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this is for all the gay trans men: there are gay/bi/pan/queer men who will be attracted to you. there are probably queer men who are attracted to you right now. i know the gay community might feel hostile towards us, but there are those who will see you as a real man and find you attractive. trans AND cis. and those who are kind of in between. you are wonderful, you are beautiful, you are attractive and you're infinitely worthy of love. don't give up on yourself.

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If you're a trans person who like likes trans people, reblog this!

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dni if youre into or support dd/lg ! u are not and will never be welcome on my account <3

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i NEED gay sex

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just spent 3+ hours making cookies for my family bf i am BEAT oh my god im in so much pain

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as a queer man, i will never feel safe around people who go on about how they hate men, how men are trash, etc. etc. i will never feel included, supported, or protected when people say that. it only makes me feel awful for being who i am, and like i'm looked down upon and resented because of my gender, or who i love.

it makes me want to hole myself away somewhere and hide, knowing on some level i can never be my true self with this person. they can go "oh but not you" all they want. it doesn't make me feel any less hurt and ashamed. those few words imply so much more about how they view gender than they realize.

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Fatphobia in the gay men's community is uh. Rampant and i don't think people really address it that much because thin people don't think it's an issue and fat people are never taken seriously (often because they're fat!!).

Y'all will call any skinny buff man with a bit of chest hair a bear, then label the actual bears as "creepy" or "ugly" if you don't just flat-out ignore their existence.

Y'all will be like "i love men's tits" until a fat man exists and suddenly it's all "we can't promote such an unhealthy lifestyle, because being unhealthy is bad" pretending to care about us while simultaneously calling us undesirable and linking moral weight to physical weight.

Apparently it's completely impossible to show support for fat gay men without being fetishistic about it and i'm fucking sick of it. Do better. i'm not holding you at gunpoint telling you to find every fat man hot. i'm asking you sternly to treat us like human beings. It's not that hard.

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Look, I just need you guys to understand how important queer coming-of-age forbidden romances on internationally accessible platforms like Netflix is, especially to youth in countries where homosexuality still hasn't been legally decriminalised or socially accepted.

That was a mouthful, so let me explain. You, a white American adult with a liberal family, may not relate to a fictional anxious teen Swedish prince grappling with strict familial and societal expectations versus his first love. You may not find anything special in a bunch of queer British teens discovering themselves and figuring out complex relationships that are honestly rather simplistic, in retrospect. It might be a little too trite for you. Like, just a little vanilla without any extra drama. Perhaps corny—cringe, even. Too wholesome.

But you know what that is to me, a desi queer young adult? It's representation, in an unlikely place. My country certainly isn't making movies or shows where I see my secret relationship between me and my girlfriend portrayed. I don't see that happening in the next couple of decades, either, sadly. But you know who’s telling our stories? Alice Oseman. Lisa Ambjörn, Lars Beckung and Camilla Holter. Through fictional storylines that might seem kind of boring to you, I am finally able watch my lived experiences play out on screen.

American media has done such a disservice to queer coming-of-age stories. I want to scream this from the rooftops. Y’all, I’m glad to see more out quirky queer side-characters—I can’t get enough of them—but why is it so rarely their story, in sharp focus, about how they found themselves? I want to know how they overcame internalised homophobia. When was the moment they knew? What is the cost they have to pay for being out? For not being out?

And no, I don’t want it to be dramatic. I don’t need to see violence or betrayals or victorious kisses in public, really. I’m happiest with the teenagers behaving like real teenagers. Innocent, vulnerable, nervous. I want it to be heartfelt, and excruciatingly slow, and authentic. I want to see the small wins and the subtle losses. The quiet mental toll of how much you have to give to a queer relationship—especially your first queer relationship—and how hard that can be to separate from your Identity itself.

Give me that "am I gay?" quiz and genuinely crying at 3:00 AM because you're in a rabbit hole about LGBTQ+ rights in a country where you actually don’t want to be gay and you don’t even know if you “count” anyway. Show me that moment where you're going back and forth from forbidding yourself from seeing the one person that sees and understands you and it's to protect your mental and physical well-being but it's driving you insane. Give me ALL THE YOUNG ADULT BI+ AWAKENINGS where one person strolls into your life and changes everything. No, it’s really not the same as most cis-heterosexual insta-love movies out there, even if it looks that way to you. It doesn’t even cut it close.

The happy ending, the acceptance is only what I can dream of, not what I can expect. The wholesomeness is actually radical to me.

No, we’re not past the need for basic star-crossed queer romances. For most countries in the world (including for many white American teenagers!), we need them as much as ever.

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bf who loves me for my  autistic swag and slightly worrying lack of social skills <3

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“am i bothering you?” no !!!! i really enjoy hearing you happy about your interests and you deserve to have someone who enjoys listening to you !!!!!

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I think we should dismantle the cis-het-allo-normative Categories and especially the "hierarchies" of relationships that are fucking everywhere. I hate them. Fuck defining the relationship. Fuck prioritizing romance over friendship. Fuck the lines between platonic and romantic and sexual and sensual. Kiss your friends. Fuck your friends. Date your friends. Date your partner. Date multiple people. Date nobody. Kiss and fuck nobody or somebody or lots of somebodies. Why do we have to box everything in. Just do what feels good with the people ot feels good to do it with just love people (or dont).

Disclaimer that yes, obviously having defined relationships that fall strictly in one category or another is important to some people, and that's cool for them. Let them do that. The whole point here is that there should be less pressure and more options. Those include the option to have strictly platonic/romantic/sexual relationships. The point is that there is a choice.

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What are some things about gay sex everyone should know?

Not everyone has defined top or bottom roles.

Condoms are just as important for gay couples as they are for straight ones

When you first start bottoming, it feels like you have to take a massive dump.

Depending on the top, bottoming can make you very, very gassy.

Sometimes if you were at the bottom while barebacking (sex without a condom) you shart some lube and semen.

Sometimes after sex, if the top uses too much lube (very rarely an issue) you end up pooping blobs of lube after sex.

It's ok to tell your partner it's your first time.

Breeding is more psychological than physical

A penis tastes about the same as a finger, in terms of texture and stuff.

Always try to poop beforehand if you know you're going to have sex soon

For the love of god, mind your teeth when you're sucking him off.

Lightly play with the opening of the penis with your tongue

Pee after sex.

If something hurts, STOP. Don't power through it. Pain is your body's way of saying something is injuring you. Pain = Stop, slow down, readjust.

If you want to be a pro-ass eater, don't just lick his hole, make out with it.

Don't just go in and start choking them

If you want to be a good top, you're going to have to bottom a few times

Use more lube than you think is necessary

Getting STD tests is always a good idea whenever you get a new partner

Consent is key and can be revoked at any point in time.

Gay sex doesn’t create HIV out of thin air.

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any type of censorship over LGBTQIA+ age appropriate themes / movies / books in schools is outright discrimination and should be called out as such

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Plus size trans men are cool as fuck. Rb if you agree.