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happy pride to everyone who uses "contradictory" labels. mspec lesbians, mspec gays, lesbigays, gaybians, velaurians, lesboys, turigirls, boygirls and girlboys, oriented aro/aces, cistrans ppl, and everyone else i didn't mention <3

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Just a quick reminder:

Queer labels come with community, and if someone doesn't 'fit' the original label that they used anymore, but it still feels like home? Then they get to keep that label. Also, a lot of sexuality identities are also trans identities when you look at the history of them. Same thing with intersex people who use contradictory labels because they are intersex and feel more comfortable that way.

There is no queer identity without trans identity. There is no queer identity without intersex identity.

If a cis lesbian, a transfem lesbian, and a transmasc lesbian, all want to call themselves butch? They're all fucking butch.

Same thing with intersex people! Stop excluding intersex people when discussing labels and shit. Just stop excluding everyone.

Contradictory labels are not our enemy. We know who our enemies are.

Note: I am perisex and if I said anything intersexist here please let me know.

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No clue. Even Taimi sucks now, and it was the go-to for so long.

Hinge’s 2024 LGBTQIA+ D.A.T.E. Report

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Exactly like it doesn't even have to be slow but all relationships(romantic, qpr, friendship, or sexual) should have clear defined boundaries. Even if it's not a sit down discussion, sometimed you just know what's chill and what ain't, but all relationships should have well-known boundaries.

Hinge’s 2024 LGBTQIA+ D.A.T.E. Report

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If you think you have killed the part of you that cringes, then the part of you that cringes will kill./hyp

If you truely think that nothing harmless will make you cringe, then you will truely think that everything that does make you cringe will be harmful. Kill the bully in your head, not the cringe. Let yourself cringe and feel distaste and then MOVE ON.

did jocat actually do anything problematic or did fall under the travis mcelroy trap of being a kind of cringy cishet dude who isn't irony poisoned enough for the internet.

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I also mean this in a aromantic way. Like this isn"t just romantic love, it's not romantic attraction at all, it's a need and desire to have this person who affects my life so deeply understand exactly how and why they affect me and there's no way to put it into words.

I love my partner sm I just want to deatomize myself and THROW IT AT THEM LIKE "I LOVE YOU HERE'S THE BLUEPRINT OF MY VERY BEING" but I can't so instead I just have a specific heart color I use for them and that's almost enough

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Hinge you still won't let me filter out cis people

Hinge’s 2024 LGBTQIA+ D.A.T.E. Report

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queerplatonic relationship. reblog if you agree!

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Just a reblog to say thank you for the edit and thank you for listening when corrected. But also BE FUCKING NORMAL ABOUT GIRLS WITH DICKS IT'S NOT HARD. It is JUST a penis

i am NOT trying to stop people from celebrating girlbulge and other aspects of trans bodies, but, like, theres literally nothing inherently sexual about being able to see the lump of a flaccid penis in pants that fit the way all modern pants are designed to. its so normal. its so fucking normal and they should be allowed to wear jeans in peace. its not sexual when cis dudes dont tuck, so lets stop sexualizing women who are literally just standing there. trans women with the very reasonable "not wanting to risk damaging their testicles by tucking" stance arent open season for unsolicited sexual comments. please get normal about penises

(explicitly clarifying a second time so no one twists my words, if some lady wants sexual attention re: her dick, thats her choice. obviously. but i feel like "talking about a woman's genitals when shes literally just chilling is sexual harassment" should be common fucking sense in 2024)

EDIT: its been brought to my attention that packers on trans guys do get sexualized and ive just never seen it, so ive removed that bit. from the bottom of my heart, my bad

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The way he looked at me reminded me of a lost puppy. The sting of the rejection made his eyes shine and I tried not to enjoy it.

"Look kid," he wasn't a kid, but it got the point across, "One of these days some modern man is going to latch onto you like a python to a rat and squeeze the light out of those eyes. I don't want to be the one to do it. Find someone else to fuel your self-destruction."

I watched his tiny body shudder with a sob. He tried to hide it, but his shoulders still shook. He was taller than me, but skinny. Fragile. I would feel bad if there wasn't a bile-like taste of satisfaction in my throat. Let him cry. Maybe it would dry out his heart a bit.

I stood from the table and kissed his hair. Then I walked out of the apartment to find some pretty thing to go home with.

He'd be gone by morning, I was sure.

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Not feminist as in "women should be included in the draft" but feminist as in "being drafted is a violation of bodily autonomy for any gender".

The draft should not exist. Drafting people into the military is a violation of human rights. You should not be able to force someone to risk their life. If you can't find enough people who care about a conflict to keep it going then it simply shouldn't keep going. You can't even force someone to donate a kidney using government power, why the fuck can you force them to donate their whole body and life to a cause they don't agree with or don't care about?

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I love my partner sm I just want to deatomize myself and THROW IT AT THEM LIKE "I LOVE YOU HERE'S THE BLUEPRINT OF MY VERY BEING" but I can't so instead I just have a specific heart color I use for them and that's almost enough