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“women don’t have the capacity for misogyny” have you ever met a mother

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When I am appointed to represent a child, my first action is to separate them from their parents and tell them the following things:

1. I am their attorney. I do not work for their parent or the judge or the cops. I don’t care what any of those people want.

2. My job is to listen to them and try and make what they want happen in court. (At this point I make a joke about how most people want me to get them out of trouble but if someone wanted to be in trouble I would do my best.)

3. What they tell me is confidential. It goes nowhere unless they agree to it. (If old enough, I talk to them about mandatory reporters, and how I’m a mandatory non reporter.)

4. I will give them lots of advice because I’ve been doing court for a while and I know a lot about it, and they don’t. It’s all really complicated, and if they don’t understand what’s happening it’s my job to help them figure it out.

5. They will make the decisions. (At this point I usually have to reassure them that I’ll help, I’ll speak for them in front of the judge, and I’ve got their back. It’s scary to have an adult say you’re in charge, most of the time.)

6. I tell them I know it’s absolutely wild to have some stranger come in here and say “hey, you can trust me!” and that I get if they don’t believe everything right away, because I plan to show them through my actions and my words that I’ll fight for them.

7. But nonetheless, I will treat them like a person who can make decisions, because they are living their life and I am not.

I do not:

Pretend to be cool.

Try to be their BFF.

Overwhelm them with detail.

Let their parents in the room until the kid asks for them. (I provide openings for this, and ask if the kid wants their parent to help them remember and understand.)

I want to emphasize I went into this job knowing nothing about how to interact with vulnerable populations, especially children. The training was minimal, and my role means that I can literally walk into a facility and get an unmonitored visit with a minor client one on one.

In my years of practice I have never felt threatened by a child, even one that was “violent” and “unstable.” It turns out just saying “hi, I think you’re a person with thoughts” is wildly successful? Now people treat me like I have special Child Whisperer powers. My powers are that I ask the child what’s up and I’m not scared to say things that are objectively awkward. I know nothing about anything.

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Happy pride 🏳️‍🌈

WWDITS (2019 -2024) I 4.05

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daily affirmations:

i am kind

i am in control of my emotions

it does not bother me when someone is in the kitchen while i was planning to be in there alone

everyone in the house has the right to be in the kitchen

i am kind and in control of my emotions even when someone is in the kitchen while i was planning to be in there alone

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Why are you using chatgpt to get through college. Why are you spending so much time and money on something just to be functionally illiterate and have zero new skills at the end of it all. Literally shooting yourself in the foot. If you want to waste thirty grand you can always just buy a sportscar.

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My philosophy for queer labels goes like this

1. Anyone who in good faith uses a label is fine to use it for themselves

2. There is no way to always tell who is using it in good faith

3. Act like everyone is using it in good faith.

4. …including assholes clearly IDing to be an ass. Treating them like they mean it is a quick way to make an asshole get yuckied out and knock it off. If they seem to be committed to the bit, maybe they really mean it

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What I mean when I say I'm tired/spent/tapped out/out of spoons as a person with chronic illness:

I mean my body feels like it's made of lead.

I mean that walking feels like trudging through mud.

I mean that I ache all over like I did a full-body workout.

I mean that I hurt but I can't tell you where or what would make it better.

I mean that my thoughts are muddled and lost in a thick grey fog.

I mean that I feel the way you feel when you're "coming down with something" but you don't know what it is yet. I never know what it is.

I mean that the lights are too bright and the sounds are too loud and my skin doesn't feel right.

I mean that I need to sleep but I can't sleep and when I do, it feels like no rest at all.

I mean that I want to be out of this body, but it's the only one I have.

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Going to the gym with chronic illness is just so weird? If gyms bred comparison before ohhhh boy is it so much worse being 26 and doing the same weight/rep/modifications as the elderly who are there. And good for them for staying fit! But not being able to the same exercises I used to?? Knowing I have to look like I’m weak or being stupid because I literally HAVE to pace myself?? I used to be STRONG but it wasn’t healthy or sustainable at ALL. So now I go and put in a bit of effort in my clothing because looking good makes me feel good so I go and look damn good and… try my best knowing it’s not where I want to be but having to go so so slowly to get there cause everything with hEDS is a snails pace

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*27 grams* my tiny precious lil baby Milton is 27! Grams! He his gotten a grown up tank redecoration with a lot more foliage and even on the ground his Stroodies hide is still his favorite. He’s eating small/peach fuzzies now and still doesn’t wrap them at ALL.

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I'd literally be a lot cooler bc I wouldn't be having this hot flash 🙃

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Imposter syndrome is a bench

Image description: drawing of a nondescript person with a tired/unimpressed expression on their face right next to a drawing of someone vibrating with excitement

Caption:

Me: "I must be faking my illness. I went on a walk yesterday."

Also me: "MY WALKER AND SHOWER CHAIR ARE ON THEIR WAY"

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You'll see a post about how being disabled is hard and you don't get any aesthetic disability aids, and you'll think "Oh yeah, it sucks, people stare more and get uncomfy because your problems haven't been bedazzled to their liking"

But then the very first tag will be some shit like "fucking hate people with hEDS over this"

And suddenly, you aren't relating or sympathizing anymore, because this is the third time this week that someone in the cripple punk tag has blamed your diagnosis for ableism, without seeming to care that saying people with EDS are less inconvenienced because they have "the pretty disorders" is really fucking ableist.

And then you start to wonder if cripple punks actually think physically disabled people are a community, or if they think they should be able to handpick who qualifies as being disabled enough.

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Baby bird season is incoming and I’d like to remind everyone that birds do not have a significant sense of smell. Bird parents will not reject birdlets because you have handled them.

If you see smol birbs with few or no feathers on the ground, you can safely put them back into their nest, bird parents will still care for them.

If you see smol birbs with some or most feathers on the ground, please leave them there, as bird parents are probably nearby watching and feeding.

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whats your favorite species of rat :3

The ones we have not found yet. For they are secret rats.

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I have not been handling Barney much and he has turned into a hungry hippopotamus demanding food literally the day after he eats. He has also decided he’s big enough to try to eat my hand (which has admittedly further reduced his handling [that and general life/home environment changes]). Le sigh. He’s still a cute lil noodle though! I also feel bad handling him when I know he doesn’t enjoy it and he gets nervous around most new things.

I’m going to start tap/hook training but I’m also going to hold myself to a better enrichment schedule for him. He loves exploring a fresh redecoration so much.