all the one who causes this pain and despair around you. And it makes you hate this part of you, this gentleness and care that makes you so easy for others to use...

But while so many might have turned their back on you after using your strength and support to live through a moment, leaving you hurt and drained, sad of how often it happens again and again... Your readiness and willingness to feel so much, to understand so well and to find that one thing that could help others, is not at all something bad, a curse on your soul. It's an incredible gift, a natural call that you feel each time and can't resist. Something that so few in this world can do and really handle. Something that you should be proud of, regardless of the way others thank you or decide to take it for granted and to ignore. Because even if they are not with you, even if they might not understand or appreciate what you did for them, perhaps even misunderstanding it and feeling somehow hurt... They still live. They still overcame that storm. Healed that wound. They are still able to make further steps in this world. All thanks to you and to your gift of knowledge and feelings, and your courage to share it with others. To help through such powerful love and gentleness, that not anyone has the strength to embody and carry in this world.

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You just can sense it. You can feel it under your skin... The moment something shifts and hides a danger, a truth that for anyone but you is hidden in plane sight.

So often you try to shake it off, perhaps thanks to so many advices and kind and helpful" opinions of others that convince you that its simply all your mind... But it never goes away does it? Even when you try so hard to not listen, your heart continues to whisper and warn you, guide you, past many situations and people that don't have at all your best in mind.

Some call it overthinking, trauma, deep fear and negative expectations about the way this world can treat you. Ohters call it intuition, inner knowledge, angels guarding you behind your back... But the truth is much deeper and sweeter. Hidden in everything you overcame all on your own, the battles you won not against the others, but against your own mind that was so mean to your poor heart. You protected it your protected your self every single time, no matter how hard it was to be able to see the truth and work on the subtle ways others and even your own self tried to manipulate you and hurt you. And now... Tha part of you knows and remembers it. Giving you back that love and care, that protection that you had the courage to give yourself, by guiding you thanks to an incredible power. The power that you on your own created and gifted to yourself.

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It is not at all easy to deal with one's tired, confused, sometimes angry and furious mind. It's not at all easy to face it, try to calm it, looking for something positive, something that is worth to keep going, each time your mind screams how it's all useless and wrong. It's not easy to speak it's language, to be courageous enough to look each time deeper and be willing to understand where all that hate comes from... But you did it, again and again. Standing up for yourself, fighting, even when your worst and strongest enemy was your own insecure and vulnerable mind. You found, you find, again and again the motivation, reasons, to go further. To continue this life, these journeys, even if it means doing it one slow and challenging step at a time. You face it all and you overcome it.

Demonstrating each day to your mind how there is no need to be so scared and loud about it. That you can, indeed, have faith in yourself and be proud of each day that you live through moving forward. It is not easy. But you are able to do it again and again, despite it all. You are able to tap into the incredible power of your heart, of hope and faith, of the courage, and use it to help yourself. And to remind your mind and others that nothing is impossible. And that even the scariest and darkest nights can be faced with the light of our soul and the love for our own selves, that deserve to come out of it and experience all that this world and life has in store.

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Slow down for a moment. Allow your heart to guide you, to tell you if there is really a message here for you... And whatever the answer is, feel free to listen to it or to let go. Remembering that when you will be ready or will have the need, your true message will find its way to you.♡

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This wait, this hope, this constant search for more in this situation and the grip of pain that your heart holds on you... It is doing much worse, it is hurting you much deeper, than they ever did. Than they or anyone ever could.

All because of the profound love for them, for you, for your hearts together. For your connection and your story. For what you were and what you could've been. All because of that love that simply doesn't want to accept this ending, doesn't want to ruin the memory of that fairytale with the reality of it all.

Convinced that if you do accept it, surrender to this cruel and not at all magical end... It will invalidate everything that you felt. Transforming that deep and sweetly overwhelming love... In just delusion, another mistake, another wound on your tired heart. Another lie. Another fantasy and its destruction.

Another you that is too naive, too romantic, just too good. Who stayed allowing yet another person to betray and hurt you. A person that, no matter what happened and all this pain, you still remember so tenderly. Incapable of seeing them as someone that could've done for you so little, or perhaps, that done to you so much.

But it doesn't need to be black or white, only one thing or another. It doesn't need to be a perfect story from the start to end to be worth it. Because there isn't a perfect one. The ups and downs, the realizations, mistakes and learning, lies and truths, are exactly what make a story worth to be lived and listened to. Worth to be remembered and carried in our hearts.

You don't need to be only a hopeful or a cautious person. They don't need to be a dreamy lover or a villain in disguise. Your story, your moments, don't need to be only sweet and tender or false and cruel... They can be both. They can be sour and sweet at the same time. They can be heart wrenching but still right.

The same way you can cherish the connection you've shared and love them, while still accepting this ending. Letting it go and recognising that it's moment to stop.

Because not everything that is beautiful, good, and so deep, needs to exist forever. And perhaps it's what it gives more worth, and allows us to cherish it. Truly. In the memories of what we lost, but that we still had a chance to love.

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What you are holding onto.. is very different from what you tell yourself in your mind. It's different from them, from your story, from the moments that you've created and shared before ending it all... No matter how sweet, tender, warm it all were...

What you are holding onto is something that never happened, but that could've been real if only you had more time together. If only one of you tried more, if only one of you listened more, hoped more, waited more...

You are holding onto what could've been. Unable to let go of the person that felt so vivid, that made you feel so deeply, because they were the last one that your heart had the courage to connect with. And deep down you fear that it was not only the last person, but also the last chance, the last forces and faith that you've had in finding the right one.

But it's okay to let go of them. It is safe for you to let this connection end, for your heart too. It is safe, right, for you to surrender and let this love fade. Because you will never be so lonely as you will be while waiting for them to change their mind. You will never be as hurt as when your gaze meets only their fading foot prints, while they keep walking away without turning back. It will never be worse, than what you feel now as you put yourself in a cage, convincing you on your own that this is all that there is and will be for your heart.

It is scary, it is tiring, to start all over again. Without knowing if you will have at all a chance to create something new, if you will have the strength to let someone new into your life. But in this worry there will be also excitement. In that uncomfortable fear and uncertain steps, there will also be so many beginnings, new experiences, new feelings. That you will let in as soon as you will realize that only because it was so strong, so overwhelming, so important... It is not the only option and way to find love. To experience love. Not the only person to be loved by, not the only way to be treated and cherished. Not the only right chance and way for your heart to tremble so sweetly, making you feel alive again.

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Will it be worth it or not... Will depend only on you. But not in how it will end, what else can be done or what you can come up with to make them have a change of heart... The worth of it all will depend only and truly on what you will learn, what you will choose to understand and remember from this, keeping it from now forward in your heart as you walk through this life.

It will depend on how you will choose to see yourself, the narrative that you will tell about what happened and how you lived and felt it. It will depend on if you will once again conclude that you were not worthy or good enough, that you needed or need to do more, to give more, to convince more...

Overlooking this time too, how much you already gave of yourself, the work you've done, the readiness and courage of your heart that kept fighting and hoping. And that even now, overwhelmed with this love that doesn't seem to vanish, still looks for a reason that can excuse them, their decisions and how they treated your soul.

Because at the end of it all... You are not waiting for them to come back because of them, of their love, of their heart... But you are waiting for your own self and what them returning would mean, would demonstrate, about your worth to your own heart and mind.

But you don't need them, or anyone else to be worthy. You don't need to be chosen by them to demonstrate it and make it true. You can do it only by yourself. By what you think about your own self. The worth that you give to your own self and the parts of you that you are ready to change and sacrifice for others again and again.

Let them go. It's all ended now. There is nothing more that you can or should do. Because you already did so much. And the fact that it is still not right, not enough for them, is not your responsibity. It doesn't say a thing about you but says a lot about them, and perhaps their wounded, confused and tired hearts and minds.

They know their worth, they know what is best for them, they choose it even if it hurts others prioritizing themselves. And so you too can. Your worth, your deserviness, your love, is not categorised and determined by others and how much they choose you above someone else, including themselves.

It is only determined by how much you understand that someone is not right for you, for one reason or another, letting them go. Instead of trying to change it and make them stay, to hold together the story you chose to tell yourself now about you and your connection with them. It is not determined by how much you hold onto them or someone on you... But only on how much you hold onto yourself.

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"In the Boudoir", Delphin Enjolras, 1857–1945

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Painting: "Flora", Max Nonnenbruch, 1892

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Slow down for a moment. Allow your heart to guide you, to tell you if there is really a message here for you and behind which image it hides... And whatever the answer is, feel free to listen to it or to let go. Remembering that when you will be ready or will have the need, your true message will find its way to you.♡

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You should focus on... Not focusing. Not over analysing, checking, controlling things and situations in your life. Simply because you did a lot. You really did. Since the very first moment this situation presented you with a problem, challenge, you threw away everything else just to take care of this. You dived deeper and deeper in it, with your every decision, thought and emotion. With your every second, no matter if you were asleep or awake, if you were working on it or pretending to live the rest of your life.

You allowed it to consume you, from the very first moment categorising it as the most important and for this reason dangerous thing. And maybe it really is. So important to solve this puzzle, find a solution or an answer. But at the same time... Is it really only your responsibility?

Does it really depend only on you and what you will manage to do? Or is it more influenced by others, people or circumstances, sometimes even just the timing of the things..? Deep down you know the answer, but unfortunately it's simply not enough for you to make you slow down and wait.

And more you think about it, more you realize how many other things are actually determining how this will end - and more you become frustrated, more you feel the need to do something about it. Because you can control yourself, not others. And allowing them to decide your fate, the result of the situation that you are in... Is simply not a risk that you can or are willing to take.

But I'm afraid you will need to do it. To step aside and just allow this situation to evolve by itself. Because, even if you are to do something about it... There is nothing else that you didn't already try or did. And there is nothing in you left to dedicate to this situation to which you already gave every single drop of your energy and hard work.

There is a reason behind every situation that we are simply not able to shift and take care of on our own. There is a reason why it takes the work and awareness of so many others, or perhaps their ignorance and neutrality that we are not able to have. You did your best, you did everything you needed and could. And it's enough to come out of this. You only need to give this situation a moment to shift and follow the direction that you showed. You need to give it time, because finding so many solutions and ways, trying them all again and again... You simply didn't allow the situation, right people or opportunities to align, forcing them to constantly change running after you who never stops.

It's going to be okay. Even if it will not resolve in one moment or day. Even if it will not happen exactly like you pictured and prepared for. It will still be okay. Because you are not alone in this. You are not the only one who is doing your part, there are so many people and circumstances, decisions and coincidences that you simply can't grasp...

Allow yourself to step back. Acknowledge what you did, how much you did. And be proud of it for a moment, no matter how and what will happen in the end. And allow for once others, this world, to do their part. Without necessarily expecting the worse if you are not controlling every step and way of this moment in life.

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It is honourable, the way you found up until now the strength and resistance to keep going, to looking for a solution day after day, trying and putting in the work in hopes to make it through and see how it was all worth it. It makes you proud, as it should, for your courage and patience, of the simple but so important desire and motivation to create that life that you deserve. But in this proudness, in all those challenges and obstacles that you were able to overcome all by yourself again and again... Something changed in you. Something shifted, passing by unnoticed. Something that now is, from deep down, sabotaging and limiting you so much, without you realising why that same perseverance and hard work is not enough now.

You became so confident in yourself, in your own abilities. You learned so much about what you can do, how many solutions and ways you can find. With which mastery you can execute your own ideas and plans... So much that it became sacred, the only way of doing and handling things that makes you feel truly sure and in the right. The only one that doesn't put you at risk by trusting others, their advices and thoughts that only add sourness to the situations that of it already have enough.

And it was true, it is true: the reason you are here, the reason you came so far is exactly thanks to you and your courage to believe in your own decisions and goals, not listening to those that tried to pull you back...but now it's somehow different. Now those voices, those advices... Are not trying to stop you - they are actually giving you insight on what else might work. What you can do instead and make it. If only you stop protecting your plan, looking for other reasons that explain why it doesn't work.

You had a plan, and you did your very best to follow it. And it's something that for sure deserves respect... But you can work hard and still make mistakes. You can be sure of something, and still realise that perhaps it wasn't the right direction to take. You can be able to handle a lot on your own and thanks to your experience and creativity... And you still can recognise and follow the advice or the example of someone else. It doesn't matter if you make a mistake. What matters is the fact that you have enough courage to admit it the same way you have it now to ignore and keep pushing your initial plan.

So take a step back. Allow your plan to change and adapt. Without any shame or fear of trusting others. Because being indeed capable of so much and so confident in your own judgment and ideas doesn't exclude the possibility that the ones of others might be still good and valid too. And the falsity of some, doesn't invalidate the good intentions and genuine desire to help of others.

Breathe. Slow down. You are doing just fine. And it willl be still fine even if you change the way you walk on this path. Your goals, you desires and your needs will still be there and wait for you. And you willl make it. But only if you allow yourself to learn something new, to try something new. The same way you did back then when you discovered your own indipendence and strenght. With the understanding that not every word, opinion or different idea is to look down upon you or judge you... But to help you and show you how easier and still worthy it might be when you accept that help. When you let in the guidance of others who already did this path and want to warn you about the mistakes that they did.

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Slow down for a moment. Allow your heart to guide you, to tell you if there is really a message here for you and behind which image it hides... And whatever the answer is, feel free to listen to it or to let go. Remembering that whenever you will be ready or will have the need, your true message will find its way to you.♡

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Your message is right after this little question from me. You don't need to stop here and let me know your opinion - but it would be really helpful and important for me if you decide to do so!♡

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Hi!♡ This blog grows day by day, and I really want to make it as comfortable and interesting as possible for every beautiful soul that finds and joins us!♡ For this reason I would like to know your opinion regarding something... To connect to this World, to our Guardians that are always by our side and ready to help us, I use my trusted tarot cards. And I always mentioned the cards that come out for every message and pile... But thinking about it, I realized that perhaps there might be many people that enjoy the guidance and messages on this platform regardless of where or from whom they are coming from. So I wanted to ask you...

Thank you for helping me out!♡

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It's so painful, so tiring... To look at your life right now with all its challenges, constant ups and downs that never give you the time to enjoy a little moment of peace... Never allow you to breath remaining in the now that so rarely feels safe... The same things again and again, repeating themselves through different people or situations... But still and always coming back, as if you never did all that hard work, never tried and gave your best, never deserved some reassurance and serenity for all the lessons that you've endured...

It makes your heart ache, your mind feels heavy and so confused... Creating a natural need to escape. To hope that somewhere or through someone you can find the keys to a different reality, get to know about the mysterious destiny of your soul. Something deeply different from what you are forced to live right now, but more familiar and needed to make you feel your truest self, to make you feel at the right for you place and time.

But... No matter how many challenges, how many obstacles and battles that this life puts on your shoulders, making you face them no matter if you are ready or not... It's still your life. It's still a journey, an adventure, a story that is unique to you. That you once imagined and created in your mind the same way you are doing now, trying to hide from the present moment and this life.

You see in you memories a deeper meaning, more fulfilling adventures, romantic and poetic lives. You find yourself feeling that sour and subtle mourning of the lives that seemed so much more, so much better, so more right for your soul then the one of the now. And without realising it, or perhaps contrary knowing it, you try to shut this life down, to skip it by hiding in those memories, visions and dreams... Forgetting a tiny but important detail: that those are past lives for a reason. The same one for which your heart, your own soul, decided to live once more, to experience more, to feel something more and different. Something that you never experienced and lived before.

It might be frustrating now, perhaps it is your whole life that you can remember... But it's still your life, the one that you are meant to live now, grow into, and shift adapting it to your dreams. And those are still memories, still past lives, still things that were not enough for your soul back then, not enough to make you stop from experiencing this Universe through many more lives. Exactly like this life seems not enough for you now.

You will always keep them in your heart, those experiences, those adventures and moments that you got through in all those centuries, making you be who you are now. They will always talk to you, sometimes even guide you. Those past versions of you will always speak to you and remind you of something that you now are not really able to understand... The fact that it is not this life that is too difficult, not right, somehow wrong and torturing for you, too hard to deal with and overcome, and simply not how you want or need it to be, never enough... But it's just the desire in you that you were never able to satisfy, traveling through literal lives to find that something more... It's just the excitement and wander for what else there might be out there, how else you can experience a human life. That feeling that now... Is being slightly misunderstood, confused and influenced by the hardships and obstacles in your life. The one that your own self, through space and time, is trying to explain to you, by gently reminding you that those stories, those things.... You already did them, you already lived them. And that much more that you are seeking is ahead of you and not behind.

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You feel so stuck, so overwhelmed, so lost between all these options and possible mistakes in front of you that seem all the same. Making it impossible for you to choose the right thing... And overwhelming you with the paralysing fear of choosing the worst.

It is tiring, not being able to choose or find a solution no matter how much you look around, no matter how much these situations surround and pressure you, demanding your attention right here and now...

And seeing all these dreams, remembering those moments... Seems just a mean joke of your subconscious mind that reminds you of others, perhaps better situations, so different from what you are forced to deal with now.

But is it really? Is your own subconscious mind so mean and determined to confuse you only more? Or is it perhaps your own self that tries to remind you something... That tries to show you how many moments, situations, literal lives you were already able to live through and overcome?

Is it adding more salt to your fresh wounds, or is it trying to show you how much strength, courage and inventiveness you have hidden in your heart? Is it mocking you with the lives that you can't have, or is it trying to help you shift your perspective, making you realise how much potential has the life that you live now?

It might not feel like it at all now - but you have an incredible power, such a strong spirit within you. The ones that can transform every obstacle, every fearful moment in a mere chapter, followed by another one. It is not the end, what you are going through will not be able to destroy you. You are not consumed completely, you are not hopeless without any possibility to get out...

You are only tired. You just need a moment to stay still and recharge your energy again, thanks to the powerful and almost magical work of your mind and heart. And this... Doesn't mean that you are weak, or falling behind everyone else in your life. It is only a moment of rest that even the strongest heroes need, before overcoming amazingly every obstacle that they come across in the adventure of their life.

You got this. The same way you did in the past, in this or other lives. There is nothing that you can't overcome, resolve, manifest or experience. And those mistakes that seem so scary and dangerous now... are just ways to spice this story up. Adding more character and worth to you, the one who will one day be looked at with admiration for your strength and courage to, sometimes, mess up. Learning even more about yourself, your abilities, and the different aspects of this world and this life.

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Slow down for a moment. Allow your heart to guide you, to tell you if there is really a message here for you and behind which image it hides... And whatever the answer is, feel free to listen to it or to let go. Remembering that whenever you will be ready or will have the need, your true message will find its way to you.♡

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Hi!♡ Before looking deeper into this question... I would like to do another one to you.♡ Obviously you don't need to stop by here if you don't want to - your message and reading is right here after this question. But if you do answer, it will be incredibly helpful for me to make this blog more comfortable and interesting for you and others.♡ So... which forms of tarot readings and messages here on Tumblr are more interesting for you?♡:

1) A lot of piles/images to choose from so it feels more real that the message is for you, and shorter messages that can be read more fastly and comfortably.

2) Less piles/images to choose from so there isn't anxiety in deciding, but longer and more detailed messages.

3) More piles/images to choose from and more detailed messages so it feels more destined to you and provides more clarity and information.

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Thank you so much for helping me out!♡

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No matter what you see, what you feel when you are stuck in that dream and vision... There is something important there, a key to your current situation, a solution to the confusion and uncertainty that overwhelms you.

It might confuse you or even scare you, with its mysterious story that each time unfolds in your mind.. But there is nothing to be afraid of, nothing to fear. As it's only a particular way of your subconscious mind to talk to you, to give you the alternative to giving up or running away that you consider now...

Because is not all that there is to this situation, difficulty or problem. You are not meant at all to suffer as you walk on this path trying to achieve your dreams. There is a solution, right here and so close to you. A different way to overcome it shifting the situation from the worst to something much much easier and even enjoyable to go through.

Your mind is asking you to wait a little more here, to give this situation another chance, to look at it from a different perspective exactly as you do with this dream trying to understand more of it. Your mind tries to tell you that exactly like this dream... It will end.

All the confusion, anxiety and worry will end. Allowing you to return to your life, to the safety and the balance that you managed to create. You need only to allow yourself to live it, to see it like this dream, knowing that there is much more that will follow it, no matter how scary, confusing or strange it seems.

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It's difficult to stay present in the life that feels so harsh, so confusing, so different from the way we pictured it when we were younger. It's difficult to push our own selves in keep on going, in facing the situations, in taking our responsibilities or sacrifice ourselves to resolve the ones of others who don't care that much...

But it's so easy to hide in our mind, in different and misterious worlds. In other dimensions where when facing the same problems and fears, or perhaps even worse... We have much more control on it.

And you did it for a really long time. You hid inside your mind, inside does hopes and wanders. The ones that nourished became something more, a whole different story about who you are, adventures that you live through... It became your safe space, far away from the situations that continued to get worse and more painful to deal with. To the point that it's simply scary to face them, difficult to don't look away.

And when you are still forced to do so... Your mind is overwhelmed with fear and stress, finding relief only in those dreams that are so strange but that feel much more appealing than this world. But while this is what your conscious mind does and needs... The subconscious mind is aware of how wrong it is and is against it.

And through those same dreams that were always the only real and clear way it could talk to you - it tries to regain its power back by shifting your visions, the sweet stories and lies they tell you. In hopes that you can, in that confusion and impossibility to understand and connect so much to those dreams like you used to... You could become aware of how unfortunately false they've been. How they never were the truth, never were what you needed to overcome all of this. How they instead were only a distraction, a way to escape this reality and hide.

Your subconscious confuses you, makes it uncomfortable to be in that state in which you escape for so long and for so many times. But it's not because it's mean to you, because it doesn't want you to have a safe place... It's more because it wants, your inner self wants, to feel so safe in this and real world. It wants you to live, to fight back, and in doing so to find your strength and courage. It wants and needs you to learn how to live and go through it. Instead of putting yourself in a golden cage from which you will never be able to grow.

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Details from the painting "La Lettre", by Delphin Enjolras

See the full painting at the end!♡

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Slow down for a moment. Allow your heart to guide you, to tell you if there is really a message here for you... And whatever the answer is, feel free to listen to it or to let go. Remembering that when you will be ready or will have the need, your true message will find its way to you.♡

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As much as the love, the affection, is deep between your hearts... Fortunately is not the only connection that binds your lives right now. It's not only about the relationship, if you will be by eachother's side in the far or near future, if these conflicts will be resolved now...

This moment of struggle and challenge that makes you both pay more attention to the other person, makes you get closer in hopes to understand and work it out, is all about a way more significant bond that doesn't stop at a friendship or love.

It's the one that goes further and deeper, connecting you as people, as souls, that feel completely safe being side by side. A family like tenderness and understanding, readiness to put our own misconceptions aside and truly listen, hear what the other person desperately needs to let out.

What is between you is overwhelmingly sweet and loving, something that you both looked for for so long. And even though now, in this moment of misunderstandings and different opinions, the idea, a possibility that this might be enough to ruin it is so scary for your heart... It will only get stronger.

It will show you how much it means, for you and them. Because you will see for yourself the work, the desire, the patience in taking care of this and resolve it together that you will both bring to the table. Facing courageously the fear that the shift in your mindsets and maturing, realizing more, will bring in your lives. Clearing out all the doubts that your mind could've still have.

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We are so deeply afraid of losing the most beautiful and precious things. We wander for how long we will have them in our life. And we obsessively imagine all the things, the situations, that can go wrong and take it away from us. Because we can't help but see an ending as a bad thing, a disgrace, a lack of something that we couldn't make stay.

We never see it as protection, an answer, some help to make us understand more about ourselves and that one thing, that person, without which we are afraid to fade. And it's something that you will face, that you will be gently forced to understand after these events.

When everything will become suddenly silent after so many arguments and tears, that it will cause even more pain... You will taste it, perhaps for the first time, the sweet sourness of accepting and letting go of something that for so long and with such passion you felt yours, needed for you to be able to breathe and feel alive.

And you will feel yourself smile, through all the sadness of a wound that will still be so fresh, with your lips, your heart, your soul. As you will become aware and so proud of your courage to care for someone so deeply as well as letting them go, surrendering to the knowledge that it is for the best, for you and them. And being mesmerized by the way this world teaches us and protects us, even if we understand it after so long.

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"La Lettre", Delphin Enjolras

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A detail of "Cupid and Psyche", August Riedel, 1872

(Full painting at the end!♡)

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Slow down for a moment. Allow your heart to guide you, to tell you if there is really a message here for you... And whatever the answer is, feel free to listen to it or to let go. Remembering that when you will be ready or will have the need, your true message will find its way to you.♡

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You waited for so long... for a moment when you finally feel someting like this. The tenderness, the genuine affection, the deeper understading that you feel between you and them now. You waited, you had hope, while stressing and consuming so much your poor heart that was so ready to love and be loved again... And it made you afraid that once you will feel and see it... it might be all your delusional and desperate mind. That will build such beautiful castles in the skies, filling their air with so much love for someone that perhaps it's a nightmare in disguise...

And this thought, this fear, this little doubt... is enough now to not allow you to feel it, to taste this love and genuinly affectionate connection that you are creating with them every day that passes. It's enough to make you desire more, more proof, more confirmation of more deeper feelings and serious intentions... although it is only the start, only the beginning of this connection between your hearts. A detail that although true, you are not accepting now for an answer, for an explanation, of why they are not ready to give you what you want and need to be reassured and feel safe in staying by their side.

But it's ironic, isn't it? How unsure and vulnerable you feel in front of them because of your past, or perhaps that dangerous future that you can't stop imagining in your mind... while not believing in these same feelings when they are described by them, perhaps with different words, in response to your desires. Almost like... you are the only one who can feel this way now, who can have doubts and lack of faith. The only one who might not feel ready to commit if you don't know that it's for sure, for real this time. Even if it's so so soon to think so hard about what is next in life.

A heart feels, experiences, everything so differently from the mind. It has a different pace, needs a different time to feel safe and slow down, without the constant need to fight or flight. And it is even more challenging when a heart is like yours and theirs, so tired from all the battles it had to endure.

You have your valid reasons, to feel this way and need those things... but so do they. And even if now you can't help but feel frustrated and judge them so quickly... those lips never said any lies. Those eyes never hid the intention of using you and play with you.

Your past, your fear of it, is chasing you, it makes you run. Further and faster. Burning all the stops right away. But it will not protect you, if you expect more and faster from others, it will not lead you to the right one that will be ready to give it all. But it will hurt them, that right person, because in your fear you will be so unwilling to understand, and for this reason to connect... and recognise the right ones for you.

Just breathe, slow down, there is no need to rush. There is so much to feel through them and this bond that is only starting to grow now. It doesn't matter what will happen in the end - it doesn't take or add the worth to what you have now. Because that... only being present will give you. Only enjoying the time with this person, in knowing them, more deeply, giving yourself and them the needed time. Protecting your and their heart from the influences of your past.

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"Cupid and Psyche", August Riedel, 1872

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Are these feelings, this connection, this person... here just for a moment or a lifetime?

(A little message for you from the empress, the star and the knight of pentacles.)

Would it really change something, to know it? Would it really stop you from feeling that pure joy in your heart when you think of them? Would it really prevent you from feeling more, every time they are by your side?

It won't. Even though your fear of hurting again is so strong that you are ready to ignore it. To ignore your heart that simply wants to feel these emotions and this love. The heart that you are so afraid of not being able to protect, so you prefer to try to control it. To prevent the pain that you are not ready to feel again, on the wounds that still need to close.

But this way you are only hurting yourself, in advance. You are closing your heart, putting an armour on and getting ready to fight back... When the only thing to happen was a smile, a laugh, a desire to get to know them more.

Don't rush ahead of yourself and them, of the moments that you are yet to experience and things that perhaps you won't even feel. Your past, those people and their ways, they are still there, they are not following you. You are far far away.

You are living a new and different connection. With a new person that deserves to be trusted for who they are, instead of being treated as a ghost of your past.

Allow yourself to just feel it. That attraction, that curiosity, that desire to spend more time and know more. Allow yourself to do it simply because you want to and feel like it. Not because you know that they will not go away.

Because life is complicated, it's strange, it's different, it's ever changing. And doing, feeling, things only based on how much they will last... Is only taking away your right to live and experience this life.

P.s. If you would like to receive a more personal message and guidance about your situation - find out all about it here!♡

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[thatfrailsoul]

What should you do now? Where to start?

(A little message for you from the five of coins, the nine of coins and the sun.)

Start from you. For once. Not from what others can picture you doing so well. Not what others did or are doing, making it seem so right and fun. Not what others advise you, or what can make you be helpful for them. Even if it's family. Even if it's friends, community, or the entire world.

For once just think about what could be helpful for you, simply and only you. The you that already spends so much time and energies trying to make everyone happy and safe. Because there is nothing wrong in doing things for a greater purpose... But there is also nothing wrong in doing it for your own self.

You need it. To have that something that for once is just for you. That makes you feel good, that you can do for you and your own growth and healing. Something that is only yours, that you don't need to explain and defend in front of others. Something that you don't need to share, but you can have just for your own enjoyment and self.

Stop for a moment. Leave every single person, circumstance, goal and thing outside. And just look into yourself, into your heart, your mind, into what you crave and need now. The feeling that you strive for, the emotions that you pursue and search for in every moment of your life. And follow it. Follow it until you won't find the perfect manifestation of this need and desire.

Because it is useful and right to find solutions and choose the things that can physically and materially resolve your problems, make your life easier or stable... But choosing it or starting is not enough. You will need to keep going, to have that strength and motivation to be able to go through it all. The ones that you won't have in the long run without a safe place for you and your soul. A place where you can rest. An interest, a hobby or an action that will charge you with that energy and pure happiness to be here.

P.s. If you would like to receive a more personal message and guidance about your situation - find out all about it here!♡

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[thatfrailsoul]

What you should hold onto, when trying to connect with your own and true self, shedding the layers and masks that you used to protect yourself?

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Slow down for a moment. Allow yourself to rest. And listen closely to the whispers of your heart, that will tell you if there is a message here that is meant for you now.

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Contrary to what you think, to what you feel the urge to do, there isn't any part of you that you need to let go of, that you need to take off or from you in order to heal and feel finally your truest self.

Simply because no matter if it's a wound or an armour, if it was created because of others or because of you... It is still you. You who did those things. You who made those mistakes but also learned from them. It's you who felt that pain and felt that urge to protect yourself. It was you who had that hope and that one still soft spot, that you trusted others with.

It's all you. Different moments, different emotions, thoughts and actions. But it is you. You that doesn't need at all to go away, die or be thrown deep down at the back of your mind just to have a chance to heal and grow.

When we feel the need to change, the need for a new and free beginning, we think that all that came before is only burdens, only weight that keeps us down... But you did all of that for the same exact reason, you became all those versions of you exactly to be able to live this life freely and safely, no matter what the life looked and felt like all around you.

Letting go of all of this, of so many parts of you just to live a new life, won't really help you. It will only take all that experience, that protection, that growth away from you. Leaving you completely free, yes, but also vulnerable. To all the same things, mistakes and situations that you already got so hardly through.

You don't need to forget. To put aside, ignore, or don't repeat. You don't need to change your past and the story you lived, the story that your heart resisted and your mind fought through...

You don't need to do all of that to start again or to change your life. Your desire for it is enough. Thanks to all that strength, courage and wisdom that you have within yourself. Exactly because of the memories of what there was before.

(A little message for you from the eight of coins, the knight of pentacles and the five of swords)

P.s. If you would like to receive a more personal message and guidance about your situation - find out all about it here!♡

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[thatfrailsoul]

It seems so obvious that in such a vast world, that is a home to already so many stories and places, there will be a place for you too. Somewhere hidden perhaps, but still present, still possible and still safe. Right for you too. For you that can't really be that different from others that lived on this planet, that dreamed of the same things and achieved them, like you want too...

But you can. You can and are that different. Every single one of us is, even though we so quickly and easily forget about it once we face the infinite possibility of success. But also risk. When we face the responsibility of choosing, or the challenge to hold onto something, to fight for it, making step after step.

When we see and feel how uncomfortable it is, to do all that work just to feel safe and at peace in this life... And how much easier and comforting it might be to simply find someone that is already there. Already at that finishing line, already past the uncertain and difficult first times. Someone that already has the experience, knowledge, and most importantly encouraging words and validation. The support that they can give us, turning us in the right direction and walking right by our side...

But the thing is... No matter how much their desire resembles yours, no matter how much their soul might feel so familiar and aligned to yours... They are still someone else. They are not you. They don't see and feel exactly the same as you. And their world, their safe place that they created, no matter how comfortable, never will be enough to protect and nourish your dreams and soul.

Every single one of them, every single of those that came before you and us, they worked for it. They faced that same danger, uncertainty, doubts, confusion and tiredness that we are facing now. They too forced themselves through the first steps, hoping silently that someone would come to rescue them, offering that needed help.

Perhaps even finding them, but only to discover that what they came across is not what they were looking for, and it could never be. Simply because it was not made for them, for their vision, for their ideas, for their ways and soul. And this will be the same for all of us, perhaps it is already the same for you.

For you who tried so much, throwing yourself from one idea and opportunity to another. Following one advice and then the other... But never really feeling safe enough to settle. Never satisfied and convinced enough to stop this search, to calm down this heart that still calls for something more...

Because you don't need to look for it. You don't need to try to fit. You need to create it on your own. Even if it's something that others already did. Because no one ever will do it like you would, no one would feel it and see it like you. The you that already has the knowledge of what you want and how you want your safe place and life to be... But that also misses the courage to accept it and go for it.

(A little message for you from the magician, the two of wands and the ace of pentacles)

P.s. If you would like to receive a more personal message and guidance about your situation - find out all about it here!♡