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Happy St Patty's Day

Whether you are as adventurous as this couple, caught in broad daylight doing it in the rear, or more of a corny card kind of person grab a pint o’ Guinness and enjoy.

Ladies, when you are out and about today, watch out as the gentlemen have likely been told to sneak in some of these St. Patty’s day pick ups. 

Be ready for the good ole’ “Tip o’ the Trojan to ye!” Try your hand at one of my favorites, “Top of the morning to you.”  After a smile, nod or hello, add this little gem, “Actually I’d like to be on top of you in the morning.” 

Feel free to scout out your own pickup lines. Play with fond memories. Remember those old school magic breakfast charms?  “You look magically delicious, and I just happen to be a cereal lovemaker.”  

Too far out of your comfort zone? Tone it down. You don’t have to be a cereal lovemaker, try something like, "You look magically delicious and I’m hungry."

In general, steer clear of anyone saying things like “Your face reminds me of a wrench, every time I think of it my nuts tighten up.” That will never end well. 

Guys, forget cringe-worthy. That's only good for a laugh with your friends. If we have to think twice about what you just said, forget it. Your shirt can be punchy, your attitude still needs to be in check, gentlemanly even.   

Tired of the pickups?

Are your shamrocks refusing to shake?  Give these Irish inspired jokes a whirl. 

For the naughty Christian, "Why wasn’t Jesus born in Ireland?"  For the NSFW crowd, can you imagine, "Why do leprechauns giggle when they play soccer?  For vanilla, mixed crowd, safe to say to your gram, "How can you tell if an Irishman is having a good time?" or "Why don't you iron 4-Leaf clovers?" If you haven't guessed yet, scroll to the end for the answers.  

Be safe, have fun, and let your leprechaun shine today! 

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Not sure if casual sex is right for you? Found that special someone and ready for some fireworks?  Tired of the scene and looking for a little me time?   

 Answers:

a). He couldn't find 3 wise men or a virgin  b). Because the grass tickles their balls c). He's Dublin' over with laughter d). Because you don't want to press your luck

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The Aviary in Philadelphia

The night starts young at the Aviary, an improvisational interactive theater utilizing concepts that involve fetish as well as BDSM, when the doors open at 8am. Your admission fee of $25 gives you access to the space until 1 pm, usage of the equipment and furniture and most importantly access to the resources, educators and monitors available throughout the venue.

The first floor has a lounge area, a coat check and some light refreshments for sale.  This is a drug and alcohol-free space, so you’ll find water, Gatorade, coffee and some snacks like candy and chips. If you appear visibly intoxicated or under the influence, don’t expect to play.

The newbie corner is the perfect place to stop for newbies and seasoned players.  Mistress Thane and her partner VoltMeter are there to provide instruction and advice.  Mistress Thane comes ready with needles and sharps if that is something you are into or interested in experimenting.  While I’ve got piercings, I’ve never experienced a “play” non-permanent piercing. Mistress Thane broke my cherry, or rather the skin on my forearm. I wasn’t sure what to expect. She had me breathe deeply and on the exhalation, she punctured my skin. I think the thought of play piercing creeped me out more than actually having it done. It didn’t really hurt. As with everything, I imagine there are ways to make it hurt more. I’m sure as a newbie interested in experience, she went easy on me!

I wasn’t adventurous enough to try it myself or even watch while she did it.  But I did play with it once pierced. I pulled it in and out, shifted it back and forth. And then I took it and disposed of the needle in a sharps bucket. 

Voltmeter manned a table of dastardly implements made with a variety of materials, shapes and sizes from a wooden ruler, to floggers to whips.  He interacted with folks and answered questions about handling, type of feel and suggested scenarios.  Behind him sat a large wooden St Andrews Cross, ready to be used for practice with the implements on the table.  In the other corner, a large sex swing stand was positioned for use in the space and was occupied while we were there. Sir Brian engaged in an erotic knife, bondage scene.  

Upstairs the main dungeon and littles space were the main attractions.  Littles have their own room for stories, coloring and cuddles.  They were running around the space and playing. There were even some Disney sing alongs happening.

The ballroom held equipment around the perimeter and across the center.  St Andrew crosses, sex swings, massage tables, bondage frame, spanking benches, and other furniture were evenly spaced for usage and observation.

The room ebbed and flowed with people of different ages, shapes and sizes. Attendees were respectful of the space and the need for aftercare. Moans, grunts and giggles could be heard above the music. Rope bondage, flogging and caning were popular activities. Women appeared in dominant roles, men in dominant roles. Inclusivity permeated the space. Fire and electricity, spanking, even tickling could be viewed if you paid attention.

What isn’t the Aviary

A sex positive (in that you can stimulate the genitals and reach orgasm) playspace

A clothing optional space – No genitals / anuses exposed

A swingers club / A bar / nightclub

What is the Aviary

A community

A playspace

An inclusive environment

 Who is the Aviary good for?

New play partners

Newbies

People who enjoy a space to play, clearance (how high are the ceilings?) and audience?  Get your voyeur on.

Looking for a glimpse into some of the activities that happen at the Aviary?  Check out my podcast with Sir Brian.  How about a lite BDSM read - Try Unhinged and Undone. 

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A Cultured Fuck

“Wanna read?”  His arms wrapped around my waist. 

His warm breath caressed my ear, sending shivers down my spine.  I giggled and pushed him away. 

“I’ll take that as a yes.”  His husky voice followed me as I darted away. 

His hand locked on my wrist.  He jerked. 

My feet, mid-motion propelled me back into his embrace.  Our eyes locked.  My chest quaked, the adrenalin pumping through me.

His fingers caressed my cheek.  He leaned into me and our lips met, his hunger meeting my own.  I felt the growing bulge between us, his cock hard underneath jeans. 

A slow murmur escaped my lips as I gently led him toward the esse, our lips still locked in heated passion.  “Not yet.” I mumbled and pressed my palm against his chest, pushing him down.

He stumbled and sat, reclining back, pulling me on top of him.

My knees straddled his hips.  Slowly, I released the buttons down the front of his shirt, revealing a bare, muscular chest.  “Mmmmm.”  I kissed down his neck and pecs. 

He sat up.

I shifted the shirt over his shoulders and slid my pelvis across his lap, rubbing myself over him.  Arching my back, I ground my pussy against the rough material of his jeans.  

He slipped his hands under my shirt, over my abs and between my breasts.  His body followed mine, as we slid over the esse.  Reaching behind me he unhooked my bra, his hands easily gliding bra and shirt over my head.  He took a breast within his mouth and bit ever so gently.  “So fucking hot,” he whispered.

My center throbbed.  I wrapped my legs around him and pulled him into me, needing him closer.  Fumbling with his jeans, I unzipped his pants.  My fingers grasped the thick, soft hardness restricted by boxer briefs. 

He groaned as I massaged his shaft and circled his cock.  I tilted forward and we slipped further down.  I slid across the smooth furniture to the floor and pulled everything off.  His cock jumped at the freedom, proud and tall amid a sinewy muscled man.  Standing in front of him, I shimmied my skirt and thong over my hips and down my legs.  I grasped the thin silk of my panties between my toes and tossed them at him. 

He smiled. 

A hungry, aroused haze filled his gorgeous eyes, making me even wetter.  I walked to the other side of the esse and leaned over his face.  I ran my hands through his soft hair, pulling at the nape. 

He appeared surprised.

Upside down, I fluttered kisses over his forehead, nose and lips. 

His tongue explored my mouth and betrayed his need. 

Massaging his chest, I kneeled onto the higher slope by his head, shifting my body along his.  I hovered my pussy over his lips and took his cock within my grasp.  I felt his mouth widen over my pussy lips.  He began with a gentle suction, palpitating my lips and teasing the crevice between with his tongue.

I swallowed hard and tried to concentrate.  My body ached to be full.  I wrapped my lips around his cock.  My need fueled my movement.  I dove into sucking and licking his cock with a ferocity that he matched against my pussy.  I bucked into his face, riding his tongue, my body following his moves.

“You taste so good.”  He hummed against my clit.

I shook.  My mouth struggled to keep rhythm.  My center blossomed in a wave of sheer pleasure.  I moaned and arched.  His cock fell from my lips and I cried out, the orgasm ripping through my body.

“Oh, baby. Come here.”  He reached for me, shifting me around.

Our lips met.  I settled in his lap, rubbing my dripping pussy against his cock. 

He grabbed my ass, thrusting me more forcefully back and forth. 

Tearing my lips from his I whispered, “I want you inside me,” and nibbled his ear.  I pushed him back and tilted my pelvis, taking in just the tip.  I rocked over him, teasing him and teasing me.  His cock head moved in and out of my body, building the need, creating a delicious tension.

“Ahhh.” I moaned, fully accepting his thickness. 

He grunted in response.  “Yeah, baby.  Just like that.  You feel so good.”  He held my hips.  His fingers pressed into my ass cheeks. He urged me faster.

I fought to slow down, enjoying the change in tempo.  But I was primed, and ready to go.  His groans came in short bursts.  Each one a shot to my pussy, heightening my pleasure and building toward my climax.  I lost control.  My hips bucked and my body shook.  Hunger and anticipation intensified.  My chest heaved. 

He jerked.  His pelvis thrust against me.  His cock filled me. 

He grunted. 

One final animalistic growl erupted from his chest as he came. 

I fell with him.  My body mirrored his.  My hips engaged in a primal dance.

Overwhelmed with pleasure, I cried out. 

I reached for his lips as our dance slowed.  The afterglow of our intimacy lingered in a long and sensuous kiss.  I snuggled into his chest. 

He wrapped his arms around me and stroked my hair.  “Good story?” he whispered.

The End

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 *Originally submitted to Lusty Lit. Copyright ©2016 Ginger Segreti. All rights, including electronic, reserved by the author. Do not reproduce in any form without the author’s express permission.

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Happy Valentine's Day

Tired of roses and chocolates?  Looking for a new way to celebrate with your partner?

For this Valentine’s Day, give your partner the gift of a new experience. Share an activity together.

Get Active

Partners who play together stay together.

Whether you’re trying a new sport together, a fitness class or ballroom dancing – the goal is to share the new experience together.  Treat your special someone with tickets to a class, a private instructor or a new experience ticket to be redeemed for an activity of their choosing.  Exercising with your partner may even increase the likelihood of staying together!

Are you competitive? How about horseback riding or training for a marathon? Would you like to share more quality time touching your partner?  Acroyoga or ballroom dancing could be the perfect activity to share. Learn to communicate better both verbally and non-verbally.

Get Out There

Move beyond your comfort zone

Who better than your partner to accompany you on a daredevil adventure, a lifelong dream or a simple evening a little out of your comfort zone?  

The older we get the stronger our neural pathways become and the more we rely on prior ideas and behaviors. Getting out of your comfort zone can help you change your brain patterns, be open to new and novel ideas and help you personally and professionally.  Take a leap with your partner and try something new. Interested in being more socially confident?  Try Improv. Want to explore your sacred sexuality? Give orgasmic meditation a shot.

Get To Know your Partner

Get to know your partner. 

When was the last time you talked about your relationship? Your hopes, dreams and fears?  Have you been together so long, you don’t even remember the last time you asked instead of assumed?  Or are you on the other side of the relationship spectrum. Is everything new and fresh? Commit to each other.

Get to know your significant other.  Google questions to get to know someone. Order the Big Book of Questions, table topics or uncommon questions.

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 Looking for other ways to connect with your partner?  Try role playing or scripting your fantasy.  Want to add a little spark to your evenings?  Check out our toy store today!

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Hanging out with Sir Brian, a podcast

Join Ginger with her guest of the day, Sir Brian, a professional dominant and alternative sexuality educator and coach. Listen to their wide-ranging chat covering the difference between power and sex; the experience of rope and how individual kink is for each person.

Find out why some people go to the spa and others get spanked. 

If you’re curious how to read a person or get involved with bondage, listen to learn firsthand what Sir Brian recommends you need to know and how to get started.  

 Show Notes:

Who is he and how he got started

Getting personal with Sir Brian 2:19 – is BDSM only for sex?

Rope to free from your bondage

Kink as a means to break out of your day-to-day 6:20

The power of kink 7:55

How do you read people 10:11

You go to the spa – some people get spanked 12:10

No shame in calling a safe word 15:15

Rope – 16:41

Where in Philly you can Just hang out 19:45

Different body types and rope 20:53

Precautions / stay safe 22:45

Why we are all weird 25:25

There are no hard rules in rope 29:35

Human life is worth more than $X dollar rope costs 34:25

Red flag 37:35

Safety and straightness have nothing to do with one another 39:10

Jerking off elitists 43:10

A rigger joke 45:20

Words of advice for your younger self 47:10

Where can you find Sir Brian?

The Kink Shoppe

Live Rope Bondage Demos the third Friday of every month. Free to watch, $5 to be tied. Ready for that next step?  Sir Brian teaches rope workshops designed to take you through the basic theories of rope bondage. Learn foundational ties and experience rope bondage firsthand.  

Aviary    

The Aviary is an improvisational interactive theater night focusing on ontological deconstruction of the political theory concepts of Contract and Domination, as put forth by Carole Pateman and Charles Mills. It often utilizes concepts that involve fetish, as well as BDSM.

Links:

Kink aware / kink professionals – where to find a kink aware caretaker

Fetlife 

Justine’s list *Does not appear up-to-date

Graffiti pier

Sir Brian Recommended resources:

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Mr. CEO*

Looking for a little heat to ease the winter blues? Check out this teaser fantasy come true from Can We Have a Foursome?

I knock, you answer, “come in,” almost a growl. You’re seated casually behind your desk, your white-collar shirt buttoned up, but not all the way. Tie loose and hanging. You appear a bit disheveled but jump into conversation. We’re working out the terms of a merger and you’re obviously stressed. This isn’t going in your favor. You search my eyes for weakness as I stroll into the room.

“Have a seat.” You gesture to the chair in front of your desk.

I ignore you and walk around, sitting on the edge, next to you.

“Damn it,” you reply, as you pound the smooth wood near my leg.

“I told you, this wasn’t going to be easy. We’re doing you a favor. At this trajectory, your company won’t last a month. Take the offer.” I push the paperwork forward on the desk, casually giving you a glimpse of skin—more than you deserve.

“I’ve built this company from the ground up. I won’t be taken!” You insist.

I slowly stand and step behind your chair. As I lean in. My lips almost brush your ear. I lower my voice. “You have no choice.” I place my hands on your shoulders. After a gentle squeeze, I run both hands down your arms. With my breath hot in your ear, I whisper, “Just let go. It will be easier this way. If you don’t, your entire organization will collapse.”

“No.” Your fist pounds the table again.

I heave a heavy sigh. “You know the consequences if you don’t sign.”  I open my purse. “Stand up.”  I instruct, my voice no longer sultry and sexual, but intense, dominant.

You refuse and I quickly remind you the penalty will be worse if you don’t listen.

You stand.

“Remove your belt and hand it to me.” Pressing myself into your back, I tuck my hand around your waist, slipping the button from its hole and drawing the length of your zipper down your cock. I can feel you quiver beneath the pressure of my hand. Seizing your belt, I step away.

“Bend over.” I shimmy your legs open with my heeled foot. I layer the belt and draw it quickly apart, relishing the smack that reverberates through your office. Your skin feels moist as I draw your briefs to your thighs.

I take a moment to inspect you and appreciate the view from your leather shoes to your collared shirt. Your hairs stand on end. I stroke the leather down your back and over your rear. "Nice."

Whack - I strike quickly, not giving any notice of my intent.

You grunt and shuffle, slightly bracing for the next bite.

I casually stroke your ass with my palm. “You’re already turning scarlet,” I purr. “Would you like more encouragement? Or are you ready to sign?” I continue stroking your ass, giving you a brief reprieve to consider your answer.

“I won’t.” You pause, trembling slightly like you’re on the verge of a tantrum. “I won’t sign.”

“Tell me when.” I step back and take my time, positioning myself to begin your true punishment. The first sting, well that was a mere warning. Now I advance with a deliberate and steady rhythm, a light but noticeable force.

A slight knock at the door interrupts us.

“Oh, excuse me. Mr. X?” The door opens and a hot little secretary stumbles in as I flog her boss. Her paperwork falls. Her hand flies to her mouth and she stares like a little bunny waiting to be taken.

 “Ah, come here little bunny,” I coax as I pat her boss’ ass. I reach my hand for her and arch my finger in her direction.

“I, um...” she mutters, seemingly unable to move towards me or away.

I push you back into your chair and bound your arms and legs. “Stay put.” I walk to the little bunny. Tck, tck, tck, my heels echo in the small space.

Coming up behind her, I wrap my arms around her under her shirt. “Ah, bunny,” I whisper as I fondle her breasts and lick at her ear.

She arches into me. My hand slips from her blouse and slides under the waistband of her skirt. I lightly run my fingers over her moist panties. “Do you like that bunny?” I slip my thumb in and use my fingers to stroke her clit.

She murmurs and coos. Her body presses into mine.  

“Do you like that?” I stare at you, her boss.

Your face flushes and your eyes slide shamefully down to the floor.

My bunny hums in my ear. I thrust a second and third finger into her.

“Ah,” she moans louder. Her hips shift against me. I nibble her neck. She thrusts her head back. Her eyes shut. Her face tenses. Her breathing accelerates to a pant.

“That’s right bunny. Let go. I want you to scream for me.” I run my fingers through her hair and thrust a fourth finger into her.

A temporary silence fills the space. Her lips part as if she's speaking in a silent movie. Her face freezes.

I look up. Our eyes meet. A sadistic smile spreads across my lips as I feel the envy of your cock, your lips, your manhood. You avert your eyes again.

But I catch you.

A subtle coo slips from her lips.

“Come for me bunny.”

Her hips shot out as if a rubber band let loose. Her mouth unleashes the unspoken moment. A cry of ecstatic agony fills the silence.

A gush fills my fingers. A surge of wetness lubricates my own desire.

I slip my hand up her shirt again and caress her torso and breasts. “That’s my good bunny.” I slowly kiss along her neck as she settles against me.  Her body quiets. I withdraw my fingers and cup her. Rotating softly, I caress her. She snuggles against me. I pick her up and she leans her head against my chest.  I walk quickly to the couch against the other side of your office and lay her down. I kiss her forehead and cover her spent body with a blanket.

“You didn’t deserve that treat.” I sit back on the side of your desk. Your eyes divert back to the secretary. “You’re awfully quiet.” I reach down and trace your lips. I push the paperwork across the mahogany.

“Are you going to sign?”

You take a deep breath and grit your teeth.

“Silent treatment?” I place a palm on the table and lean toward you. “I know just what to do with silent treatment.” I reach for the belt.

Your cock jumps.

“Ah, so that’s the game.” I walk around you, slowly, playing with the belt. I slide it between my fingers. I loop it and stroke it. I hit the leather against my palm. I run it down your chest. I even stroke your face with it.

“No more.” I drop the belt in your lap. I push the paperwork square in front of you. “Tomorrow.” I nod at the secretary. “She delivers the signed papers to my office at 2pm.”

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Enjoy that excerpt with a little more? Check out Can We Have a Foursome. Looking for more stories with strong female leads? Try Mistress Charm's New Pupil. Want to take a step back and be pampered? Try Unhinged and Undone.  

 * Excerpt and extension from Can We Have a Foursome  Copyright ©2016/2018 Ginger Segreti. All rights, including electronic, reserved by the author. Do not reproduce in any form without the author’s express permission.

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Fun Factory Bouncer Review

I’m a big fan of taking the next step.  A text message to picture message. A hop to a jump, bridge to wheel pose in yoga.  So I was super excited when Fun Factory came out with the Bouncer, the next logical extension of the Smart Balls.

If you haven’t experienced the joy of Smart Balls – you’re missing out. The small insertion toy is branded to help with muscle strength: incontinence, post pregnancy, and general sexual wellness are the baselines for use and are all great uses. 

For me, for personal pleasure, I like to use the Smart Balls along with a clitoral vibrator. I pop the smart balls in with a generous amount of lube and grab my favorite vibrator. As my body speeds up, the smart balls begin to do their work.  A small round weight within each ball bounces and rolls to your tempo – it’s like an intuitive intimate massage. With a better than happy ending.

Now imagine that experience in a dildo. OMG! Forget AI, forget algorithms – you don’t need fancy tech in your vagina. This dildo does it all and more. It’s got a girth and heft to it that I like. The Bouncer provides a feeling like none other on the market. It moves with you. The three weights in the toy create a personal rumbling based on your motion.  Add a clitoral vibrator, a vibrating cock ring or butt plug and experience secondhand vibration through the toy.

The Bouncer also offers some options I’ve not tried.  The base is designed for harness play.  Even if harnessing isn’t your thing, you can easily use this toy on a partner. It’s even safe for butt fun.

I’m a sensory overload kind of girl. I need multiple stimulation points to get me out of my head, specially if I’m in a wham, bam thank you ma’am masturbation mood.  This toy, paired with a clitoral vibrator does it for me.

If you’re looking for a new sensation, a set of complementary toys or are tired of the same old vibration patterns give the Bouncer a try.    

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New Year, new you got you thinking about your game? Try Tips and tricks to be more sexcessful.  Looking for a good story to take your personal pleasure up a notch, try my erotic shorts, to whet your appetite. 

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Stay Warm

When it’s too cold to leave the house, take advantage of the weather and stay in bed. 

Look no further for ideas to help you get it on in warmth and comfort.

Socks

While research around sex isn’t as robust as we’d like, a small study that compared male and female orgasm found this interesting anecdote. Couples who were given socks to wear were more successful at achieving orgasm than their sockless counterparts. 

Lubrication

Not everyone likes temperature play. If your partner isn't a fan of freezer sports, give these three simple solutions a try.

Keep it in bed with you. Your body heat will raise the temperature of your favorite lube.

Place the lube bottle in a warm cup of water for a few minutes. Don’t boil it. Don’t microwave it. Most lube containers are not designed for that. 

The easiest fix – warm it between your hands. Depending on your circulation, drop a dollop in your palm and clasp your hands together for a few seconds, longer if you need it. If that doesn’t do the trick, add a little friction. Rub your palms together and viola!

Sex Toys

Warm lube wouldn't be complete without a body temperature toy, now would it? Try these super easy ways to warm your sex toys:

Friction wins, hands down. Usage will warm the toys to your body temperature, depending upon the material.

Want it warm beforehand? A good quality sex toy made of body safe silicone or glass should be able to be heated in hot water. If you aren’t sure, check out my post on materials. While boiling is a great way to clean the toy, for play purposes, don't get the water that hot. Keep to body temperature range.

Lastly, there’s a new product on the market to heat up your sex toys. Warm delivers the experience you crave across a variety of toys, even battery operated and rechargeables! You only have to wait about 15 – 20 minutes for that warmed up sensation. Get creative with the twenty minutes. Extend your foreplay, expand your anticipation.

Looking to Ignite your sensual experiences? Warm is on sale today. Need some inspiration? How about getting frisky in the Sauna? Heat yourself up today with my free erotic short. 

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Stuck on you, get new habits to stick!

Tips and tricks to help your new habits stick.

Forget what you should do. What do you want to do?  

How you frame this answer impacts your likelihood of success. “It’s our emotions that push us in ways that show self-control.”   Is it something you're doing out of gratitude for your significant other?  Out of compassion for yourself?

Community

A sense of support and accountability can be the deciding factor between failure and success.  Find a group to help you get there or a person that you are willing to be accountable to. Better yet, find someone on a similar quest and help each other reach your goals, together!

Space

You need to make space for your new habit. If you can, try changing things up to help make the habit stick.  “Derail existing habits to create a window of opportunity for new ones.”   Plan for your new habit. 

Lastly, use the SMART method to increase your odds of success:

 Intimacy: I will spend 10 minutes every day connecting with my partner. Monday thru Friday after work and Saturday and Sunday in the morning.

70 minutes a week for the next month with no technology or distractions.

Specific: 

What are you doing? When are you doing it and how are you doing it?

 I will schedule the time on my calendar and send the invite to my partner to help us both to be accountable.

 My partner and I gain quality time from this habit. I lose tv time, which isn’t too much of a sacrifice anyway.

Measurable: 

How frequently are you habiting? Times per week, hours per week, other metric, etc.?

Achievable: 

Figure out how you'll achieve your new habit and build support for your success.

Realistic:

What do you gain from this new habit?  What do you give up?

My partner and I are starting tomorrow.

Timely:

There is no better time than the present.

Don't be overwhelmed with New Year’s Resolutions.Begin 2018 with a new habit. Amaze yourself with your progress. 

Why not schedule sex if you've already got the calendar out?  Show a little gratitude with a surprise toy or share some erotica with that special someone.

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Forget New Years Resolutions

Forget New Years Resolutions – Try a new habit instead.

"Is anyone afraid of change? Why, what can be done without change?...Can you be nourished unless your food undergoes a change? Can anything else useful be accomplished without change?" - Marcus Aurelius

Commit to twelve new habits this new year.

One habit a month every month for the next twelve months. You can do it!

Is there a new activity that you’d like to try?  A class, a new skill you'd like to develop? Commit one month to give it a shot.  You can do anything for a month.

How about your relationship? Think of an area that you want to focus on. Looking for suggestions? Try gratitude or intimacy.

Thirty days of gratitude

Daily set aside 2-3 minutes for a journal entry about your partner and how they bring joy / love / happiness (fill in the appropriate word) to your life. Shower your partner with little acts of kindness to show your gratitude throughout the month.

Thirty days of intimacy

A month of intimacy can mean better communication, more physical contact. What does your relationship need?  Dedicate time to your partner and develop your intimacy. Give yourself device free time. Touch more. It doesn’t have to be about sex, but it can!

How about you?  What self love / care have you been meaning to, but haven’t gotten around to it?  Give it a month.  Pick up that floss. Try out that new exercise class, schedule time to meditate. Make time for you.

Set yourself up for success

Block off time and space this weekend to think through your list. You don’t even need to get all twelve yet.  You can start with the above suggestions or focus on an entirely different direction.  Just do it. Plan your first quarter. Put some time on your calendar to check in and plan the next quarter.  Set yourself up for success this new year. 

Check out next week's post with tips and tricks to help your new habits stick.  Ready to reward your planning? Escape with a good erotic book and perhaps treat yourself to a new toy.  

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Mistletoe

I felt his arms wrap around my waist, a safe and somewhat demanding presence. Mid-motion, he pulled me back toward him. I chuckled. His antics tonight had been over the top.  Perhaps it had been the champagne or the announcement of his promotion?

Whatever the case, the air seemed lighter. Tonight, I could believe in Santa Claus. I tumbled into his lap and let go of all of our worries. Celebration filled the evening.

“I love you.” His face expanded into a smile. His eyes lifted up.

I couldn’t help but follow his gaze.  A beautiful bunch of mistletoe dangled above us.  Always the rebel, my husband chose the variety with the small white berries rather than opting for the more traditional red. 

I wrapped my arms around his neck and stared into his eyes. His face glowed with a lightheartedness that had been missing for ages. He seemed ten years younger.

My chest filled. My eyes teared. I brushed my fingers on the stubble of his 5 o’clock shadow. This is the man I choose.

“Ehhem.” He cleared his throat. His arm swayed. His focus guided me toward the mistletoe above us.

I leaned forward. We kissed. Too long.

The softness of his lips contrasted sharply with the prickle of his cheeks. My body tingled with anticipation and excitement. His mouth overcame mine. I succumbed to sweet agony.  

Keeping one arm around his neck, I dropped the other down his back and around to his chest. I needed to be closer to him. I slipped my palm under his open shirt collar. The beat of my heart sped to match the hunger in his kiss.

“Sweetheart,” he almost breathed the words.

“Yes.”

His arms tightened. Cool air slipped between us. He rose from the chair.

I giggled and rested my head against his chest. The kitchen faded from my view. Our Christmas Tree stood tall in the living room with lights aglow. Blue and silver decorations appeared elegant and magical.

His approach softened. Tenderly, he pulled my lower lip between his, nibbling and sucking.

I ran my hand through his hair and reached for his ear lobe.

He laid me softly on the couch. Our kiss deepened. His fingers began at my breastbone and fanned out, massaging and caressing.

“Hmm.” I sunk into the couch. His lips; his touch; his attention overwhelmed me.   

 “Do you like that?” he whispered as he slowly unbuttoned my shirt. His lips fluttered down my neck, each touch sending visions of sugarplums dancing in my head.

I ran my fingers down his back and chest and returned the favor. I slipped button after button from their buttonholes. The strength in his arms and back distracted me. Even the slightest movement rippled across his muscles as he touched me.

I felt like a doll in his arms as he shimmied behind me and unfastened my bra. His lips swept across my shoulders and down, gently waking my skin. He stared into my eyes and planted chaste kisses across my chest.

I stared, riveted by his actions. The feel of his touch focused on me, the visual wantonness heightened my desire.

His fingers worked underneath the fabric of my bra. My breasts released. His mouth continued to explore. His tongue circled my areola. His palm kneaded my breast. He moved from one nipple to the other, pulling and licking.

I arched to meet him. My pussy throbbed with impatience. With one hand I urged his mouth to mine, with the other I reached for his cock.

He slipped out of my grasp. His hands caressed my thighs and ass. Moving lower, he asked, “Have you been naughty or nice?”

He tugged at the material still covering me. Holding me close, he reached around and pulled the zipper down. His open mouth lay siege to my obliques and abs.     

He jerked my skirt over my hips.

“Ohh.” I moaned and writhed against the couch. The wool slid down my legs.

He massaged my inner thighs. His teeth nipped at my panties. His hot breath teased me.

I reached for the couch, my fingers tightened on the frame. “I want you.”

His mouth and tongue brushed kisses along my inner thighs, showering me with sparks of excitement. He covered my pussy with his face and hummed.

The surprise and pleasure made me jump. The subtle vibrations left me aching for more.

His tongue traced the outline of my panties. His hand caressed me. Soft warmth lapped up and down my lips. I tried to follow him but he kept moving. His fingers played with the flimsy material, tormenting me with just the tip.

His eyes widened and he made biting motions – sexy almost comical looking.

Apprehension tinged at my desire. Fuck it. “Come here.” I pulled him into me.

He nibbled and nipped.

A pleasant warmth radiated through me.

He grasped my panties with his teeth and slid them to the floor. He looked so hot in that moment.

“I need you.”

He massaged and kissed my calves and thighs, slowly making his way up from the floor. Each kiss a tiny torture. His mouth hovered in my inner thighs. His lips barely grazed me. His tongue stroked leisurely back and forth.    

I moved.

“Oh,”

His whole mouth covered me.

“Yeah…”

He pulsed. This sweet, savory sensation that felt divine.

“Oh.”

He savored me like a delicacy. His tongue explored me. His finger brought me ever closer.

Waves began to build and drown out all of my thoughts.

I tried to stay with it. Stay there. Focus on the feeling. Almost, there.

“Ahh.”

My grip tightened. It was just there. I followed the sensation.  “Honey.” Almost got it. “What were you doing?”  I tried to stay still. I held onto the couch. There it was again. “Oh baby, I’m so close.”

I urged his head this way and that.  

I jumped.

“Oh baby.” I moaned and twisted. “It’s right, right….” Pleasure shot through me. His mouth sucked ever so gently. His tongue dove into me. His finger hit that spot.

My grip tightened on the couch. I struggled to guide his head.

“Oh, yes.” I bucked against his face.

“Oh, more.” Pleasure radiated through me.

I rode his mouth and tongue, holding tight. “Oh Baby.” The sensations within me welled up and overcame my sensations. I grew rigid, pleasure building.

“Don’t stop.” I stayed with his movements, followed his motions as everything grew brighter. The lights twinkled. The decorations sparkled. My senses heightened. My body ready.

His touch, his mouth, his movements sent me spiraling.

My cries crested. “Ohh,” became the longest syllable. I dissolved in that moment. No more him and I, just us experiencing the universe as one.

His tongue slowed to its leisurely pace. My hips stilled.

I want more.

I stood, took his hand and led him up the steps.

                                                                Merry Christmas to me…..

 Looking for more treats in the bedroom?  Try scripting your fantasy.  Thinking about a gift for him (and well, her too) try a cock ring on for size. Take advantage of the holiday season and bring more merry into your lives!

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The gift that keeps on giving

Mutual masturbation is a fantastic opportunity to share your pleasure with your partner. Demonstrate how you make yourself feel good and help your partner better understand your arousal cycle and personal pleasure preferences....

And don’t think you need to be an exhibitionist!

If the idea of putting on a show makes you cringe, here are a few options worth investigating: 

Getting Caught

The idea here is consenting, beforehand to being “caught” in the act. Part of this arrangement focuses on the communication aspect of your intimacy.

It’s important that you select a place that you’ll be comfortable and a time frame that makes sense based on you. It could be your bedroom, shower or other location that works with you and your partner. You’ll also want to make sure no one else is around to accidentally catch you. 

Relax and enjoy yourself. It’s exciting to watch your partner experience pleasure.  

 Why don’t you do it?

You may be excited at the thought but not yet ready to be so open.

Try a situation where you guide your partner as they touch you. You may intertwine hands or gently cup your partner's hand as they caress you the way you like it.

It’s especially hot if you provide verbal direction and encouragement. 

Mutual Satisfaction

In this scenario, you and your partner masturbate together.

Choose a location that’s comfortable for you both. It may be next to each other in your bed or a different location that allows better visibility. Again, it’s about comfort and communication.  If doing in person is not something you’re ready for, try a phone session first. 

The best advice we can offer: Never stop exploring.

Do you enjoy reading tips and tricks?  Try being more sexcessful. Looking for erotic stories to inspire?  Check out my surprise shower guest.

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Alice Little

When I heard that one of my favorite podcast hosts, Tim Ferris interviewed a legal sex worker at the Moonlit Bunny Ranch, a legal brothel in Nevada, I had to listen.

Tim typically invites the best of the industry to his show.  This NSFW episode covers sex tips, do’s and don’ts, music to set the mood, not to mention the insights of a legal sex worker, Alice Little.

A word of caution - a good entrepreneur is always promoting herself and her business. If she’s speaking directly to you, consider yourself her target audience and take what she says with a grain of salt.   

I specifically enjoyed the professional insights. Alice offers spot on advice for threesomes and some good overall tips but she’s not a doctor.  The benefit of masturbation and porn versus the potential for porn induced erectile dysfunction is probably outside her wheelhouse. 

Before listening prepare yourself for Alice Little’s voice.  It’s somewhere between Uptalk and Valley Girl.  If you scroll down Tim’s post there is a section “Show Notes” where he highlights discussion points and where to find them, especially if you are pressed for time or find her voice too iritating.

The conversation is reminiscent of the HBO show, the Cat House, less the real-life examples but with the same promotional twist.  Check it out.   

Lastly, enjoy the glimpse into a world you may never know.....  She claims a session can run from three to seven figures!

Enjoy tips and tricks?  Looking for a different perspective on porn? How about instructional online interaction?

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Sneak in some romance

With the hustle and bustle of the holidays, it’s easy to be busy. Don’t forget to take some time for you and your significant other.  

Sneak some romance in wherever and whenever you can - a little kiss under the mistletoe;  breakfast in bed before the kids wake up;  a little late-night make out session.

 “your hand

touching mine.

this is how

galaxies

collide.”

― Sanober Khan

Three simple steps to sneak in some romance

Touch

I’m not talking sex here. The simple act of touch like a hug or a caress, builds the foundation for a long relationship. Set aside time to touch your partner.  It can be a massage, a couple’s workout, even a simple walk in the park arm-in-arm. Increase your intimacy and partner satisfaction, by keeping that physical connection.

Fun

At the base of any good relationship is friendship. Keep the spark alive by incorporating play into your day-to-day lives.  Smile, joke and have fun with each other.  Try a new adventure together or stay home with a deck of cards. The only requirement is that you actually want to do it. 

Laughter

There is a reason they say laughter is the best medicine.  In addition to the endorphins and serotonin, laughter helps with social bonds and improves the quality of our relationships.  Want a better relationship – laugh with your partner. 

To recap –

Take some time to touch your partner

Give yourself time off from being a grown up and have some fun

And don’t forget to laugh

Looking for more relationship advice? Consider scheduling sex. Or try these ideas to rekindle that spark.  Don't forget to show him or her you care.   

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Surprise Shower Guest

Looking for a little morning distraction?  #free #erotic #short

Water cascaded down my body. I closed my eyes and leaned against the wall. The heat penetrated my muscles.  

I relished the percussion of warmth and gave into the sensations, all the while my brain ping ponged from the weekends activities to my goals for the day. 

Meetings, deliverables – my hand on autopilot. I reached for the sponge, the soap.  Back and forth I fed the suds until the rich white froth flowed over, a slow champagne bottle release.

The warm steam rose. The pulse of the hot water almost a match for the constant volley of my thoughts: work, my presentation, the almost insurmountable list of things I needed to get done before… ugh.

I spread the silky froth across my face. Pressing small soapy circles, I moved over my forehead, cheekbone, nose and chin. I rested my palm against the wall, raised my head and let the water wash over me. Breathing deeply, I let go of my thoughts and enjoyed the heat and constant pressure of the water.

My chest constricted as I felt his hand reach around my waist. My breath accelerated. “I thought—”

“Shh.” His mouth nibbled at my ear.

My body betrayed me with a flash flush. His cock stirred against my ass.

I slipped around. My heart pounded in my chest. The cool marble felt foreign against my back. 

I looked into his eyes-searching, for what I didn’t know.

“Let me wash away the tension.” His soft words floated in the steamy air. He moved toward me, filling the space.

Anxiety teetering between pleasant anticipation and panic seized me, wrapped around my chest and squeezed. “You can’t keep doing this -slipping in, unannounced.”

His emerald green eyes shimmered. Water poured across his face and matted his dark hair against his brow. “But you get so wet when I do.”

I braced myself against the wall. His hand gently opened me. His fingers smooth as he caressed me, knowing oh so well what made me tick.

Our lips met. His tongue searched and probed-reconciliation a physical thing. His hard body pressed close to mine. His cock strained against my belly. 

I pushed against him. Not this easy.

He held fast. His lips pressed harder.

I reached behind him and smacked. The water stung.

His hands massaged my breasts.

I ducked out of his grasp and pushed his palms against the wall. “Spread ‘em,” I whispered, my fingers stroking the inside of his thighs.

He grunted softly and complied, his body lax as he gave into the wall. 

Pressing him against me, I leaned forward and wrapped both hands around his cock. I sucked and bit into his back. Frustration and anticipation fueled my movement. I yanked on his cock.

He yelped.

My fingers wrapped around his balls.

I squeezed.

I left one hand loosely cupping his cock and stepped back. “You want to know what really makes me wet?” Excitement wound through me as I anticipated the sting.  “You … begging.” I almost spat those last words. My hand released.

His body shifted.

The bathroom seemed to echo the thwack. I pulled back and spanked him again, my body easing into the rhythm of his punishment.

His cock grew with each thrash.

My breasts heaved. The water flowed.

I stopped to admire my handiwork, a bright blossom of red.

I reached for the soap.

He jumped ever so slightly, as I slid the bar over his ass cheeks. His breathing altered.

I circled the soap down further, between the valley of his ass cheeks. I grazed his asshole and sped towards his balls.

He shivered.

“Why aren’t you a naughty boy?” I thrust the soap back between his legs. I wrapped my other arm around him and pressed my breasts into his back.

His cock quivered. He mumbled, incoherent under the stream of water.

I felt my pussy throb with each tremor I evoked in him. “You want it don’t you?’ I nudged the soap against his smooth, virgin skin.

He pushed against me.

I laughed. I couldn’t help it. I reached for him and wrapped my fingers through his hair. I tugged his head back and kissed him. Our eyes met, his face full of expectation.

“You have to beg.” I guided him lower, his body putty in my arms. “On your knees.”

Droplets of water glistened on his skin. His cock stood proud, begging for attention. His eyes open, his mouth ready. I urged him toward my pussy. “Lick.”

His warm practiced tongue reached into me. His mouth made love to my pussy, gently stroking and lapping.

I held his head. My thoughts flowed down. I ran my fingers through his hair. His face relaxed, eyes shut. He knelt where he belonged. 

I watched as he nuzzled me, his hands clinging at my thighs, his body prostrated for me. His only responsibility to give me pleasure.

I reached my other hand to my breast. I massaged my nipple, pulled at the ring. The rising frenzy almost enough to overwhelm me. I closed my eyes and replayed his red cheeks, the way his body went rigid as I pushed the soap against his asshole, his submission, his whole body giving into his purpose, to give me pleasure.

My pussy pounded. I pulled tighter on his hair.  “Moan.” I instructed. The rich vibration and visuals of him on his knees started my own symphony. I held him to me, guided his tongue to hit just the right spot.  

“Don’t stop.” I thrust against his face, rocking my body as pleasure swept me up in her insatiable appetite.  “Just like that.”

“Oh, my fuck.” I couldn’t stop, my hips their own tempo. My mind it’s own experience. Waves of waves of pleasure crashed through m,e as pictures of him submitting flooded my system.

My hips slowed. Pleasure grew painful.

His eyes stared up at me, searching, begging.

“If you’re good, I reached down, "later." I sealed the deal with a spank and stepped over him and out of the tub. Shivers still penetrated my torso.

It’ll be a long day for him, I thought as I reached for the blow dryer.

Till next time

Looking for a different type of late morning start?  How About a Ring on It?  Enjoy the sense of switch - read Mistress Charm's New Pupil.  Tired of reading but still need your erotic fix - try  audio - you'll never want to give up your hands free flow.

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Oral Sex Tips & Tricks

5 Oral Sex Tips to Wow your partner.

Use what you’ve got

Just because we call it oral, doesn’t mean you can’t use your hands or feet, or toys to help your partner get there. Sex is about you and your partner achieving pleasure in whatever way is comfortable for you.

If you’re pleasuring a penis, use your hands to extend the length of your mouth. 

If you’re pleasuring a pussy, explore adding fingers, a dildo or a vibrator into the mix. 

Stick with what you know

It’s a safe bet to continue doing exactly what you were doing to get your partner aroused to get them off.  OMGYES has found that many women need the exact same stimulation to achieve climax.  It can be different each time. What matters most is consistent pressure, movement and attention to reach the big “O”.   

Try something new

Patterns and pressure are a sure-fire way to change things up. Try a light touch, a gently caress or more direct stimulation. A new approach is best attempted during pre-arousal or early stimulation. If your partner's a pro or you're looking for something different, make a move as your partner approaches orgasm.  

Apply Techniques

Masturbation techniques are great inspiration for oral. Try adding one or more of these masturbation techniques to complement your mouth and tongue action.

The Cuddle – Where the cuddle uses two or three fingers to gently apply pressure to the entire vulva – an oral approach for this technique involves using your lips and tongue to apply a similar type of pressure.

The Squeeze -  Where the squeeze employs pressure along the head and shaft squeezing with your hand, an oral approach for this involves using your lips and tongue to apply similar pressure.

Pay Attention

Watch your partner’s response.  Listen for encouragement.  Ask your partner for feedback. 

 Looking for more inspiration?  Check out masturbation techniques for women and edging for the men. Need a story to set the stage?

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Movember

Stand up for men’s health. Grow a mustache for Movember!

Did you know that prostate cancer is the most common non-skin cancer for men in America?  1 out of every 8 men will be diagnosed with prostate cancer at some point in their lives and the older you become, the greater that likelihood is. 

How willing are you to make that bet?

Age, family history and genetics play a role and diet and lifestyle are an opportunity to reduce your risk.

Develop a proactive healthy prostate plan.

Discuss options with your physician to see when screening is right for you. Typically between 40 and 50 you’ll want to start regular screenings, especially because you may not experience any symptoms.  Tumor development can proceed silently for years.

“get checked under the hood. Be a responsible grown-up:  Early detection is everything.”  the standup comedian Stevie Dupin suggests.

To learn more check out the prostate cancer foundation’s prostate cancer patient guide - https://www.pcf.org/2017patient/

Celebrate Movember. Raise awareness for men's health.  

Looking for other male tips and tricks?  Try Edging.  Want some ideas to spice up the bedroom?  Look no further.