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That. Is not how oppression works. You don't FEAR someone into being oppressed. POC, lgbt folks, women, mentally ill* people, people with disabilities** are not oppressed because people are AFRAID of us, not in the genuine fear way.

It's because whites, men, cishets, neurotypical ppl, and able bodied people see us as lesser. As inhuman, as "sinners" or punished by God for sins of Adam and Eve, or by our ancestors. There is a million reasons, and a genuine phobia, while it can be based in racism, ableism, or lgbtphobia, is not enough to oppress a person on a systematic level.

Again, Androphobia is a genuine fear of men. I am a bisexual man, and I am still afraid of men, due to abuse I have faced.

Oppression is based off nothing. Ableism, sexism, lgbtphobia, is not "based off trauma" because none of them are real phobias. The term phobia for homo or transphobia should've never been coined with phobia at the end, it should've been something else because it was NEVER a fear, it was never a phobia. It was hatred of those who didn't fit into Catholic cishet white able bodied mentally ill molds. Of those different.

Oppression is based in hatred and prejudice and never fear, any person who is prejudiced because of fear is uneducated and has been manipulated into this thinking. They can be taught better. Those with that prejudice that isn't caused by fear or misunderstandings of things cannot.

* Psychotics, systems, people with personality disorders, bipolar ppl, and those with POCD are exceptions to the "not fear" thing, we are still seen as inhuman and lesser, but before these diagnosis' existed we were seen as "shapeshifters" or "far" or "changelings" because we acted different.

** People with specific physical disabilities are exceptions, we are seen as inhuman and lesser as well, and the same explanation as above is given here.

pictures of spiders dont do shit when i know they're coming. For transandrophobia to exist, in this specific manner, androphobia as a hatred and oppression of men has to exist, androphobia is a REAL FEAR of men, usually caused by trauma it is described as a phobia, if someone has a real fear or anxiety around men, thats fucking valid.. Transandrophobia was originally coined as transmisandry, misandry is the hatred and oppression of men. Men, specifically cis men, cannot be oppressed for being cis men. Also the coiner of transandrophobia had a side blog of posts about how he likes to corrective rape lesbians. God. Transmisogyny is simply the intersection of transphobia and misogyny, which trans women face. Misogyny is real, women, esp trans women, are denied jobs for being women, men, specifically trans men, are denied for bein trans, not for being men. God. Do your research on words because they have real meanings

Androphobia does exist bro have you ever interacted with a radfem :/

I restate. Get off my blog before I get ugly. I'm not arguing with you again.

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Did you even ... Read their ask? Androphobia as a real genuine fear exists, misandry as an oppression does not.

pictures of spiders dont do shit when i know they're coming. For transandrophobia to exist, in this specific manner, androphobia as a hatred and oppression of men has to exist, androphobia is a REAL FEAR of men, usually caused by trauma it is described as a phobia, if someone has a real fear or anxiety around men, thats fucking valid.. Transandrophobia was originally coined as transmisandry, misandry is the hatred and oppression of men. Men, specifically cis men, cannot be oppressed for being cis men. Also the coiner of transandrophobia had a side blog of posts about how he likes to corrective rape lesbians. God. Transmisogyny is simply the intersection of transphobia and misogyny, which trans women face. Misogyny is real, women, esp trans women, are denied jobs for being women, men, specifically trans men, are denied for bein trans, not for being men. God. Do your research on words because they have real meanings

Androphobia does exist bro have you ever interacted with a radfem :/

I restate. Get off my blog before I get ugly. I'm not arguing with you again.

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TransID folks are not valid ❤️‍🔥

Being trans disabled is sickening. You are pretending to have a disability you don't have.... For what? Attention?

Attention seeking isn't bad, but doing it this way IS bad.

Pretending to be something you are not is not only harmful to you, but continues to allow oppressors to play the "but the fakers!!" Card.

*do not mention BIID on this post. BIID is a completely separate, genuine medical disorder.

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Why the fuck are you talking about death note you little freak cretin??

Ooohoohooo, fellow crips, another abled-bodied-autistic-weeaboo trying to police my “behaviors”,  harassing a queer cripple, and supporting eugenics by telling me to kill myself in the notes of my post where no one can see them, like a a coward…

Now @valta McCShrimpleDick, if you’re a weeajew who enjoys anime like Lucky Star and Panty&Stocking, then I know you also must enjoy the fantasy of Germany from Hentilia taking you right up the arse in full Nazi Uniform, since you still wanna behave like one so much, so because of the fact you clearly want to fuck a Nazi since you’re behaving like some closeted nazi fucker weeajew right now, I suggest that you go read My Secret Garden, and get some reading comprehension and, learn how to spell, and get over your own personal shame of having that fetish, I promise that your life will be 💯 better if you do… :D

Or go fuck your Full Nazi Attired Body Pillow of Germany from Hentilia and cry about it, why don’t you? :)

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Who are u callin a jackass

If ur a boy dating a boy u ain’t straight

if ur a girl dating a girl u ain’t straight

if ur a straight boy dating a trans boy u ain’t straight and calling urself straight is both biphobic and transphobic

if ur a straight girl dating a trans girl u ain’t straight and calling urself straight is both biphobic and transphobic

homoflexible/heteroflexible are both biphobic.

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i wish they fucken would

Hey imagine if I ask that person to dance and then they scream at me and murder me because they think I'm ugly hahaha that won't happen...

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firstnonbinarypresident / traumaticbackstory is an abuser and tried to raid an ICE facility, please don't support him, you can check the tag 'fak' on @gayanarchy or go @forabusedreceipts for proof.

Don't fucking support him, he scammed people out of hundreds to try and raid ICE, he's pulled this shit before, his mom supposedly runs a blog here SUPPORTING HIM and knows about his blog. This is a fucking scam, do not support him, he is a liar a fraud and a scammer. He is an abusive Pedophile. Stop fucking donating to him.

Plz help

My mom literally just spent half an hour screaming at me in the car. She said I'm manipulative because I have her drive me places (BECAUSE SHE ACTIVELY OBSTRUCTS MY ATTEMPTS TO GET A DRIVERS LICENSE OR CAR) and because I asked for food. She says asking you go to the grocery store is abusive, like I'm not even exaggerating there she literally said its manipulative and abusive to ask to go to the fucking grocery store. I told her if she thought that my need to eat food ever was a burden then she didn't have to have me. She repeatedly told me that calling her out for abusive and manipulative tendencies (ex: "FINE. YOU WIN." whenever she realizes I'm right and she has no other way to gaslight me, telling me that I inconvenienced her by making her 2 minutes late when I was already 32 minutes late for something and treating my obligations as unnecessary activities while her stuff is SOOO important like eating 6 vanilla frosting donuts on the drive, ACTIVELY PREVENTING ME FROM GETTING JOBS AND A CAR AND A LICENSE AND AN EDUCATION SOMETIMES BY LITERALLY CALLING THE POLICE ON ME SND HAVING ME SENT TO A MENTAL HOSPITAL FOR 3 HOURS 10 MINUTES BEFORE AN INTERVIEW, etc) was the REAL abuse and manipulation, she kept telling at me because I finding want to tell her about my bowel movements.

Anyway I left the car because her conclusion was that I literally dont deserve to eat after I turn 18 years old.

I'm homeless and I need money please!!!

I have nowhere to sleep tonight. Tbh I have some ideas as to what to do but many of them are not things I can talk about on here out of safety. I guess my goal is $200 by tonight so maybe I can get a hotel room and a meal before bed? I'm prolly gonna go back home and get my stuff so I can sell my instruments and shit and maybe pay one month of rent by the end of the week but right now I just need enough donations so I can get a hotel room for the rest of the week. I'll be accepting as many donations as possible until I can find a job of a free place to live (anywhere in Rhode Island or Southeast Massachussetts or east Connecticut is preferred if you have a door open for a day or two) but I'm gonna be sending this post to as many people as possible till I reach $200 tonight.

I cant do commissions till I find free paper and pen. I only have what's on me, my shorts and shirt and some various cards (none debit) in my pocket. Hopefully I can get my stuff out of my parents house tonight to get my charger. I can do digital commissions tho. (Top one isnt complete obviously)

PAYPAL.ME/THELEEISSILENT

Oh also I'm trans and unemployed and very obviously mentally ill and abused

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Yeah i am violent, I fucking hate pedophile abusers like you, you'd be great friends with the pedophile I called out, who went after a 13 year old, who is still targeting minors, whi accused me of abusing him because I had to threaten the cops on him because he wouldn't stop talking about how he wanted to have sex with children.

"im coping" No You Aren't. I used to cope JUST like that, it made me worse, it isn't coping, it's suicide ideation, and it is HARMFUL. Tell your therapist, SHOW your therapist these memes, the ones about blowing your brains out, about you clinging to your depression, ask if that's coping. They won't agree, because it isn't coping, not healthily, it isn't recovering.

That is not coping, that is you desperate to cover up the fact that you are a Pedophile, tobias isaiah lee.

Yall: after harassing you and spamming messages from 50 accounts over the last 3 days, doxxing you, lying about you, and threatening you, I have yet to get any response and you mustve accidentally blocked all my accounts. Clearly this proves you're an awful person.

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Waardenburg syndrome is passed down by family, dumbass. You're just going grey because you're stressed and greasy.

Oh my God I just looked in the mirror and the hair dye has been wearing off so I just realized my white streak is HUGE. Plus I'm pretty sure when i was 12 it was just silver. I really hope i have waardenburg syndrome cuz otherwise that shows how much my body has deteriorated. Like its proooobably waardenburg syndrome but i might have experienced so much stress that ive been developing streaks of grey since I was in middle school and that's freaking me the fuck out.

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You're right, gender critical feminism doesn't always, twerfs / terf feminism does, as its soaked in racism, ableism, anti semitism, and white european ideals that harm anyone who doesn't conform to a white beauty standard of lithe petite woman with a small nose, long straight (or wavey) hair, small hands and feet, no body hair, feminine.

I've seen countless t(w)erfs attack cisgender women for having facial hair (hormone imbalance, or other reasons) having large noses, having hooked noses, having ""male"" noses (meaning "not small) being tall, being built, having short hair, having chest hair, not conforming to white beauty standards, having deformed genitals, having scarring, having a deep voice, having "male" mannerisms. I once volunteered, briefly, to help at an old folks home, one of the ladies I was assigned to was born with deformed genitals, she couldn't pee, so they had to basically build her a penis so she could. She was born female, she lived female, she died shortly after I started (old age) and died alone, nobody wanted to be with her because she "wasn't really a woman" and "was a man" because of something that wasn't her fault at her birth. Something that had to be done because they couldn't just stick a tube up her to drain her pee.

t(w)erfs have blood of disabled people, poc, trans people, cis abled people who just have imbalances, gnc people, and more on their hands. There's a difference between being gender critical, and being a t(w)erf and being okay with the rampant racism, ableism, and other disgusting shit in those communities.

Unethical doctors, such as doctors who performed unethical illegal surgies, abortions, and more, on their patients (intersex patients, poc, transgender patients, disabled patients) do, homophobic parents do, homophobic teenagers can't be at fault as much as t(w)erfs are, teens are easily conned, they seek out validation by acting out, a lot of homophobic teens are confused, misguided, and learned these actions from their parents or peers.

A 25 year old t(w)erf who attacks a black athlete and claims she isn't a woman, as she's being forced to go on medications for a hormone imbalance? she has blood on her hands.

These idealogies are harmful to more than us trans people.

If ur a terf/twef/twerf/"gender critical"

You have the blood of countless trans kids on your hands.

@trans men who are twefs: The Fuck is wrong with you. That blood is on your hands too.

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stop fetishizing abuse freak

This is a genuine question idk how people are gonna feel about this. Does anyone else feel like nurtured people are so boring? No offense to nurtured people. It just feels like the behavior of someone who has not been traumatized is very repetitive and predictable.

As I've said, hating nurtured people gives an implication that there is some benefit to being abused, that it builds character or something, which it absolutely does not. Ideally we would all be nurtured. But I spend all my time with abuse survivors (specifically trans ones) because it seems really unappealing to have the same conversation over and over. When I hang out with nurtured people I always feel so fucking bored that I compensate by being extremely impulsive and spontaneous, which I do wherever I am (that's why my life is so fucking crazy) but especially in that circumstance. just... I know I'm an adult and everything but at 18 our conversations are really all about work? It sucks.

Not to mention theres an appeal in spending time with people who understand your experiences, but that's a whole other thing.

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posting ""jokes"" about suicide, about ignoring your therapist when they try to help you get better, about not taking steps to get better, about how therapists are against their patients on a trauma blog, or at all, is not pro recovery.

That is blatantly anti recovery, that is pro suicide, pro depression, pro being-worse.

Make better memes. Make memes about you handing your trauma, your mental illness, whatever, to your therapist. Fucking think for once before posting that meme on your popular blog, think "could this in some way discourage someone from getting help?" and if you don't know the answer, don't post it.

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i have OSDD-1B from being abused since i was born and I've been against you from the start. I have scars on my body from where my grandmother laid her hands on my flesh and tore. I have depression, anxiety, PTSD and more. I let my insomnia keep me awake because taking my pills means dreaming of nights where she hurt me, where others hurt me. I have scars I don't remember the cause of but know it was abuse. I have a therapist who says its safest if I don't remember, because she knows. She knows because an alter told her.

I am a survivor, i am a victim, I have been burned beaten and broken and still I am against you and you CONTINUE to call me "nurtured people" and you continue to call ALL THE SURVIVORS who have outed you as abusive, as a trauma faking race faking liar "nurtured people" because you can't bring yourself to say "non abused" because you'd be facing your own reality.

You talk shit about your family and claim they abuse you terribly while also saying they all know the URL of this blog. No abuser would allow that. No survivor wants their abuser to see their blog, especially a trauma centered one.

Faking abuse hurts us, it does. It takes our resources and support and when you are outed people doubt us.

I am a survivor, and you are an abuser, and you are not one of us.

Dumb fucking nurtured people: I must protect abused children by preventing people from pretending to be abused!

Actually abused people: ok but can you not tho

Dumb fucking nurtured people: aha! I spotted one! This is definitely the worst problem any abused person has ever faced!

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stop trying to discourage people to see therapists.

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You run a blog with 5.7k followers and think this is okay to post?

This isn't healthy, this is anti recovery, this one is pro suicide.

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This isn't healthy, this is anti recovery

This isn't healthy, this is anti recovery

This isn't healthy, this is anti recovery

This isn't healthy, this is anti recovery

This isn't healthy, this is anti recovery

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More on FAK being a liar:

[ @forabusedreceipts ]

This person is not Jessie, a 29 year old Latino man. Tobias/Isaiah chose someone and gave them a character to play. FAK is not leaving the raid, he is just pretending to so we leave him alone.

We cannot leave him alone.

He thought he was talking to his chosen leader in DMs but actually posted it in the general channel. He then deleted it, but not before we screenshotted.