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possibly the most important addition this week on Hozier Liked

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Cube cat

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A ghost stegosaurus visiting their newly discovered bones. They’re so happy you found them!

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i love them ❤️

Support me on PATREON 🌻

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it’s so beautiful 🥺

wednesday as anime 🖤🕷️🕸️

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“you‘re so quiet” baby i’m not even here. i’m fantasizing about a book i read weeks ago. move on.

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me on my daily depression walk, blasting music that sounds like pots and pans banging together:

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I lost my best friend 3 years ago- not lost as in dead but lost as in we only text each other on our birthdays now. Movies and books don't tell you that a friendship dying is like the sinking of a ship, you try to get higher and higher and hold onto the rails and unanswered texts, the captain tries to steer it to safety and salvage pieces of two broken hearts until you're left with memories of what once was. We were friends for a decade and knew each other's diaries by heart, I still remember her phone number and the way she took her coffee. Seeing her in streets is like breathing in a scent you forgot you knew but it immediately takes you back to a summer in '07.

Movies and books also don't tell you that friendships don't just end after one fight or incident, it's like the rusting of a bridge, the slow decay of flesh and bones and secrets. It took weeks, months- until one day I woke up and I realized I hadn't thought of her in a while. And I wrote a poem that day and I titled it 'The dying of a best friend' and I put all my love for her in a tiny box with my half of the matching pendant of a dolphin we had and stored them in a corner of my heart under the heading Grief. Where else can one hide unspent love?

It's been 3 years since I lost my best friend, lost as in I still carry our secrets in a tiny box but we only text each other on our birthdays.

-Ritika Jyala, excerpt from The world is a sphere of ice and our hands are made of fire

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It’s important to remember that the point of a hobby is to have fun not “get better”

Imagine if someone who reads as a hobby was constantly told they would “get better” or asked “are you improving”

Now stop saying this to artist/fiber artist/dancers/anyone that has any hobby where they make things

Stop putting pressure on our fun enjoyable time by putting standards and expectations on it. If I suck at embroidery oh Fucking well i suck but I like doing it it’s FUN that’s the whole point is having FUN

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I hope you fall in love with yourself. Not because you have to for anyone else to, or because I say so, but just because you deserve to be happy with the person you are spending your entire life with.

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the real glo up is when you accept everyone for who they are and you accept yourself for who you are and focus your energy on enjoying life and making the best of every moment instead of looking around at everyone else’s life with envy and self loathing

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gender-neutral pronouns in german | geschlechtsneutrale pronomen im deutschen

so! as a german and non-binary person, i feel qualified to make this post :) this is by no means a complete list, just a few i've heard of a lot - other german people feel free to add on! | so! als eine deutsche und nicht-binäre person fühle ich mich dazu in der lage, diesen post zu machen :) das ist keineswegs eine komplette liste, nur ein paar von denen ich viel gehört habe - andere deutsche können gerne ergänzen!

es - the third grammatical gender, very rarely used by non-binary people as it has similar connotations as "it" in english - fine for those who want to use it, but not usable without the person's consent

en - the pronoun i use in german and my personal favorite; it fits the overall sound of the language very well :) (pronounced like "es" with an n instead of the s)

En ist groß.

Das ist sin Stift/sine Katze/sin Haus.

Ich gehe zu ehm.

Ich kenne ehn.

"en" is loosely based on the swedish pronoun "hen", which is (to my knowledge) used to refer to someone of unknown gender! it was created to fit as smoothly into the german language as possible :)

nin - the most common one i believe? i have yet to meet people who use nin irl but it's common on trans* forums :) (pronounced with the same "i" sound as "immer")

Nin ist gro��.

Das ist nimser Stift/nimse Katze/nimser Haus.

Ich gehe zu nim.

Ich kenne nin.

nin also has an ending for gendered terms such as job descriptions: -ir, so rather than, say, zauberer (wizard) you would have zauberir!

sir/sier - an amalgam of "sie" and "er" - both variants are pronounced the same way, like "sie" with an r at the end!

Sir/Sier ist groß.

Das ist sihr Stift/sihre Katze/sihr Haus.

Ich gehe zu ihrm.

Ich kenne sin.

xier - i find this one difficult to pronounce naturally, but many non-binary people like this one for the "x" (the third-gender marker) :) it's pronounced like "sier" but with a "ks" sound at the start

Xier ist groß.

Das ist xieser Stift/xiese Katze/xieser Haus.

Ich gehe zu xiem.

Ich kenne xien.

the relative pronoun (der/die/das) for "xier" ist "dier"!

★ many non-binary people will also use no pronouns, or ask people to alternate between er and sie or pick one of the two to refer to them with! make sure to ask people what they're comfortable with :)

some trans vocabulary:

transsexuell/trans/transgender - transgender (transsexuell is slightly dated but doesn't have the same connotation "transsexual" does in english)

cis/cisgender - cisgender

nichtbinär/nicht-binär - non-binary

(der/die) Transmann/-frau - trans man/woman (you don't really refer to anyone as a trans boy/girl in german)

(der) Geschlechtsausdruck - gender presentation

maskulin - masculine

feminin - feminine

androgyn - androgynous

geschlechtsneutral - gender-neutral

geschlechtslos - genderless

gender-nonkonform - gender non-conforming

(die) Geschlechtsdysphorie - gender dysphoria

(die) Geschlechtseuphorie - gender euphoria

(das) Neopronomen - neopronoun

(das) Testosteron - testosterone (commonly referred to as "Testo")

(das) Östrogen - estrogen

"Was ist dein Pronomen?"/"Welches Pronomen benutzt du?" - "what are your pronouns?"/"which pronouns do you use?"

"Ich bin trans/nicht-binär." - "i'm trans/non-binary."

"Ich benutze en." - "i use en."

most non-binary genders will be known by their english name :) i've been asked "bist du genderfluid?" ("nein, genderqueer") so there's no need to learn a whole list of words for that

hope this helps! i'll link some posts for further reading (and with more pronouns) in a reblog :)

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Here Are the Jewish People

Western popular concepts of Jews that people here take as the extent of our tribe:

The reality:

Boys from the Jewish population of Yemen, which has been around for 2500 hundred years but has been slowly massacred over the past few generations.

The Lemba of South Africa and Zimbabwe (Zimbabwe in particular has a large and VERY long history with their Jewish Community)

The Abayudaya of Uganda, some of the great Jewish musicians

The Beta Israeli of Ethiopia

Igbo Jews of Nigeria

Cochin Jews of India 

Baghdadi Jews

Kaifeng Jews of China, who go back to the 7th or 8th century. Unfortunately, during the 20th century much of their culture was almost wiped out and the Kaifeng are currently working to rediscover their Jewish heritage and culture.

Jewish Children in Puerto Rico (Jews have been in Puerto Rico since the 15th century, many fleeing from the Inquisition)

The Beit Shalom Choir in Japan

Kosher comes in all colors, from all over the world, and in a variety cultural groups. We’re a small portion of the human population, but we have EVERYONE. We are all members of this tribe.

Because stereotypes are bullshit.

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PASSIVELY DONATE THRU YOUTUBE VIDEOS

here’s a small list of videos you can watch and passively donate to different funds that are a part of the black lives matter movement. if you are interested in donating as well, i’ve linked most of the funds and organizations the youtubers are donating too. please do not skip the ads!!

I FOLLOWED A PROFESSIONAL MAKEUP ARTIST’S TUTORIAL: to the Black Visions Collective (x)

80p makeup... but what’s the catch? TESTING SHOP MISS A! First impressions and WEAR TEST!: to the George Floyd memorial fund (x)

In-N-Out Mukbang: to the Minnesota Freedom Fund (x)

how to help BLM with NO MONEY/leaving your house: to protestor bail funds of different states

I Got Drunk And Gave Relationship Advice! The ULTIMATE guide to BOYS & GIRLS!!: to the George Floyd fund and other racial equality charities (x)

Baby Products I Regret Buying: to the George Floyd memorial fund (x) and National Bail Out (x)

MY #1 PRODUCT FROM 10 DRUGSTORE BRANDS: the Black Visions Collective (x)

BIG LOUIS VUITTON HAUL | SS 2020 ESCALE + MORE | hollyannaeree: to the George Floyd memorial fund (x) and Campaign Zero (x)

WANT TO DONATE TO BLACK LIVES MATTER BUT HAVE NO MONEY? WATCH THIS VIDEO: to the Black Lives Matter organization (x)

Watch To Donate For FREE: Black Lives Matter: to Campaign Zero (x), NAACP (x), Black Lives Matter (x), Unicorn Riot (x), Comminuties United Against Police Brutality (x), ACLU (x), Color of Change (x), Equal Justice Initiative (x), Reclaim the Block (x), National Bail Out Fund (x)

Huge Prettylittlething & Missguided TRY ON Haul NEW IN... MAJOR Retail Therapy!!: to the George Floyd fund (x) and others

MAY FAVORITES & BOOKS I’VE READ THIS MONTH | I Covet Thee: to The Bail Project (x)

Quarantine Graduation Cap Cake for Class of 2020 | How to Cake It with Yolanda Gampp: to an unspecified organization dedicated towards the education for black students

AMSR Putting Fenty Makeup on Rihanna (Paper Makeover): to the Black Visions Collective (x) and Support the Cities (x)

DECLUTTER, DIY & DECORATE #WITHME Little Girl’s Boho Room Transformation UNDER $100!!!: to the George Floyd memorial fund (x)

TikTokers SPEAKING OUT About RACISM & BLACK LIVES MATTER (Ft. Charli D’amelio, Dixie D’amelio): to the Black Lives Matter foundation (x)

Let’s Talk About It: Racism & Social Injustice: to the Black Lives Matter foundation (x)

“but i’m not racist?”: to the Minnesota Freedom Fund (x)

regarding everything that’s happening: to the George Floyd memorial fund (x), Minnesota Freedom Fund (x), Los Angeles bail relief fund (x), Atlanta bail relief fund (x), Chicago Freedom School (x), People’s Breakfast Oakland (x), Black Queer/Trans operated fund in MN (x)

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THROUGH A RAPIST’S EYES” (PLS TAKE TIME TO READ THIS. It may save a life, It may save your life.)

An Article from Neena Susan Thomas

“Through a rapist’s eyes. A group of rapists and date rapists in prison were interview…ed on what they look for in a potential victim and here are some interesting facts:

1] The first thing men look for in a potential victim is hairstyle. They are most likely to go after a woman with a ponytail, bun! , braid, or other hairstyle that can easily be grabbed. They are also likely to go after a woman with long hair. Women with short hair are not common targets.

2] The second thing men look for is clothing. They will look for women who’s clothing is easy to remove quickly. Many of them carry scissors around to cut clothing.

3] They also look for women using their cell phone, searching through their purse or doing other activities while walking because they are off guard and can be easily overpowered.

4] The number one place women are abducted from / attacked at is grocery store parking lots.

5] Number two is office parking lots/garages.

6] Number three is public restrooms.

7] The thing about these men is that they are looking to grab a woman and quickly move her to a second location where they don’t have to worry about getting caught.

8] If you put up any kind of a fight at all, they get discouraged because it only takes a minute or two for them to realize that going after you isn’t worth it because it will be time-consuming.

9] These men said they would not pick on women who have umbrellas,or other similar objects that can be used from a distance, in their hands.

10] Keys are not a deterrent because you have to get really close to the attacker to use them as a weapon. So, the idea is to convince these guys you’re not worth it.

POINTS THAT WE SHOULD REMEMBER:

1] If someone is following behind you on a street or in a garage or with you in an elevator or stairwell, look them in the face and ask them a question, like what time is it, or make general small talk: can’t believe it is so cold out here, we’re in for a bad winter. Now that you’ve seen their faces and could identify them in a line- up, you lose appeal as a target.

2] If someone is coming toward you, hold out your hands in front of you and yell Stop or Stay back! Most of the rapists this man talked to said they’d leave a woman alone if she yelled or showed that she would not be afraid to fight back. Again, they are looking for an EASY target.

3] If you carry pepper spray (this instructor was a huge advocate of it and carries it with him wherever he goes,) yelling I HAVE PEPPER SPRAY and holding it out will be a deterrent.

4] If someone grabs you, you can’t beat them with strength but you can do it by outsmarting them. If you are grabbed around the waist from behind, pinch the attacker either under the arm between the elbow and armpit or in the upper inner thigh – HARD. One woman in a class this guy taught told him she used the underarm pinch on a guy who was trying to date rape her and was so upset she broke through the skin and tore out muscle strands the guy needed stitches. Try pinching yourself in those places as hard as you can stand it; it really hurts.

5] After the initial hit, always go for the groin. I know from a particularly unfortunate experience that if you slap a guy’s parts it is extremely painful. You might think that you’ll anger the guy and make him want to hurt you more, but the thing these rapists told our instructor is that they want a woman who will not cause him a lot of trouble. Start causing trouble, and he’s out of there.

6] When the guy puts his hands up to you, grab his first two fingers and bend them back as far as possible with as much pressure pushing down on them as possible. The instructor did it to me without using much pressure, and I ended up on my knees and both knuckles cracked audibly.

7] Of course the things we always hear still apply. Always be aware of your surroundings, take someone with you if you can and if you see any odd behavior, don’t dismiss it, go with your instincts. You may feel little silly at the time, but you’d feel much worse if the guy really was trouble.

FINALLY, PLEASE REMEMBER THESE AS WELL ….

1. Tip from Tae Kwon Do: The elbow is the strongest point on your body. If you are close enough to use it, do it.

2. Learned this from a tourist guide to New Orleans : if a robber asks for your wallet and/or purse, DO NOT HAND IT TO HIM. Toss it away from you…. chances are that he is more interested in your wallet and/or purse than you and he will go for the wallet/purse. RUN LIKE MAD IN THE OTHER DIRECTION!

3. If you are ever thrown into the trunk of a car: Kick out the back tail lights and stick your arm out the hole and start waving like crazy. The driver won’t see you but everybody else will. This has saved lives.

4. Women have a tendency to get into their cars after shopping,eating, working, etc., and just sit (doing their checkbook, or making a list, etc. DON’T DO THIS! The predator will be watching you, and this is the perfect opportunity for him to get in on the passenger side,put a gun to your head, and tell you where to go. AS SOON AS YOU CLOSE the DOORS , LEAVE.

5. A few notes about getting into your car in a parking lot, or parking garage:

a. Be aware: look around your car as someone may be hiding at the passenger side , peek into your car, inside the passenger side floor, and in the back seat. ( DO THIS TOO BEFORE RIDING A TAXI CAB) .

b. If you are parked next to a big van, enter your car from the passenger door. Most serial killers attack their victims by pulling them into their vans while the women are attempting to get into their cars.

c. Look at the car parked on the driver’s side of your vehicle, and the passenger side. If a male is sitting alone in the seat nearest your car, you may want to walk back into the mall, or work, and get a guard/policeman to walk you back out. IT IS ALWAYS BETTER TO BE SAFE THAN SORRY. (And better paranoid than dead.)

6. ALWAYS take the elevator instead of the stairs. (Stairwells are horrible places to be alone and the perfect crime spot).

7. If the predator has a gun and you are not under his control, ALWAYS RUN! The predator will only hit you (a running target) 4 in 100 times; And even then, it most likely WILL NOT be a vital organ. RUN!

8. As women, we are always trying to be sympathetic: STOP IT! It may get you raped, or killed. Ted Bundy, the serial killer, was a good-looking, well educated man, who ALWAYS played on the sympathies of unsuspecting women. He walked with a cane, or a limp, and often asked “for help” into his vehicle or with his vehicle, which is when he abducted his next victim.

Send this to any woman you know that may need to be reminded that the world we live in has a lot of crazies in it and it’s better safe than sorry.

If u have compassion reblog this post. ‘Helping hands are better than Praying Lips’ – give us your helping hand.

REBLOG THIS AND LET EVERY GIRL KNOW AT LEAST PEOPLE WILL KNOW WHATS GOING ON IN THIS WORLD. So please reblog this….Your one reblog can Help to spread this information.

THIS COULD ACTUALLY SAVE A LIFE.”