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Please tell me this is a troll post...

…I should note that it is not the celebration of Christmas, per se, with which I take issue. Spending time with loved ones and exchanging gifts are lovely traditions, and while many of the particular traditions of Christmas are not quite to my taste, I’m thrilled to know they give others a great deal of joy…

What I do object to, however, is the culture that’s been built around Christmas, that has elevated one religious faith’s year-end festivity into an inescapable, weeks-long period of compulsory celebration for nearly everyone. If you’re Muslim, Jewish, Hindu or otherwise uninterested in participating in a Christian holiday, you can personally opt out of Christmas Day by declining to get a tree and spending December 25 at the movies — but all bets are off should you choose to leave your house (or even turn on the TV) at any moment between Thanksgiving and Christmas.

December in America is a constant onslaught of Christmas culture: Every store gets decked out in Christmas finery and puts carols on full blast, seemingly believing that it encourages shopping. Television shows that normally avoid any discussion of anything approaching religious observance suddenly get into the spirit, devoting extra-long episodes to stories about the generous spirit inspired by this time of year (a generous spirit that, apparently, people who don’t celebrate Christmas know absolutely nothing about). Ostensibly secular offices and schools are suddenly awash in Santas and sleighs and reindeer, all in the name of bringing everyone a little extra joy, the fact that it’s their own definition of joy be damned.

It would be bad enough if this aggressive Christmas assault were purely the domain of the rabid right wing; if the only people I needed to worry about fending off were the types who see cries of “Happy Holidays” as an affront to their religious freedom, or the switch from red to green holiday cups as some sign of an Islamic agenda. But the truth is that liberals — even ones who ostensibly embrace religious diversity — can be just as bad as their conservative counterparts when it comes to enforcing the oppressive Christmas climate.

And at a time when religious minorities are increasingly under attack within this country, we to take a long hard look at the way Christmas is used to send the message that America is a nation primarily for Christians.

When I tell a liberal Christmas fan that I just don’t want to get into the spirit, it usually doesn’t end well. If they’re not insistent that I’m missing out (and just no fun), they tend to see my lack of enthusiasm for Christmas as an indictment of their own enjoyment of the holiday.

I’ve heard so many arguments for why my stance that compulsory Christmas is forcing me to participate in Christianity is unfounded — It’s not religious, it’s a secular celebration of consumerism! It’s not Christian, it’s actually Saturnalia dressed up in Jesus drag! They love it in Japan! — none of which seem to take into consideration that, as a Jewish woman, I’m probably pretty well versed in what sorts of celebrations are and aren’t within the scope of my religious practice. (And, let’s be serious, a holiday whose name commemorates the birth of Jesus has, at the very least, some intense Christian heritage that might feel uncomfortable for me).

It’s a reaction that’s disappointing any Christmas season, but this year, as the celebration ramps up in the shadow of the most fatal anti-Semitic attack in American history, it’s particularly disheartening. With white nationalism on the rise, and a president who takes great pleasure in using cries of “Merry Christmas” to bludgeon religious minorities, being non-Christian in America feels more isolating, and unsafe, than ever.

…And above all, please remember that Christmas doesn’t have a monopoly on generosity and joy, anymore than Passover has a monopoly on being anti-slavery. Not everybody needs, or wants, to get into the Christmas spirit, and that’s totally okay. Christmas is not for everyone, but the freedom of religion, and celebration of diversity, that allows for that recognition is — and that is what truly makes America great.

[Read Lux Alptraum’s full piece at NBC News.]

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Can you not hear how sexist that sounds?? I remember first watching the original trilogy and seeing Luke weild a lightsaber and I remember thinking “I want to be a Jedi” Just because he has a different anatomy to me doesn’t mean I can’t relate to him. You feminists sound much more sexist than those gatekeeping fanboys you constantly complain about. Spreading the message that girls aren’t allowed to relate to male characters because their gender doesn’t align with theirs.

Female representation is important because when I saw Star Wars VII… And when I saw Rey control the force, and wield a light saber…

I finally had the thought I think every 5 year old boy experiences when watching the series, that I, as a girl, never had.

“I want to be a Jedi.”

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I think it’s pretty sexist tbh to assume everything with a female lead is solely for women You wouldn’t say the original Star Wars trilogy is for men because it has a male lead so why would you say that Star Wars is now for women when it has a female lead rather than for everyone Women saying “it’s a woman’s thing now” is no different from a sexist saying “ohh that’s a ggiirrrllss thing”. If you want these films to be held at the same weight as the other ones then I would recommend stop saying they’re just for women and say they’re for everyone to enjoy, otherwise nobody will ever go and see anything with a female lead and the message will be lost if they think it’s not for them

Why are men like this? Every single time women in a fandom get excited about something they fill every comments section and every tag with so much misogynistic whiny male tears we are unable to talk about it.

Star wars: WHY NOT ABOUT ME???!?!

She-Ra: WHY NOT ABOUT MY DICK??!?!?!!?

Assassin’s Creed Odyssey: WHY WOMAN STRONG?!? BAD HISTORY!!! 😭

And then, ironically, they complain about the criticism their faves get and how creators are not allowed to create what they want(they pretend “they” is the creators but they mean themselves).

SHUT THE FUCK UP YOU SEXIST ENTITLED BRATS. DON’T WATCH IT, IT’S NOT FOR YOU(I know, mind blown) IT’S FOR US.

To paraphrase one of your faves, you are going to go through life thinking we hate you because you are a white straight man but really it’s because you’re a LITTLE ASSHOLE.

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Yep! You learn something new everyday!

Facts I learned from the one true gatekeeper:

- You have to have dysphoria to be Trans

- All Trans people want to transition. If you don’t, you’re probably just a cis faker.

- The waiting list for transitioning procedures is so long because of all of the cis fakers, and NOT from BS government regulations or insurance bullshit

Thanks for the update.

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When did I say that bi people aren’t part of the lgbt community??? IM BISEXUAL. I’m talking about all these asexuals who think they belong when they don’t. There’s nothing wrong with being asexual they’re just not lgbt. Also you need dysphoria to be trans, dysphoria is what makes someone feel detached from their gender and makes them want to transition. You can’t be trans if you don’t have dysphoria because why on earth would you want to transition if you feel the same as your birth gender. Look at the “Period prince” who I said you don’t need dyphoria to be trans, transitioned, and then gave himself dysphoria ; saying that he “didn’t recognise [his] own voice”. Also the waiting time for trans treatment has increased from 12 months to 24 months because of all the “false cases” aka cis people who don’t have dysphoria who want to be trans for the aesthetic. It’s lgbt, no plus.

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“Non binary comes under transgender”

For some. There are plenty of NB people, even just here on tumblr, who’ve expressed that they aren’t comfortable being shoved under the label of Trans

“What the hell is a non dysphoric trans person?? So like…cis?”

A non dysphoric trans person is a trans person who does not experience dysphoria. That does not make them CIS.

“That’s the problem with inclusionists….so they can feel included”

You really want to tell my bi ass that I’m not a part of the LGBT+ community? I don’t have to try to feel included - I’m part of the goddamned acronym. I AM included.

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Non binary comes under transgender. And uhhhmmm what the hell is a non dysphoric trans person?? So like... cis?? Also you shouldn’t be using the term “gate keeping” to describe the lgbt community, it’s not a ‘fandom’ it’s just a way we catagorise gender and sexuality. That’s the problem with inclusionists, they see the lgbt community as a fun little fan club so they slap labels onto the end of it so they can feel included.

Sorry non-dysphoric trans people or NB people who don’t have a “same gender” to be attracted to. You’re no longer LGBT+. The “great” @all-or-nothings has spoken and clearly they are the one true gatekeeper.

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You either need to experience same gender attraction or experience gender dysphoria to be lgbt

Dear Exclusionists,

Please stop blatantly trying to rewrite LGBT+ history in order to make yourselves seem like less of a gatekeeping-douchebag.   It was NOT always LGBT+ and to insist that it was is just a monumental fucking lie and degrades the work of all the Bi and Trans people who have had to fight tooth and nail (even to this day!) for inclusion.  

I will give you credit, @foalfreckles in that, from looking at your instagram, you’d be about….what, 15 - maybe 16 years old? Maybe you really don’t know the history behind the LGBT+ community.  You should probably do some research on the history of the acronym before slamming down your opinion as if it is the one true universal truth.

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Sorry I was talking to @blackterf I just forgot to @ them

Isn't it curious us the transmeds are called scum while there are TERFs like you out there? Mankind surely is strange

>implying I haven’t been called worse things than scum

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White people have been systematically oppressed though. The Ottoman Empire enslaved many people from Cornwall and they were enslaved for 1300 years. A more recent example is people in Africa were threatening to take land from the “whites” and give them to the local black people because they hate white people. I know white people who have lived in predominantly black areas and have been ridiculed by the locals because of their skin colour/accent.

Isn't it curious us the transmeds are called scum while there are TERFs like you out there? Mankind surely is strange

>implying I haven’t been called worse things than scum

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I’m on ios so I can’t tell when these posts were made sorry, I’ve been told that a lot recently and idk how to tell

Exclusionists are hypocrites

Gender is a spectrum and you’ll accept cis people who have no intention of passing as another gender, or gender period, yet someone who’s ace isn’t LGBT because uwu cishet.

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Idk if this will help but have you tried male contouring? It’s apparently really effective and really helps with dysphoria ♥️♥️♥️ If you just search it it’ll come up with a tutorial on how to do it

where the FUCK is my flat chest. where the FUCK is my penis. where the FUCK is my Y chromosome. why am i trapped in this SHITHOLE OF A VESSEL

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Oh my god. Big Time Rush is the only good straight band.... please tell me this is satire 😂😂😂

This post is a mess.

So is that font. Yikes

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I hate Ed Sheehan and his music is nothing but manufactured cardboard but it’s annoying when people’s pull the sexism card when their favourite manufactured artist doesn’t win. Also about the immigration thing, it’s not really about people being for immigration that’s bad because immigration can be good for the economy, it’s them being for illegal immigration that’s the problem. But yeah I agree, it was catered towards them

Can Tumblr just shut the fuck up? Don’t y'all dare try to demonize Ed Sheeran just because he won an award. Don’t y'all dare try to call him a homophobe or a sexist just because he won an award against women THAT HE WORKED HARD FOR. Can we stop acting like women have never won Grammys?

Rihanna - 8 Grammys

Beyonce - 22 Grammys

Taylor Swift - 10 Grammys

Pink - 3 Grammys

Mariah Carey - 5 grammy wins

Adele - 15 Grammys

Celine Dion - 7 Grammys

Kelly Clarkson - 3 Grammys

Toni Braxton - 7 Grammys

Alicia Keys - 15 Grammys

Christina Aguilera - 5 Grammys

But holy shit… Ed won a 4th Grammy? Kendrick took home one? And Bruno? That’s just too much man. Too much sexism. It’s almost as if the Grammys this year went to people who had the biggest most listened to songs… They put out bangers.. That’s why they won.

This year’s Grammys was catered to people who dispise Trump, are for immigrants in the US, and dedicated an entire speech against sexual assault and suicide. It was made up of some of the most non offensive people yet Tumblr still got offended…. At everything.

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“But my dysphoria is not caused because I’m not cis. It is caused by other people refusing to see me as anything other than cis.” That’s literally what dysphoria is. Trans people get dysphoria because they want everyone to see them as the opposite gender, not as trans. They want to be a cis male or a cis female.

Guess what!?

You actually don’t need to have dysphoria to be trans! Not being cis and not having dysphoria are not mutually exclusive!

I’ve had to deal with dysphoria for over 10 years. And I have been able to help alleviate my dysphoria in a couple of different ways.

But my dysphoria is not caused because I’m not cis. It is caused by other people refusing to see me as anything other than cis.

My blog is open to anyone who isn’t cis, but who also don’t have dysphoria! Whether you used to have dysphoria but have been able to overcome it, or if you never had dysphoria in the first place, but have gender euphoria for being seen as your correct gender.

You don’t need dysphoria to be trans.

Yours truly, someone who has dysphoria.

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Honey, no. ‘aphobia’ has nothing on the oppression of Transgender people. People saying you have to have sga or have gender dysphoria to be lgbt isnt oppression it’s just facts and it is nowhere near as horrible as people having their entire existence invalidated, beaten, killed and kicked out of their homes.

The “Ace isn’t an LGBT orientation” discourse is the new “Trans men are disgusting and shouldn’t be allowed in LGBT safe spaces” discourse

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You can avoid all of this by logging of your computer and stop trying to compare your petty problems to the oppression of gay people.

#JustAphobeThings

Aphobes: Just because Ace/Aro isn’t LGBT+, doesn’t mean we don’t support you (even the cishets). Ace/Aros are still valid, aspec people are still valid… Aphobes: *Mocks ace/aro/aspec people* *Says that their orientation is a “modifier” or something “you should really only tell your partner”* *Completely ignores specific ace/aro experiences (such as rape for being ace) and blames it on something else, like misogyny or lesbophobia* *Goes on to mock the discrimination ace/aro people go through e.g call themselves a aphobe* *Does more shitty things to ace/aro/aspec people which makes them, including minors, depressed and suicidal- even the ace/aro/aspec people who are LGBT+*

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Gender isn’t a spectrum wtf. There’s male and female, that’s it.

Exclusionists are hypocrites

Gender is a spectrum and you’ll accept cis people who have no intention of passing as another gender, or gender period, yet someone who’s ace isn’t LGBT because uwu cishet.