#vent-adjacent

[a-polite-melody]

People insisting, “no matter what, transandrophobia theory always leads you to hating women/trans women,” with no ability to actually prove this beyond circular logic and cherry picking

is no different from people insisting that the idea of aphobia existing necessarily is homophobic and transphobic, with no ability to actually prove this beyond circular logic and cherry picking

and no different from people insisting that the idea of biphobia existing necessarily is homophobic, with no ability to actually prove this beyond circular logic and cherry picking

and is no different from people insisting that the idea of nonbinary people/exorsexism existing necessarily is transphobic, with no ability to actually prove this beyond circular logic and cherry picking.

We keep doing this because there are people who will always balk at the idea that they could ever possibly be participating in the oppression of another group of people if they’re also oppressed within a similar axis.

To go back to the aspec discourse example: the perpetuators of these discourses will say that LGBT people can’t oppress aspecs—LGBT people are oppressed for their orientation or gender so they can’t oppress that way.

But of course, that doesn’t mean there can’t be an oppressive force you perpetuate against them. But to these people who keep perpetuating these discourses it should mean that because you see them using “I’m x I can’t be x-phobic” all the time.

Point that out and you always end up in, “okay but my group is more oppressed than the out-group we’re discoursing about,” territory. Which is useless, because it’s the same argument. They can’t perpetuate that thing you’re saying that they can perpetuate. Because they’re too oppressed to be able to. Which isn’t how it works.

And they make assumptions about how our theory must function based on that same viewpoint they have. Our theory must be insisting that the out-group we’re discoursing about can’t perpetuate oppression against these other groups if we can perpetuate oppression against them. When that’s not how the majority of us are discussing the topic. But they insist that’s what we’re trying to say. Because that’s how they think about oppression.

Anyway. I’m just tired. It’s all the same and I so want to be done with it all because it’s so obviously the same.

(And it is amazingly funny to me that someone saw that they were perpetuating this whole thing and said, “ah yes, my pet theory, this is so big brained of me that I employ circular logic (which when someone describes out how circular logic works I recognize that as what I’m doing) just with a new fancy word I’ve given it; that it’s working on you proves I’m right.”)

[galaxicalswriting]

How does it make you feel, that you are regarded as a pestilence upon this land? Your name is spoken with detestation and to compare someone to you is an insult. This isn’t the legacy you wanted, is it? But it’s the legacy you’ve earned.

[thebeetleguy]

sorry to bring this up on my fun little yap blog but lolicons make me want to throw up because why are they proud of being attracted to children 😭😭😭.

please do not reblog trying to defend these people for being attracted to children thaaaank you. 💕

[galaxicalsart]

soft melancholy

Featured character: Aphrodite (she/her)

(Please don’t repost, but feel free to reblog!)

@emmettverse

[sunnylemonss]

"he would not fucking say that" but it's my mom telling someone a story and greatly exaggerating my part in it

[mewos-laptop]

Btw adding "oh, haha but not you" as an afterthought after saying "I hate men" to a trans man does not make us feel better. One, you clearly only added it to cover your ass in case we rightfully call you out on it, two, *that still implies to us that we're "outliers" among other men somehow* which is still transphobic, both to us for saying we're somehow ""less"" like men than other men, but also for saying that you want every other trans man to be killed, while knowing we share a community and could be friends with other trans men

(NOT TO MENTION THAT STATEMENT IS INHERENTLY RACIST AND ABLEIST. WANTING TO KILL DISABLED AND/OR MEN OF COLOR IS FUCKED UP AND NOT THE LEFTIST CLAIM YOU THINK IT IS)

[stained-glass-spirit]

daily affirmations

[saturncoyote]

Got a little emotional over something that i was told during therapy today and i would not stop thinking about it until i drew something about it I'd normally go on some type of rant about how i am so comically angry about getting attached to a fictional character from a kid's movie of all places, but i think we've had enough of that haven't we ? If something you see as silly truly helps you with something, then it is no longer silly, it's special and oh so beautiful

Oh to be someone's favoritest fictional character...

[strawhatwife]

im being very brave fighting the urge to ask everyone if they secretly hate me Every ten seconds 🙂‍↕️🙂‍↕️

[sunnwalker]

taking all my feelings and giving them to vaughn because sharing is caring

[rxttenmuttz]

This flesh is not mine.

Drawing I did based on feeling inhuman & my hatred for my body/humans :p say hello 2 my beautiful oc(/self insert) June!! :D

[galaxicalswriting]

Oh come on, love.

I came back after two years to tear my heart out and write to you in blood.

Do you really have nothing to say to that? or did you finally learn to stay away

That's okay. In the end, nothing has changed, really

[galaxicalsart]

outsider

Featured character: Eventide Melody (she/her)

(Please don’t repost, but feel free to reblog!)

@emmettland

[jewishvitya]

I hate the concepts of "inner child" and "self parenting" and all that shit. Not that they aren't incredibly useful therapy concepts for some people, they just make me angry personally. I had a therapist who kept trying to push them on me, despite being told several times that I don't want her to use this tool with me, and I felt like she was trying to break me into pieces. Create a version of me in my own head that gets to be small and hurt, and a version of me that should offer comfort and be the stable parent and doesn't get to just be in pain. There is no inner child, no painless adult, there's just me, and all of me is hurt. She made me "hug myself" and wanted me to pretend adult me is hugging my child self, but hugging myself could never feel like being hugged, it always felt like being small and scared and trying to protect myself from some kind of danger. Which just isn't the same as sinking into a comforting hug. I didn't hate this whole concept until she tried to force me into it. Now I want to scream when a therapist says something that even just reminds me of it. I feel like I'm being ignored in favor of an imaginary version of my past self. Like I'm supposed to rip myself out of time, out of the context of my whole life. Stop trying to heal that child. Stop trying to make me take care of them. They're gone. They grew up. I'm here. Heal me.

[lackablazeical]

I kinda hate this idk but made 2 versions for that reason enjoy

[mewos-laptop]

I rlly don't enjoy being separated from the CDD community just bc I'm not an exclusionist and support endos, actually

The idea that I'm somehow less of a system/disordered than other CDDs is rlly disheartening and rlly ableist, and it doesn't feel good to know that such a vocal minority of my community doesn't support me and doesn't want me in my OWN COMMUNITY because of my stance on my fellow plural folks

I genuinely love being able to connect with non disordered folks, and I feel safe in endo spaces, but I wish I felt safe in CDD spaces as well