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I didn’t see this posted here yet and thought it would be helpful. Stay safe out there sisters!

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Been starring at this picture all day. Power be to these brave, high-school students in Iran.

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Older Black gay men in long term relationships are rarely covered or seen by main stream media.

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If you have any non-binary, Spanish speaking friends please reblog!

Hola! Mi nombre es Luisa (pronombre: ella, pero me identifico como genderfluid). En este momento estoy trabajando en mi tesis sobre lenguaje inclusivo y personas no binaries. Estoy examinando la preferencia de pronombres y la actitud hacia el lenguaje inclusivo no binario. Tengo dos cuestionarios diferentes y agradecería enormemente si me pudieras ayudar! (o si pudieras compartirlo con algunes amigues)

1. Si eres no binarie y BILINGÜE en español e inglés https://rug.eu.qualtrics.com/jfe/form/SV_6r3OSKzLpZnQgoC

2. Si eres no binarie y monolingüe (SOLO hablas español) https://rug.eu.qualtrics.com/jfe/form/SV_0JaF1kgKNnhZkua

Por supuesto, todas las respuestas serán anónimas y la información no puede rastrear. ¡Muchísimas gracias!

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My personal experience trying to figure out my sexuality and gender:

*had never thought about it*

*starts thinking way too much ab female best friend*

- Mmm... I think I MIGHT not be straight

- Yeah I don't think I am

- Then what am I?

- Idk I'll just go with the vibe

- But what if I'm a lesbian?

- I think I like women

- But I've also liked men before

- Then I can't be a lesbian

- Maybe I'm bi

- But I don't feel like I am

- I gess I'm not

*Starts watching and reading A BUNCH of LGBTQIA+ content*

- WHY ARE THERE SO MANY OPTIONS????

*Starts to question not only sexuality but also gender*

- Maybe I AM a lesbian and I was just forcing myself to like men

- Yeah that could be it

*Starts liking a girl a lot and thinking about her all the time*

*Forgets about men*

- YESS I THINK I'M A LESBIAN

- I'm not completely sure I'm a woman tho

- I kinda like the term demifluid

- Is that me tho?

- I could be a non-binary lesbian

- Well idk

*Starting to get comfortable with the term lesbian (gender is still unknown)*

*Starts liking a dude*

- Well shit.

- I wouldn't like to see his penis tho

- Maybe a biromantic lesbian?

- Yeah maybe

- But I kinda like masculine bodies

- Maybe I just reject the idea of men because I'm resentful with them

- But I still don't like penises at all

- Do I even like pussy?

- What if I'm ace?

- I like masturbating and often find ppl hot tho

- Am I even non-binary or am I just forcing myself to abandon the term woman because I cut my hair short?

- Idk, but I think bi-lesbian is just fine for now

- I'm starting to feel that my name doesn't really fit my identity

- But again, am I non-binary or is it just an internalized idea that I can't be a woman if my hair is short?

*Looks for more options*

*Can't find anything*

- I'm starting to like this boy a little bit too much

*Starts overthinking why on earth would he pay so much attention to me*

- I WAS F*CKING FINE WITH MY OWN BODY AND IDWNTITY AND HE HAD TO RUIN IT

*Starts getting very uncomfortable with their own body and experiences dismorphia for about a week (I know dismorphia is a long-term week that can't be cured just like that, but I really can't find a better word to describe how I felt)*

*Stops liking that boy with such intensity, dismorphia stops and self steem starts to go up again*

- Wtf is going on with me

*Afraid to tell my psychologist about any of this since I feel she'd judge me if I did*

- I think I would like to change my name

- But WHAT NAME CAN I CHOOSE???

- I'd like smth gender-neutral

- Or smth a little more femenine?

- Gender neutral

- Or...

- I really like the name Ive or Ivy

- But it feels kinda weird to think about myself with that name

- I feel that people would treat me differently...?

- Also Ive isn't a valid option since I live in Latin America and

1. I don't want to get bullied for choosing a name in english

2. I'm pretty sure many would pronounce it wrongly

- I DON'T F*CKING LIKE NAMES IN SPANISH. ENGLISH IS SO MUCH BETTER.

- WHY COULDN'T I LIVE ON A PLACE WITH ENGLISH AS IT FIRST LANGUAGE?????

- I wanna move to a english-speaking country

- But I'm too young

- Ok names in spanish

- ...

- I don't have anything (if you can think of something please help)

- Fuck.

- Ok so... Am I even nonbinary? Demifluid? Woman? Man? (I don’t think so but I’m not sure of anything at this point) Agender? Something else?

- I think non-binary and woman are the ones closer to what I am, but maybe I’m wrong honestly

And this is where I am now. I’ve watched a million different videos and read different websites and posts on tumblr that talk about sexual orientation, romantic orientation, gender identity, gender expression and so many more things. I’m so confused and have been for so long that it’s overwhelming. I keep changing my perception about stuff depending on the day and that is SO STRESSING. I have thought that I might be abrosexual but I’m not really sure it fits me. I’ve also thought I might be genderfluid but, as I said before, it is kinda hard for me to see myself as someone that either is or feels atracted to men.

I know that I’m closer to figure myself out than what I was at the start though, and that helps me keep going. This is what I’ve got till now:

Gender: Unknown (nonbinary is the one I feel more related to in a kind of way)

Gender expression: More masculine/androgynous (but that might also be because I don’t like how more “femenine” clothes look on me or I just don’t feel comfortable in them)

Sexual orientation: Lesbian(?

Romantic orientation: Biromantic(?

Idk, If anyone can give me any kind of help to deal with this, I’ll take it.

Also, I hope this can help someone who is in a similar situation, and if you are one of those people, I want you to know that you’re not alone. I am here to talk with you if you need to.

Update: I REALLY am into this boy and he's got me SO confused.

I think I might actually be bi... just with a bunch of internalized biphobia and fear of men (which i gotta get over)

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Also let's stop saying "why do gay shows get canceled"

Gay shows dont. mlm get to see their content continued further and get to see it through multiple seasons. Sapphics and specifically lesbians do not.

It is lesbian and sapphic shows that get canceled. Ik we use gay as a general term, but in these instances it's always lesphobia and targeted at women/girls. Ofc.

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Can we please now have the conversation that people, even non-lesbians in the community, still treat lesbian relationship differently from gay relationships?

I'm really happy for Heartstopper getting renewed, it's a great show and I love the comic books but isn't it strange that literally all wlw shows no matter how good they perform will constantly get cancelled?

The fact that we still hear people, even queer women, say that they find the word lesbian to be gross, straight men seeing lesbians as just a porn genre and nothing else, "allies" saying that gay men are ok but gay women? Kissing? Ugh, gross!

This has been a problem from the begging of times, women have always been harshly criticized and punished for expressing their sexuality.

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Someone echoing my thoughts on a calm and professional manner. I AM shocked by First Kill's cancelation. You should be shocked, too. Yes, Netflix is cutthroat. Yes, Netflix cancels wlw projects without a second thought. But the numbers are what make this shocking. DO NOT let this slide because 'oh well it's Netflix'. They cannot get away with this because they've now created a reputation. You know what happens with bad behavior left unchecked? It escalates and that's what just happened here.

I hope fans fight to get this show out of Netflix's hands. Apparently shows owned by Netflix can't be sold to a different streaming platform for a few years (shit, I'd wait), but they can be sold to networks. That seems to be what happened with One Day at a Time. Sadly, I can think of no network fit for First Kill. It would be so nice if Netflix just admitted they fucked up and gave it another season. Anyway, I just...I pray we haven't seen the last of this show.

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so if we’re keeping score of shows in the last few years:

teenage bounty hunter: canceled

trinkets: canceled

dollface: canceled

betty: canceled

batwoman: canceled

legends of tomorrow: canceled

motherland: fort salem: canceled

gentleman jack: canceled

the wilds: canceled

first kill: canceled

supergirl: ended

dickinson: ended

the bold type: ended

killing eve: ended

and we’re just supposed to be cool with almost all lesbian tv media being wiped out?

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Homeless, need a hotel room in next 2 hours - August 5, 2022 at 10:11 pm EST

Currently, we’re out in the sweltering heat and I think I may have a bit of heat exhaustion or I’m just dizzy due to being dehydrated. We had to leave one shelter and are trying to get into another live in shelter just outside the city and we’ll bus into the city every day to see dad. This shelter is very good and is lgbt friendly. So we’re hoping to get a spot there tomorrow.

I’m in a bad flareup of my chronic illness so I’m having to use my wheelchair atm. The government has said they cannot provide personal support work in the shelter unless I pay for these services.

Sorry to bother you, should be the last time but my sister and I need bus fare to get outside of the city to the area of the shelter ($15), we need money for a wheelchair accessible hotel room tonight URGENTLY in the next hour or so ($125), a bit of food (that’ll be $60, it’s 10pm so we’d have to order to the room), a monthly bus pass for both of us ($250) and money to pay for personal support workers for the week (5 hours/day, $20/hour = $700). Hoping a week will be enough time to get me out of my flareup

0/200 (URGENT IN NEXT HOUR OR TWO FOR HOTEL ROOM, FOOD & BUS FARE)

0/1150 ALTOGETHER

Kofi

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not to be a hater (but yeah to be a hater) shocker that the show with the black lesbian lead is cancelled and... The Other One gets renewed for two seasons

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it's not even the tv shows themselves at this point it's the fact that almost all of our current wlw representation has been cancelled. we're currently facing the threat of our rights being taken away so we find comfort and happiness in shows where we're represented and they get taken away too. it makes me so fucking angry and so fucking sad at the same time, and I just feel defeated

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"nonbinary ppl are trans/included under the trans umbrella" "actually, nonbinary ppl prefer to not be referred to as trans" hey did you guys know that all nonbinary ppl are different and that some might call themselves trans but others don't and neither experience trumps the other and both are true and valid? wild, i know

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anyways if you’re as upset about the first kill cancellation as i am, here’s a list of sapphic books and books featuring queer girls to check out! for those i haven’t read, i’ve heard they’re worth reading, so please check out any of the books on this list!!

the priory of the orange tree by samantha shannon

the jasmine throne by tasha suri

a lesson in vengeance by victoria lee

the falling in love montage by ciara smyth

not my problem by ciara smyth

i kissed shara wheeler by casey mcquiston

one last stop by casey mcquiston

she drives me crazy by kelly quindlen

some girls do by jennifer dugan

perfect on paper by sophie gonzales

the chosen and the beautiful by nghi vo

siren queen by nghi vo

city of dusk by tara sim

i’ll be the one by lyla lee

flip the script by lyla lee

watch over me by nina lacour

we are okay by nina lacour

the seven husbands of evelyn hugo by taylor jenkins reid

loveless by alice oseman

last night at the telegraph club by malinda lo

a memory called empire by arkady martine

gideon the ninth by tamsyn muir

ophelia after all by racquel marie

PLEASE REBLOG WITH YOUR OWN IF YOU HAVE RECS!! i’m looking to add more sapphic books to my tbr and i know i’m not the only one

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I don't know who needs to hear this but if someone else's queer identity doesn't make sense to you then that literally does not matter. They've told you how they identify and that's that, whether you understand or not. Someone else's labels aren't for you, they're for them.

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lgbt cassette tapes

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