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Honestly, I am pretty frustrated by the "haha why would anyone hate ace people" responses to Rowling's tweet.
Don't get me wrong, the support is nice. But if you want to be an ally, you have to do so on our terms, not yours. And that means actually engaging with the aspec community, not just posting positivity every now and again. And what those responses highlight to me is what I've known for a while; you guys only support aspec people when it's easy and convenient.
It's easy to support aspec people when it's J.K. Rowling being awful again. It's easy to support us when it's just reblogging an "aspec people are queer" post.
But what about when we are talking about amatonormativity and the relationship hierarchy? When we are discussing the enforcement of compulsory sexuality? When we are pushing for greater awareness and support for aspec identities that are not asexuality or aromanticism? When we are criticizing terminology that you use but harms us? Because I can tell you right now, I rarely see allo people engage with those posts.
Why do people hate asexuality (or any other aspec identity)? Because it challenges the societal norms that benefit them. And that is uncomfortable and scary. So they turn to hate and oppression in order to assure that the changes we push by just openly existing never happen.
That means that to be a good aspec ally, you can't just make a positivity post every now and again, and you can't just laugh about how stupid aphobes are. You have to openly challenge the societal norms that harm us, even if they benefit you. Including but not limited to:
The idea that romantic and sexual attraction is the default state of being (amatonormativity)
The idea that a romantic, sexual relationship completes a person
People in marriages receiving special privileges and benefits
The idea that platonic, familial, etc. attraction are default states of being
The idea that not feeling some form of attraction must be compensated for through another form of attraction
The idea that love (not just romantic) is inherently morally good, while not feeling love is inherently a moral failing
The idea that any one form of relationship is inherently more important or deeper than any other (relationship hierarchy)
The idea that any one thing makes someone human
The idea that not having sex is shameful or infantile
The idea that having sex without romantic love is callous
Gendered divides of sexual and romantic attraction
Other aspec people please feel free to add on/challenge any of this. Allo (not aspec) people please feel free to ask questions.
I've placed some resources for learning more about these topics under the cut.
Amatonormativity:
[1] [2] [3] [4] [5 - also in the Loveless section] [6 - also in the Compulsory Sexuality section]
Marriage Benefits:
[1]
Other Aspec Identities:
[Aplatonicism] [Afamilialism]
Loveless:
[1] [2 - also in the Amatonormativity section] [3] [4] [5]
Compulsory Sexuality:
[1 - also in the Amatonormativity section] [2]
Relationship Hierarchy vs Relationship Anarchy:
[1] [2] [3]
Oppression:
[1] [2] [3]
Miscellaneous:
[1] [2]
Books and Video Essays:
An Ace Discourse Retrospective by Jenny Geist
Ace: What Asexuality Reveals about Desire, Society, and the Meaning of Sex by Angela Chen
Refusing Compulsory Sexuality: A Black Asexual Lens on Our Sex-Obsessed Culture by Sherronda J. Brown
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ayyyyyy, shoutout to bunnings stocking a colour called “ace of spades” for giving me this idea
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What if I told you that “aromantic people, by and large, are not inherently incapable of feeling love” and “feeling the emotion of love is not required to be a good person” and “it’s an individual person’s choice whether to call something love or not” and “broadening the definition of love is inherently a resistance against amatonormative systems which seek to control the contexts in which love can be expressed” and “both loving differently and not loving at all are valid and vital methods of resistance against those systems” are all compatible statements that can coexist
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I see way too many posts about being really affectionate with your friends and if you aren't hugging and kissing your friends then you don't really have friends and you should be in love with your friends a little bit and it annoys me so here's a post that shouts out non-affectionate friends. shoutout to the people who don't like affection or hugging or being super gushy with each other but still love and appreciate their friends dearly. shoutout to the people who find it really hard to be emotionally vulnerable and sweet but are still always there for you in a crisis. shoutout to people who don't have to be hugging you constantly to prove that they care about you
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by the way, if you're weird about aromantic heterosexual cisgender men, i kill you. if that man wants a purely sexual relationship with a woman and communicates that with her, and she agrees, hell yes. good for them. you have no right to be a bitch about that. that's frankly none of your god damn business. he's not "emotionally abusive" for wanting a specific type of relationship. you're being stupid and weird. and weirdly misogynistic, by assuming that women are inherently these helpless victims that have no agency or autonomy.
you're literally being the "the myth of consensual sex" meme when you talk shit about cishet aro men in purely sexual relationships with women.
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i'm gonna be honest i don't like posts that are like "oh people are sad bc it's valentine's day and they're single and they feel lonely? they're such losers why would they be sad abt not having a partner i'm too aromantic for this" bc like respectfully i'm happy for you if you're not affected by that but like some people do want relationships and the fact that they're sad abt not having them isn't bc they're unenlightened losers it's bc they're craving a connection they don't have & i think it's honestly kind of cruel to call them losers over it just bc you don't personally crave the same thing they do
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Torn between wanting to be known, heard, and, understood, and also wanting to remain unnoticed and not be perceived.
I want to be able to call my friend's name in front of a crowd but I don't want to call the crowd in the process.
I want to be able to tell my friends all the heavy things I keep inside but I hate the feeling of vulnerability. I feel like all my thoughts are so petty and silly.
I want to be able to joke with them and tell them how much I care for them but it embarrasses me. I feel like my "love" doesn't really matter to them or impact them, if I ever even feel it.
I want to ask them if I could hug them but I'm also touch-averse. I feel like they don't need my warmth.
I want to be able to respond when they're calling me but it's like I always turn to the void.
I wish I didn't take things too...deeply. Do I really wanna be human or do I want to be a non-existence?
#agender#social anxiety#i hate being perceived#i do not wish to be perceived#i don’t want to be perceived#isolation#friends#friendship#platonic#voidpunk#screaming into the void#aromantic#loveless aro
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shout out to ace and aro kids who are constantly bombarded with the opinion that sex and romantic love are directly connected to living a happy life.
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“we live in an uncaring universe” yeah dude and I live in an uncaring house. and I shit in an uncaring toilet. but do you touch an uncaring lover? do you comfort an uncaring child? do you guide to sleep each night a cold and uncaring self?
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"it's ok for labels to change as you learn more about yourself" and "i hope with every fiber of my being that I'm right about being aroace and nobody will come along to change my mind because I hate the idea of being in a romantic relationship or conforming to gender roles or heteronormativity" are two sentences that can and should coexist.
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Sex and romance are opt-in not opt-out. You don't need a reason not to do them. You should do them because you want to not because you feel obligated to.
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The Little Wolf Dog Has Arrived TOC
Summary :
Qin Chi had ignored Zhang Zhi for most of his life, until the world came to an end and he found himself disabled. It was then that he realised who truly loved him. Zhang Zhi met a tragic end in the hand of a zombie over a mere half bag of cookies, leaving Qin Chi, the cripple, feeling utterly hopeless. However, Fate cherished him with a second chance, as he was back one month before the apocalypse, giving him the opportunity to protect his beloved. From a former scumbag to a devoted husband, Qin Chi transforms into a loyal partner, caring for his wife.
This story features an Alpha top X a calm and wise elite Beta bottom. Please be aware that this is an ABO story with themes of childbirth. If you are sensitive to this content, proceed with caution.
This is not your typical zombie narrative; instead, it focuses on the everyday challenges of survival and scavenging. There are no superpowers, but there is a space element and a golden finger. If you are sensitive to these themes, please proceed with caution.
Author : 温纯
Year : 2020
Status in COO : 145 Chapters (Completed)
CHAPTERS
Chapter 1 - Rebirth
Chapter 2 - Preparation
Chapter 3 - Things in the past
Chapter 4 - Buying a car
Chapter 5 - Inventory
Chapter 6 - Signs of the end of the world
Chapter 7 - The Mistake from Previous Life
Chapter 8 - Beating the Green Tea
Chapter 9 - Old Yuan
Chapter 10 – Space Storage Box
Chapter 11 - Long-lost Embrace
Chapter 12 - Buying Meat
Chapter 13 - The Elders of the Zhang Family
Chapter 14 - Selling the Company
Chapter 15 - Blue and White Porcelain Vase
Chapter 16 - Old Yuan's Group
Chapter 17 - Organising Supplies
Chapter 18 - Modified Car
Chapter 19 - Natural and Man-made Disasters
Chapter 20 - Gathering Supplies
Chapter 21 - Adequate Preparation
Chapter 22 - Interior of the RV
Chapter 23 - Leaving Home
Chapter 24 - Hospital
Chapter 25 - Chaos
Chapter 26 - Leaving the City
Chapter 27 - Traffic Jam
Chapter 28 - Overnight in the Park
Chapter 29 - Lost in the Park
Chapter 30 - Zhang Leyue Seeks Help
Chapter 31 - Where to Go
Chapter 32 - Tragedy at the City Gate
Chapter 33 - Resting in the Wilderness
Chapter 34 - Threats from Humans
Chapter 35 - Gas Station
Chapter 36 - Heavy Rain
Chapter 37 – Brother Hu
Chapter 38 - Old Acquaintance
Chapter 39 - Confrontation with enemy
Chapter 40 - Escaping from School
Chapter 41 - After the Storm
Chapter 42 - On the Highway
Chapter 43 - Emergency
Chapter 44 - Large Shopping Mall
Chapter 45 - Earthquake
Chapter 46 - Rescue
Chapter 47 - The Attack of the Zombies
Chapter 48 - Finally Reunited
Chapter 49 - Where Do Zombies Come From?
Chapter 50 - Finding Gasoline
Chapter 51 - Request to Leave the City
Chapter 52 - Entering the City
Chapter 53 - The Situation in Kai City
Chapter 54 - Aftershock?
Chapter 55 - Flames Rising
Chapter 56 - Escaping
Chapter 57 - Long-lost Embrace
Chapter 58 - Cold Weapon
Chapter 59 - The Home in Letan City
Chapter 60 - Grandfather's Acquaintance
Chapter 61 - Grandfather's Gift
Chapter 62 - People in the End Times
Chapter 63 - Parents
Chapter 64 - Inheritance?
Chapter 65 - Century United
Chapter 66 - Abundant Supplies
Chapter 67 - It's All Food
Chapter 68 - The Celebrity in Trouble
Chapter 69 - Hot Weather
Chapter 70 - Tomb Sweeping
Chapter 71 - Where is the Vault
Chapter 72 - Safe Deposit Box Key
Chapter 73 - Going to the City
Chapter 74 - Safe Deposit Box
Chapter 75 - Into the Sea of Corpses
Chapter 76 - Everywhere is Zombies
Chapter 77 - Saving People
Chapter 78 - Gold Bar
Chapter 79 - Little Box
Chapter 80 - Space
Chapter 81 - More Strange Zombies
Chapter 82 - Deciding to Leave the City
Chapter 83 - Leaving the City
Chapter 84 - Service Area
Chapter 85
Chapter 86 - Overnight Camping
Chapter 87 - New Base
Chapter 88 - Choose the Best Way to Enter
Chapter 89 - Check-in Problem
Chapter 90 - Base Division of Labor
Chapter 91 - Contaminated Water
Chapter 92 - Riot
Chapter 93 - Zombie on Base
Chapter 94 - Contaminated Water
Chapter 95 - Purifying Water Source
Chapter 96
Chapter 97 - Monster
Chapter 98 - School Zombies
Chapter 99 - Injured
Chapter 100 - Noah’s Ark
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The most frustrating experience as a writer is having a clear vision in your mind of the story you want to tell but being too afraid to put pen to paper for fear of failing to do the story justice. I’m so scared that my actual execution will fail to meet my expectations that I’m paralysed to even start.
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You use "arospec people can still date and feel romantic attraction " as an excuse to ship cannon aro characters , I use it as justification to headcannon characters who canonically feel romantic attraction as arospec , we are not the same
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When you say that you are loveless, you only refer to romantic love or also to friendships, family, etc.?
I am loveless because I do not feel love and I do not care about love. I am loveless because love should not be equated with humanity, morality, and goodness. I am loveless because the worth of a person is not determined by their capacity for love. I am loveless because love has enabled the harm I have endured and I do not wish to be tied to it. I am loveless because love is not a requirement to be in relationship with others, is not a requirement to help others. I am loveless because there is nothing wrong with having a life without love. I am loveless because love does not matter to me and I will define my humanity, life, and relationships by what actually does matter to me.
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