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Hi, my fellow pals of children of divorce. How have you been doing? Have you been eating and sleeping well? Are you doing well? I hope you are.

Did it get better, somehow? Does it ever get better? I hope it did; and continues to always do.

You deserve your own happiness, and your own world. You are free to choose yourself and to become your highest being, your best and kindest version of yourself.

No matter how hard it gets, it always gets easier and better too, somehow... only if you focus on your progress and betterment. Let go of that person of your past. Let go of the ghosts of your past. They don’t have a place in your present life anymore 🤍

(Also, don’t you think we need to stop identifying ourselves as a child of divorce? It sounds weird and the pain is too old for that.)

You are so strong, I hope you know that. And after reading this, I hope you can accept that. Sometimes when you tell yourself that you are strong, or when people tell you that, you don’t believe them or yourself. So I hope you have the courage to believe that you are strong and I am immensely grateful of how strong you are as a person.

Remember, you are never alone. Things happened this way to allow you to become your best self and to send you to places so unimaginably beautiful you could cry just thinking about it. You are loved, without having to ask for anyone’s permission.

You’ll do great.

But most importantly, you’ll be fine.

You’ll be fine.

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When it gets too much, thinking and remembering, “Ah, I can’t be the only one who feels this way. Someone out there must be able to perfectly know what it feels like to be me.” helps a lot.

I am here. I hope our paths cross.

I am waiting for you.

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No matter how many days have passed or how much better I have got, I seem to fall back into this pit of pain. When I am in pain, I wonder, “Why am I so sad all the time? Why am I the only one who is sad?” and as I look around, I would find that my friends look in a much better emotional state than me. Then I would realise that I have no helping hand or no lifeline rope to hold on to. No one understands how heartbreakingly painful and desolate being a child of divorce is—what a sorrow it is; having to grow up with multitudes of a totally messy, broken-beyond-repair relationship with your parents.

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Things do get better 🌈

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Hello people, if you come across this post by any chance, I just want to congratulate you and let you know how proud I am of you. You are so great, and I am glad that you are here, and I am so happy you are here and reading this. It might be difficult for you to see how great and lovely you are sometimes, and it is even harder to try to believe what an unknown stranger like me says online, but the love that I put into writing this for you is real and I am sending my biggest love out to you. You are strong, you are never alone and you are going to heal 🤍

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Parents are like... it’s all up to you, but you do realise that your options are limited, right?

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If you’re not a child of divorce then you have absolutely zero rights to talk about divorce to those who are going through their parents’ divorce. No matter who you are and what your position is. Besides, all divorces are different and unique experiences. What happened in one might have not happened in another.

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I can’t sleep again. Been two nights.

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you: father

me, an intellectual: trigger

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My parents and their ego in a nutshell:

Dad: Dad loves you.

Also dad: *creates unnecessary problems, troubles, drama and trauma*

Meanwhile...

Mom: *knows that problems exist and partially contributes in their creation*

Also mom: Just enjoy life. Face it and enjoy.

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I wish none of this was real.

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excerpts from i wish you could have custody of me — nicholas gordon

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excerpts from last june my parents got divorced — nicholas gordon