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I miss my future husband.

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Things I have a complicated relationship with:

- Food

- My mother

- Religion

- Mirror

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Is there a general sense of desertion that everyone is feeling? Or is it just the people around me? Is there an emotional drought we all are going through?

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I've noticed how a lot of people are operating from (and never seem to live up to their ego) and how often ego gets confused with confidence. Aka fake confidence. We live in a world where loudness is mistaken for strength and arrogance for self worth. But in reality, the ego is fragile. It constantly needs feeding, approval, attention, validation, status—while real confidence is quiet, grounded and doesn’t need to prove anything

Ego is rooted in fear Confidence is rooted in self trust

1. Ego needs validation. Confidence doesn’t

Ego: Do they think I’m good enough?

Confidence: I know I am, whether they see it or not

2. Ego competes. Confidence supports

Ego: Wants to outshine others

Confidence: Knows that lifting others doesn’t dim your own light

3. Ego controls. Confidence allows

Ego: Obsessed with outcomes, appearances and being liked

Confidence: Trusts the process and is okay with not being for everyone

4. Ego reacts. Confidence responds

Ego: Feels attacked and lashes out

Confidence: Stays calm and chooses peace over power

5. Ego hides. Confidence reveals

Ego: Covers insecurities with masks—perfectionism, arrogance, or over explaining

Confidence: Is okay being imperfect, vulnerable, real

6. Ego proves. Confidence just is

Ego: Needs to show, argue and justify

Confidence: Speaks less, and moves with quiet certainty

7. Ego needs attention & validation. Confidence is secure without it

Ego: Constantly checks for texts, views, likes, compliments

Confidence: Enjoys attention, but doesn't depend on it

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If you hang out with a…

Disciplined person, you’ll start respecting structure

Insecure person, you’ll start second-guessing yourself

Adventurous person, you’ll crave new experiences

Victim minded person, you’ll start blaming instead of growing

Abundant person, you’ll stop thinking in limits

Jealous person, you’ll start resenting your blessings

High value woman, you’ll raise your standards without apologo

Chaotic person, you’ll feel like peace is boring

Healed person, you’ll see how emotionally mature life can be

Procrastinator, you’ll normalize delay over progress

Ambitious person, you’ll start dreaming bigger

Judgmental person, you’ll fear being fully yourself

Playful person, you’ll learn to soften and enjoy the moment

Energy is contagious

Habits are contagious

Mindsets are contagious

Doesn’t matter how x you think you are because if you were, you wouldn’t make decisions or choose people that don’t align

You become who you’re around even when you don’t notice it

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can we please please please learn to differentiate between things that are good but devalued because of their association with women (caring for children, being compassionate), things that are neutral but seen negatively because of their association with women (the colour pink, having long hair), and things that are bad but associated with women because of misogyny (being materialistic, being stupid) because otherwise we’re gonna keep getting takes like “being gender nonconforming is anti feminist” and “not studying for your classes is feminist”

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Dried flowers and long summer days....

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75% decrease in insect biomass within my lifetime and I'm supposed to care about cover letters

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tomboyism is so funny to me. gender non-conformity for girls is acceptable for like two minutes between the ages of 8 and 10. beyond that it’s appalling and you’re a freak but for those two years…… they could’ve had it all

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art will save you, being unreasonably passionate about something niche will save you, letting past sources of joy show you the way back to yourself will save you, earnestness over composure will save you, the natural world will save you, caring for something bigger than yourself will save you, daring to be seen will save you, kindness not as a whim but a principle will save you, appreciation as a practice will save you, daring to try something new will save you, grounding will save you, love will save you, one good nights sleep will save you

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The trick is to be more curious than you're scared.

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Do you have a set budget when you go book shopping?

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Girls who love their nose buried in a book