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Also, in my experience, when straight men AREN’T sexualizing lesbians they’re like “WHATS UP MY DUDE?!! I see you’re ALSO attracted to the Fairer Sex™️!! Let’s exchange hookup stories/dating tips/mildly misogynistic and objectifying jokes, not because I think YOU’RE a stupid bitch but because you and I are both cool, dominant SMOOTH OPERATORS who both want to FUCK the aforementioned stupid bitches!!”

Now granted, not all straight men who try to adopt a wing-dyke have this much internalized misogyny. Sometimes they’re perfectly nice, if flawed, guys who are genuinely curious about the differences between their dating experience and yours.

Also, I can’t lie, it can be fun and kind of heady to be seen—not as an object worthy of being pursued—but as a pursuer™️. No longer are you a delicate damsel waiting to be scooped up by a brawny warrior. Now you are a general on the battlefield of romance who’s extensive experience and SUBSTANTIAL rizz has rendered you worthy of consultation by your heterosexual brothers in arms! But make no mistake! This elevation from your usually disempowered position is temporary and once you have to deal with other men who see you as nothing more than the representative of the not-powerful gender—or worse, a failed representative of the not-powerful gender—the illusion of authority shatters like the thawing surface of a frozen lake, plunging you into the chilly waters of subjugation once more.

Not only can you receive Psychic Damage™️ from the sheer whiplash of these kinds of interactions, such commiseration with The Boyz™️ can also alienate you from straight women and women in general!

Examine every scrap of positive attention you receive and carefully chart how it makes you feel. When you have straight guy friends, keep an eye on how they treat other, non-dyke-y women in their lives and respond accordingly. It may take time for people to show you who they are, but once they do, believe them and protect yourself and those around you.

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Dmitri

Cat Paris, 2025

Linocut on Paper

This is a Linocut based on a photograph taken by Fred Berger in 1998 for the 25th Winter issue of the gothic and fetish magazine Propaganda. The magazine ran from 1982 to 2002. The model, Brooklyn, was featured in multiple issues of Propaganda. This image that inspired this print does not belong to me.

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If you say shit like this to a questioning trans girl, you're committing transmisogynistic violence. Like what the actual fuck is wrong with you?? You see a girl expressing fear and pain and your response is to tell her to shut up and deal with it??? You're not helping or warning anyone, you want this woman dead.

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THE ENTIRE WEST IS BEING PUT UP FOR SALE AND I AM BEGGING YOU TO CALL YOUR SENATORS

Trump’s budget bill has many, many things in it, but buried amongst it is the MILLIONS OF ACRES OF PUBLIC LAND FOR SALE.

This is the entirety of the Arizona state forests, the entire Cascades mountain range. Swathes of pristine desert around the national parks in Utah. On the doorstep of Jackson Hole.

THIS BILL IS BIG, BUT IT CAN BE AMENDED AND ABSOLUTELY MUST NOT PASS AS IS please.

If you have ever enjoyed the wilderness, we stand to lose it all forever.

CALLING your senators - NOT JUST IN THE WEST. ALL SENATORS, is CRUCIAL.

Outdoor alliance has a great resource for reaching out.

I don’t have a huge following but please, everywhere I have ever loved, the forests I grew up playing in, the land I got married on, is all at risk and I am begging.

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there’s been a really bizarre trend in the past couple years of TERFS/radfems getting pissed off about biology posts. posts about the bilateral gyandromorph cardinal (one half male, one half female), posts about older hens beginning to crow and act like roosters, posts about animals being animals. and it’s hilarious because they interpret these posts as some kind of agenda. no! these are animals not choosing any gender identity or sexuality but being born into bodies they have no control over. weird how that happens in nature huh

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native queers I love you 2Spirit fags and dykes I love you indigenous genderqueer people I love you third gender people I love you māhū I love you ahhhhhhhh

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@drdemonprince

try not to unlearn all your shame in case there's something good stuff in there that you can sexualize

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like just very frankly this whole idea that misogyny is a result of young boys being exposed to porn on the internet is ridiculous and it is fucking embarrassing how many people who claim to have materialist politics still parrot it. do you think that guy grew up to be a misogynist because of xhamster or do you think watching the way his father treated his mother and being increasingly materially rewarded for going along with the disenfranchisement of women and living in an economic system which functions off of the abuse of women and the heavily gendered exploitation of labor had anything to do with it

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I worry that today’s generation of kids on the internet have never gotten to develop much digital agency or form safe, empowering relationships with older people. More broadly, I think our current culture of isolating children from all unrelated adults, supposedly in the name of their “protection” only causes them to become more ignorant, lonesome, and vulnerable to exploitation.

There are many ways in which restricting youth access to information technology and training adults to avoid all contact with children makes kids even more powerless and dependent.

If a child cannot post their sexual health questions on Ask Alice or go searching around online, then they have to believe whatever they hear from their parent or priest. If a young person longs to taste the freedoms of adulthood but aren’t given any room to explore, then the grown-up in their DMs telling them that they are so mature becomes a hell of a lot more seductive.

And if a kid never gets to search for sexual content online, learn about adult sexual experiences, or touch themselves and find pleasure in the privacy of their own minds, they may never fully learn that their body is them, for them to enjoy and express themselves however they see fit.

For queer youth, the dangers of isolation are amplified. A study published in the journal Child Protection and Practice in April of last year found that LGBTQI+ children face an elevated risk of grooming and sexual abuse because they are discriminated against by peers, preached against within their religious communities, and mistreated or kicked out of the house by their families — and also, because an adult with no respect for boundaries might be the only person offering to talk with them about queerness or sex.

It’s very difficult to know the difference between a healthy relationship and exploitation when a predatory adult is the first queer person a kid ever knows. If a relationship with an abuser is the only way that a teen ever gets to live out their queerness or explore their budding sexuality, then it becomes immensely difficult for them to walk away — leaving the groomer is like tearing off a crucial part of themselves that never gets expressed otherwise, or even seen.

This is also true of children who have the early rumblings of kinky sexualities, too — when you long to be controlled or tied up, you need a safe outlet to learn and fantasize about doing such things consensually one day. If you do not know that such options exist, you’ll settle instead for abuse. The more options that a child has to learn about sexual practices, to meet other queer people of ages, and to form appropriate relationships with unrelated adults, the harder they become to manipulate, and the more power they have to walk away.

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Being a minor is a position created by legal oppression, but most people consider a minor’s lack of freedom to be so natural and morally correct they don’t even recognize it as oppression. Instead, they see it as protection, a healthy separation between the world of the human and the not-quite-human yet. Though they would never admit it, a minor is not the same thing as a person to them, for a minor can be thrown out of public spaces, locked away, silenced, disregarded, and left to rot in the ways full persons are not.

I believe that we queer adults are failing our younger siblings by refusing to play a part in raising and looking after them. We have chosen to privilege our individual safety from accusations of ‘inappropriate’ conduct over the need for queer youth to see their own sexualities and identities normalized, envision a diversity of possible futures for themselves, and seek aid and understanding when they are mistreated.

For those of us who’ve had the liberty to escape our ignorant hometowns, get on HRT, have joyous gay sex in dark rooms, or even just dance tenderly with a sexy androgynous stranger’s cheek pressed against our own, we have a responsibility to pour from our filled cups, and to remember what it was like to have no such access. As terrified as we are of losing our documentation, our access to medicine, and our legal rights, we must remember those queer people who presently have none of those things, and do all that we can to extend our aid to them.

I wrote about the troubling culture of the "MINORS DNI" bio, and how it contributes to the mass isolation of young queer people. You can read the full piece or have it narrated to you by the substack app for free here.

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the things that we've been forced to manage through crowdfunding websites are insane. victims of a genocide are having to market themselves as someone who is worthy of being saved.

living for more than a year under an active genocide while seeing your oppressors cruelty and disregard for your life increase is so horrendous.

every single person in gaza has lost too much. i don't think everyone must have to share their personal loss in order to be deemed as a person worthy of safety. i think we should try to help those we can see asking for it.

i request you to help alaa and her children. she needs to buy supplies and remain safe. her area was bombed very recently. her fundraiser has been verified.

please donate here

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I have a heartwarming story to add to this.

When I was in high school I dated a boy. He was not a bad guy but he did have some unfortunate hangups.

One of these was as follows: He did not think boys or men could use Bath products. When I went out with him and wanted to stop at Lush he explained he couldn’t go inside because men couldn’t use bath bombs.

I told him this was stupid. He asked if I’d ever seen a man using bath bombs and I conceded I hadn’t. But I firmly asserted my right to get *my* bath bombs with or without him. So we came to an agreement. He’d stand outside while I did my Lush run so that his masculinity wouldn’t be blasphemously blemished by the bloody bath bombs. Thus a new routine emerged. However something happened that neither of us anticipated. Lush stores, as you might know, smell. Some think they smell good and others think they smell overpowering and obnoxious. My then boyfriend discovered, to his surprise, that he liked the smell of the Lush store. While waiting for me outside, every time someone opened the shop door, my ex would poke his head in and take an eager sniff.

Finally he asked me if he could, perhaps, come inside Lush with me. Just to smell the stuff! He wasn’t going to use any of it!

We walked out of the Lush a few minutes later, having purchased products for *both* of us.

Nobody died. Nobody called my ex the f-slur. The sky didn’t fall. A man purchased products from Lush and all was well. For the rest of our relationship, I never went to Lush alone again.

this is so weird and niche but as a soap and body products enjoyer it is so strange how irrationally angry and irritated cishet dudes get under videos of women talking about their shower routine or their ‘smell good’ routine. and listen, there are plenty of criticisms that can be made of consumer culture but a girl will post a video showcasing a new body wash and conditioner she enjoys and get comments from dudes saying things like “all of that just washes off” ARE YOU GENUINELY STUPID??? I would say that they are trolling but the amount of Reddit posts of dudes flummoxed and annoyed their girlfriend uses more than one product in the shower makes me genuinely think there is a portion of straight dudes who don’t understand how soap and lotion work or why they are necessary. and it makes them mad for some reason? women saying “I like this new soap I just got, it smells good” “oooooh where is it from?” makes them mad? do you just hate women to the point you boycott personal grooming or is it just the expression of joy that pisses you off?

a woman will post a video of her bathroom on her self care night with candles and maybe a bath bomb and there will be dudes complaining about how stupid and frivolous it is. IF SHE STANK YOU WOULD MOCK HER TOO.

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Who I Am & Why I’m Here 💙

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Hey everyone, my name is Abdelmajed. I don’t usually talk much about myself, but today, I want to share a little piece of my story.

I was born and raised in Gaza, a place that has always been my home 🏡. I grew up surrounded by my family, my friends, and the streets that I knew like the back of my hand. Life wasn’t always easy, but we had love, laughter, and dreams. I used to think that no matter what happened, home would always be here. But life has a way of changing things in ways we never expect.

Over the past months, everything I once knew has disappeared. The streets that were once filled with children playing are now silent. The houses that held so many memories are now just rubble. And the people I loved—some of them are gone forever. 💔

But I don’t want this to just be a story of loss. I want it to be a story of hope. No matter how much has changed, I refuse to stop believing in better days. I refuse to stop dreaming of a future where I can rebuild, where I can find peace, where I can wake up in the morning without fear.

That’s why I’m here. To share my journey. To connect with people who believe in kindness and humanity. To remind myself—and anyone reading this—that even in the darkest times, there is still light. ✨

If you’ve read this far, thank you. I’d love to get to know you too. Tell me something about yourself in the comments. Let’s build something positive together. 💬💙

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ok im going to #seriouspost for a second here. I don't think Harry Potter is a manifesto. I think it was a flawed passion project that millennials latched onto because of the fantasy of sticking it to their mean teachers and arbitrarily categorizing themselves (hogwarts houses; it's the thinking millennial's astrology). I think the fact that the series got popular when and how it did was very much a product of its time.

I don't think Harry Potter is the biggest symbol of JKR's bigotry. I think the most flagrant sign of that was how she responded to critics. I watched her become radicalized in real time. I watched how she doubled down on her racism when she was called out for the ways she promoted her tragically mid fantastic beasts movies. I watched her chase marginalized teenagers with a double digit follower count off of twitter for daring to criticize her thought process, and no one with any kind of power standing against her because she was the one who was paying them. This isn't to say Harry Potter is without flaws. This is to say she really didn't give a shit about that. Getting rich and powerful is a hell of a drug, and she had enough sycophants that she had no reason to care about what her critics were saying.

She was convinced that she was a martyr; a voice for the unheard; a leader for the ages, so of course her detractors were the bad guys. And I think we should take this to heart. We should see this as an example of how easy it is to get radicalized; if you think of yourself as a paragon of virtue, you are going to think that whatever you see as good and right is an objective fact. Most people don't know this, but the majority of terfs start out as trans allies. You are not immune to propaganda! You are not immune to falling into dangerous ideologies!!!

This is why the most important thing you can do as an activist is to listen. Do NOT think you're above being wrong; do NOT develop a god complex; do NOT form an identity out of being right all the time. Involve yourselves in the groups you claim to speak for. Listen to trans women; share resources that help trans women; familiarize yourself with the diversity of experiences that trans people have and the struggles they face.

No, none of you are as bad as JKR because you don't have her money or her power. You will likely never have the capacity for harm she does. But check yourselves. Do not affirm yourselves into thinking you always have the moral high ground. Watch yourselves; humble yourselves; check yourselves for signs of cult behavior and internalized prejudice. You are always learning. You will always be learning. Do not allow yourselves to get a power trip from brushing off marginalized voices.

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Watching all the sinners Discourse on Tumblr has me revisiting my desire to actually do all the things my Irish ancestors desperately, fervently didn’t want me to do. Namely…actually learn about authentic Irish culture instead of the shitty Americanized version of it I’ve been fed.

But still I find myself paralyzed with doubt and shame. Obviously being Irish and being Irish American are very different things. Fighting against one’s oppressors, speaking truth to power, standing in unconditional solidarity with other colonized peoples while not centering yourself, remembering and learning from the past and pissing on Maggie’s Thatcher’s grave, that’s what being Irish means…and if it is…I’m not Irish.

The reason I am where I am is because my ancestors abandoned all of that. They assimilated into the American hive mind and spent their lives shaming others (namely their children) into doing the same.

I remember once an Irish Exchange student and I got in an argument.

“The fuck do you know about Ireland?!!” She hissed. “You all left to step on the necks of the Blacks and the Vietnamese!!! You left to get Rich and join the NYPD!! We stayed to fight and make things better!”

…and she was right…and I don’t really know what to do to untangle myself from that legacy. I don’t know that I have a right to peel back the layers to find what was there before.

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The Most Beautiful Woman

Cat Paris, 2025

Linocut on Paper

*possibly may clean this up and post a more updated version. I feel like there’s stuff I can do to make it look better.

The meme that inspired this work

Unknown Artist

If anyone of you Tumblr Sleuths can track the origins of this meme so I can credit the artist properly, that would be cool.