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There’s also a thing that people who think they’re being accepting do where they go “Not wanting romance is SO SAD AND LONELY! Not wanting to read romance novels is SEXIST! Not wanting a partner makes you a FREAK! Not having sex with your partner is BAD and ABUSIVE! Not feeling sexual attraction to your partner means there is SOMETHING WRONG WITH YOU!… unless you’re aromantic or asexual, of course! Then you get a pass.” The only acceptable reason to deviate from the amatonormative and sexnormative societal norm is to claim an identity label that exempts you. The actual thing you’re doing is still bad… but don’t worry it’s OK for you to do it! It feels like, we haven’t actually challenged any norms at all, you just get a pass on them because you can’t help it, poor thing. If you have the capacity to feel these, you have the obligation to; you are only exempt if you claim an identity that says that you are unable to. It implies that we would if we could, but we can’t, and it’s merely unfair to punish us for our shortcomings. Romance and sex are still social requirements, that hasn’t changed, we just are allowed a pass on it because we are unable to meet them. (And we’re still expected to reassure everyone that of course we recognize that their romance and sex is far more important than anything we will ever be able to have!)

I don’t want aros and aces to get special exemption from the requirement to have romance and sex and romantic attraction and sexual attraction; I want that to not be a requirement for anyone.

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in the club fully sober politely informing my friends that I don't like loud sounds and will be leaving early

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there's a popular twitter artist right now who is getting called out for ai on a drawing, because people are circulating screenshots from two years ago when they were excited about the possibilities that AI offered for going back to making their comic again which had slowed to a crawl because of their RSI. only the thing is the drawing they're getting accused of using AI for has no ai use in it at all, and they've needed to publicly publish their patreon exclusive process video to prove this to an internet mob because of the influx of hate they're getting! good job protecting artists, guys!

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Btw, that idea that privilege makes you morally evil and suffering makes you morally good is just repackaged versions of the Christian concepts of the evils of luxury and the holiness of martyrdom. Hope this helps!

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tumblr users will be like. i don't believe in incarceration, but i do think people and behaviors that i find disagreeable should be punished with permanent unpersoning

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oh shit my leitmotif is on here hold my drink

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Lmao how is this real, "the ambient sounds of the world were wrong, sir"

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Murderbot is probably the most embarrassing hyperfixation to have because oh really? You're hyperfixated on the 'hyperfixates on media to avoid the real world stress and anxiety' media? Is it. Is it to avoid your real world stress and anxiety, perhaps??

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the annoying thing is that even when you hate all food and even the idea of food is making you sick, you still have to eat. I'm not a fan of this.

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Relatedly, this is why my experiences of being asexual and an atheist sometimes feel so similar — this set of feelings that people assume everyone NEEDS to have in order to be fulfilled. But no, I don’t have them, and I’m not going to make people more comfortable by still being spiritual or sex favorable anyway. I’m doing just fine getting my sense of community and meaning other ways, I promise!

Skepticism issue:

I repeatedly see discussions about how "humans needs spirituality." Sometimes this is followed by "you don't need religion, but you need something. "

I'd like to push back on that. What I often see described as the "necessary" parts of "spirituality" is mostly connection. Connection with others, connection with a sense of self, goals and hopes and community. And then they'll have a line about the "soul". (Which does not exist as a separate entity from the mind unless you have spiritual beliefs).

Connection and community do not require spirituality. Self-worth and a sense of self do not require spirituality. Tying these things inherently to spirituality is not a given. Belief in a soul is not necessary to be happy.

You are not required to believe in non-evidentiary things to be a full person.

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Some little drawings about how un-ergonomic Brioche is.

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I think "fuck you, I hate your work and I will do it myself and I will do it better" is a really funny and epic sentiment. i started publishing poetry because an ex boyfriend of mine was publishing really ass poetry in a bunch of journals and I was like "Jesus christ, this is garbage, I could do that, and I could do it better." now I have a page in the Academy of American Poets and I've published a full length collection and his website says "former poet." You should win by succeeding way harder than they do. Spite is a legitimate energy source.

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Not to venerate the halcyon and bygone days of yore, but it used to be that declaring that girls are too fragile and delicate to ever possibly compete with the boys or ever be as good as them at anything was rightly denounced as the kind of raging sexisim that made you sound like the flatly written villain of a teenybopper movie.

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