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𝖍𝖔𝖜 𝖙𝖔 𝖘𝖔𝖔𝖙𝖍𝖊 𝖆 𝖕𝖆𝖓𝖎𝖈 𝖆𝖙𝖙𝖆𝖈𝖐

we all have those times where the walls are caving in and the usually comforting sounds of the bustling city feel like a neverending nightmare

steps:

breathe. When we are panicking and neck-deep into anxiety, we often don't realize that our breathing is labored. Proper bathing is what allows oxygen to flow to our brains and keep us functioning, when this natural mechanism is disturbed, physical symptoms of anxiety show up. So, this is a crucial first step.

identify if you are unconsciously falling victim to nervous habits. picking at your nails, lips and something at arm's length are the most common. Take a deep breath, and stop. it's hard, but the next step will help

soothe yourself. Softly rubbing circles in your stomach, the back of your hands and your knees are the best places to do so. Using two or three fingers is the best option.

if you are still struggling to calm down, feel free to take a shower/bath with the water temperature of your choice. Afterwards, grab a refreshing drink you like, milk works too!

thank you so much for 2 notes on my last post! i was all giddy and happy when i saw it hehe. i hope this helps you wandering fairy, may you find your way back home <3

love,

Elide

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[lettersfromelide]

𝖍𝖔𝖜 𝖙𝖔 𝖒𝖆𝖐𝖊 𝖆 𝖈𝖔𝖑𝖉 𝖕𝖊𝖗𝖘𝖔𝖓 𝖔𝖕𝖊𝖓 𝖚𝖕

the "cold" people are just touch starved and lonely people who have a little too much love to give.

steps:

ditch the socials. It is crucial to have face-to-face communication with these kinds of people. Make sure that you have an opportunity to come in contact with them, the more frequent the better.

make them used to your presence. you don't have to jump to talk to them, instead hang around them casually. Essentially, make sure they know your face and are familiar with your aura. (this is extremely important)

next, approach them. it can be about a mutual hobby, club work or a book you read and want someone to blabber to. make it simple, be genuine. you don't have to act "cool" or "edgy". if you want someone to talk to, just straight up tell them you want to blabber to someone and they seemed like a nice option.

talk. seriously, talk their ears off if you must. its important that you talk to them a lot(if they are quiet and don't talk much) trust me, most times they aren't annoyed if you talk to them about previous topics mentioned. Chances are they feel awkward to talk themselves so someone doing the talking for them is a blessing and they are glad to lend an ear.

linger around them intentionally. there's a club meeting and you're sitting down? sit beside them. There's no need for a conversation. enjoy the silence, develop a comfortable silence with them. Both of you are standing? stand beside them. But make sure to give them space. Not so close that your arms are touching, just enough to keep them in your peripheral vision.

after they are comfortable around you enough to talk or listen to you, make casual conversation. Things like yesterday, your cat ended up sleeping on your moms shoes and refused to get up, laugh about it, joke around. Or, maybe that recent art piece you finished or the recipe you tried, random banter we tell our friends. treat them like you would treat any other friend.

once they are comfortable with you, either they will ask for your socials or after completing all these steps, you can ask for theirs. You can now text/call them, make sure not to go too overboard with it. Text them like you would any of your other friends.

now slowly but surely, they will open up about themselves, their past and all the things that make them excited and happy.

make sure to comfort them when they are vulnerable! proper comfort, I can write about how to comfort someone if anyone is interested. validate their feelings and keep in mind not to compare their situations to yours and implying that you have been through worse. never do that with anyone.

that's all my gorgeous fairies! I hope these tips help you and have a great day/night <3

love,

elide.