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“One of the most expensive things you could ever do is pay attention to the wrong people.”

— Dr. Henry Cloud

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moodboard: haley x nathan (naley)

“Marry me, Haley. Marry me again in front of all our friends and family.”

“Always. Always and forever.”

Here's my favorite couple bc i love them dearly and it's always been my love reference. Besides! They make me smile :)

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Sham Rants VII

Growing up, I often felt alone. It wasn't the kind of loneliness that made me sad all the time, it was quieter, like sitting in an empty room and realizing the silence wasn't so bad. Even as a kid, I had this strange sense that whatever I was going through, no matter how big it felt in the moment, it wasn't the whole story. Deep down, I just knew: "This too shall pass."

Solitude became less of a burden and more of a quiet teacher. It showed me how to sit with myself, how to listen to my own thoughts, and how to hold on to hope. I didn't need to fill every empty moment with people or noise because I understood, even as a child, that being alone wasn't the end of the world. It was just a part of it.

Looking back, I think that understanding, [simple and profound] saved me in so many ways. It taught me resilience, patience, and the quiet power of hope. Even now, when life feels heavy or lonely, I return to that childlike wisdom: "This too shall pass." And somehow, it always does.

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Sham Rants VI

I think the best kind of people are those who have a natural ability to make others feel welcome. They don’t need to put on a show or go out of their way; they just have a way of making you feel like you belong. They don’t intentionally exclude or create barriers but instead open doors with their warmth and genuine interest. These are the people who notice when someone feels out of place and take the time to include them, making everyone feel seen and valued. Their kindness isn’t about obligation; it’s about understanding that everyone deserves to feel like they’re part of something.

At the heart of it, people just want to feel like they matter. Whether it’s in a romantic relationship or a friendship, we all crave connection and understanding. Being accepted for who we are, without judgment or conditions, is one of the most powerful feelings. And when someone likes you back, whether platonically or romantically, it’s a validation of that connection. It reminds you that you’re not alone, that someone sees you and values your presence. They remind us that we’re not alone and that being liked or loved, even in the smallest ways, can make all the difference.

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Life on Pause (Sham Rants V)

Life feels like it has come to a standstill for me, like I’m trapped in a moment while the world races forward. Everywhere I look, it seems like everyone else is building their futures, making decisions, and moving ahead, while I’m stuck, unable to choose a direction. The choices I do have feel heavy and overwhelming, as though any wrong move might shatter the fragile ground I’m standing on. This paralysis makes me feel like I’m falling behind in everything - career, personal growth, relationships and the weight of it all is suffocating. I find myself questioning why I can’t seem to take a step forward, even when I want to, and the frustration with myself only deepens the cycle.

This state of limbo has started to take a toll on my mental health, leaving me restless and riddled with anxiety. Nights are the hardest; my mind races with thoughts of what I should be doing, what I haven’t done, and what I fear I’ll never achieve. The lack of progress feels like drowning. Sleep, once an escape, now feels dangerous -filled with the fear that I might slip so deep into the darkness that I won’t wake up again. It’s a terrifying, isolating feeling, like I’m caught in a loop with no exit. I want so badly to find a way out, to move forward, but for now, it feels like the weight of the world is holding me in place.

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Sham Rants IV

Lately, I’ve been struggling to find my footing. With no job to ground me, my days often feel like a blur of aimless scrolling, fleeting motivation, and a nagging voice in the back of my mind telling me I should be doing more. It’s not that I don’t want to be productive, it’s that I can’t seem to figure out where to start or muster the energy to follow through. Job hunting feels like shouting into a void, and even when I do try to focus, there’s this heavy cloud of uncertainty hanging over me.

Being unemployed has been a humbling experience. It’s like I’ve been dropped into this strange limbo where time stretches endlessly, yet the pressure to get my life together weighs down on me every second. I know I need to be proactive, but it’s hard to keep going when rejection emails pile up, or worse, when I don’t hear anything at all. The more I try to shake off this slump, the more it feels like quicksand...I’m trying, but I’m not sure if it’s the right moves or if I’m sinking deeper.

I’ve started looking for ways to pull myself out of this rut, even if it’s just one small step at a time. Setting a routine, taking breaks to reset, and reminding myself that my worth isn’t tied to productivity, it’s helping me see the light, even if it’s faint. I know this phase won’t last forever, but that doesn’t mean it’s easy to sit with. All I can do is trust that with enough patience, effort, and maybe a little luck, I’ll find my way out.

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Sham Rants III

Uhm, Secret Animosity... yuck!

You know what’s terrifying? The idea that someone could smile to your face, cheer you on, and pretend they’re your biggest fan- while secretly harboring animosity. It’s like having a “friend” who’s a master at pretending, clapping for your wins on the surface while, deep down, they’re fuming with jealousy. They might nod along when you talk about your goals or send a cheery text when you succeed, but inside, they’re secretly hoping you trip up. And the wild part? You’d never know unless they slip up or you catch a subtle, sour vibe they couldn’t quite mask.

And here’s the kicker, it’s not just the secret animosity that stings. It’s also when, instead of celebrating your wins with you, they try to steal the spotlight and make it about themselves. They just can’t seem to be genuinely happy for you, even for one second. Suddenly, your proud moment becomes their chance to center themselves in the story, like they can’t handle your shine without trying to dim it. Honestly, I’d rather deal with an honest hater, you know, someone who makes their feelings crystal clear, than a “friend” who’s secretly salty and out for the spotlight. At least with the former, I know where I stand. With the latter, every interaction feels like a guessing game, and I’m way too tired (and too old) for that kind of [emotional] mind games.

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Sham Rants II

Finding the right words in real time is like trying to catch a train that’s already left the station. Everyone else seems to jump in with their thoughts effortlessly, while I’m sitting there, staring at the tracks, hoping the next one will be on time. It’s not that I don’t have opinions-I have plenty. They just tend to show up fashionably late, long after the conversation has moved on. And let me tell you, nothing makes you feel more invisible than realizing the perfect thing to say hours after you needed to say it.

The thing is, I need time to sit with my thoughts. When the conversation’s over, that’s when all the brilliant comebacks and well-worded insights decide to show up, like uninvited guests at a party that’s already ended. By then, it’s too late, and I’m left replaying the moment in my head, wishing I could hit rewind. It’s not just frustrating; it’s a little humiliating. I want people to know I care and that I’m not just zoning out during the discussion. But sometimes, my brain’s timing is like bad Wi-Fi, buffering when I need it most.

I’ve come to see that it’s a mix of overthinking and a touch of perfectionism. I want my words to be thoughtful and impactful, so I hesitate, and then the moment’s gone. I’m trying to get better at jumping in, even if my thoughts come out a little messy. It’s hard, but I’m learning that showing up, even imperfectly, is better than staying silent. At the end of the day, I just want to be part of the conversation, even if my contributions are a little delayed. After all, better late than never, right?

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You climb up there with me, it's one less minute you haven't lived.

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Learning to be my own favorite. (1st 'Sham Rants' entry)

I've always wondered what it feels like to be someone's favorite person. You know, the friend who gets texted first, the one everyone instinctively turns to when they need comfort, laughs, or even a late-night rant. Growing up, I always felt like the floater friend in my friend groups- the dependable but interchangeable friend. Everyone had their "go-to" except me. And let me tell you, it messes with your head when you're constantly measuring your worth in group dynamics and always coming up a little short.

Childhood friendships are supposed to be the stuff of coming-of-age movies, right? Endless giggles, sleepovers, secret handshakes. Mine were more like... "Oh, you're here too?" Don't get me wrong, I had friends, good ones even, but I always felt like the understudy in a play. Sure, I was part of the cast, but never the star.

This lack of a "favorite" status bred a very specific kind of anxiety in me. I lived with the constant fear that one day my friends would wake up and realize I was unnecessary. It didn't help that I was rarely texted to hang out outside of group gatherings. It was always the group, never me. And even during those gatherings, I couldn't shake the feeling that my presence wasn't exactly essential.

It's a strange and unsettling experience to be physically present but emotionally sidelined. Every time I was with them, I couldn't help but notice the way they gravitated toward each other. I would sit there, smiling, participating, but I could feel it: the subtle exclusion, the unspoken sense that I wasn't the person they really wanted around. It wasn't outright hostility, it was more like indifference. And somehow, that hurt more.

The thing is nobody ever actually dumped me. But the worry was always there, looming. It followed me through childhood, high school, and even adulthood like a shadow. Friendships became a tightrope walk, each step careful, calculated. I didn't know how to relax into the comfort of a relationship because I was too busy making sure I wasn't replaceable. I wasn't sure what was worse: feeling like a backup friend or feeling like I deserved to be.

And then I got older.

Adulthood has this sneaky way of teaching you lessons you didn't ask for but desperately need. I started realizing that maybe the problem wasn't my friends. It was me. Well, the version of me that thought my value depended on someone else's validation. I was so focused on being everyone's second choice that I never asked myself if I even liked being in these dynamics. Was I clinging to friendships that weren't fulfilling, just for the sake of having them?

It wasn't an overnight epiphany. and it didn't come without heartbreak. But I started letting go of the need to be someone's favorite. Instead, I began prioritizing being my own. It sounds corny, I know, but it's liberating when you finally accept that your worth isn't tied to how many people pick you first for their team. I learned to invest in friendships that felt balanced and reciprocal, where I didn't have to perform or compete for affection.

And then something else amazing happened: I met my husband.

Nowadays, I'm living a chapter of my life I never thought I'd get to experience. I have a husband who is, quite frankly, the best person I've ever known. He loves me in ways that make me feel like I really am someone's favorite, and for the first time, I'm starting to understand what that feels like. It's still a work in progress, I'm learning to embrace this kind of love without questioning it too much or waiting for the other shoe to drop. But everyday with him, it makes a little more sense. After years of doubting my place in people's lives, I finally have someone who reminds me in the simplest ways, that I belong right here.

The truth is, life isn't a sitcom or a high school movie where everyone has a bestie to ride off into the sunset with. Sometimes, you're the friend who's there when they need you but not the one they'll choose first. And you know what? That's okay. Being liked isn't the same as being valued. If I could go back and tell my younger self one thing, it would be this: Stop measuring your importance by where you fall on someone else's list. You don't need to be their favorite to be enough. And if you ever find yourself in a room where you feel like people are just tolerating you? Leave. You are not an afterthought, and you never have to settle for being one.

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so we decided to have our tumblr comeback haha

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