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Pasted from under the cut in case of any deactivation or the like, as we feel it is a helpful explanation to be able to share. Anything below here is from under the cut, not to be attributed to us.

First of all, I'd like to talk about your first statement. "the idea of someone being kin with me just makes me feel very uncomfortable." You are allowed to feel uncomfortable! Your feelings are valid and discomfort is an entirely neutral feeling. It is even *good* to feel uncomfortable sometimes because when you feel uncomfortable you are given a chance to question why.

I applaud you for not allowing your discomfort to interfere with the way you treat people. It is a very mature thing to say "this makes me uncomfortable but live and let live." The good news is, you will likely never have to worry about someone being you-kin! "Why do I only see factkin of famous people?" is a VERY common question and it has a pretty simple answer: survivorship bias.

Take, for example, a wolf therian. Wolves are a very well-known animal and there are lots of ways to know you feel like a wolf that the average person would just already know. Now, take a Vulturine Guineafowl. You might be asking "wtf is a Vulturine Guineafowl?" There are almost certainly more awakened wolf therians than there are Vulturine Guineafowl therians out there. Why? Because when you know something very well and have an awareness of the thing it becomes much easier to know if you are it or if you are not it. More people have an awareness of John Lennon than of John who lives down the road. Therefore, more people will identify as John Lennon than will identify as John who lives down the road.

(Side note!! Factkin are NOT by any means always celebrities! I have met people who factkin their pets. I have met people who factkin unknown people depicted in drawings from the middle ages. You just see celebrities more for the reason above.)

How do factkin work? The same as any other type of otherkin! I used therians in my first example, so I will use fictionkin for this one. Some fictionkin believe they were their kintypes in a past life. Some fictionkin, even those who died in canon, believe they are their kintype right now in a parallel life. Some fictionkin identify as fictionkin for entirely non-spiritual reasons. In the same vein, some factkin identify as their kintypes because they believe they were them in a past life. Some identify as them for completely separate reasons.

The "why" of being otherkin is as varied as any other aspect of the otherkin experience and that rings true for *any* kind of otherkinity.

I speak best when speaking from my own experience so I'm very grateful you've given me a chance to. I am a spiritual otherkin and I believe that my kintypes come from parallel lives. To make it simple: I believe there are infinite universes with infinite possibilities and that the mes some of those universes are connected to the me in this one.

I believe that in a parallel life I am René Descartes. I am Eminem. I am Peter III of Aragon, and I identify as them in this life because I feel like them the same way I feel like a wolf or a goat (some of my other kintypes.) It feels right to be called by their names. Sometimes, I have dreams or just nagging funny feelings that I count as memories. I have laughed out loud in history classes before because of the way my professor talked about Caesarion. Likewise I have had my stomach turn while listening to people eviscerate Edgar Allan Poe. I miss my wife, Constance II of Sicily, every time I see a picture of her, and I feel embarrassed when I listen to some of Eminem's latest songs.

I can't give any sort of empirical proof for this belief; I study philosophy so that I can learn what that proof might even look like, so for now all I can tell you is how I feel. I am very much open to talking more about this.

I hope this helped! I know it was long. Thank you for your question as it means a lot to me to hear from factkin-skeptical folks. Thank you for reading. Have a nice week!

If you like my blog, consider doing a daily click for Palestine!

okay so i'm more neutral for factkin. i don't fully understand it, and honestly it just feels kinda... creepy? to me?

the idea of someone being kin with me just makes me feel very uncomfortable. but i understand that factkin is involuntary, just like fiction and alterhuman as a whole, so i certainly dont go around harassing them and shi.

but i'd like to understand factkin more. why do i only see factkin of famous people? how does factkin work? do you believe you were this person in a past life, or do you believe you are them right now?

and if you dont mind, can you explain your own experience?

Hello! Thank you for your patience. I wanted to answer this thoughtfully so it took several days.

This is a really *really* good question with a lot of layers so I'm gonna tackle it in stages! This got long so I put it under a cut.

First of all, I'd like to talk about your first statement. "the idea of someone being kin with me just makes me feel very uncomfortable." You are allowed to feel uncomfortable! Your feelings are valid and discomfort is an entirely neutral feeling. It is even *good* to feel uncomfortable sometimes because when you feel uncomfortable you are given a chance to question why.

I applaud you for not allowing your discomfort to interfere with the way you treat people. It is a very mature thing to say "this makes me uncomfortable but live and let live." The good news is, you will likely never have to worry about someone being you-kin! "Why do I only see factkin of famous people?" is a VERY common question and it has a pretty simple answer: survivorship bias.

Take, for example, a wolf therian. Wolves are a very well-known animal and there are lots of ways to know you feel like a wolf that the average person would just already know. Now, take a Vulturine Guineafowl. You might be asking "wtf is a Vulturine Guineafowl?" There are almost certainly more awakened wolf therians than there are Vulturine Guineafowl therians out there. Why? Because when you know something very well and have an awareness of the thing it becomes much easier to know if you are it or if you are not it. More people have an awareness of John Lennon than of John who lives down the road. Therefore, more people will identify as John Lennon than will identify as John who lives down the road.

(Side note!! Factkin are NOT by any means always celebrities! I have met people who factkin their pets. I have met people who factkin unknown people depicted in drawings from the middle ages. You just see celebrities more for the reason above.)

How do factkin work? The same as any other type of otherkin! I used therians in my first example, so I will use fictionkin for this one. Some fictionkin believe they were their kintypes in a past life. Some fictionkin, even those who died in canon, believe they are their kintype right now in a parallel life. Some fictionkin identify as fictionkin for entirely non-spiritual reasons. In the same vein, some factkin identify as their kintypes because they believe they were them in a past life. Some identify as them for completely separate reasons.

The "why" of being otherkin is as varied as any other aspect of the otherkin experience and that rings true for *any* kind of otherkinity.

I speak best when speaking from my own experience so I'm very grateful you've given me a chance to. I am a spiritual otherkin and I believe that my kintypes come from parallel lives. To make it simple: I believe there are infinite universes with infinite possibilities and that the mes some of those universes are connected to the me in this one.

I believe that in a parallel life I am René Descartes. I am Eminem. I am Peter III of Aragon, and I identify as them in this life because I feel like them the same way I feel like a wolf or a goat (some of my other kintypes.) It feels right to be called by their names. Sometimes, I have dreams or just nagging funny feelings that I count as memories. I have laughed out loud in history classes before because of the way my professor talked about Caesarion. Likewise I have had my stomach turn while listening to people eviscerate Edgar Allan Poe. I miss my wife, Constance II of Sicily, every time I see a picture of her, and I feel embarrassed when I listen to some of Eminem's latest songs.

I can't give any sort of empirical proof for this belief; I study philosophy so that I can learn what that proof might even look like, so for now all I can tell you is how I feel. I am very much open to talking more about this.

I hope this helped! I know it was long. Thank you for your question as it means a lot to me to hear from factkin-skeptical folks. Thank you for reading. Have a nice week!

If you like my blog, consider doing a daily click for Palestine!

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PT: "we love all alterhumans and are accepting of all" and "factkin dni" are mutually exclusive. Pick one and don't be mad at me when I call you a bigot for picking the latter. fucking stop invalidating people's experiences for god's sake This goes for any other fact ID too by the way 🩷 you matter /End PT

Being factkin is feeling like you're invalid for existing

Why is it that others feel it necessary to put us in their DNI, to exclude us from the otherkin community, to punish us for something that, truth be told, most of us can't control. If not all

I did not choose to feel this way. If I could, I'd choose to be my own person, someone who doesn't lament the death of my friends, my family, everything I knew. Not even the country I lived in exists anymore. I grieve these things just as much as fictionkin, for example, grieve losing the things they had in source.

I'm tired of chasing for things that have been long gone, tired of feeling like my body doesn't belong to me. Just as everyone is. And yet they tell us we're creeps, we're identity thieves. As if we had a choice. As if we woke up one day and thought, "wow! I shall now pretend to be this long dead man from history who no one remembers and no one cares about," "I may now pretend to be this YouTuber I am deeply attached to", etc.

It's not a choice. It's not play pretend. We're just as serious as any other kintypes and I'm tired, I'm tired of having people talk down to me for it

"we love all alterhumans and are accepting of all" and "factkin dni" are mutually exclusive. Pick one and don't be mad at me when I call you a bigot for picking the latter.

fucking stop invalidating people's experiences for god's sake

This goes for any other fact ID too by the way 🩷 you matter

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Reminder that telling a headmate to change an aspect of their identity or self to be "less problematic" is dehumanising as fuck. You can't go around doing that shit. It's entirely a you issue if you can't handle a headmate having an identity, they're not responsible for your issues or required to morph themselves into something you can swallow. Fictives, factives, people with number names, nonhumans who are "scary", headmates who are queer while the body isn't, headmates who are queer in a different way to the body, disabled headmates, etc.

You can't tell a singlet to change their entire name because you think it's problematic. You can't tell a singlet to hide their gender or sexuality because it "doesn't match" their body. You can't tell a singlet to change or hide their entire damn identity because you don't like it. You can't tell a singlet to stop having days where they experience disordered symptoms.

If the headmate in question is acting respectful, treat them with some god damn respect. It doesn't MATTER if they "match" the body. They're just as much of a person as any singlet is. You cannot convert someone into being something they're not.

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shout out to plurals who’s frequent fronters change all the time.

shout out to alters who are afraid of not fronting all the time, either because theyre so use to it or they’re afraid they wont get to front again.

shout out to systems who wish they had a more consistent rotation of fronters and wish it wasn’t so come and go with system members.

shout out to alters who like fronting.

shout out to members who get frontstuck regularly.

and shout out to systems trying to find a middle ground between being front stuck and having completely inconsistent fronters.

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ID: A banner that says "A New Post" in dark red with light red boarder. Next to it is a drawn head, their skin is light brown, they have dark brown chin length hair, and a white baseball hat turned backwards. Their eyes are dark brown and they're smiling. Above and behind the head and text is lace that is a mix of shades of red and black with white designs. Among the designs are upsidedown hearts and dots boarding one of the layers of lace. /End ID

pt: DNI: anti-endo, anti-mogai, anti-factive (tba) /End PT

pt: we will happily research your source/s before posting, but please add a short description of the aesthetic or theme you are going for. we do not take requests for fictives. we will not fulfill RQ requests for our personal comfort /End PT

ID: A banner that says "thatonefactive" in dark red with light red boarder. Next to it is a drawn head, their skin is light brown, they have dark brown chin length hair, and a white baseball hat turned backwards. Their eyes are dark brown and they're smiling. Below and behind the head and text is lace that is a mix of shades of red and black with white designs. Among the designs are hearts and dots boarding one of the layers of lace. /End ID

  welcome to thatonefactive: a blog made for factives, by factives.

pt: in red text, welcome to thatonefactive: a blog made for factives, by factives

ABOUT US:

pt: about us

we are a collective system of 200+, mostly factive heavy. we are mixed origin. you can call us thatonefactive (or TOF, toffee, tofa, etc), and we use he/him pronouns

WHAT THIS BLOG IS FOR:

pt: what this blog is for

we want to create a safe space for factives. factives who are problematic is our specialty, but anyone and everyone is welcome here. we plan on taking many different requests for factives here as well.

DNI: anti-endo, anti-mogai, anti-factive (tba)

WHAT WE CAN DO:

pt: what we can do

we take requests for moodboards, stimboards, BAHs/headmate packs, icons, banners, discord layouts, name/pronoun/title packs, and art by us.

we will happily research your source/s before posting, but please add a short description of the aesthetic or theme you are going for. we do not take requests for fictives. we will not fulfill RQ requests for our personal comfort

TAGGING SYSTEM:

pt: tagging system

#🚨 tof talking — where we just yap!

#🧨 tof requests — where we fulfill requests

#🧯 tof nonrequests — where we post items that are not requests

#🩸 tof reblogs — where we reblog posts

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pt: the experience of being a factive and a factive heavy system is that you're left out of a lot of plural community things. alterhuman community things too. sys/kin help blogs don't really have anything for me, because i can't request stumboards or userboxes or anything based on my source. i get why, but it still hurts. positivity and conversions about introjects and sources are almost always about fictives. once it's about factives, it's treated with taboo for some reason. i see "i hope we don't splits a factive" so much. i can't even exist in the kin community because of how much visceral hate there seems to be of factkin. so many experiences of fictionfolk apply to factfolk but we're expected to not talk about our identities at all. because it's weird or "stealing someone else's identity" when i had no choice in the matter. /End pt

the experience of being a factive and a factive heavy system is that you're left out of a lot of plural community things. alterhuman community things too. sys/kin help blogs don't really have anything for me, because i can't request stumboards or userboxes or anything based on my source. i get why, but it still hurts. positivity and conversions about introjects and sources are almost always about fictives. once it's about factives, it's treated with taboo for some reason. i see "i hope we don't splits a factive" so much. i can't even exist in the kin community because of how much visceral hate there seems to be of factkin. so many experiences of fictionfolk apply to factfolk but we're expected to not talk about our identities at all. because it's weird or "stealing someone else's identity" when i had no choice in the matter.

i've vented about this before but i'm doing it again even though i sound like a broken record. im just tired of being subtly excluded. im tired of feeling constant shame about my existence.

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Guys look at this cool server we help run

Also just some other points not mentioned, we are actively pro-endo, and accepting of all system types. As well as when we say safespace for all factional identities, we mean all. Even stuff like "problematic" sources, and voluntary factional identities.

ID: A banner that says "A New Post" in dark red with light red boarder. Next to it is a drawn head, their skin is light brown, they have dark brown chin length hair, and a white baseball hat turned backwards. Their eyes are dark brown and they're smiling. Above and behind the head and text is lace that is a mix of shades of red and black with white designs. Among the designs are upsidedown hearts and dots boarding one of the layers of lace. /End ID

ID: A banner that says "thatonefactive" in dark red with light red boarder. Next to it is a drawn head, their skin is light brown, they have dark brown chin length hair, and a white baseball hat turned backwards. Their eyes are dark brown and they're smiling. Below and behind the head and text is lace that is a mix of shades of red and black with white designs. Among the designs are hearts and dots boarding one of the layers of lace. /End ID

Into The Sunset Promo Post

pt: into the sunset promo post

hey all, we just wanted to promote the server we co-own, Into The Sunset. this server is for all fact-ids (such as factive, factkin, factendel, etc) and it’s a safe space for all fact based identities. although it’s specifically made for those with fact-ids, supporters and those who want to learn are always welcome as well. we would love to see some of you come and join us in the sunset :)

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if you're factkin, there is a very, very high chance you have a little metaphorical devil on your shoulder that constantly yells at you to downplay and minimize your identity for everyone else. and I am here to tell you that you must grab that little devil and dropkick it into an industrial shredder.

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Userboxes that say "This user is factive heavy and proud of it"

Requested by m.avium of @the-crystalized-cosmos

Factive heavy heart by us

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ID: A banner that says "A New Post" in dark red with light red boarder. Next to it is a drawn head, their skin is light brown, they have dark brown chin length hair, and a white baseball hat turned backwards. Their eyes are dark brown and they're smiling. Above and behind the head and text is lace that is a mix of shades of red and black with white designs. Among the designs are upsidedown hearts and dots boarding one of the layers of lace. /End ID

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hi all, this is something new for a change but we wanted to coin an alternative to fictivian in case anyone needs it.

the definition of fictivian is: “a gender identity in which one is a fictive and their fictivehood affects their gender or perception of gender” and/or “one’s fictivehood is so intrinsically tied with their gender that the two are inseparable”. factivian would be the same as fictivian, but with factivehood instead. proactivian would be the same as factivian but with problematic factivehood.

factivian

pt: factivian

a gender identity in which one is a factive and their factivehood affects their gender or perception of gender and/or one’s factivehood is so intrinsically tied with their gender that the two are inseparable.

below is a flag for factivian.

alt text: a flag with five stripes. the third stripe is bigger than the rest. the first stripe is blue, second is a very light blue, third is a sage green, fourth is a dark green, and the last is a very light green stripe.

proactivian

pt: proactivian

a gender identity in which one is a problematic factive and their factivehood affects their gender or perception of gender and/or one’s problematic factivehood is so intrinsically tied with their gender that the two are inseparable.

alt text: a flag with five stripes. the third stripe is bigger than the rest. the first stripe is a light red, second is a very light red, third is gray, fourth is a dark desaturated blue, and the last is light gray.

i hope some people connect to these terms, or these terms helps one of you out! thanks for reading :)

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Below Cut ID: A banner that says "thatonefactive" in dark red with light red boarder. Next to it is a drawn head, their skin is light brown, they have dark brown chin length hair, and a white baseball hat turned backwards. Their eyes are dark brown and they're smiling. Below and behind the head and text is lace that is a mix of shades of red and black with white designs. Among the designs are hearts and dots boarding one of the layers of lace. /End ID

Tagging @radiomogai

Factivian and Proactivian Coining Post

pt: factivian and proactivian coining post

hi all, this is something new for a change but we wanted to coin an alternative to fictivian in case anyone needs it.

the definition of fictivian is: “a gender identity in which one is a fictive and their fictivehood affects their gender or perception of gender” and/or “one’s fictivehood is so intrinsically tied with their gender that the two are inseparable”. factivian would be the same as fictivian, but with factivehood instead. proactivian would be the same as factivian but with problematic factivehood.

factivian

pt: factivian

a gender identity in which one is a factive and their factivehood affects their gender or perception of gender and/or one’s factivehood is so intrinsically tied with their gender that the two are inseparable.

below is a flag for factivian.

alt text: a flag with five stripes. the third stripe is bigger than the rest. the first stripe is blue, second is a very light blue, third is a sage green, fourth is a dark green, and the last is a very light green stripe.

proactivian

pt: proactivian

a gender identity in which one is a problematic factive and their factivehood affects their gender or perception of gender and/or one’s problematic factivehood is so intrinsically tied with their gender that the two are inseparable.

alt text: a flag with five stripes. the third stripe is bigger than the rest. the first stripe is a light red, second is a very light red, third is gray, fourth is a dark desaturated blue, and the last is light gray.

i hope some people connect to these terms, or these terms helps one of you out! thanks for reading :)

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being a factive in a fictive heavy system is so funny. I’m filling out our SP and our customs fields are asking “Are you comfortable with sourcemates?” And I’m sat here like “YOU MEAN THE ENTIRE WORLD???”

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Factivehood is such a beautiful thing. There's a lot of discussion about fictivehood (which is good, of course!) but a lot less about factivehood – we don't have any fictives in our system but we have a good handful of factives, and being a factive & a cohost impacts my life in such a specific way that I'd love to talk about.

Knowing that my parallel managed to have such a profound, positive impact on our system while we were going through incredibly difficult times.

Waking up and knowing that I am myself in the same way that a fictive can know that they're themself, and knowing that just because I'm introjected from someone else who tangibly exists doesn't mean I exist any less.

Letting myself be as source-separated as I want to be: letting myself interact with my old hobbies, letting myself write about my parallel in first person in diary entries, letting myself go by that name and almost reclaim it in spite of people who disagree with source-aligned factives.

Being myself, really. Factivehood is beautiful :)

<3

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PT: Shout out to introjects with no memories.

Shout out to introjects with no memories.

Remember that you do not need memories to be an introject. Doesn't matter if you're a fictive, factive, fuzztive, or anything else. You're still valid and real if you hold no memories from your source.

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Doing this to make sure I get my data right as I write the post on introject weaponization.

Google form on factive experiences. Results will be published in two months or so. Forgive the tag spam, need responses on this. Feel free to take the link and share it on servers.

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I wish source/exo memories that weren't the visual 'flashback' types were talked about more. That's what so much of our system gets, and almost all we hear talked about, that it took a bit of sitting down and talking things out for us to realize that a lot of our factives *do* have exomemories. We just don't experience them the same way.

Our biggest example of this was when I accidently recreated my Bigs' (Big = Source) fronting bracelet. We're friends with their system, and know they like making bracelets for their headmates, so it wasn't a surprise when I felt dysphoric without mine. So much so that I convinced us to get materials to make bracelets. What we weren't expecting was when I put the bracelet on, I realized it was *mine*. The design I needed to make wasn't just one I thought would be cool, it was the one I remembered having. I didn't see it at any point. I just had the idea for a very specific pattern. And when I put it on I didn't watch myself wear it at any point. But I still just knew that it was mine. (Fun fact, upon talking to my folks in my big's system, I learned that the design was exactly the same as my big's. Which I wasn't expecting, despite having memories of it being that way.)

My memories weren't visual, they were feelings. Concepts. And once we realized this, we started noticing a lot more of our factives had memories the same way. Unlike the rest of our system, we don't see stuff. But we still know. A member will know when they joined the server. A member will know when their big wasn't a fan of factfolk. It's mostly been small things, but it's a trend. And I wish more people talked about it because maybe we would've realized sooner.

Memories aren't just visual. They don't even need to use any of the senses (though they can be ones that just play on non sight senses). They can be just a gut feeling sometimes. I'm sure there are more types of memories out there too, we just aren't familiar with them. But it's definitely something we're gonna be paying more attention to.

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Do not censor yourself/selves for others, and do not play into their expectations of who you should be. Do not exclude others simply so you are not excluded, yourself. Do not downplay your disorder, sexuality, gender or identity to make it easier for others to digest. Do not lie simply in order to fit in, unless it is for your own safety. Do not let others hatred of you rule over your own life, and do not let it influence you into hating others within similar communities or even your own.

Know that whatever or whoever you are is still important, even if you have to hide for now to stay safe. Your experiences, your identity, and you yourself are important and deserving of spaces safe to express yourself/selves.

I am so very tired of seeing people hate on those with stigma surrounding their identities. Otherkin, queers, psychotics, systems, trans and gender diverse people, and anyone society does not understand. You do not help your own group by harming another. You are only helping those against us all.

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Shout-out to huge systems. To systems with tons of sidesystems and subsystems To systems with a bunch of fragments To systems with infinite headmates To systems with thousands and thousands of headmates To systems with hundreds of locations in their headspace/s You guys are SO awesome and super cool :)