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god god godjksk i’m really such an awful person i don’t want to be alive

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dog teeth #64 it b(pd) like that sometimes

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that adhd feel when you get tired of people after only hanging out with them for a few weeks so you just stop talking to them but this makes you feel super guilty and makes you not want to enter any new friendships or even relationships because you fear you might get bored of those people and end up hurting them really badly

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i dont know how to stop lying lmfao

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wanna be skinny so bad

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it’s weird because mentally i’m years above my age but emotionally i’m more immature than my age which means I have all these emotions and i am so aware of them but i don’t know how to change them and i get angry at myself for feeling these emotions because i’m painfully aware of how irrational they are

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the real reason bakugou hates wearing ties

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1000000 atk

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for the most part of my life i genuinely believed i had like Zero (0) abandonment issues like i literally refused to address that my trust issues went further than what i played it off as like.... idk like i always thought i was better/stronger than it & even if someone left me i wouldn’t feel anything and a lot of the time.... i didn’t actually feel anything??? or whatever i felt i’d pretend i didn’t idk

like it was fucking easy to pretend i wasn’t about to implode every time i stopped talking to someone and after a while i just stopped being friendly with people and all the while i chalked it down as Yeah I Dotn Care but like... i do i do i do rip

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Loving someone with abandonment issues isn’t easy. Being in a relationship with someone who has abandonment issues isn’t easy. Be prepared for a lil confusion and heart break. Be prepared to put in hard work, have understanding and patience.

Relationships to people with abandonment issues commonly result these three ways:

- person with abandonment issues will either runaway/cut people off just as they start becoming attracted/attached to someone

- person with abandonment issues becomes too attached too quickly to people

- person with abandonment issues sabotages relationships even when it seems to be going well 

It’s common for people with abandonment issues to live in constant excruciating fear and anxiety about being with someone or not being with some (sometimes it can be both at the same time).

The core reason people with abandonment issues behave the way they do is an intense fear of rejection (which can be caused by multiple situations the person endured). 

***a lot of these behaviours are done through subconscious train of thought, it can be difficult to recognise you actually fear abandonment.***

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It’s such a foreign concept to me that there are people who are Trusting of and Comforted by their Friends?? like,, who are you? why aren’t you Terrified that they’ll Hurt You? That they’re Gaslighting you and you just have no idea??

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Signs you have abandonment issues (among other issues):

You feel as if you’re unimportant to your friends and/or family and find yourself acting desperate, then feel your actions may have made matters worse.

You find it hard to sleep without many lights on or some kind of noise running.

You attach yourself to inappropriate people just because you’re afraid of being alone.

You find it hard to completely open up to people because one of your “weird” things might be the last straw for them and cause them to leave you.

You blurt out inappropriate “secrets” about yourself (such as wierd quirks or faults) in early stages of a relationship and/or friendship, sometimes to push people away or sometimes to warn them because you feel guilty and/or ashamed.

You use things such as clothes, make up, inappropriate humor, and lies to make yourself feel safe and closed off from others.

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just started work & am realising how emotionally/socially stunted i really am lmfaoooo like i always knew but the extent to which i am? it’s fucking unbearable god i hate being like this god i want a redo