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Devotional. Since you need a daily dose of wisdom and reminders every morning before you start your day! Know Him more intimately! 

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                          THE EMOTION CHALLENGE

   Managing one’s emotion is not a form of ignoring it; a form of emotional repression: nor it is the trait "bahala na si Lord." but it is rather a means of dealing with your emotions in a healthy way to improve your mental health or even improve you relationships. Moreover, you may be the people that adds up the positive vibe in the world or community full of negativity. This significantly helps you as a person and the society at large. So, why not illuminate your positivity. Note: It's not a form of denying from what's real. 😊

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                    WHAT IT TAKES TO BE AN AUTHENTIC LEADER

   To be an authentic leader may be the hardest character to portray in this world, because people might sometimes not appreciate your standards and your system of ruling. But in order to be remembered as a true leader is to simply serve others while you set aside your self - interest.  I agree that there might be minorities that hates your administration just like previous presidents such as Cory Aquino or may be Erap Estrada. But, we can never eliminate these instances, all we have to do is be a leader that seeks transcendental solutions for issues. 

  But on the objective point: your attitude towards your constituents is much more important to build a healthy country/ workplace/ community. These are the people/characters whom I considered as the truest leaders in history or even in the animation industry. They portray what a real leader could be by their actions and stories. Yes, I consider a simple character in movies since they are the art of a person that wants to create a story out of ordinary people, and these are real masterpieces.  

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how to deal with stress

1. GET ENOUGH SLEEP - research suggests that each individual should get the amount of seven to nine hours of nightly sleep for adults. They suggest that elders should get seven to eight hours of sleep. We, teenagers, should get 10 hours of sleep a night. Do not deprive yourself from the sleep that you need!

2. MAINTAIN A PROPER DIET - The proper balance of protein, fruits, vegetables, carbohydrates and sweets should be maintained for the benefit of your body and brain 

3. TRAVEL WITH FRIENDS OR FAMILY - Traveling is a way to divert your attention that gives you tranquility together with the people/person that you love. It is a home away from home.

4. THINK POSITIVE - an optimistic person always looks on the bright side which lead to a great mindset regardless of the problem that he/she faces. Nevertheless, it makes the brain relax and meditate.

5. BE WITH GREAT COMPANY - more importantly, having a healthy environment helps you succeed, boost up your self - esteem and a genuine development. 

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This is a diagram that depicts my genogram - a family diagram, which can be thought as an elaboration of a family tree.

This my family, flesh and blood. It is composed of a business man who cares a lot; an engineer who raps all the time; a fat midget who is now working as a secretary in an office, a big fat bipolar who eats a lot; an athlete who eats like there’s no tomorrow and a childish, gullible 11th grader who is sometimes an over-thinker. 

This family may not be perfect but we are beside each other through thick and thin.  

Romeo J. Mejias - October 2, 1958; 57 y.o

Liza M. Mejias - June 22, 1963; 53 y.o

Sylvester M. Mejias - February 15, 1991; 25 y.o

Bryle M. Mejias - May 16, 1994; 22 y.o

Michelle M. Mejias - March 24, 1999; 17 y.o

Ashley M. Mejias - March 24, 1999; 17 y.o

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Dear Ate Aa, Living my life right now seems to be a difficult task to continue. It seems like my vulnerabilities are increasing and i’m too afraid that it’ll worsen, it’ll be the one that would consume me. I tend to overthink on small and useless things; I stay up late even when I have nothing to do anymore. I easily jump into conclusions that would anytime ruin the friendships that I have or other relationships. I easily get fed up by the things that frustrates me the most and / or even the least. The sweet, loving and thoughtful Ashley became the grown-up Ashley that I didn’t expect. I was the twin that gave every small things meaning and significance, but now I tend to overlook things. This leads me the inability to even deal with myself appropriately. Just like what my father once said to me, “I thought you were the sweet and lovable one, but I was wrong.” Then impinged my self-esteem and my mindset. But all of these, I knew when it started, but is this normal? Is this part of being an adolescent? What should I do to alleviate these vulnerabilities? How can i cope up? Is this real?; 

 Sincerely yours, 

 Ashley ____________________________________________________________

My Dearest Ashley, 

 I know i’m not the rightful or suitable person to engage these matters but just to accommodate you head on because I FEEL YOUR PAIN & I eagerly wanted to help so here’s the thing: after reading your letter, the implications that I got from those words or even beyond is that, you wanted to neutralize yourself because you’re becoming the worse version of yourself. But here’s the catch, you shouldn’t always put the burden on your side since you have always tried to be the best version that accommodates the expectations of other, but remember you cannot always please others. Apparently, you can just be yourself as long as you lived up your words and actions morally, know yourself first then you understand others. Yes, it is just normal to experience such, but it isn’t normal if you haven’t tried to at least do something to alleviate the pain morally. It’s part of being an adolescent since it is the stage wherein you experience a lot of change. 

Moreover, these 3 tips could be the possible commensurate answer for your problems: 

 1. Remember to always be humble and understand others - you may be thinking that, “why can’t be them that will do the understanding part?”. Yes, that may be a reasonable question to raise. But apparently, what if they can’t? Who will be the one to do it? It is YOU. If you want to help yourself, then you must put the rightful sacrifices even when you think it’s illogical. But remember, know when to your choose your battles. Understanding others will never make you less, it’s even a gate pass towards improvement! 

 2. Have are reliable and credible person to be your outlet - it sucks to be an over-thinker right? It’s normal to overthink, but never ever let it consume you. You can accept what you feel and what you think, but never be driven by it because it’ll just worsen your development as a person and your relationship with others But, I know you have your parents that will lead you home and to the right path, just don’t be sacred to reach out. They don’t want you to be sad, as much as I don’t want you to give up on life. 

 3. Approach the person who’ve hurt you / seek answer and help - yes, the main reason why everyone’s in great depression, experiencing existential crisis, or even lose their hopes is because someone’s constantly bothering us. It’s normal wherein you have enemies in life, unless you have live so cautiously that you might as well not have lived at all in which case you fail by default. Answers may not come that easily, but be patient and always seek for it. After all, maybe it was right under your nose but you’re too paranoid and disturbed to even identify it. 

 Sincerely yours, 

 Aa

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  Being a Filipino Born Again means giving emphasis to family, fellowship and giving service with others. That is what describes an authentic Filipino Born Again Christian, for me. In 17 years of existence, this is so far how I lived as being a Filipino Born Again, it may be the simplest form of living it, but there are people, experiences and realizations that helped me in becoming a Filipino Christian. Witness the journey that contributed my development as a student, daughter and Christ’s ambassador 

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to nowhere but fine

In a world of my own, love grew on its throne. I didn’t know how it got to where it did, I couldn’t help but just accepted it.

As then the love grew, from different forms to context. Unfathomable to simple clue, but I’m so dense what do you expect?

But imagine a world, wherein love is absolute, love is wholesome, it never betrays; and it’s a genuine uproot.

Imagine a love that is pure, that is always secure. A love that is holistic in and out, a day with no doubt.

Imagine a day you spent with love, no time, no boundaries and limits. Acceptance and truth you’re patient of, a love that isn’t selfish, a love that will never perish.

Wake up! You’ve turn the world, into a utopian one. ____________________________

Mass killings against a community, just like what happened in the LGBT. Syrian refugees, escaped but lost their virginities.

Deprived rights, sleepless nights. Stereotypes, how can these be an “all right.”

Maybe we could’ve done something, if we could’ve turn things around. But love is in different forms, maybe a leap of faith even though storms.

I had forgotten, overlooked the fact. That the world surrounding me, was in fact the same.

But imagine a love than can change.

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credits to 2nd pic: www.moviequotes.tumblr.com 3rd pic: armenianweekly.com 4th pic: www.spyderonlines.com

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Nothing worth having comes easy //

Studying in mainstream schools is often contextualized as “student - dying”, but it always depends on how you study, the reason behind why you studied & the motivation that you have beside you that keeps you going. 

This maybe helpful for teenagers out there to cope up with their study rituals or routines, since this kind of “studying” helped me achieve my goals and even reached far beyond my expectations as an average student, maybe this could help you guys! You can even revise some of it but always remember: study in a kind of way that makes you comfortable, after all, we all have different kinds of techniques! 

Nevertheless,  don’t take studying as something that is resentful, rather, this may help you assess your standing after the teacher have introduced you to a new topic! It can also help you ace in future exams or unexpected quiz! Always look on the bright side. 

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From le petit to me:

Dear Ashleyy,

    Don’t be too harsh on yourself, sometimes you’re up and sometimes you’re down, you just have to be positive and learn from your mistakes, never forget what your parents had told you over and over again. You can do this! You can always venture to new things, always seek true wisdom and truth. You can be way more~ 

-le petit-

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Dear Acholey!

 I just wanna tell you that I will be your "companion" in this world of "deception". Always remember that you're an art in this world full of irrelevant things and you'll always be mahpiggy! 

 sincerely, Jaja

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Hi Manang Tipani, 

Never settle for less and always strive for the best. Stay strong and always love yourself first.

-Jang- 

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Dear Asley,

hello there, now that you’re inspired by ___! , keep on moving there’s no stopping, just do it you know. Always ask guidance from God and GLHF!

-kersey-

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Dear Ashley, 

Hey wuzzup hello! I know that youre are talented and smart, so it seems that you can achieve you goals in the future. Just do your best and trust God. God bless you and see you in the future with your successful career.

-JPaul Mejia-

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Ashuke!

Haluwii! you’re a wonderful and smart friend. Keep movbing forward. May God will always protect you.

-ed-

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Hey Ashkie! 

You are special because you have the ability to make other people laugh and be happy. Keep it up!

-Nico-

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Dear Ashley ^_^

we know that in life there are times where up’’s and down’’s occur to test ourselves for future purposes. Just always remember God is always at your side to guide and give you strength wherever you go.

-Raven- 

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Haluweedowie!

Your beauty is timeless. you shine brighter than the moonlight. You got the sweetest smile 

-Joseph Cardona

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Hawow, Ashley Ashley,

Hi Ashleyyy ^_^, you’re a wonderful person, a helpful seatmate and a good friend. Don’t mind the problems. HAKUNA MATATA!!

-Janes- 

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"Aa!  Stay positive, believe in yourself, don't be like me xD if you fall seven times, stand up eight

-paopao-

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Aa, you are indeed an amazing person and you are a good influence to our classmates and to me. thank you for being there always and thank you for making me feel that I am good enough. thank you for appreaciating me. I love you always!

-Shang

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My reflection to this song may not be similar to yours, but let me share it anyway.

“Little did you know that I am trying to pick myself up, piece by piece.”

When I was young, my mom and dad used to view me as sweet and thoughtful, but when I was provoked, the evil inside me went outside & had changed those views of my parents in just a blink of an eye. See how an unfortunate event could change your identity. I always wanted to prove to them that I am not like any of my brothers, but this challenged me to a positive and negative viewpoint. It was a blessing and at the same time a curse. My dad always wanted me to be prim and proper whenever and wherever, but I hate doing the act sometimes, it wasn’t me anymore. But there are always consequences we must face when the “superior’s” order was not taken into account. Every time those pieces I had that made me whole was broken and changed, i’ll slowly pick it up whenever no one is around. But then, on the other side of the coin, it wasn’t always that bad, since my parents are supportive and extremely caring to the point where I want to do something but they can’t agree with it because my health and academics are more important. Still, they are a blessing to me in this world that gives me pressure and high expectations.

Little did people know that I have my limitations, it’s always been part of being human. There was once a person whom I trust from the very beginning but ended up tearing my 2 years of Junior High School, no one then knew about it. People can either destroy or build you, that is a fact. People might leave a thousand wounds even for one fight but still left clueless of their deceitful act. Today might be nothing to you, those memories may be nothing to you but it is something for me. A two year old incident you think nothing of, could be something someone else can never forget. Because the days when you were the source of my despair, I also suffered from the expectations that my parents had for me, and a challenge that I should be more than what I was then. It was truly difficult, but then it was worth the pain that it caused me.

“Little did you know I need a little more time”

Then, new people came into my life and was the source of my hope & escape. i was not that perfect, but it was enough and whole for me. But then one of those “new”people had come into another shade of friendship, it was even more. I knew all your secrets because it was obvious. Little did you know I have lived the expectations of people that surrounds us, as well as your friends and people who are dear to you. I knew every part of you because I came. You’ve expected to never leave, but I just wanted to venture what is out there. You controlled me to the idea of being alone and dependent when you’re not around anymore, honestly it terrifies me. You wanted someone in a short period of time during a certain year in summer, but then came again. You we’re very inconsistent, very uncertain but in the end, you just came like nothing happened and you never knew the impact it had during the start of the school year. So, I just pretended that nothing happened.

-flightless bird-

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Just like what Oprah Winfrey said “Turn your wounds into wisdom.” 

As a student, a daughter, a friend, and a citizen, I have my achievements and goal, as well as responsibilities that proved “that I cannot do all the good that the world needs, but the world needs all the good that I can do”, I quote this line from Jana Stanfield.

My achievements so far is that I am in the list of being an honor student ever since I am in grade school, I had my group of friends that are always there for me because these people are so rare to find. I was awarded as best speaker in the ever 1st Br. Felipe Belleza Debate Championship in La Salle Academy and was able to facilitate during rounds, this paved way to share ideas by this form of discourse. I was able to participate in the Bible Quiz last year and the team was awarded as well in 7th place. When I was in 9th grade, I also joined the Milo Little Olympics and was awarded as the 4th placer together with my team. My second visit in Ateneo de Manila University because of the PSDC was one of the memorable experiences that I had because we only lack 1 point just to breaking into the next set of rounds. I was able to venture to different places in Iligan City that I wanted for so long, which is in Tinago Falls, I had the confidence to climb though the rocks and jump, since I want to conquer my fear of heights. 

My responsibility as a daughter is to always obey my parents all the time, to respect them as well and to always understand them even when things don’t make sense at all. As a sister, I have the capacity to also understand my sibling’s needs and wants, to respect my Kuyas and twin. As a student, I should also have the mentality to listen always to the teacher when they’re discussing and to understand them as well. I should always see them as my 2nd parents since the school is my second home. I should also do my job as a student such as studying, genuinely and honestly make my Performance Task and to also aim for the best, this also applies in being a daughter. As a friend, I should be able to care the need of my friends and to be with them through thick and thin. Always relate with my fellow peers since they are about the same age as mine and we can very much relate to each other. Lastly, I have the responsibility of being a citizen in the Philippines, that I should respect and be active in our constitution and policies, that I have the right to question the standards used to come up with that law/s if it was fairly set to begin with. Since this is how a democratic country will function, and to be aware of different religion and ideologies in this diverse world I live in. 

Right now, my goal is to live a meaningful live as possible, because everyday is a God-given blessing. Wherein, I should do the things morally and not subjected to negative spectrum. I want to be a doctor, but i still need to find in what area/s should I specialize. I just want to help people because people helped me first. That is why this will be the right avenue for me to reciprocate the things they have done to me. In this avenue, it focuses more on my like and what I am interested into, which is biology because it is the study of life and organisms. 

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“We carry within us the wonders we seek around us.” Sir Thomas Browne 

There was once this line in a book that I read: “Perhaps it is true that we do not really exist until there is someone there to see us existing, we cannot properly speak until there is someone who can understand what we are saying, in essence, we are not wholly alive until we are loved.”

There is always that specific entity that makes us whole and alive as a person, but as human as we are, we cannot fully understand that entity unless you declare it by conviction and faith. This Mandala took me 2 days to make, and to tell you honestly, it still wasn’t my best. I believe that the things that the things that makes me whole are in complex forms that I myself can’’t even understand, but I always wanted to. That is why this mandala radiates many lines as it progresses into the final output. My life serves as an ocean (that is why there is a picture of an ocean behind the circle), I though I have gone through a lot, but in reality, it was just the beginning. I badly want to travel what’s out there and what life would be on the other side, but it should be earned and it would not be easy. 

The color blue usually signifies sadness, bruises and brokenness. But on the flip side, I see it as the things that what makes me happy and alive. It signifies tranquility and courage that I seek everyday. The color green is what makes me a Lasallian by choice, I am absolutely molded by the institution since 2010 and now, I want to illume myself as a great epitome of a true Lasallian that I will never forget my education, my mentors and my Alma Mater. 

What keeps me going are the people that surrounds me, the experiences that built and destroyed me & the reflections that constantly keeps me wondering at night. To sum up everything, this Mandala signifies the wholeness in me. Just like in the famous classic Lion King  “the circle of life” we all are in an endless cycle of life, sometimes we’re up and sometimes we’re down. But those challenges and successes  should not  be taken for granted, I used it for my own advantage and for others. Without all other entities in life, it only means that I can’t be truly, genuinely experience wholeness without others. But remember, it always starts from within us. 

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Life, a quest for it.       

I saw that my life was like an empty canvas that I needed to fill in despite the fact that I cant draw nor paint, but that’s not the only method, right?  

 Knowing the sole purpose of my life has been the question that keeps me awake at 1 AM, when I started to read a certain book. I’ve been studying in La Salle Academy for almost 8 years now but each year was filled with different memories, and that’s when I knew that happiness, circumstances and beginnings can come in different forms. It was hard for me at first, but when you’re surrounded with people that alleviates the pain, difficulties and tries to illuminate the best in you, it’ll be the best memory that you have. To tell you honestly, 17 years is just a short amount of time to really know oneself, but we’re all a work in progress and there is more time to deeply, intimately know the things that I am capable of.                 

During these 17 years, I am able to develop various skills that I did not expect such as debating, I was then a wallflower but my friends were able to convince me to join, (it was just for fun) and luckily, I got into the varsity team and able to compete different debaters coming from different schools. It was one of the greatest experiences that I had. In addition, I was able to teach kids in La Salle Academy every Sunday, it’s called St. Br. Miguel Academy, and it was a privilege to be shaped by innocent minds and hearts; and to be able to inspire kids in my own little way since learning is a two-way process. Moreover, those 17 years taught me that it s more beneficial if I will look more on my shortcomings rather than complain, because life would be more worth living in that way.

 I’m not really describing myself in a manner that it’s direct, but by reading these experiences and thoughts, you’re able to know me more since shared experiences can show & exemplifies a whole lot more to an individual.