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PSA. If you ask someone "can I hug you?" and they consent to the hug, (particularly someone with Autism, ADHD etc or anyone who doesn't like physical touch), they consented to a hug. Not a kiss on the cheek or whatever else. If you want to kiss them on the cheek too, ask.

Just because they said a hug was ok doesn't mean a kiss is too, or a hand-holding. It only means that a hug is ok.

(the wording of this is probably off but I hope you get what I mean)

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This post is just like those "How to Study like a Harvard Student!" Things but for ND people with executive dysfunction who can't even START studying.

Listen to Music, seriously it works so well. If you speak multiple languages, listen to music in the one you ARE NOT using. Listening to music w/o words is good for things like essays and reading, but with things like math, I 100% recommend listening to anything you really like. I can leave song reccs for no word songs if anyone wants them.

Put on a movie, TV show, or video you've already seen a million times. It works the same as the music, but you're more likely to be distracted. It's important that you've already seen it. Otherwise, you'll just end up watching TV.

Buy stationary that you LIKE and ENJOY USING. If you see pens that you REALLY LIKE but the other pens are cheaper, get the ones you actually like. You will use them more. You will *enjoy* using them.

Not so much related to executive dysfunction, but I HIGHLY recommend getting folders for your classes. Even if it's only for a few, if you pull it out at the beginning, you'll have all your stuff inside and a place where you can put your papers instead of just shoving it into your bag.

Let yourself stim out loud while you do homework. Seriously, it can help you remember things and help you stay focused.

Eat your favourite snacks or drink something you enjoy drinking. It makes doing things so much more bearable, plus free dopamine.

(Edit: I reblogged some of people's additional thoughts)

I can't really think of anything else, but feel free to add stuff in the comments.

Disclaimer for the masses, I am not a doctor. These are from my own personal experience as someone w audhd. :)

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Where are my fellow touch-starved "I want to be kissed and held but only by one specific person that I haven't met yet and that likely doesn't even exist and if anyone else touches me I will bite their head off" aroaces?

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writing prompts to get to know your characters better

• individual characters

write a description of them from the pov of their best friend.

write a description of them from the pov of a person who absolutely hates them.

write their earliest or favourite memory.

write their death scene even if you are not planning on killing them.

if your character had a yt channel, write the script of their most watched video.

• one on one friendships

first meeting is overdone. write their first fight instead.

write a series of text conversations between the two.

one character has been detained / arrested, and the other one is trying to get them out.

how would they behave at an elementary school sleepover?

they've been working on a joint bucket list since they became close. write the bucket list.

• friend groups

a group picture goes horribly wrong. write the scene.

find some 'most likely to' questions. use them within the group.

one of them goes out of town, and the rest of the group has to watch their house/plants/pets/kid while they're away.

one friend works at a restaurant. the other friends decide to eat there. describe how they get the friend fired in one night.

• romantic relationships

write their breakup scene. doesn't matter if they break up in the book or not.

someone kills one of them. describe the other one's reaction.

write the stupidest argument they've ever had.

they return to the place where they first met/kissed. somehow, the place has been changed, and not for the better.

write a proposal scene.

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I'm going to implode

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therapist: would you say you’re independent?

sirius: *looks at remus*

remus: *nods*

sirius: i’d say so, yes.

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adhd symptoms are always just mild enough to seem fake but just severe enough to make everyone on planet earth think you’re an asshole for having them. not a big fan of this paradox tbh

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How is it Wednesday already? Like what happened to Saturday? What happened to Sunday? What happened to Monday and Tuesday? Where did they go?

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Why.

Just why

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10.40 at night eating peanut butter with forks

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Why is cleaning so hard

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THIS

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The autistic urge to have a strict routine at all times VS. the ADHD urge to break that routine constantly in favour of doing something spontaneous/more stimulating.

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Every neurodivergent person who's ever been made fun of because of it should be compensated with a life sized pirate ship, their very own crew that loves them and all sing shanties together, a life time supply of rum, oranges, card games, and cannon balls with proper protective equipment. And an animal companion of their choice if they'd like

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When u need structure and routine but can't follow a routine nor can you handle people telling you what to do because you hate the demand of it + prefer to be independent, yet you can't get anything done because of it...... this is my biggest struggle. I have no one ACTUALLY working with me to make sure these things happen. I may have emotional support but i DO NOT have any of my support needs met. ever. Like what the flip am i supposed to do???

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ADHD culture is opening up a bunch of tabs for a new hyperfixation and then it dies out sooner than expected but you still technically want to do the thing so you just leave the tabs open

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Autistic Traits which are interpreted Rude...

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