doctor merlin in the 21st century: can you have— I have created butterflies from nothing and horses from smoke. I have seen empires rise, fall, crumble, and start from nothing but a fish in a poor man’s hand. I’ve fought witches and failed them too. I’ve laid waste to armies and blessed nations of people with health that will never make up for it. I have pantsed Kings and kissed Queens. I have stood upon the precipice of this world and called forth the ocean only for time to swallow me whole and spit me back out. And I would do it all again if I could grant you, dear Matilda, a lollipop.
little girl: strawberry?
merlin: say no more, Tilda, this should clear up the taste of that cold medicine right away
I'm nobody's therapist and I shouldn't be. But the world we're in is mentally damaging. Any world would be to some extent, and I understand different people have different experiences of the world. But whoever you are I think we can agree most environments we're in don't promote a good relationship with 'the self.'
I can't say 'you should like who you are' or 'you should think you have all these great virtues.' That isn't up to me. But whether you already 'like yourself' or 'are building yourself' or 'want to like a future self more' you can't do that easily if 'who you currently are' is passively eroded without relief.
And this can happen a lot of ways I think. Our responsibilities (school, job, etc.) don't value our authentic experiences but instead our 'performance' within a system. Our bodily needs and logistical realities can frame the practical steps to our care like a burden for ourselves or for others. We are constantly assaulted with external appeals to desire that disrespect our own effort to navigate those desires ourselves. And so much stuff can feel 'more important than ourselves' like, why is it relevant you're a person when immense choices jeopardize the future and the lives of collective humanity???
A lot of talk about 'self-care' is bastardized into like... 'giving yourself special treats' which often can tie in to a highly consumerist culture or self-destructive habits. And 'special treats' may feel irresponsible or like a waste of time in the face of our practical human problems. But the important part is not actually the 'treat', but that the context of the treat is yours. This is YOUR unique treat, that represents you, showing up for you.
And looking at yourself can feel embarrassing. But it's not a coincidence that the 'least cringe' position, least vulnerable position, is to erase yourself. But you're not superficial. And stating 'yourself' is not egotistical. It's the foundation for everything else that matters, and could matter about you to another person.
So like. Some self-affirmations. Not the type that's like, "I'm brave, I'm smart, I'm good, I'm worthy, I'm flexible," etc. I mean:
My favorite color is...
My favorite food is...
I remember a time when I felt, 'wow'...
When I speak, I am [loud, soft, wordy, brief, etc.]...
I am interested in...
People who are [X] inspire me...
I wish I was more...
I wish I was less...
When people meet me, I want them to feel...
My favorite animal is...
I like to spend a free afternoon doing...
I like my spaces to be...
The smell of [x] reminds me of...
When I daydream, the story is usually this type...
I think about these on-purpose maybe once a week.
Affirmations like these may seem childish, basic, frivolous compared to building 'successful habits' and routines. And those are useful, but they can only keep you moving forward through a harsh environment; relying fully on 'discipline' to carry on will put you on paths where an external default is affirmed and your authenticity will be overwritten.
Whether you are trying to become more confident, or trying to work on your self awareness, trying to 'hang in there,' trying to reconcile who you have to be at different parts of your life, trying to unblock your creativity, or if you're entering a new part of your life... even if you think you have yourself all figured out, I believe purposefully sitting down to think about these things will help you.
In Muriel’s defense, he shows up in that awful raincoat (and that still-growing-out s1 awful hair) it’s a reasonable assumption he ain’t got an evening suit. Stop being a pissy twat, Morse.
Random observation. I'm spending my weekends ritalinless and trying combinations of supplements that might reduce brain fog, just in case I ever have to go to a country where I won't have access to meds (also it's calming to know I have some sort of a backup plan. also it's just fun).
And L-theanine (300mg) + ginkgo extract (240 mg) + 2 shots of espresso (no idea about caffeine content) seem to work surprisingly well for me, while not working separately.
(theanine+caffeine and ginkgo separately have shown some effects on sustained attention in clinical trials)
Not ritalin level of effective, doesn't feel like I've suddenly been handed a neurotypical brain but it still feels very nice. Switching between tasks is easy and I can focus.
Now I know how did I manage to remain productive in Moscow, it was just permanent tea ceremony time back then. All the theanine.
(a note to self to give adhd to a tea ceremony master if I ever get to write one)
Also for non-adhd havers who like coffee too much: if you get jittery from coffee try theanine with your n-th cup, it reduces caffeine-induced anxiety.
Fanart for @cirilee's Eine Wunderbare Feindschaft!
It's doodly, I admit, but to be fair, my doodles tend to look better than finished artworks anyway-
I drew Jerry and Poppy because I absolutely LOVE Jerry's design (Poppy's too!), and wanted to see how I'd fare translating the designs to what I guess I should call my own style. Had lots of fun doing it!!
I'll,, probably draw more fanart for EWF soon, and probably digitally, just when I finish my other projects before I forget about them :'D