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This shot is so much funnier when you realize no one explained to Mary that gay marriage was legal

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RIP Cecil Palmer, you would've loved Chappell Roan

an irrational pet peeve of mine is when I see people saying 'rip (insert sapphic character here) you would have loved chappell roan'. I love chappell roan as much as the next person but there is nuance when it comes to a person's favourite queer artist

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This Doctor is ✨gay✨ so he needs have an amazing fashion sense

The fact that The Doctor and Belinda have the exact same outfits as everyone else in there (not just clothes to go with the period but literally the exact same outfits) implies that every Doctor could always do that and they just don't which is so funny

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Heyyy Good Omens fandom we need you!!

My friend @aislinregin lives in US but she has a queer neurodiv family with a trans kid

They really need to go off for their safety

She created a Kofi and crafts cats and junimos

Each order or sharing matters, thank you 💚���

This is my order btw, she was very careful about it and crafted and shipped it so fast !!

If you don't have enough money, each repost would help so much 🫶🫶🫶 thank you you wonderful people 💚

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You only hear the music when your heart begins to break ! 🕷️

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The pope fucking died because he knew heaven was the one place Vance couldn't get to him

I am begging conspiracy theorists to do what they do best this one time.

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The Pope, desperate to avoid ever interacting with JD Vance again, went to the one place the Vice President couldn't follow: heaven.

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He's definitely neurodivergent if nothing else

first you're like "the doctor is autistic" and then you're like "weeellllll they are an alien so that could explain their behavior" and then you see how the other time lords act and you loop back to "the doctor is autistic"

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Why not both?

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Whenever I'm struggling to get my point across with someone, the 12th Doctor's words come to me

"It's okay, I understand. You're an idiot."

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oops my fuckin hand slipped.

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Hello everyone!

To those of you who have been patiently waiting, the next chapter of Love in Any Form is now up on AO3

This chapter is Rose teaching the Doctor how to dance.

It's so sweet and romantic, it makes me feel so fucking single even though I wrote it

Enjoy!

(P.S - here's the song they dance to 😉)

https://archiveofourown.org/works/64701574/chapters/167663545

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Story of my life people. You know what’s real ? The struggle.

Happy Pride Month ♥

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My gender has 83 protons

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I’ve been sitting for many months on a meta about what Edwin did and did not know about Charles’s history, because I think Crystal was wildly misunderstanding what he meant due to cultural mismatch, and I’m very curious as to what he did mean. I’ve been sitting on it because I’m not best pleased with how it’s come out but whatever here it is anyway

To start with: Crystal thinks Edwin calling Charles’s dad “rough” is a dismissal and reflects a misunderstanding of the physical facts of the situation. I do not. Crystal’s missing Edwin’s cultural context here. In Edwin’s time, extremely severe corporal punishment was completely normalized. Edwin would unquestionably have experienced it; that’s not headcanon, it’s just historical fact. In Edwin’s cultural context, a parent being “rough” - so violent/out-of-control it goes past even that level of normalized beating to be namably unusual - is… A Lot. If anything, what he’s picturing is, on a purely physical level, more extreme than what we actually see happening to Charles.

I also don’t really think he’s missed the psychological effects, either (as Crystal assumes he has), though this one’s more nebulous. He’s very careful, with how he expresses anger and disapproval around Charles; Charles is the one who explicitly says he avoids being visibly angry around Edwin, but we see Edwin being careful about it, too. Edwin gets harmlessly snippy about meaningless things, and trusts Charles won’t take it to heart, yeah (We have the same left!). But when there’s, like, actually a problem?

Charles smashed a very important magical item and Edwin just calmly said “Time for another discussion on your impetuous behavior.” Which is disapproving, yeah, but imagine what he’d’ve said if it were Crystal; and it is notably less disapproving (and less loud/emotional) than when Charles does things that are much less significant, suggesting Edwin has deliberately downshifted because they’re now in territory where he risks Charles taking him seriously.

Charles murders someone, brutally, while she isn’t fighting back, with, as far as Edwin knows, minimal provocation, and Edwin’s reaction is a careful, quiet, “Charles, that was… extreme.” Which, again, is negative, or at least Charles heard it as such, but it’s also so much less negative than it could have been. Than, frankly, it would be reasonable for it to have been.

The one time we see Edwin actually yell at Charles - when he’s deeply re-traumatized, is so worried about Charles he’s 90% out of his mind from that alone, and the other 10% from everything else, has lost almost all of his filters - he says what Charles did, putting himself in danger, is “so fucking stupid it’s unbelievable” (not Charles, incidentally, but what Charles did) and then immediately apologizes. He’s barely coherent and he takes about 15 seconds to start apologizing sincerely for having yelled at Charles.

Which is all one specific narrow thing, yeah. But, like, it shows something, you know? And what it shows is that Edwin is careful, with Charles. Not just instinctively kind and gentle in general, but protectively careful… in a way that specifically reflects a knowledge that Charles has certain Issues.

(Remember when he introduced himself with “I shan’t hurt you”, because he could tell Charles was afraid, even in the first few seconds? He’s had a lot of time, since then, to learn the exact shape of Charles’s fear.)

So what is Edwin missing, then? My best answer is that he’s missing Charles’s - and even more so Crystal’s - cultural context. He’s missing “we’re allowed to admit this isn’t okay now, we’re allowed to say how much it hurts, how much it fucks you up”. He’s missing not the physical facts of the matter; not even the emotional damage therefrom; but the fact that these things aren’t normal anymore. That you’re allowed to call this “abuse” instead of “discipline”.

His failure to make a connection in the Devlin house was because even if he’s started to adjust to modern expectations of child-rearing (though given that he still believes in hysteria, that may be giving him a bit too much credit) he still, on an instinctive level, doesn’t find this so unusual that it occurs to him Charles might make a specific mental association.

Like, yeah, Mr. Devlin axe-murdered his family and that’s a bit odd even for 1916 (though I will note filicide being blanketly illegal is more recent than you’d think). But Mr. Rowland didn’t axe-murder his family; the connection Charles is making isn’t through the act, it’s through the fact of abuse/control, and that would not ping as memorable to Edwin.

…anyway, as I said, I don’t really like how this meta ended up, tbh, largely because I don’t feel like I can convey well what I think Edwin did learn (the effect of differing cultural context) without talking about some very extreme topics that I do not want to address here. But, like -

TL;DR:

“Rough” means something different to Edwin than to Crystal (and most of the audience). Edwin almost definitely knew Charles was badly physically abused; this was not new information. He very probably knew Charles was psychologically affected by it; this was unlikely new information. The new information Crystal gave him was the cultural context of that abuse.