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frankwoodsislost · 8 days ago

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Rant about being a teenager

Being a teenager fucking sucks.

But not for the reasons one may typically think.

It’s not the hormones, growing up, or shit like that.

It’s the way adults treat us and how we get treated over all in society. There are multiple points I have for this statement, I’ll go over all of them that I can think of currently.

One: We can’t fucking go anywhere.

We cannot go anywhere. This is for many reasons. Some being: Strict parents, having to ask before doing ANYTHING, having any IRL friends never be available, there are no areas for his to hang out, we can’t even go to a mall without needing and adult to supervise us or some dumb shit like that, if/when we go into restaurants or stores, we get treated like fucking criminals, we get looked at weird if we hang out at parks or play in them, everything is so damn expensive now-a-days, and plus there are the possibilities of danger. There is also a lot of us who have jobs, or extra curriculares that take up our time after school, which is already eight hours a goddamn day. Some other things to mention that I think are Important to say here: most places are built for cars now so you can’t walk places. And even then, you can’t bring a skateboard, roller skates, or a scooter, because those are banned in most places. At least here in North America where we live. Also: more on the topic of friends and them being busy, some of them are not in our area. A lot of us have online friends that we’d love to hang out with, but we can’t because they are either in another state- or they are all the way across the goddamn world.

We have been pretty much pushed out of society. We cannot gather any where or hang out, and then adults get upset when we don’t go out of the house and stay on our devices all day.

Number two: Our struggles get constantly ignored.

With this point, I really want to point out factors like stress from school and home life, the state of society, and how our mental health constantly gets ignored. Nobody will take us seriously when we try to explain that— No Brenda, we do NOT have a carefree life with no stress. YES it IS possible for us to be mental ill and having things like depression. We are going to act out sometimes, so what? All children do. All teenagers do. Everyone is different. One group of bad teens doesn’t speak for all of us as a whole.

People say constantly: “You can tell us about your issues!” And that- “we are here for you whenever you need us!” But then when we actually go to them, it’s like- “Oh well, you’re too young for that.” If we tell them about our sexuality and gender ID: “You’re too young to know that/know that for sure.” If we tell them about our debilitating mental health: “No you’re not, you’re too young to be feeling that. You don’t know how hard life really is!”. And honorable mention(s) for our fellow chronically ills out there: “I’m sure it’s just some anxiety”, “You’re just being dramatic”.

Our mental and even physical health gets ignored SO FUCKING MUCH because it is usually chopped up to anxiety or hormones. We are never taken seriously, and from our experience as a traumatized and mentally/chronically ill teenager, we are often the most mature person in the room. We carry the most logic and reason in conversations and arguments, only to be hit with the: “I’m the parent and your the child” excuse, or the: “You’re a child, what do you know?/you don’t know anything.” Lines.

Number three: We are never respected. At all. Not even a little bit.

Adults, usually parents, do not respect our boundaries, and punishes us for making them and upholding them. They also do not give us privacy, saying that we don’t need or we don’t deserve it, or some other bullshit excuse like that. We are often treated like insignificant little children who cannot think for themselves and constantly need to be watched and controlled to function properly. And then they get upset when we end up developing mental issues and become sneaky. Like no you stupid bitch, stop being so fucking controlling all the damn time.

It’s even worse when your parents literally do not see you as human. They may say they do, but most- if not ALL of us usually get treated like a difficult pet.

We cannot even truly be ourselves because we always have to cater to the opinions and perceptions of us from the older generation(s). Expressing ourselves and finding ourselves is difficult as is, and the adults who are supposed to be caring for us and helping us aren’t making shit any fuckin better.

We aren’t allowed our own autonomy, we aren’t allowed privacy, or our own opinions. We are not allowed to mess up and make mistakes like normal teenagers do. We have mood swings and high emotions, that’s normal. And yet we aren’t even allowed to have that.

Number four: The way parents go about punishing us is fucking dog shit.

When parents or adults punish us, no matter what they say, it’s usually not out of a genuine place of concern or act of proper correction for the child. We get our stuff thrown away, taken away, and over all just weaponized against us. We get come to enjoy something, the parent will use that against us any time we make a mistake.

The worst part is that they punish LITERALLY FUCKING EVERYTHING. Undesired behavior, and desired behavior as well. If we get sentenced to be in our room all of the time because of us being grounded or whatever, and the the parents complain about us never coming out of our room, and then we actually begin coming out of our room, we get hit with the: “Oh well look who finally came out of their room!”. Like cmon asshole… the snarky comment was NOT needed…

And the worst part is that you can’t do anything to stop this mistreatment. Well- you MOSTLY can’t do anything- if you are in an abusive situation, you can TRY to tell CPS About your struggles, but… speaking form experience here when I say this, they don’t help for shit. More often than not, they’re gonna believe the parents over you and your situation is just going to become worse. Whether that be emotionally or physically. And then you are even MORE stuck, because then you probably got punished or had your means of communication taken away, whether that be phone, laptop, iPad, paper, etc. and then at that point— it’s like you’re fucking stranded in your own home.

Number five: Pressure

We fucking HATE the phrase: “You kids have it so easy”, because it is usually used to dismiss our struggles with emotions and mental health, but we also hate it because it is the most UNTRUE statement to be made about teenagers to date. There is a constant pressure that is put on us, and it’s for pretty much everything we do. School, home life, extra curriculares if you’re in those, if you are in sports, the pressure is on even more because well- it’s sports. What do you expect?

We are constantly pressured to be good and/or perfect at whatever we do all of the damn time, whether that be academically, or in sports, or anything else.

The worst part is that-

If we fail- even just a tiny bit-

We get treated like we treated like we just handed over the nuclear codes to Russia. Which I know is an exaggeration- but you’d be fucking SHOCKED at the shit me, and other people have had to go through because of simple mistakes that could’ve been correction with a simple, mature, and calm conversation.

Number six: “Acting grown”

Another thing I wanna touch on: and it’s not JUST a teenager thing, we see it happen with pre-teens and younger kiddos as well, but adults will sometimes get onto us for “acting grown”. This pisses me off for multiple reasons, among them being things like how adults can just scream at you and insult you and act like an egotistical 12 year old with a power trip to you and others your whole life, but as soon as you do that in return? You get punished. Probably even get the: “You shouldn’t be talking like that to your parents,” line by any bystander that might see. But then if you try to have a mature, calm, reasonable, and logical conversation with them, you get into trouble for that too because you are calling them out on their BS and they don’t like that. And another thing- another reason why I hate this phrase so much is because adults will constantly put us in positions and situations where we gotta act like grown adults, and then get upset when we go on to act like grown adults. Like bitch— why are you getting onto US for acting like a grown ass adult when YOU are the ones putting us in situation where we have to do so?

I’m gonna used some examples of situations we’ve heard of here or there, why the hell do parents get so upset when we act grown? You put adult responsibilities onto us, you put us at a higher standard than you do the adults, and quite frankly, I don’t understand that. The ADULTS should be put at a higher standard than the literal DEVELOPING BRAIN that is the child. We give them adult-like responsibilities— making them cook, clean the house, and watch their siblings at 12-14 years old, maybe younger if you’ve had to go through that, and then you guys get upset when said child is acting grown. Your kids are raising your other kids— but they’re not allowed to have an opinion a your parenting; Why? That’s your co-parent.

Now granted, we thankfully were blessed enough to not have the deal with the whole— “taking care of siblings as well as the house and essentially being a co-parent” thing, but we’ve known people who went through that, and we know of people who went through that, and based off of their own accounts and experiences, we can tell ya that it’s not a nice feeling to basically be a co-parent to your siblings, and then get in trouble when you critique even a tiny portion of your parents shitty parenting.

Like yes— we are acting grown, why are getting so pissed off? YOU are the one(s) that made us like this? You put us in adult situations and put adult-like responsibilities onto us, and then get upset when we begin to act grown. Like— why? Shit ain’t adding up in your logic.

Number seven: These bitches cannot take critique for SHIT

Jumping off of that last bit, adult CANNOT and WILL NOT accept, or take any critique from a child, or jsut a minor in general.

When you call them out of their bullshit, they get so pissed off and offended. Remember when I said earlier in the rant that adults will punish their children for being logical and reasonable in an argument with them? Yeah. That ties in to what I’m saying here; when you call out an adult on their BS when you are a minor, they will try everything in their goddamn power to either prove you wrong, gaslight you into thinking you are wrong, or to punish you. They usually do this because they have their head stuck up their own ass, and/or they realize that they are loosing the argument, and I guess they take it as a hit to their (I suppose extremely fragile) ego or something?

I swear- it’s like- when a child knows more than them, it’s like their ego and pride gets shattered because a child dares to call them out on their shitty behavior and actions. If it were another adult doing this, they would’ve likely apologized for their actions, and made up for them. But no. They cannot stand it when a minor knows more than them and call them out on their BS, because when they do, their superiority complex comes crashing down because they realize that the child not only knows more than them, but that this is the first step to many more that will lead to them loosing their control over the child.

You legit cannot critique them on ANYTHING without getting fucking bitched at. Talking with most adults feels like talking to an a 6-7th grade bully with controlling and anger management issues who never truly grew out of being a bully. That body has grown up, but that brain hasn’t. And we can ALL tell when we see it.

To put things bluntly:

Teenagers, and children over all, always seem to get treated like shit for the reasons I have stated above. I am convinced that most adults do not see as human beings and only really see us as pets and things to control. Not all adults are like that obviously, but here are some many of them out there, I don’t think it’s fare fetched or make a general statement and say that most adults see children as lesser than, or incompetent. And that… that hurts. It leads to a shrew of mistreatment and abuse that leads us to develop mental health issues, which then cause us to get mistreated more because of developing said mental health issues. We can’t win for shit, and I’m sick and tired of it. I think we all are. We don’t have the respect, autonomy, and /or the ability to set boundaries that are healthy for people our age because when we DO do that, the parents realize that they’re loosing their control over us, and instead of being a good parent and acknowledge that they can’t control every bit of our life, they flip their lid and go fucking crazy on us for anything they can. Most “parenting” is just about unnecessary, and harsh control and it’s exhausting. It feels like once we get a break, 50 more life struggle just fucking *spawn* out of no where. With all of the pressure that out onto us, there is no place to just breath and relax. Or even to just BE a teenager. These are meant to be the best years of our life, but they really aren’t all they’re chopped up to be.

For those who understand all of this, you know how we feel and what we are talking about when we say this, and for those who read all the way to the bottom of this long-ass rant, I just wanted to say thank you for listening. It took me and @alexmasonistired two whole ass days to write this out and a lot of mental energy, lol. I hope what I’ve said here makes sense, to anyone reading this still: have a good day, and drink some water. Remeber to eat and take your meds if you gotta. And remember:

You are loved.

You are valid.

You are beautiful and perfect as you are no matter what the adults in your life say.

You are talented. And you can always make something of that talent, no matter what people tell you.

And most importantly:

Your struggles are valid and you deserve to be heard; you deserve to get help. And one day you will. Things may to tough right now, but you will get there eventually.

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