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Heya! Is this blog still active?

Spoons have been kinda limited + life sfuff, so I haven't been able to respond as much as I'd like to. I do want to get back into responding to asks though

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grabs you by the shoulders and shouts HEY. you are no going to kill yourself. you are not going to give up. you are not going to immediately go back into the closet. you are not going to give him the satisfaction before it matters. you are going to live, and you are going to live well. you’re going to put on your favorite outfit and refill your hormone subscription and go out and buy some hair dye. you are not going to give up before its hopeless. as my good friend amy aka spent galadiator says, youre going to do every stupid thing that makes you feel alive. and we are going to make it out of these four years alive. and we are going to work to not make them the worst four years of our lives.

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I was originally planning on holding off sharing this until June, but then decided to hell with that; why wait?

FURTHER RESOURCES:

Intersections: Indigenous and 2SLGBTQQIA+ Identities – this booklet from the Native Women’s Association of Canada is more intended towards 2S folks, but is still a great read for anyone.

Two Spirits, One Voice – This video from Egale is a great, no more comments needed.

A Two-Spirit Journey: The Autobiography of a Lesbian Ojibwa-Cree Elder – This book by Ma-Nee Chacaby can be a difficult and emotional read, but very much worth it.

Becoming Two-spirit: Gay Identity and Social Acceptance in Indian Country – I have yet to read this book by Brian Joseph Gilley myself, but heard positive things about it.

Please feel free to reblog with more suggestions, if you have them!

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Hi! Could you (or your followers) give me some advice?

I'm debating telling the person I'm non-romantically in love with (we are both aroace, I identify as oriented but I don't think they do) that if they still want a permanent roommate situation in the future (they expressed this desire at one point but said it may be fleeting), I am available.

But, considering we've only known each other for 1.5 years, do you think it's a bad idea? I am worried it's way too soon to even put it in these terms, but this is the only chance I'll get to talk to them in person for like, at least 2/3 years (we're online friends). Do you think it would be best to wait that long instead?

Multiple people have told me honesty is important, but I really don't wanna end up making them uncomfortable. I was planning on at least testing the waters before I tell them, asking them whether that time a friend had proposed it, it had made them uncomfortable or they had appreciated it instead. But it might not be enough; there are just so many variables, and I'm scared.

Sorry for the long ask.

-🌿

I'm not sure if it's already too late to tell them, but I also think it's a good idea to be honest. If they've expressed interest in the past, how long ago did they say that? If it's been a while, testing out the waters is a good idea.And depending on how well you know each other, 1.5 years could be long enough to ask!

(Hopefully I didn't respond too late)

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I really struggled with whether or not to say I was oriented for a while. but then I got attacked with alterous/queerplatonic feels for a friend lol. and now I notice a lot more of my different tertiary attractions happening and I’m a lot happier with where I’m at!

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Please take a minute to read our story in Gaza, after I lost my home for the third time, we lost our work, and we are in a tragic situation.

This sums up my daughter's situation with her four siblings. She cannot continue living without your help. Donate, share the story and send it to your friends. Any small amount helps save my children's lives, share now on your account.

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saw you on my fyp and did not know what an orientated aroace was but after looking it up yep that's definitely me wow

cuz like ive known im aroace but ive felt attraction to specifically the opposite gender but not romantic or sexual it's just like aesthetic and all of the other fun ones (partly why it took so long for me to realize in the first place)

did not know there was a specific term for that so like thx! lowkey thought i was going insane cuz i had a preference for one gender over the other

No problem ‼️

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the kids online safety act passed the u.s. senate.

long story short (for anyone who hadn't heard of this before) the kids online safety act, aka kosa, is a bill that will censor online content and resources for lgbtq+ matters, reproductive healthcare, activism (INCLUDING PALESTINE AND LIKELY OTHER CRISES GOING ON LIKE IN CONGO OR SUDAN), mental health, etc. everywhere--its effects likely won't be contained to just america.

today, july 30th, 2024, the senate passed it 91-3. it has officially moved to the house of representatives.

is this a pretty massive setback? yes. do you have every right to be scared, sad, angry, or whatever else about this happening? absolutely. but should you give up hope completely? NO!

even though kosa passed the senate, the house is on break/august recess at the moment. we have around an entire month to get emails, calls, and faxes in to house reps, maybe more depending on when they decide to vote on it.

should it pass the house and get signed into law, we still have a whole 18 months before it actually goes into effect. this is plenty of time for digital rights orgs (e.g. fight for the future, the electronic frontier foundation) and other groups that oppose it to file a lawsuit against it. even if, worst-case scenario, it flies through the house immediately after the recess ends, we can still fight this up to march 2026.

so, yes, remember what's at stake here, but also remember that it's not over yet. we lost a battle, not the war.

below are some resources to learn more about kosa and how to contact your reps (first link) + a page that lets you directly contact progressive house reps, sign an open letter opposing the bill, and view others' testimonies against it (second link):

FIGHT. FIGHT. FIGHT.

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Hello my friends,

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I am Mohammed Ayyad from Gaza Al-Shuja'iyya

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I have sought refuge with you because of the devastating war that caused me to lose my home and my mother and we were displaced from one place to another and lost my children's future and there is a severe shortage of basic materials,

I have sought refuge with you so that I can provide a decent and safe life for me and my family consisting of my wife and my children Yasser, Omar, Maryam, Jana and Sarah, each of them has dreams but unfortunately they have lost hope and despair is controlling them,

I hope that you will stand by us either by donating if possible or sharing widely,

Thank you very much

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noting that my son Omar has a Tumblr account under the name @m430235341 and it was checked and I had an account under the name @mohammadayyad and it was also checked but I was surprised today that it was banned so today I created a new account under the name @mohammadyaser1980, please check it and thank you 5, @mohammadayyad’s fundraiser. As of posting they’ve been able to raise €12,143 of their €35,000 goal.This fundraiser has been vetted by @/inthefaceofada

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First ever ask on Tumblr here,

I just learned about oriented aroace 15 minutes ago and it felt as if both my entire world expanded and so much just clicked.

I have a feeling I'm going to be staying up late figuring this out tonight lol.

(Also hi! This blog is cool from what I've seen so far!)

Yippee!

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Hello 👋 🤗,

I hope you are well 🌺.

I am writing to you with a heart full of hope and faith, asking for your urgent help. My family is in great danger due to the war, and I am running a fundraising campaign to save them.

Please, could you reblog the post about my campaign on my account? Every share can make a difference in my family's life. 🙏

Note:My old Tumblr account was deactivated💔, and I need your support again♥️.

Thank you from the bottom of my heart for any help you can provide. 🌹🌺

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Platonic beauty & the beast retelling/adaptation

is this anything?

Yes.

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>go in mlm tags

>i hope there isnt any romance or sex in here

>romance and sex

>😔

OP this is so relatable

(Romance doesn't squick me out as much as sex so I use #mlm sfw and similar tags so I can avoid the Stuff but I'm not sure how to avoid posts about romance) (if there's a tag out there for this then feel free to reply or reblog with that!)

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Hello, 👋

I hope you are well. 🌷

My family and I are facing very difficult circumstances due to the war, and we urgently need help to save them. I am seeking funding for our campaign, and your assistance whether through sharing our story or donating can make a significant difference. Simple actions like reposting this message or contributing can be a lifeline for my family.

Please, help us in any way possible. Your support will give us hope and strength during these challenging times. My children need your donations.🙏

Thank you from the bottom of my heart. 🙏❤️With utmost gratitude,

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Hello, i am a lesbian oriented aroace who feels platonic, aesthetic and sensual attraction.

It took me a long time to figure that out so i’m glad i was able too.

I don’t know why i’m sending this here but it felt right lol

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closing statement from an article about being intersex & the possible connection of gender expression and sexuality in intersex individuals, published in The Gay Liberator, 1970s

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AroAce Umbrella

In this post, I will discus the following terms: AroAce, Angled AroAce, Oriented AroAce, AroAceFlux, and AroAceSpike.

Let's start with AroAce.

A person who identifies as AroAce experiences little to no romantic or sexual attraction. They don't look at someone and go, "Oh, they're cute. I wonder if they're seeing someone. And if not, I wonder if they'd like to go out with me." They don't look at someone and go, "Oh, they're hot. I wonder if they're down for Netflix and chill." They may, on the other hand, get to know someone and go, "Oh, they're such a cool person, and they share many of my interests. I wonder if they'd like to be my best friend for all eternity."

Now, let's move on to Angled AroAce.

An Angled AroAce experiences some romantic and sexual attraction, but this attraction falls solidly within both the aromantic and asexual spectrums. The romantic or sexual attraction they experience may feel nebulous and complicated. "Oh, that person's good looking. Would I want to ask them out on a date? Maybe not." In addition to experiencing some romantic and sexual attraction, they may also experience tertiary attraction, such as platonic, emotional (alterous), physical (sensual), and/or aesthetic.

Next, let's look at Oriented AroAce.

Oriented AroAces experience little to no romantic or sexual attraction, but they do experience a strong tertiary attraction. Many who identify as oriented AroAce will also identify with another orientation label, but they only identify with this label in a nonromantic and nonsexual way. For example, a lesbian oriented AroAce may look at an attractive woman and go, "Oh, that woman's hot. But not in a sexual way. Most definitely in an aesthetic way."

On to AroAceFlux.

Note: I don't know if this is the correct flag.

AroAceFlux individuals experience a flux between their romantic and sexual orientations, but it always stays on the aro and ace spectrum. The flux can occur simultaneously or independently of each other. One day, you could experience no romantic and sexual attraction; and the next day, you could experience some romantic and no sexual attraction; and the day after that, you could experience no romantic and some sexual attraction. As the name implies, attraction is always in constant flux and motion. You may see someone and go, "Damn, I wonder if that person's single." You may see that same person at a different time and go, "They have nice eyes, I guess."

Lastly, let's look at AroAceSpike.

Note: I don't know if this is the correct flag.

AroAceSpike individuals generally don't feel any romantic or sexual attraction, but they will occasionally feel a strong romantic or sexual attraction for a brief moment of time. Some will use only this term to describe their sexual orientation while others will use an additional orientation label. They'll use this additional label to describe the type of romantic or sexual attraction they periodically feel. For example, a biromantic AroAceSpike individual will periodically feel romantic attraction towards the opposite and same gender as themselves; whereas, a homosexual AroAceSpike individual will periodically feel sexual attraction towards the same gender as themselves. They may see someone and go, "Oh, they're so pretty. I could just drown in their eyes." A brief moment later, they look at this same person and go, "Oh, never mind. Whatever I felt for them before has gone."

I would like to close this post by saying that I fall solidly under the AroAce term. Never in my life have I experienced sexual or romantic attraction. I have experienced emotional and aesthetic attraction but not necessarily in regards to people. I react to a beautiful painting the same way that I react to someone who has very beautiful eyes. "Ah, that's pretty." And after that brief thought, I simply get on with the rest of my day. As a result, I may not have given the best descriptions or examples of Angled AroAce, Oriented AroAce, AroAceFlux, or AroAceSpike.

If you are AroAce and disagree with any of my definitions or would like to share your own AroAce experiences, please leave a comment in the notes. I just love connecting with all my fellow AroAces out there in the digital realm.

And if you're not AroAce, I'd still like to hear from you. Especially the other folks on the aro and ace spectrum. ❤️

Well, that's all I have for today. Until next time, take care and stay curious.