#(was there infj projection involved in this? maybe. MAYBE IT WAS)

[misspoetree]

So the lovely @haahka and I were talking about Tay and how it's a bit sad that the fandom only ever seems to send him on shopping tours or focus on his fashion (you guys know that I'm obsessed with the KinnPorsche Fashion myself, but it's just a little...unadventurous, you know).

And then I got waaay to deep into headcanons with the equally lovely @tumsa (I'm not even sorry for the spam 😌❤).

Now, there are two things I want to do: first, I'd love to hear more Tay headcanons - feel free to throw them at me (as an ask, in the tags, added to this post, whatever you prefer). Because I'm really curious. 👀

And second, I'm going to share a few of mine:

Tay is way more capable than anyone thinks. (But no one needs to know that.)

People treat Tay like a princess within the show - I mean, he isn't even allowed to help in the kitchen at Porsche's. But I don't think Tay IS a princess. I think it's a protective façade. Because letting oneself be underestimated is a (survival) strategy in a world of money and constant power struggle, and a smart one at that. Yes, Tay is really good at reading people in general, but I also feel like people tend to let their guard down around him. Because he's kind, and understanding, and compassionate - and he seems harmless, a bit spoiled even. His 'softness' puts people at ease, makes them talk, makes them more honest than they probably should be. He's not a threat after all. I bet he knows a lot of things he shouldn't. I bet he's smart enough to use that knowledge (to help other people, to help himself, if needed). And I bet Tay could be fucking dangerous if he ever chose to (and wouldn't that be exciting 👀).

I also like to think that Tay has a strong survival instinct that goes beyond 'pretending to be incapable'. He and Kinn have been friends for ages, their families know each other, he basically grew up surrounded by mafia. He probably witnessed Tankhun's kidnapping back in the day. The horror and trauma of it. Tay's family is rich. He's close to the Theerapanyakuls. To the future head of the family. But he DOESN'T have an army of bodyguards following him around. And the downside of 'being harmless' is looking like an easy victim. Tay is too smart to be unprepared. So in my headcanon he knows how to handle a crisis, knows how to deal with danger, knows how to survive. Knows how to get out of the country quickly, how to get money without leaving a trail, how to get an unregistered gun. How to land a mean punch even though he hates it, how to apply (good) first aid EVEN THOUGH HE HATES IT. (I do think that he really isn't a fan of physical stuff, so the princess image is not completely off. Or, well, he lets it work in his favour.)

Tay's reaction to being hurt, being really hurt, is to shut his emotions down completely.

I don't enjoy how Tay's often written as dramatic and over-emotional in his confrontations with Time after what happened at Hum Bar. He isn't sober when he catches his boyfriend shoving his tongue down another man's throat, and well, his boyfriend is shoving his tongue down another man's throat. So of course he's fucking angry. And emotional. Right then and there. But the thing is, Tay had time to think, time to cool off in those other confrontations. And that's just the way to describe Tay's demeanor then: cool, cold, like ice. I like to think that he just freezes over. Turns into a statue of neutral disinterest. Just imagine: someone like Tay, always so kind and compassionate, staring you down with an expressionless face, not reacting to anything you say, looking close to fucking bored. Imagine what that would do to Time, always so full of himself, always so used to getting reactions out of Tay. Walking straight into a wall of ice. Completely out of his element. Really forced to put the work in for once. And it truly is hard work to break through to Tay once he closes his feelings off from you. A little bit of grovelling might be necessary. (That said, dealing with his emotions like that isn't good for Tay either. Of course not.)

There's...'something' between Tay and Vegas, some kind of understanding

I never got over TAY asking after Vegas in the final episode. Or the way Tay watches Vegas as he passes him during the auction. So I'm having a lot of fun wondering about the 'relationship' between Tay and Vegas, or how potential interactions could have gone down.

I mean, Tay 'belongs' to Kinn. We know that Vegas wants everything that belongs to Kinn (I bet he thinks Kinn must have fucked a pretty boy like that at least once. Even though it's not his usual type. Why else would he stick around?). Tay's caring and understanding. We know how Vegas can react...to something like that. (Not him falling in love after one free therapy session or something like that.) Tay is really good at reading people, he is really good at reading Kinn. And we know Vegas is not so different from Kinn (in some ways), even though he would murder anyone suggesting something like that to his face. Or maybe that's exactly what Tay does. Telling that to his face. As Vegas tries to seduce him, in the earlier days. But Tay doesn't try to wound him with that, to be cruel or mean, it's just an observation, spoken in that calm and understanding tone of his. And a younger Vegas is so shocked by that statement that he just...stops? And stares at Tay who just keeps going with that warm look in his eyes and those observations that hit a little too close to home until he can't take it anymore and turns on his heel to...definitely NOT run away like a dog with his tail between his legs.

Vegas keeps his distance after that. That princess isn't worth the effort, he tells himself. Or maybe he doesn't. Maybe he stops trying to seduce Tay, yes. But they end up talking again. And again. Because Vegas desperately needs to know what Tay meant with those things he said. And there's just... something about their conversations that keeps Vegas coming back. Until (stealing some thoughts from @tumsa here <3) Tay tries to convince Vegas that the competition between him and Kinn is dumb. Vegas does keep his distance, then.

And Tay gives up trying to help, trying to make him see how futile all of this is because it's clear Vegas won't listen to anyone but his father. But he still cares about Vegas, and seeing all the things Vegas does to himself without realising, seeing that ever-growing self-destructive obsession with Kinn sits like a leaden ball in Tay's stomach. The knowledge that he can't do anything to help is a bit like its own form of torture.

Anyways, (stealing again from @tumsa) Tay definitely ends up going to the hospital to visit Vegas. In secret, of course. And seeing Vegas and Pete together, seeing Vegas being changed by love, seeing him try to be a better person for Pete, putting all this effort in to make it work - maybe all of this forces Tay to reflect on his own love life for once. To reflect on the things he wants. The things he deserves, after all.

Nearly everyone had a crush on Tay, one time or another

You guys know the thing we do with Vegas? Like how VegasPete is the holy grail of endgame ships but it's so much fucking fun to ship Vegas with everyone and to imagine all his possible encounters and escapades? Because he's manipulation, seduction and psychological issues stacked on top of each other and wrapped in a velvet shirt?

Well. I like to do the same thing with Tay. For more or less opposite reasons. Because he's understanding and warm and compassionate and smart (and really pretty). In a world full of violence and trauma and repressed emotions, only sharp edges. I mean, who wouldn't crave the warmth, who wouldn't want to bathe in the sunlight for a while? I'm pretty sure people are falling en masse for Tay. And I think Tay doesn't always know how to handle it. Or genuinely doesn't realise what kind of effect he has on those poor bastards for doing nothing more than showing them a bit of kindness. Or maybe he's simply choosing to ignore it because he only has eyes for one person and one person alone.

Anyways, a lot of fun directions to go with this last headcanon for now. (And I'm keeping it intentionally vague and without examples because otherwise, this would turn into a multichapter fanfic I don't have time to write just now. 🤡)

[ash-is-wriiting]

the MBTI types as types of writers 🖋️☕️

INTJ - The Master Planner

Crafts complex plots, intricate settings, and detailed character arcs. Their stories often feel like perfectly constructed puzzles.

INTP - The Abstract Author

Loves playing with unconventional formats and exploring “what if?” questions. They’re the ones trying out non-linear timelines or writing entire stories in footnotes.

ENTJ - The Ambitious Novelist

Treats writing like a mission. They have big ideas, bold characters, and a drive to make their work leave lasting impressions on their readers.

ENTP - The Chaotic Storyteller

Bursts with creative ideas and loves brainstorming wild plots. Known for witty dialogue, vibrant characters, and constantly starting (but maybe not finishing) new projects.

INFJ - The Visionary Writer

Writes deeply meaningful, introspective stories. Their work often carries moral or philosophical undertones and focuses on exploring the human condition.

INFP - The Poetic Dreamer

Brings raw emotion to the page with vivid, heartfelt prose. They write to connect, heal, and inspire, often creating relatable and empathetic characters and stories.

ENFJ - The Heartfelt Narrator

Creates stories with strong themes of connection, hope, and transformation. They excel at bringing characters to life and weaving emotional depth into their narratives.

ENFP - The Daydreamer

Writes with passion, humor, and spontaneity. Their stories are vibrant and imaginative, full of unique twists, quirky characters, and boundless creativity.

ISTJ - The Researcher

Meticulous and thorough, they write with a focus on accuracy and detail. Their stories often feel like stepping into another time or place.

ISFJ - The Nostalgic Author

Creates comforting, heartfelt tales with an emphasis on relationships and quiet moments. Their stories often explore themes of family, memory, and belonging.

ESTJ - The Organized Creator

Approaches writing like a project manager, with detailed outlines and a clear vision. Their stories are engaging and efficient, with strong pacing and focus.

ESFJ - The Heartfelt Narrator

Writes warm, engaging stories with vibrant, relatable characters. Their work often explores themes of friendship, community, and shared experiences.

ISTP - The Problem Solver

Excels at writing fast-paced, gripping scenes with clever twists. They’re masters of plot-driven stories, especially ones involving puzzles or challenges.

ISFP - The Artistic Storyteller

Crafts beautiful, sensory-rich prose. Their stories feel like works of art, full of emotion, aesthetic detail, and personal expression.

ESTP - The Adventurous Writer

Writes energetic, high-stakes adventures. Their stories are action-packed, with bold characters and vivid settings that pull readers into the moment.

ESTP - The Theatrical Creator

Brings fun and charisma to their stories. Their work is entertaining, character-driven, and full of drama, humor, and charm.

[lgcasami]

MBTI — infj-a, the assertive advocate. creative, principled, passionate. perfectionist, sensitive to criticism, prone to burnout.

In retrospect, maybe Asami should have foreseen the results of her MBTI test. She was always involved in group projects, helped classmates who had a hard time with specific subjects, enjoyed being part of team sports (hence why one of her favourite festivals at school was always the sports day), and of course, stand on a stage with other people was one of the reasons why she enjoyed ballet as much as she did. Asami was involved with class council matters and had always tried her best to help. Her whole life happened within the school area, so wanting that experience to be good was a no-brainer. 

Asami is very creative. She's bright and is like a splash of colour in a dull environment. It's easy for her to think outside the box, and besides embracing her creativity, Asami was supported a lot by her family to do as much. She's passionate and principled, meaning she'll chase her ideals and defend topics that are closer to her heart in most circumstances. She dreams big, and as long as she has the drive to do it, she'll achieve them. 

Asami, unfortunately, is one of those people who will work arduously to make things perfect at all times only because she hates when she's criticized. Feedback is important, of course, but that doesn't change the fact that it is scary to receive it. 

ENNEAGRAM — type 2, the giver. vocal volunteer, excellent team player, nurturing. needing approval from others, perceived as overbearing at times, being easily offended by criticism.

As a giver, Asami consistently displays a caring and nurturing nature throughout her actions and interactions with others. She goes out of her way to provide emotional support and assistance to her friends and loved ones. Asami also craves validation and acknowledgement for her acts of kindness and support. She finds fulfilment in being appreciated and recognized for her efforts. This desire for external validation is often a driving force behind her actions and choices. There's a lot of insecurity surrounding her motivations, too. Asami has a deep-seated fear of being unwanted or unloved. She seeks to establish and maintain strong connections with others, and she often fears rejection or abandonment and finds it difficult to set boundaries. 

DAEMON — silk moth.

The silk moths, like a daemon, are seen as problem-solvers and an asset to their teams. That relates easily to Asami's skill to approach a problem from a different angle, being observant and resourceful.

[mbtiofwhys]

MBTI and quarantine

How INFJ mod and ENFP mod are dealing with self distancing

Disclaimer: quarantine for us began roughly around the end of February, and we’re writing this at the end of April, so it’s been two whole months by now.

How have we been doing up until now?

INFJ mod: the first month went well, and with “well” I mean “bad”. As an introvert, social distancing shouldn’t affect me too much, right? Well, this is true and I suppose it’s a benefit I’ve experimented in the last weeks. It somehow helps me easing emotional pain and stress and this is undoubtedly an introvert perk. At the same time I’m a J. I need a certain amount of structure and order to plan ahead and organize my nearest future. I had a couple of exams during the first month of quarantine and it was stressful to deal with them in an emergency situation with lots of unforseen problems. So, how have I been doing up until now? I must admit that an unexpected emergency like this affected my emotional well-being, but i’m trying to stay positive and learn to adapt and take advantage of quarantine!

ENFP mod: the first weeks had been absolute hell, let me tell you. I lost my routine, I lost my friends, I couldn’t even go out for a walk and every plan I’d made crumbled. Staying home felt like prison, and not having a set routine anymore affected my mental order and productivity because I was no longer able to correctly prioritize things. However, I think being N and being P helped me getting used to quarantine while at the same time being able to at least pursue my main interests and hobbies (I play games, I write, I read, and so on). I’m doing far better now, between discord calls with friends and group projects for uni, I keep in touch with people, while the increased free time allows my sparkling Ne-Fi to focus more on personal projects, like this blog.

Working/studying at home 

INFJ mod: As I stated before, I’m a student. My university reacted well to the emergency and found countermeasures to compromise between a lack of lectures and the regular exams. Now I’m attending online lessons and the situation is far less stressful than it was until a month ago. I don’t have to underestimate this lack of pressure, because in a context where every day feels the same it’s easy to slack off and to lose track of time. From a more concrete standpoint I must admit how comfortable and suitable online lessons are, since i don’t have to spend hours commuting and I can save time.

ENFP mod: I study in the advertising field, so my lessons are more like labs and peer reviews than proper lectures - also, there’s a lot of group work. Quarantine affected all this very badly to put things lightly, and although I appreciate the effort my university put in providing online classes and reviews, things aren’t absolutely the same as before, and this is lowering my motivation overall. I also used to work part time in events and malls during weekends, so obviously I lost that one, too - what a life.

Alone time vs imposed isolation 

INFJ mod: Quarantine should be like heaven for an introvert, right? Here is the fact: I can stay at home for a week or even more without social interaction, but it will always be my choice to recharge my social batteries or to enjoy alone time. This is an entirely different situation. Imposed isolation feels exactly like what it is: a necessary imposition that I didn’t choose. So, even if I need alone time as an introvert, I really miss my friends and the simple things we can do like laughing together, talking about our lives and passions, seeing them smile or telling a joke, sharing emotions. Because as an INFJ my auxiliary Fe just NEEDS to share emotions, thoughts, experiences, fears and dreams with trusted friends. As a Fe user, I’m still managing to find healthy ways to express my feelings, and although quarantine is an unusual situation and there are more constraints, I can still stay in touch with my friend and try to use Fe in a positive way.

ENFP mod: People call us ENFPs ‘the most introverted of the extroverts’ and I can see why but truth is, the E is there and you can’t change that. Not attending classes is hard, and I miss even the smallest things of being outside - like listening to music while commuting or walking in the street and generally… feel the outer world? And even if I, too, need alone time sometimes, it’s different when it’s forced. But I got used to it in the end, so it’s not that bad anymore. Lots of reading, writing and playing games - thank God P5R came out at the end of March. I’m managing by sharing opinions and experiences with my friends - we can’t discuss how Makoto Niijima is the absolute best waifu of the P5 female cast in person, but we can do that via chat with fanworks.

Social distancing: real interaction vs digital interaction

INFJ mod: there is a huge difference between real and digital interaction. If we talk about how internet allows us to communicate and work or study at home, digital interactions surely are helpful and I’m really thankful to live in an era where I can stay in contact with my friends and even see them. At the same time, as a Fe user I find real interaction irreplaceable and from a more irrational and emotional standpoint I can’t compare the two. That being said, I really value digital interaction as substitute of real ones. It’ll always be welcomed, be it to study or to stay in touch with friends. I also must admit how digital interactions are an interesting compromise between alone and social time, a win-win for an introverted Fe user like me.

ENFP mod: I tend to be very touchy when it comes to the people I love so yeah, digital interaction isn’t the same thing. At the same time, none of my closest friends live in my city, and we often need to organize things a month prior to fit everyone schedule, so I’m at least used to not seeing them everyday. I also truly miss my classmates, with whom I used to go out after lessons and have fun. This isn’t obviously possible with Skype calls - and don’t get me started on how project works are harder to deliver like this.

Routine

INFJ mod: Maybe you’ll find it odd to read this from a J, but routines can really stress me out and I need small variation to my daily activities to relieve the fatigue. During this self imposed isolation I’m finding harder than usual to escape from routines.Yes, as a J I need structure and order to an extent. Yes, as a J I need time to adapt to new unexpected situations. What you may not know is that I also need ways to break free from strict and repetitive tasks. In my case, routines need to be a compromise between being mentally reassured by the presence of a certain amount of order and predictability and my aversion for repetitive tasks. Order and structure are subordinated to my desire for freedom. Freedom to create in an environment where I have time and space to envision what I want and how to do it, with my pace.

ENFP mod: I really struggled and I’m still struggling with routine. I don’t like routine per se, but it’s an external factor that gives structure to my life and helps me make the most of my free time while not losing track of my duties. Uni classes played the bigger role in this, and now that they’re online, the temptation of slacking off is really difficult to ignore. I keep my calendar updated and I make sure to be present and focused when needed, but I discovered I’m not well fit for smart working. To me, home is the place where I relax, rest and maybe study, but it certainly isn’t the place where I work. This conflict is what is giving me a hard time focusing on school projects, because if I’m home, the default mode is having fun. Also, I don’t have a sleep schedule anymore. I try my best every night, every night I get rejected.

Dealing with the inferior function

INFJ mod: I’m still working on my inferior Se and quarantine isn’t helping. As the inferior function, it usually takes me a while to even realize how much I’m falling into a Se grip or simply how much I’m not aware of Se. Self isolation amplifies those aspects and makes even harder to become conscious of unhealthy Se manifestations. Quarantine hasn’t stopped me to find a positive outlook in this situation and to learn from mistakes. At first I began to take a more concrete approach in daily life with simple actions. I live in a small town and I have green areas near my house, so I’m lucky enough to be able to spend some time in the nature and to experience it through the five senses. I’m also trying to become more aware of Se by being more present. This week I’m taking action and breaking vicious cycles of overthinking and self-doubt. Self isolation doesn’t allow me to experience life fully, so I’m taking advantage of the situation and I’m focusing those energies in concrete and meaningful actions, like writing on this blog or working on personal project involving creative writing. 

ENFP mod: inferior Si isn’t giving me a particularly hard time, surprisingly. I’ve experienced Si grip and I know what that means to me, but luckily that isn’t an issue now. I sometimes do things that require a more focused and detail-oriented approach: styling wigs for cosplay, trying on new make-ups, baking or cooking, observing what happens out of the window to write it down. They’re not “Si activities” by definition, but they are all things that require concentration, calm, methodical approach and that cannot be rushed - on contrary, sometimes I need to start from scratches and observe my mistakes in order to improve. These are all small things that help my Si stay present and not freaking out overthinking the past, brooding in regrets or yelling at me because I’m not living a structured life at the moment.

The risk of loops and grips

INFJ mod: this is partly tied to what I wrote in the section above: this unexpected emergency and the resulting self isolation produced stress and negative emotions. As an INFJ, my first reaction is to jump in the future and visualize possible scenarios. In this difficult times, I need to take a step back from my negative “what ifs” and to stay positive by building a better future for myself and others day by day, through simple and concrete action. Otherwise I only risk to slip into Se grips or Ni-Ti loops. As I stated before I’m already working on Se: it’s not easy, but I’m at least trying. Another piece of the puzzle is my auxiliary Fe:proper auxiliary function development is essential to avoid loops. As an INFJ, self isolation prevents me from reaching out to my friends as much as I desire, at the same time we can stay in touch through digital interactions and they are surely helping me relieving stress and preventing loops. 

ENFP mod: while the Si part is ok, I still seem to have problems with NeTe loop. I had some rough ten days in mid-March because I was so focused on the million projects I had to finish and how that was stressing me out that I practically lived for nothing else. I managed to stop that before it got worse by speaking with my colleagues and asking to slow down the pace, so that I could have some free time to spend without feeling guilty or unproductive. But I still need to be cautious about the loop.

Trying to use all the four functions (and other healthy coping mechanisms)

INFJ mod: ok, it’s time to sum up what I wrote in the last three sections. From an mbti perspective, I’m trying to find a balance between self reflection (Ni) and concrete actions (Se). Staying in the present, taking full responsibility for my actions,  approaching life through simple and steady actions are all steps I follow every day to shift my locus of control to a more internal position. There are obviously setbacks and some days are far worse than others, but I’m trying to stay positive and find hope. Fe helps me to reach other people which is invaluable but sadly, as an introvert, doesn’t come naturally to me. It’s an healthy way to alleviate or completely avoid loops and to keep my heart warm. Ti, when not involved in a loop, allows me to give structure to what I find meaningful and to organize my thoughts. Ti is basically the backbone of what I envision through Ni. 

ENFP mod: although the first times were rough, I feel I managed to find a balance along the way - with some setback from time to time. My Ne is constantly active in brainstormings for uni and discussing fictional works with friends. I must check on what my Fi needs because I tend to endure stress way more than I should do, so every now and then I must ask myself if I’m fine, if I need to stop or if I truly, absolutely like what I’m working on and, if the answer is no, if it’s possible to discuss it with my project group. Te is very active (even too much, sometimes) and it’s the core of me managing school, blog and personal projects, often writing things down on a schedule in order to keep my mind clear and ordered. I may help my Si more by really trying to re-establish a routine, but honestly the P approach helped me very much in this months of uncertainty, so I think I’ll keep going on like this as long as I’m fine.

Thank you for reading this far! - the mods

[koszmar-zycie]

All of the fun, random questions! Do it!

Oh lawdy! To quote Ace Ventura: “Aaaaaalrighty, then!” - Apologies for the janky post, since I can’t space them without the site making the numbers all screwy.

Do you have any “yeah I’m good at it but I hate it” kind of skills? - hmmmm. To be honest, leading. If you buy into horoscopes, I’m a Dragon. And maybe it’s natural, maybe it’s theatre experience. But when I apply myself as a leader, I do AMAZING. The issue is that I generally like to be a support. Sometimes I like leading, but usually I’m not into the idea of being this focus or figurehead guiding the way as the leader. Whether projects or even fun, I tend to fall into a like... intermediate leadership role at best. 

If you could make one type of food cease to exist, what would you banish? - To be honest, I can’t do that. Even foods I’m not fond of are foods, and I would be remised if I were to remove any.  

You’re allowed to know everything about one highly specific thing/topic. What would you choose? - Deep sea thermal based biology. The deep sea is my 100% very favorite place on Earth. If I die and there’s an afterlife, I want endless ocean of all kinds. If I’m reincarnated, I want to be a Dragonfish or something. At any rate, I would do anything to have such a wealth of knowledge. Especially about something as fascinating to me as the ins and out of how the deep sea creatures that survive and thrive around the *extreme* heat and pressure of the vents. 

What’s a fictional character who you want to be like? In what way do you want to be like them? - I would love to be like Nathan Ford from Leverage. I want to be able to live my life as freely and wildly as he (though maybe not as illegally lol), and also pursue what I feel is right for me. Live through and persevere through hardship as well as he, even if he struggled.

If you had to live in and not leave a city for the rest of your life, what city would you choose? - That would be a VERY hard call between Avalon on Catalina Island USA, or Sedona, Arizona. While Sedona overall has more of what I love, Avalon has the sea. And I’d probably die without my ocean. 

Do you tend to say what you’re thinking? What would people think of you if you did the opposite?  - Usually, yes. But in a careful way. It WILL happen periodically, because I’m also an emotional hunk of waste. But in general I do a decent enough job of being honest without being harsh about it. When I’m provoked or something really gets to me, then I can just vent without thinking.

Is there anything that you’ve done/experienced so much you hate it now? Easiest to come up with are like, food or music. - Hmmm. Not really. Halloween got SEVERELY killed for me, though. I still like it, but Haunt people are by and large the most obnoxious and hypocritical. Since I adore haunt, I HAVE to deal with them. Hatred for Christmas and other holidays while spouting about Halloween has drained my interest in Halloween. So yes an no, because that’s really OTHER people killing it for me. But I’m also sort of involved because of my love of the haunt business.

Were you afraid of anything “silly”/irrational as a child that you’ve since outgrown? - Deep water. As a kid I HATED the deep end of pools. Now I’m obsessed with deep water and the dark, unknown, crushing depths. Funny how things work out! I used to hate going near the slope in a pool if it was even a little dark (lighted pools were fine). Now, the only thing stopping me from just continuing to swim down if I go diving is my tank limits.

If you were to impart one moral lesson (think Aesop’s fables, Golden Rule, etc) on the world, what would it be? - Treat others as you wish to be treated. It’s SO easy to say, and yet nobody does it. 

If you were a DND character or a game character (or something like that) what would your highest stat be? What would you want your highest stat to be? What about the lowest, to both of those? - HA. I think about this way too much. I’d be a sea elf druid. STR 10 INT 12 CHA 16 DEX 12 END 18 WIS 18 - If I were to apply myself logically as an analog of myself, I’d have good durability and understanding and social capability (again, in specific regards), but my outward strength and dex would be kinda average. I like to think that I’m decently intelligent, as I LOVE books, learning, and figuring things out. But I’m also far from genius. Hence my focus on Wisdom. I’m also surprisingly dexterous, but in certain circumstances more than others, so that’s also pretty average. I don’t think I’ve really have any “bad” stats, but I’d definitely mix average with a couple high ones.

Is there anything you judge others for when you probably shouldn’t? - Probably. I have a huge mistake of expecting others to be courteous and offer a common decency/open perspective on things.

Who are “your kind” of people? - Goths and hippies, my friend. If you want to know my style? Goth Druid. lol 

If you had to come up with your last words right now… what would they be? - “Don’t regret not accomplishing what you set out to accomplish. Regret having not tried. I do not regret trying, even if I did not succeed.”

Do you have any “weirdly strong” opinions about things that don’t really matter? - This is VERY obscure (I have others, but it’s late and this came to mind first) But if you play Fate Grand Order.... SET YOUR GOD DAMNED SUPPORTS.

Your goal is to completely confuse the people around you in as short a time as possible– what do you say/do? - Honestly, just start quoting Lorne from Season 5 of Angel. Or act like a Malkavian. One of my VTM characters was a Malkavian who got in a fight with a parachute he had. Her name was Kitten.

What’s the most comfy place you’ve been in? - I don’t know, actually. Maybe the Luxe Hotel in LA during Anime Expo?

Did you have any “silly” beliefs as a kid? Where did they come from (parents, friends, out of nowhere, etc)? - Not that I know of. At least in terms of anything that’d have changed or something. I’m sure there’s Something, but I honestly can’t dig anything up in my memories.

If you were to add or remove one physical feature to yourself… what would it be? Can be from animals, can be from imagination… whatever. - Hahaha, I ALWAYS think about this one. Right now, I’d want maybe the electro-vision of sharks. 

What could you happily give a two hour lecture on? - Ocean conservation, and what’s correct and what isn’t.

What would a mirror opposite version of yourself be like? It doesn’t necessarily have to be an evil version– any feature can be reflected! - Someone who’s mostly optimistic. More bright colors than dark, short hair. Focused on socializing and extroverted. More than happy in one place forever, without an interest in travel. 

What’s an occasion you’ve done a double take? - Anime Expo a number of times. Seeing weird or unexpected, or legendary cosplays. 

If you could only see one color (and its varying shades– dark/light) for the rest of your life… what would you choose? - Blue. Guess that was probably obvious. But it’s a cool color and associated with calming. Between dark midnight and navy blues to vibrant aquamarines pressing towards green (without actually going into it), I feel like there’s a happy spectrum of all kinds that would be enough to get through without going too crazy.

Do your friends all share certain qualities? Major or minor! - Despite my.... unique personality, and preference towards quiet etc (INFJ), I have a lot of radically different kinds of friends. I honestly don’t think I could put any one thing down. Other than that I choose my friends carefully on who I think I can trust and is a good persona at heart. To a sufficient degree anyway. That’s also a huge part of my downsides, too. By being sensitive (and having certain conditions), when a friend does something that hurts me, it REALLY hurts.

How do you motivate yourself to do things? - Oh man, that’s funny. It is entirely circumstantial. As an artist/writer/creative (I use artist in the broad sense, but I figured I’d add that to help specify) I can VERY easily just have motivation on a moments notice. So it’s often pretty random. But if not, I jut need to think of why. I Looooooove gardening. Weeds need pulling? I think about what’ll happen if the roses or tomatos or lemon tree don’t get their water because of weeds sucking it up. Need to write? I’ll never leave my creation for *any*one if I don’t at least crack down on notes, and make slow and steady progress if nothing else. It’s usually just a small thing I think of to act as a spark, but it’s usually very effective.

What’s one of your favorite jokes? Tell it to us!  - Okay, so this isn’t a joke, but it’s seriously STILL making me laugh just thinking about it. I was going to reference an old comedian in a previous post (I didn’t end up doing it, but still). Anyway, I was really confused as to why I couldn’t find him in google. It turns out, instead of looking up “Groucho Marx”, I was googling “Marco Grouch”. LOL That’s probably not quite as funny to y’all, but for some reason it’s killing me. XD

Hooooooeeee! Well, that was long, but actually really fun! Thank you @scatteredstoryteller! That was like... an essay. lol But definitely fun. I love asks. XD

[hamliet]

MDZS meets MBTI

The Myers-Briggs Personality type is older than the Enneagram, and consists of sixteen types based on four different pairs of personality traits: Introversion vs. Extroversion; Sensing vs. Intuition, Feeling vs. Thinking, and Perceiving vs. Judging. To be clear, none of these categories are black and white–for example, all Feelers are capable of using logic, and Thinkers have feelings and care about people–but it’s a cool way of understanding personalities.

I’m not going to do every character, but simply the characters I think are most important and the ones for whom I have the most information to analyze (some is def guesswork). :P Also, this is just my opinion and definitely open to debate! MBTI isn’t a science; it’s just something I do for fun. 

Wei WuXian-->ENFP “The Campaigner” 

Unlike many of the others, Wei WuXian’s type seems very, very obvious. He might be the most ENFP to ever ENFP. 

The ENFP personality is a true free spirit. They are often the life of the party, but unlike Explorers, they are less interested in the sheer excitement and pleasure of the moment than they are in enjoying the social and emotional connections they make with others. Charming, independent, energetic and compassionate... if they’ve found a cause that sparks their imagination, ENFPs will bring an energy that oftentimes thrusts them into the spotlight, held up by their peers as a leader and a guru – but this isn’t always where independence-loving ENFPs want to be. 

Lan WangJi-->ISTJ “The Logistician”

Why yes, Lan WangJi is the exact opposite of his beloved Wei WuXian. He’s another one that seems pretty obvious to me. 

ISTJ personalities are no-nonsense... ISTJs have little tolerance for indecisiveness, but lose patience even more quickly if their chosen course is challenged with impractical theories, especially if they ignore key details...

ISTJ personalities adhere to established rules and guidelines regardless of cost, reporting their own mistakes and telling the truth even when the consequences for doing so could be disastrous. To ISTJs, honesty is far more important than emotional considerations, and their blunt approach leaves others with the false impression that ISTJs are cold, or even robotic. People with this type may struggle to express emotion or affection outwardly, but the suggestion that they don’t feel, or worse have no personality at all, is deeply hurtful.

Jiang Cheng-->ISTJ “The Logistician” 

Yes, the same type as Lan WangJi, just a tad more bitter. Personality tests, even if two people seem to fit a type extremely well, can’t define someone, because people are just so infinitely more complex. The part about being taken advantage of reminds me here of how Jin GuangYao points out that people took advantage of Jiang Cheng’s need to prove himself to drive a wedge between him and Wei WuXian. 

ISTJs’ dedication is an excellent quality, allowing them to accomplish much, but it is also a core weakness that less scrupulous individuals take advantage of. ISTJs seek stability and security, considering it their duty to maintain a smooth operation, and they may find that their coworkers and significant others shift their responsibilities onto them, knowing that they will always take up the slack. ISTJs tend to keep their opinions to themselves and let the facts do the talking, but it can be a long time before observable evidence tells the whole story.

Lan XiChen-->ENFJ “The Protagonist” 

Sadly, this description is pretty accurate to Lan XiChen’s strengths and also his flaws--in particular in terms of his relationship with Jin GuangYao. 

ENFJs radiate authenticity, concern and altruism, unafraid to stand up and speak when they feel something needs to be said. They find it natural and easy to communicate with others, especially in person, and their Intuitive (N) trait helps people with the ENFJ personality type to reach every mind, be it through facts and logic or raw emotion. ENFJs easily see people’s motivations and seemingly disconnected events, and are able to bring these ideas together and communicate them as a common goal with an eloquence that is nothing short of mesmerizing.

The interest ENFJs have in others is genuine, almost to a fault – when they believe in someone, they can become too involved in the other person’s problems, place too much trust in them.

Jin GuangYao-->ESFJ (?) “The Consul”

This one I’m less certain of--FJ seems certain to me, but I/E and N/S is a bit debatable. I think he best meets the description of “the Consul” though. 

ESFJs are more concerned with fashion and their appearance, their social status and the standings of other people... ESFJs love to be of service, enjoying any role that allows them to participate in a meaningful way, so long as they know that they are valued and appreciated. Coming to terms with their sensitivity is ESFJs’ biggest challenge – people are going to disagree and they’re going to criticize, and while it hurts, it’s just a part of life. 

Nie MingJue-->ESTJ “The Executive” 

Less certain of E or I than for the other three, but the way he failed to overcome the challenge of how not everyone processes the same way seems very ESTJ to me. 

ESTJs are representatives of tradition and order, utilizing their understanding of what is right, wrong and socially acceptable to bring families and communities together. Embracing the values of honesty, dedication and dignity, people with the ESTJ personality type are valued for their clear advice and guidance, and they happily lead the way on difficult paths. 

ESTJs are aware of their surroundings and live in a world of clear, verifiable facts – the surety of their knowledge means that even against heavy resistance, they stick to their principles and push an unclouded vision of what is and is not acceptable... they expect their reliability and work ethic to be reciprocated – people with this personality type meet their promises, and if partners or subordinates jeopardize them through incompetence or laziness, or worse still, dishonesty, they do not hesitate to show their wrath... 

The main challenge for ESTJs is to recognize that not everyone follows the same path or contributes in the same way.

Nie HuaiSang-->ISFP “The Adventurer” 

Interesting name for a timid HuaiSang, but I really do think he is an ISFP. He is notably one of the few Nie Sect leaders who doesn’t seem at risk of dying from a qi deviation, and hence his less brutish way of ruling might actually, in the long run, be good for his sect. (NMJ would be proud... maybe.) 

ISFP personality types are true artists, but not necessarily in the typical sense where they’re out painting happy little trees. Often enough though, they are perfectly capable of this. Rather, it’s that they use aesthetics, design and even their choices and actions to push the limits of social convention...

If these goals and principles are noble, ISFPs can act with amazing charity and selflessness – but it can also happen that people with the ISFP personality type establish a more self-centered identity, acting with selfishness, manipulation and egoism. 

Wen Qing-->ENTJ “The Commander” 

Another one I feel fairly confident in. Wen Qing is a boss queen who gives birth to one of the series’ most iconic lines: “thank you, and I’m sorry.” She’s able to win the respect of Wen RouHan and even some people who hate the Wens, and thinks outside the box, theorizing on core transfer but hesitant to actually try it when she isn’t fully confident. 

ENTJs are natural-born leaders. People with this personality type embody the gifts of charisma and confidence, and project authority in a way that draws crowds together behind a common goal. But unlike their Feeling (F) counterpart, ENTJs are characterized by an often ruthless level of rationality, using their drive, determination and sharp minds to achieve whatever end they’ve set for themselves.

Wen Ning-->INFP “The Mediator”

I was torn between S and N, but I went with INFP because he is more focused on thinking about possibilities--in fact his arc is about learning to be confident in his own possibilities and to explore them.

INFP personalities are true idealists, always looking for the hint of good in even the worst of people and events, searching for ways to make things better. While they may be perceived as calm, reserved, or even shy, INFPs have an inner flame and passion that can truly shine. 

Jin ZiXuan--> ESTP, “The Entrepreneur” 

Does he have enough of a personality for me to really analyze him? Maybe not but I like him a lot. He is motivated by what seems like pride at the beginning, but we later realize he cares deeply about the people around him and genuinely cared for Wei WuXian because his wife did. 

Inspiring, convincing and colorful, they are natural group leaders, pulling everyone along the path less traveled, bringing life and excitement everywhere they go. Putting these qualities to a constructive and rewarding end is Entrepreneurs’ true challenge.

Jiang YanLi-->INFP “The Mediator” 

Shijie was indeed the mediator between her two brothers, and it’s her legacy of love and kindness, of wanting Wei WuXian to live even at the expense of her own life no matter what he’d done, that makes a huge difference.  

Luckily, like the flowers in spring, INFP’s affection, creativity, altruism and idealism will always come back, rewarding them and those they love perhaps not with logic and utility, but with a world view that inspires compassion, kindness and beauty wherever they go.

Jin Ling-->ESTP, “The Entrepreneur” 

Jin Ling is the hardest one to pin down and I’m mad because he’s one of my favorites. He is highly emotional, but I think he’s an ESTP like his dad.

Entrepreneurs keep their conversation energetic, with a good dose of intelligence, but they like to talk about what is – or better yet, to just go out and do it. Entrepreneurs leap before they look, fixing their mistakes as they go, rather than sitting idle, preparing contingencies and escape clauses.

Lan SiZhui-->INFJ “The Advocate” 

My type. 

INFJs indeed share a unique combination of traits: though soft-spoken, they have very strong opinions and will fight tirelessly for an idea they believe in. They are decisive and strong-willed, but will rarely use that energy for personal gain – INFJs will act with creativity, imagination, conviction and sensitivity not to create advantage, but to create balance. 

Lan JingYi-->ESFP “The Entertainer” 

He’s pretty easy to figure out. I constantly wonder how he fares in the Gusu Lan Sect. 

...they love putting on a show for their friends too, chatting with a unique and earthy wit, soaking up attention and making every outing feel a bit like a party. Utterly social, ESFPs enjoy the simplest things, and there’s no greater joy for them than just having fun with a good group of friends.

Xue Yang-->ESTP “The Entrepreneur” 

ESTPs are the likeliest personality type to make a lifestyle of risky behavior. They live in the moment and dive into the action – they are the eye of the storm. People with the ESTP personality type enjoy drama, passion, and pleasure, not for emotional thrills, but because it’s so stimulating to their logical minds. They are forced to make critical decisions based on factual, immediate reality in a process of rapid-fire rational stimulus response.

A-Qing-->ESTP “The Entrepreneur” 

Yes, I think A-Qing is the same type as Xue Yang, which doesn’t surprise me because they are actually extremely blatant foils in the story. It’s funny the description notes how observant ESTPs tend to be, because that’s something A-Qing absolutely is, noticing Xue Yang’s minuscule changes in expression and keeping her from trusting him, and Xue Yang is also incredibly observant of her words to realize she might just not be blind after all. 

With perhaps the most perceptive, unfiltered view of any type, ESTPs have a unique skill in noticing small changes. Whether a shift in facial expression, a new clothing style, or a broken habit, people with this personality type pick up on hidden thoughts and motives where most types would be lucky to pick up anything specific at all. ESTPs use these observations immediately, calling out the change and asking questions, often with little regard for sensitivity. ESTPs should remember that not everyone wants their secrets and decisions broadcast.

Xiao XingChen-->ISFJ “The Defender” 

The following description really reminds me of XXC especially after he hears the story about Xue Yang’s love of candy as a child, and every single day thereafter buys him and A-Qing a candy. 

ISFJs take their responsibilities personally, consistently going above and beyond, doing everything they can to exceed expectations and delight others, at work and at home... Naturally social, an odd quality for Introverts, ISFJs utilize excellent memories not to retain data and trivia, but to remember people, and details about their lives. When it comes to gift-giving, ISFJs have no equal, using their imagination and natural sensitivity to express their generosity in ways that touch the hearts of their recipients

Song Lan-->INTJ “The Architect” 

There’s not as much to go on for Song Lan, but what we do have seems to suggest INTJ to me, particularly in how someone who would spend years looking for a friend would refuse to consider that Xue Yang might have changed at all. 

INTJs are simultaneously the most starry-eyed idealists and the bitterest of cynics, a seemingly impossible conflict. 

Yu ZiYuan-->ESTJ “The Executive” 

Welp. The Purple Spider is definitely an Executive.

ESTJs are representatives of tradition and order, utilizing their understanding of what is right, wrong and socially acceptable to bring families and communities together. Embracing the values of honesty, dedication and dignity, people with the ESTJ personality type are valued for their clear advice and guidance, and they happily lead the way on difficult paths. 

[awilliamswrites]

11/11/11 Tag

Thank you @katherinescribbles for tagging me! My answers are really long, sorry!

1 Who is your favorite character in any work of fiction and why?

This is SUCH a hard one. Do you have any idea how many favorite characters I have?? I don’t! There are too many!  For some reason, however, the very first character that came to my mind was Tiffany Aching, followed closely by Carrot Ironfounderson. Both belong to the Discworld universe written by the great Terry Pratchett.  Tiffany Aching is smart, and brave, and powerful. She takes responsibility for her mistakes and she tries (and mostly succeeds) in doing the right thing even when it’s hard or boring or she doesn’t particularly like the people involved. I haven’t actually read the last book in her series, The Shephard’s Crown, so I don’t know how her journey ends. (At first it was too painful, I felt like if I read the last book Terry wrote it would be too final and I would have to accept that there weren’t going to be any more. For the past couple years I’ve been wanting to read it but just haven’t had the time or energy to make it to a library to find a copy.) Anyway, I look forward to one day reading it and finding out who she grows into and where she ends up. Carrot Ironfounderson is honest and upright and at first glance naïve. He’s also very clever. I’ve always loved that about his character because most people seem to take the cynical view that if you’re kind or honest or open that you must be stupid or doing yourself a disservice in some way, but Carrot’s kindness and honesty always works out for him and he’s shown to be very shrewd as well, showing that cleverness and goodness can exist in the same person.  One of the things he believes that I’ve always remembered is “personal isn’t the same as important” which struck me as very different than how most people think and also profound.

2 Do you remember the first piece of writing you ever wrote? What was it?

I think the first “real” writing I did was write in the journal I got when I was … eight? I think? The first fiction writing I remember starting was about this girl who was either actually a fairy or a half fairy contacted by her people to stop an evil horde of monsters who were going to pour out of a mountain that she could see from her back yard. Or at least that was the idea, I think I wrote maybe a page of that before abandoning it. I was probably around 10 or so. I got frustrated because I couldn’t think of a reason the fairies would ask the protagonist for help specifically rather than just deal with the problem themselves. I’m honestly surprised I still remember so much about it.

3 If you could be any kind of fairytale creature, what would you be and why?

Hmm, depends on if I were stuck in that form or if I could shapeshift at will. If I could shapeshift then I’d love to be able to turn into any size dragon I wanted. If I had to choose a form to stay in forever then I’d definitely go with being an elf (LOTR movie-style elf of course). 

4 What is your zodiac sign and MBTI? 

Pisces and INFJ

5 How would you describe your writing style?

I just took a “who do you write like” quiz and apparently I write like Stephen King!? I’ve never read a Stephen King novel! (I don’t like horror). 

If I had to describe it for myself I’d say that I like dialogue and describing what characters are thinking a lot, and focus on setting and action less than I want to/should.

Also, slowly, infrequently, and generally with little forethought (I’m more of a pantser than a planner, although I’m trying to change that.) 

6  Come up with a 5 word prompt! What is it? 

A fairy in the garden.

7 Where do you find most of your inspiration for your writing? 

I tend to be drawn to fantasy a lot, so a lot of my inspiration or ideas for stories come from standard fantasy tropes. I think subconsciously I pull a lot of inspiration from other stories. I do it consciously some too, but try not to do that a ton, even if “great writers steal.”  

I’ve always wanted to write a standard hero journey, "person leaves home town and becomes hero of kingdom” story, but I’ve haven’t worked on one in a long time because I know it’s been done a million times by much better writers. I get really frustrated and wish I could think of something new to bring to the table while still having the story recognizably fit that mold.

8 What was the last piece of fiction to make you feel an extreme emotional response over?

Avenger’s: Endgame. SPOILER ALERT. Next question bolded for ease of jumping your eyes to it. Skip to the next question if you haven’t watched it yet.

I bawled when Black Widow died. The weird thing was though that I wasn’t entirely certain why I was crying, or why I was crying so much, but something about her death made me cry so hard the first time I watched it that I missed everything from the shot of her on the ground to the shot of Clint hitting the water with his fist.

9 What’s your favorite trope?

Tough to choose one favorite, but I love it when characters get injured and are nursed back to health/cared for by their loved ones AND/OR their loved ones get really angry/protective and proceed to go destroy the thing that injured them. 

10 Opinion on love triangles?

I generally hate ‘em. They’re always the same. Girl has to choose between nice guy or bad boy. It just seems stupid to me that any intelligent girl would think “this guy seems shady, I think I’ll get involved in his business and show way more interest in him than I should just because he’s handsome!” Whenever I encounter this trope it undoes my suspension of disbelief, I’m too aware that the relationships are manufactured for the drama and the story, and I can’t view them as “people I’m reading about” instead of “characters the author is manipulating for the sake of a plot”

I've probably read some that are well done and liked them, although I can’t think of any examples at the moment. In general though, especially in YA books which are the majority of what I’ve read, love triangles are just boring and frustrating.

11 Something you wish you’d see more in the stories you read?  

Related to the above, more characters in YA books who act and think like real, intelligent people and not like stereotypes. Like, immaturity does not equal stupidity (stupid actions sometimes, sure, but still). It always frustrated me as a teen when I was reading about someone my own age (or older!) who were apparently dumber than me. (Like, not making bad decisions that included reasonable rational for the experience/information they had, but bad decisions that were made obviously because “the character needs to be stupid and to make this decision for the plot”) 

These were excellent questions. Here are mine! 

1 What is your favorite book or series and why?

2 What piece of writing are you most proud of and why? This could be anything, not just fiction writing; if you wrote a paper for school that thinking about still makes you feel good, I’d be curious to learn what it was!

3 Are you a planner or a pantser?

4 If you could live in the world any book series, which would it be? If your choice is different than your favorite from question 1, why is that?

5 Do you have a book that you love that most people you talk to tend not to have heard of? What is it?

6 Do you read/write fanfiction? What’s your favorite fandom to read/write in?

7 What time of day do you write best during? Morning? Midnight? Any time?

8 Have you ever done Nanowrimo? What was your project?

9 What is your opinion on poetry? Do you like it? Do you like modern poetry?

10 Choose your favorite question out of the 11 questions I answered and answer that one! (Indicate which one you’re answering too).

11 What was the last book you read?

asking @ofinkblotsandscript @writings-of-a-narwhal @nonchalantxfish @slothwrter @corisanna @ashesconstellation @azawrites @scribbles-to-feed-the-void @juls-writes @indievixen @sheabutterskyes (I’d love to hear your answers! When you answer please tag me so I can see!)

[funkymbtifiction]

What do you think are the main differences between ENFJs, INFJs and ENFPs? :)

NFJs are much better at reaching a single vision – for themselves, for their project, for how they want the world to perceive them, for their ideal look, etc – and in directing everything toward that, decisions-wise, without wavering; whereas NFPs are less certain of what they want and more inclined to ‘wing it’ and sometimes wind up with something totally different than they had planned.

My ENFJ friend has a specific look; she does not buy clothes that do not go with her specific look. She does not buy furniture that does not fit in with her ‘theme’ for her house. She tends to get a story in her head and it all unfolds on the page as she imagined it, without much rewriting or fretting over how it will turn out, because it just comes together in a single thread in her mind. She gets visions of her future self in a particular situation or dressed a specific way, and makes decisions aimed at taking her towards that.

Me? Not so much. My look is eclectic and evolves over time as I just buy whatever strikes my fancy at that time (and I change my hairstyle often, too). My house is a home without a specific theme other than “wow, she likes cats.” Nothing goes together. It’s all mitss-matched. I start out with a vague idea for a story, it wanders all over the place, and then I realize the last third isn’t working, so I throw out everything I wrote for that and take it in a totally different direction with no plan as to what will happen, and it all comes together after 5 rewrites, as I throw out bad ideas and insert good / better ones. I have no futuristic vision for myself, certainly not a specific one. More of a vague feeling of “eh, maybe.”

INFJs are less accommodating and more stubborn (lower Fe), more reliant on their intuitive perceptions, and … well, introverted. They get tired and go home. And don’t come out of their room an hour later refreshed and go, “So, wanna go get pizza tonight? How about seeing a movie afterward?”

The biggest difference seems to be the ENFJ’s commitment to knowing what they want and going for it like a speeding train; once Ni vision sets in, tert-Se kicks some serious ass in getting it done ASAP, whether that’s what they want their office to look like or what kind of car they see themselves driving, or what job they decide they want. ENFPs think yeah that might be awesome, and then try it for awhile and quit because it’s boring and less awesome than it looked; or talk about it for a week and then rapidly lose interest because meh, nah. INFJs are much slower to ‘involve themselves’ in things than either ENFJs or ENFPs… extroverts often leap before they consider all the ramifications, but Ni-doms have extremely poor / low Se which makes them less impulsive and more distrustful of immediate action (and can also make them stall indefinitely).

- ENFP Mod

[agechat514]

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What Sets You Off, According to Your Myers-Brigg

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What Sets You Off, According to Your Myers-Brigg

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e all have that one thing. A trigger point. A metaphorical nail-on-the-chalkboard. That special, horrible something that we, personally, just cannot stand. But we don’t always know why it bugs us so much. If you consider your Myers-Briggs type, however, it might all make sense. It can also offer a bit of perspective.

For example, as an INTJ, I loathe surprises. But in fleshing all this out, I realized what entirely ruffles my feathers would leave another type completely unbothered. (I’m talking to you, oh-so-adaptable ESTPs.) Learning this made me think about how to better express my frustrations to loved ones, and I think it just might help me get a little less mad when I realize not everyone “gets” why a surprise might bug me.

Below are my observations about what sets each type off — and other revelations about how we might take all these annoyances with a little more chill.

INTJ: Surprises

You love to plan your life and you like routine. Everything gets penciled into your calendar weeks or months in advance so you know how to navigate your to-do list while still fitting in friends, family and hobbies. With that in mind, you HATE surprises that throw your entire daily or weekly “working model” off-kilter. You’ll be ruffled to no end if your friend says she’s in the neighborhood and wants to drop by, but also if your partner plans a surprise getaway for the weekend. Just remember: A lot of P-types operate better with spontaneous decisions and open-ended plans, so it’s good to practice give and take — and sometimes grin and bear it.

ENTP: Poor decision-making

To others, you can seem like a wild child at times. You’ll try anything once, test boundaries, stay out late and venture into the unknown. But all your quirks and visible emotions hide a deeply logical inner core. You only take calculated risks. You need to achieve, and you will put parameters in place to make sure that happens. All that is to say: You make smart decisions, and you can’t understand others’ poor decision-making. In teams or relationships especially, remember to be extra clear about what you need; not every type is as intuitive as you.

INTP: “Meaningless” activities

You do not squander energy; everything you do works into the bigger picture of your goals and dreams. Even if you’re science-obsessed, you might also take business classes to launch your own startup centered around an invention of yours; or maybe you’re reading self-help books to just get a handle on the human stuff a bit better, since you can feel hopeless at times. You can’t be bothered with what you deem truly “meaningless” activities, like staying on top of celebrity gossip. Remember that your brain doesn’t always need to chug along at a million miles a minute, though. Reality TV could very well be the break that will recharge your mental battery. Try it before you knock it.

ENTJ: Laziness

You have intense drive. Of all the types, you have the capacity to accomplish the most due to your extreme willpower and seemingly boundless energy, which is why you have no patience for those without clear direction, drive and ambition. You just don’t “get” when people stop moving forward. But don’t forget that you’ve been blessed with special powers, allowing you to check boxes off any to-do list and climb the ladder at work. Not everyone wants or needs obvious markers of achievement to be fulfilled. Maybe start asking what fulfills those people you don’t instantly understand. Not only will those conversations fire you up (you love passionate people), but you’ll also get greater perspective on more intangible goals.

INFJ: Pot-stirring

You don’t come to every social event, but when you do, you’re usually putting out fires between friends and smoothing the human dynamics at parties. You are the quintessential wise sage/therapist and have a knack for figuring out how people tick or where relationships are breaking down. You also can quickly suss out WHO’S STIRRING THE POT, which you hate. You want people to just get along! Your awareness is both a blessing and a curse. Thanks for helping humans live in peace, but remember that not every battle is yours to mediate or remedy. You can just enjoy a party because it’s a party and forget Jon’s passive-aggressive remark to Emily. Not your beef.

ENFP: Clashing values

ENFPs are defined by a very clear sense of self, as well as a deeply felt sense of right and wrong. You live by your moral compass, and you take deep offense to people who seem lawless or so carefree they’re constantly hurting others. While it’s important to keep in mind that not everyone values the exact same things you do, it’s also great to find “your people.” Surround yourself with people who share your worldview, and the stresses of trying to understand others’s (as you naturally do) will feel far less taxing.

ENFJ: Inconsistency

You are able to read people in two ways: You pick up on their emotional energy, and then you interpret the most likely explanation for their feelings, behaviors and ticks. You can often get wrapped up in people you don’t understand, though, thinking that the more you learn the more you’ll magically “get it.” So when someone is inconsistent, and you seemingly cannot rely on them to keep plans or show up in big moments, it ruffles you; at your core, you want to deeply understand those you care about and only invest in people who are willing to love you back. While it’s good to realize humans are not inherently predictable (anything can change how we behave from day to day), it is okay to distance yourself from people who don’t seem to say what they mean, or mean what they say. That can drive you nuts.

INFP: Controlling behavior

You know who you are and what you stand for, unconventional though you may sometimes seem to others. You typically see the best in everyone and want to surround yourself with those who will let you be your truest yourself. You hate it when others try to dim your spark, whether it’s dismissing your argument or questioning your decisions. Just be careful: Since INFPs work hard at fully accepting others exactly as they are, you often lash out when you feel like someone’s trying to control you, or if someone put you down one too many times. If you do snap back, this can ultimately lead to regret, which INFPs are prone to — and that’s in addition to the original annoyance. To combat this: Try calmly, firmly calling out negative behavior early on to get the grievance off your chest (before you blow up); you don’t need to stand for that!

ISTJ: Tons of change

The ISTJ motto might as well be, “If it ain’t broke, don’t fix it.” You like routine and the tried-and-true method, because there’s a precedent for success and therefore a low failure rate. You can deal with one change at a time if it’s truly needed. However, if your significant other wants to consider a move and kids, for instance, or your boss wants you to tackle a new project and travel out of state to wrap an old one, you get overwhelmed and frustrated: Is this really necessary? Maybe, maybe not. Although you’re introverted and would rather do than talk, make sure to articulate your desire (or need) to do one thing at a time.

ESTP: A snail’s pace

You can’t stand when someone wants you to fall in line. Your first instinct is to explore, try new things, break the mold, test the boundaries! As such, you often do…and, in the process, might accidentally stumble upon a new way to be. Which is awesome. But if you find a more efficient procedure at work or think you’ve got a solution for a perpetual relationship argument, you might get frustrated when it’s not immediately implemented. You are probably the most impatient personality type. But remember that you are often the earliest adopter of an idea or trend — and can even jump too quickly. Slowing down (a teensy bit) and hearing others’s concerns will help you avoid having to backpedal.

ISTP: Dishonesty

As an ISTP, you just want the bare-bones facts. You don’t need to know every gory detail of your friend’s latest fight with her partner or talk ad nauseam about who said what, when, to whom. You don’t pry, and you don’t like drama. But if you ask a question, it’s because you really think the answer is important to the dynamic of your friendship or understanding of a person in the larger sense. You’re fine with not getting an answer, but you are not fine with being lied to. Ever! To you, dishonesty is just inefficient. But remember, sometimes your pals might not be fully comfortable divulging emotional stuff to you because you so rarely want to get involved. Having honest, open relationships requires trust, which you often build during those mushy heart-to-hearts you struggle with. So, try emoting with your pals from time to time. You’ll get more honesty in return.

ESTJ: Inefficiency

If your group is going on a big trip, you’re the one who emails everybody with travel arrangements months in advance. If you and your coworkers are tackling a big project, you’re the leader who makes sure the entire system hits all goals and checkmarks on time. You hate inefficiency because you have such a great mind for figuring out the best way to sail a ship. You will immediately notice why a line is bottlenecking at the airport or in what order you need to make each item on the menu to get out of the kitchen the fastest. While these insights make you a take-charge kind of person, don’t forget that it’s taxing to dwell on inefficiency — the world is full of it — and taking the scenic route (so to speak) can sometimes allow you to enjoy the experience more, rather than rush to the destination.

ISFJ: Instability

As an ISFJ, you’re pretty chill a lot of the time. Part of the reason for this is because you like things certain way and you work hard to keep everything organized and planned. Your biggest pet peeve is when everything gets jumbled and turned upside down, even if the chaos is prompted by a categorically “good” thing, like a potential job promotion. You just like when all is decided and safe; instability and loose ends tend to make your typically patient personality become seriously agitated. Leaning into others during these more unstable times is your best bet. Although you need your alone time, you benefit a lot from heaping doses of social comfort, even if you’re just calling your best friend for a good chat.

ESFP: Rigidity

You like to live life on your own terms, and you really don’t like to be defined by a set-in-stone plan. When someone tries to get you to nail down a date, a time or a deadline, you start to feel like that person is cramping your style — and you may even push back. Although you do operate best with flexibility, remember that commitments and timelines will inevitably help you reach your most fulfilling goals. You don’t want to wake up one day and realize you missed the boat on your dreams; just think of your path to achieving those dreams as a map of loose guidelines toward your destination, not a single set of directions.

ESFJ: Arguing for no reason

You just want everyone to get along. Arguments that could have been avoided, nitpicking someone’s behaviors, or starting a heated debate? What’s the point? At your core, you want to help others connect and see friendships grow and thrive. So when people seem to inflame “drama” that might have been avoided with a simple sidestep, it irritates you. Just remember, though: Some personalities don’t argue to be frustrating or speak their minds to brew controversy. They debate to test ideas or get to know others’ perspectives better (truly) — and they get over it quickly. It’s okay to disagree!

ISFP: Ignoring the real you

You are fiercely independent and appreciate when others see you for your uniqueness. With your charm and aura of mystery, you have a line of people who want to be around your intriguing, vibrant spirit. But not everyone “gets” you on a deeper level, and that realization can lead to a huge letdown. Some people might even make you into more of a fantasy than reality, which drives you up the wall. While you don’t need any part of that, some people might actually be trying harder to understand you than you think. Before you lock someone out for not getting to know the real you, ask yourself if you’ve even been allowing them a solid chance for that.

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16 Signs You’re An INFJ, The World’s Rarest Personality Type

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16 Signs You’re An INFJ, The World’s Rarest Personality Type

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INFJ, referring to one of the 16 Myers-Briggs personality types, has become a bit of a buzzword in the media over the past several years. The reason behind it: INFJ is considered to be the rarest personality type, making up less than 2% of the world’s entire population. They are labeled as “The Advocate,” and have been described as “mysterious,” “intuitive,” and “emotionally intelligent,” yet the type as a whole is often misunderstood.

Oh, and I am one. Perhaps you are, as well.

The Myers-Briggs Type Indicator test, created in the 1940’s by mother and daughter, Isabel Myers and Katharine Briggs, originally stems from the typological theories of Carl Jung, a prominent psychoanalyst. The test assesses an individual in 4 categories: Extroversion vs. Introversion, Sensing vs. Intuition, Thinking vs. Feeling, and Judging vs. Perceiving, and using these criteria, determines which category one’s personality most tilts toward. INFJs would be those individuals whose personalities favor the sides of Introverted, Intuitive, Feeling, and Judging.

INFJs can be difficult to spot due to the fact that they are not prevalent in society and tend to be reserved individuals. However, INFJs make fiercely loyal friends, empathetic and organized workers, and exceptional leaders for causes they deem worthy and for the greater good of humanity.

1. INFJs often report feeling lonely and “different,” and for good reason. INFJs are low in numbers so they tend to have trouble finding others who see the world in the same realm as they do. Most people who are this type have admitted feeling different from their peers since they were a very young child.

2. INFJs take an all-or-nothing approach to life. INFJs, a curious mix of emotional and logical, do not like to waste their time on anything inauthentic. Although they may dabble in playing the field, INFJs are truly about quality over quantity and will become disinterested in anyone or anything they perceive as being fraudulent, scheming or wishy-washy.

3. INFJs exude warmness, and others immediately feel comfortable in their presence. It is not uncommon for a stranger to sit down next to an INFJ and within minutes, disclose their most personal secrets, fears, and dreams. In fact, this happens frequently to INFJs with seemingly no rhyme or reason. This personality type has a knack for making others immediately feel at ease, and they are great listeners and trusted confidants who speak in human terms and meet others where they are.

4. INFJs are somewhat empathic, and they tend to “just know” things. One of my favorite one-liners from Game of Thrones is by the character, Tyrion Lannister, “I drink and I know things,” and this can often be said of an INFJ, with maybe fewer libations. INFJs have a highly-accurate sense of intuition that they have been sharpening for all of their lives. Without understanding exactly why or how, an INFJ will see, within minutes of meeting an individual, their true character. As a result, they tend to be more forgiving of their friends who exhibit unruly behavior because they can identify the true root of the behavior, such as insecurities or past trauma.

5. INFJs ultimately seek genuine truth and meaning. This personality type does not care one iota about grandiose tales or extravagant gestures if there is not a true and genuine motive behind them. An INFJ’s calling in life is to seek insight and understanding, and as they develop, they often can spot a lie or half-truth at a moment’s notice. If they believe an individual to be a phony or a manipulator, they will have no trouble writing them off. Likewise, this type often enjoys traveling, adventures and experiences that heighten their understanding of the intricacies of life and promote self-reflection.

6. INFJs are true introverts, yet people not very close to them believe them to be extroverts. This happens because INFJs can be social chameleons and have an innate ability to blend in in any social setting. The INFJ can be the life of the party for a night or two, showcasing their inviting nature and vivaciousness. However, this is never prolonged because, in introverted-fashion, they lose energy from others. Those close to an INFJ know that this type prefers bars over clubs and barbecues over balls, and can give a speech to thousands of people but cringes at the idea of mingling with the crowd afterward. Eventually, this type will need to retreat home for some quiet time to “recharge their batteries,” or they will become very on-edge and exhausted.

7. INFJs have intense, unwavering convictions, sometimes to a fault. An INFJ has certain ideas about the world and a need to foster change in society. These are deep-seated and intense beliefs that they will never abandon. If a career, relationship, or law does not align with their moral compass, an INFJ will have no qualms about ignoring it or leaving it in the dust.

8. INFJs tend to keep a small circle of friends and prefer to work alone. Although an INFJ may have hundreds of acquaintances, if they call you a “friend,” you can be sure that they mean it for life. This type can count their close friends on a set of fingers and they will be loyal and devoted to these prized individuals no matter how much time passes between their interactions. An INFJ can be a great team player but the idea of group projects and collaboration meetings naturally make them sink down in their seat. These are people who enjoy working from home or in a quaint office with a handful of like-minded coworkers.

9. INFJs cannot stand small talk. This trait aligns with the need to pursue truth and all things bona fide. To an INFJ, small talk not only takes energy but has little purpose as it is merely speaking to fill silence without revealing any deeper layers of the individuals involved. Do not talk to an INFJ about the weather unless you want to see a glazed-over look. Instead, tell them about the causes you are promoting, the wish-list of your soul, or the way you smile every time you smell lavender because it reminds you of your great-grandmother.

10. INFJs are typically high-achievers and people-pleasers. If you want a task done right the first time, hand it over to an INFJ. They will plan every detail down to the minute and will always deliver a glowing finished product. However, when delivering criticism to this type, do it gently, as they take every word to heart and are always striving for perfection. This type is a unique blend of a dreamer and a doer, but they can easily fall prey to extreme bouts of anxiety or depression centered on feelings of inadequacy or failure.

11. INFJs are gifted in language and are often creative writers. In accordance with their introverted nature, INFJs prefer to spend time alone and develop enriched inner-lives with many hobbies and skills. This type has trouble conveying their emotions verbally, so they turn to pen and paper. This, combined with their creative nature, leaves no surprise that the majority of successful writers are, in fact, INFJs.

12. INFJs make decisions based on emotion and insight. An INFJ judges the world around them and the people in it based off of how they make them feel. This type does not care about track records and performance history, instead, they look for the heart of the matter and how a person or company treat them personally. This type will trust their “gut feeling” about a situation and go with that, which has almost always proven to be accurate.

13. INFJs like to reflect on deep thoughts about their purpose and the world around them. This type is a thinker. INFJs are old-souls who spend a lot of time in their own minds reflecting on their purpose and the meaning behind everything that happens to them. They are often readers, researchers, and intellectuals who truly enjoy learning. Although this is a noble endeavor, it is essential that the INFJ has friends, typically of the extroverted type, who can help them to be less serious and relax every now and then.

14. INFJs are visionaries who always see the big picture. This type tends to always operate about ten steps ahead. They are skilled planners and focus their sights on the end goal and what is needed to propel them there. However, while INFJs are off in dreamland about their futures, they can sometimes forget to be present in the world that is happening now. As a result, they do well with other more grounded types who can remind them to live in the moment.

15. INFJs are “fixers,” and they gravitate towards people who need help. This type loves a good fixer-upper and with their ability to see the “good bones” of another person, their true motives and intentions, and to readily provide comfort and compassion, they fall victim to the Broken Wing Theory, or the idea that they can rescue others who have a “broken wing,” or who have been dealt a poor hand. This can be rewarding for the hopeful INFJ but also frustrating and depleting when boundaries are overstepped.

16. INFJs seek lifelong, true-blue relationships. This type usually finds themselves with intuitive extroverts, such as the ENTPs, ENFPs, and ENFJs. These types connect with the INFJ on the deeper plane of intuition, yet also will get the INFJ out of their own heads and out on the town on a Saturday night.

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Make Evernote Fit Your Myers-Briggs Personality Type

There was a time when people entered the workforce knowing that they would be treated pretty much as interchangeable corporate drones for the rest of their working lives. Fortunately, today companies are increasingly interested in understanding—and categorizing—personalities. And the Myers-Briggs Personality Test, which was developed by a mother/daughter team of researchers in 1944, became the gold standard for figuring out personality types.

You’ve probably taken a Myers-Briggs test at some point, and found it enlightening. If not, stop reading and take it now. Come back with your results when you’re done.

Who are you, anyway?

We’ve all encountered a variety of office personalities, and learned, often through trial and error, how to work with different types of people. Maybe you’ve learned never to talk to your co-worker before she’s had her first cup of coffee, or perhaps you know a colleague who is going to be so full of ideas that the meeting run long. Or you’ve learned that your boss doesn’t appreciate being put on the spot at a meeting—she prefers time to prepare her answers.

The Myers-Briggs test is designed to get the root of this problem, quantifying and demystifying  personality types through a series of questions, and answers:

Are you an introvert or extrovert? That score gives you your first letter: I for introverted, or E for extroversion.

Whether you’re a thinking or feeling type, that is, do you think with your head or your heart? From that, you get your second letter, T or F.

Are you more likely to make a snap judgment, or take a wait and see attitude? That’s your judging or perceiving score, or letters J or P.

Do you follow your instincts or only what you can literally see before you? Your Myers-Briggs score will tell you whether you tend toward sensing (S), or intuition (N).

Grouping the groups

With so many personality styles, others have found it easier to group them into fewer personality types using the DISC test. DISC stands for Dominance, Influence, Steadiness, and Conscientiousness, Enrico uses this test to group similar Myers-Briggs scores together. You might never expect to find common ground between introverts and extroverts, but using this complementary test, “Let’s take a look at the ‘D’ type,” Enrico begins. “D stands for several ‘D’ words: Dominant. Direct. Demanding. Decisive. Determined. These people are typically outgoing and task oriented.”

D is for decisiveness—but not details

D-types, or ‘dominance’ types, typically fall into Myers-Briggs as ISTP or ESTP, ISFP, or ESFP,” he explains. “These are the types of people who end up on company boards or in leadership roles.”  

D’s prefer:

Bulleted lists

High-level ideas

Big-picture scenarios

Action-oriented speech—what can they do right now?

There is one ‘D’ that Enrico says this type has no interest in: details. So when working with someone in one of these groups, keep your communications simple, and easily digestible. Spare them the trivia.

Video: Create a Checklist in Evernote>>

Influencing the Influencers

I-types, or ‘influencers’, are diplomat types that map to Myers-Briggs INFJ, ENFJ, INFP, and ENFP types. Using popular literature and culture, you can look to the Harry Potter series to find a classic Influencer in ENFJ Dumbledore, and, if you prefer a Star Wars metaphor, in classic INFJ Obi-Wan Kenobi. I-types are, according to Enrico, “influencing, impressive, and interested.” These people, he continues, are charismatic spokespeople and natural communicators and diplomats.

Influencers are most satisfied with:

Quick and structured information about the topics at hand and the people they’ll be speaking with.

CRM-like templates that provide names, technical data, how a person is involved with a company or project.

Photos, diagrams, and as much information about individuals as possible.

Too little information, Enrico warned, will make people in these groups feel unprepared. Too much information can befuddle them. But since their natural calling is to bring people together, giving them the details in structured formats will make them feel comfortable enough to absorb and act on the material happily.

Dashboards for Sentinels

The S-type—aptly named for their “steady” nature, is, according to the DISC test, supportive, stable, sensitive, fans of the status quo, or sentinels. They are the specialists. S-types, Enrico says, tend to be people who value responsibility and commitments, and score as a Myers-Briggs type ISFJ. “People who fall into this one group tend to be dentists, librarians, nurses, elementary school teachers, accountants, franchise owners,” Enrico explained.  

This type of person:

Works best within a predefined set of rules

Need checklists and dashboards

Work well with systems

Like to make order of chaos

As an example, he mentions teachers. “Teachers need to keep lesson plans,” Enrico says. “They can keep a whole year’s worth of lessons in Evernote, in a single dashboard note, with links out to the actual materials. Then, they can follow the plan and check each lesson off when it’s done.” Once the teacher completes a lesson, he or she just checks off the lesson in the dashboard.”

Take a look at Enrico’s video on how to create an Evernote dashboard >>

C for “Customized”

Task-oriented, more reserved personalities, often software developers, creatives, and bankers are people who tend to want to do things their own way, and quietly bristle against the tyranny of forms and systems. The are the C-types, or the Myers-Briggs INTJ, INTP, ENTJ, and ENTPs. Enrico calls them contemplative, careful, calculating, and cautious.

People who fall into this category:

Strive for accuracy and tend to be very thorough

Need as much information and detail as possible to be effective

Fear criticism and can take it very hard

Like to work in free-form environments, without adherence to structured templates or systems

When we compare these traits with someone from the ‘D’ group, it’s easy to see where conflicts happen and coworkers can become frustrated with one another. This is why it’s helpful for us to understand other people’s personality types so we can be better about giving our colleagues with work the way they best approach it.

For example, you may not want to send a detailed report to your ESTP manager. He or she may become frustrated with what they see as unnecessary information—they just want high-level takeaways. On the other side, as a manager, you may find it difficult to get your ENTPs to work happily within a highly-regimented project management system.

Enrico recommends developing templates in Evernote that help each different personality work in a way that makes them the most productive. Sometimes you may need to adapt your work style to better suit someone else—if you’re a freeform-loving C-type, you may want to create dashboards lists for your S-type team member to get the best results. Taking that extra step shows not only a concern and understanding of other people’s personality styles, it shows a willingness to collaborate and work as a team to get things done in an efficient and drama-free way. And that’s something every personality type can agree on.

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Airplane ramblings

I am currently on a plane to london, starting a long journey to san francisco for a couple of days...crazy to travel from scotland to sf for just 4 days, but this is what you do to be with family and i know even with the pain of the travel ( and continue with my half marathon training while jet lagged) will be worth it. Lately i have been in a very refective mood, and traveling always makes the feeling pop up more...must be the knowledge of having to fill up some 15+ hours with something more than movie and shows! I am not one to journal often: i used to when i was younger, but i always felt like i was using writing as a way to focus on the negative feelings i was experiencing and decided that was not healthiest way of coping with my feelings, so i decided to stop. That and the fact i often feel like my thoughts run much faster than i can process in words, making it hard to focus on specific words. But every now and then the need to put my thoughts down surfaces, and when it does i truly enjoy putting my thoughts on paper. Or on an ipad,as is the case now. I honeslty wish i did have some paper, typing on an iPad isn't the most comfortable. I have been practicing proper typing techniques lately and my fingers are itching to use them, but the ipad keyboard is a bit awkward for that. But i am getting lost in my thoughts and losing track of what i wanted to say. See what i mean when i say my thoughts go faster that i can process? (Cue reflective song to help concentrate) Lately i have been doing a lot of thinking: sometimes i wonder if this is an effect of working towards a PhD: we a constantly troubleshooting experimental problems and trying to figure out what the results of the experiments mean, i feel like i am applying the same mentality to my life; constantly troubleshooting why i feel a certain  way and trying to figure out the best way to "be" (akin to finding the best protocol for an experiment) coupled with my infj personality that makes for a lot of thinking and assessing my feelings. Some time ago I was at a symposium with my group and our boss was telling us about how having an ego can be particularly damaging in science, it interferes with being open to criticism and feedback. He told us about this book "the book of joy" and how he found it particularly nice and helpful to realize how important it is to let go of ones ego. We then went on to talk about what we what to achieve in life, a mantra of sorts of your whole life. I hadn't really thought about having one to be honest, but what sprung to mind at the moment was "growth". In this last year I have to realize that if there is one thing I want to achieve in my life is to always strive for becoming the best version of myself. Which is, without a doubt, a very good objective to have, although I am still unsure if it stems from a positive desire to be a better person or from my perfectionist personality, so a desire to be the best person. They might seem like similar things, but only one of them comes with a healthy attitude. At this moment, I can only try to focus on shifting it from the latter to the former...Already a sign of growth, amiright? Progress people!! So yeah, growth. And I mean it in every aspect of my life, from work to love. I recently learned that growth, not happiness, is the objective of even the simplest thing, personal relationships...life is tough! I have been struggling quite a bit lately with trying to grow and overcome my fears and preconceptions. I don't think I was prepared for how much doing a PhD would influence my life and my mentality. I approached it from a purely scientific, experimental point of view, and didn't realize how much it would influence my whole life. Sure I knew it would be tough and take a lot from me, but you never really know until you go through it right? So what have I been struggling with? A lot of things: impostor syndrome, comparison, fear of abandonment, fear of failure, body image, not being enough...you name it! And I probably haven't been dealing with all of it in the best way: instead of dealing with the issues, I keep giving myself more work to do, taking on things I might not have time for, running loads, taking up climbing, probably in the hopes of getting a feeling of accomplishment from something that might validate who I am and make me feel worth something. Undoubtedly, this as not happened, as I cannot feel accomplished unless I am mentally open to acknowledging my success as so =D. Don't get me wrong, I am using big words and describing loads of issues: while they are present they aren't overpowering or crushing, I am generally a happy person. They are simply there in the background, and simply causing me to question my attitude towards life. Not sure if I am still making sense, this is turning more and more into a ramble and less of a structured, thought out piece. I mentioned perfectionism before: I am 100% positive that the need to be perfect is at the basis of all my issues. Have known so for a while. I see my lab mates and compare myself to them, to what they can achieve and I want to beat them. I am competitive, and yes that is a good quality to have, but not if it comes at the expense of your self confidence. My need to be perfect makes it so that I compare myself to other runners on social media: why can't I run as fast as that one girl? No matter that I have no clue as to what she is doing during her days, how many hours she works...why can't I find a way to fit yoga in my days more?...while still being able to cook proper meals and keep my kitchen/ apartment in a decent state? I have recently picked up climbing with some friends: I had tried it once before, both my sisters were loving it, so I tagged along. I wasn't in the right mindset, and i did not enjoy it at the time. See, I have this terrible attitude of not starting something unless I know I can be good  at it. I sucked the first time I went climbing, and, like the fox with the grapes he couldn't reach, I decided I didn't like climbing and "it's not what I want anyways". I think I have made some progress since then, and have realized the only way of getting good at something is to (surprise, surprise) practice, practice, practice. I am still working on that's, I tend to avoid routes I can't do and quit quickly, but my climbing "mentor" keeps an eye on me and challenges me to try again until I manage. Thank you Richard =). I think climbing will be good for teaching me it's ok to fall down and fail, but keep on trying and soon you will find a way to get to the top, maybe an easier path than you had initially tried. And more troubleshooting practice to help for my PhD brain. And it gives you killer muscles and strength, so win-win =). I mentioned impostor syndrome as one of the things I feel: it's a very common feeling in academia, not sure if it people in other work environments know it/ describe it: in short, it's the feeling of being a fraud, having gotten to where you are by pure luck and, one day, the people around you will figure out you are not as good as they thought you were and you don't deserve the status you have. Hello, my name is Giulia and I definitely have impostor syndrome. When I first joined my lab,it was just me, another PhD student a couple of months ahead of me and our boss. The lab had just started out less than a year before, and my boss was heavily depending on my colleague and me for research. I soon became, in a way, indispensable: my project was the main one in the lab, the one that would most likely produce papers and get my boss the funding/ tenure he needed. I am not going to lie, I loved it. I loved being the one to have long brainstorming sessions with my boss, getting project after project, helping build the base of the research in the lab. I had a purpose and no one else could fill it at that time. Flash forward some time, the lab gets funded and more people join the lab. A technician I had trained from zero, a new PhD student, and a post doc. For some time I was still the invaluable asset. I was the one they would all go to for questions about techniques, the field etc because I had the answers, but soon a team of one for the projects became a team of three. My projects were broken up and divided and whist I maintained the 2-3 I was most involved in/ wanted to keep, the rest was given to others to continue with. In hindsight, it couldn't have gone any other way: I am but one person with three years of funding for my PhD, I cannot do everything in the time that my boss needs. But still, I lost the feeling of being invaluable for the lab, I started to feel like I wasn't good enough anymore and soon my boss would realize there was better out there, that out post doc was clearly better and smarter than me and maybe I didn't even deserve the really important project I had. The craziest thing: we are going to a conference in June, it's in the UK and we can reach it by train, so it's going to be quite cheap for us. The university recently opened up applications for funding for travel to conferences if you are going to present a poster or talk (which I am) and my supervisor suggested I apply for it. What was the first thing that popped into my head when I read his email? He suggested I apply because he doesn't think I deserve to go and would rather not waste the 200- something pounds on me attending. I kid you not. I immediately caught the thought and reminded myself that was crazy talk, but still the thought is there in the back of my mind. I recently realized what is probably the worst way of thinking I have: I compare myself, my achievements to people with much more experience than me. Being a scientist in academia requires a lot of different skills that might not be immediately apparent. Sure, you need to be technically good and you need to be able to think and process results past an recent to figure out the answers to your questions, but there is so much more to it. You need to be able to communicate your science, to both other scientists and the general population, you need to do so in an engaging manner, capture their attention and make them think that what you do it important. You need to be able to justify why you should be funded for such research, and be able to come up with the right ways to ask the questions you want to ask. And, most of all, you need to be able to identify which are the right questions to ask. And people don't realize this, but you also need to be good at networking and managing people, because after all your lab is made up of people and the team can only work if every part does. So a lot of skills are needed, and some of them you end up learning as you go along. No one expects a PhD student to be able to properly manage a team of people or even one student and their project whilst dealing with their own project, no one expect a PhD student to be able to write a grant application flawlessly with no practice. So why do I expect all of these things from myself? I keep comparing myself to my boss, a really bright scientist who has 10 extra years of experience of being a scientist, and this comparison, which I can never "win", can only damage me. I can never achieve what I expect from myself, and I end up paralyzed with fear for my future. I am also a very different person from my boss. I can use him as inspiration, I definitely should, but I cannot use him as an objective of what I should be because we are completely different people, with different backgrounds and strengths and weaknesses. I think I am at a cross road: everyday I learn something new about myself and I think I am truly starting to understand who I am and what are my strengths and weaknesses, but I still need to learn how to apply what I know to my day to day life. That is the hardest part though, right? What I can say so far: I vow to be as gentle with myself as possible, to take care of myself (when was the last time I had a face mask?!) and to always remember that progress is not a straight line, but a series of hills and valley that ultimately lead to the mountain. To take each day as it comes, not to focus about what I should be learning, bur focus on what doing (and thus actually learn) and, learn to listen to bugs bunny, and to "mot take life too seriously".

[funkymbtifiction]

Ni

Can you do a post like you did for Ne?

Since I’m not a Ni, this will be Ni as I conceptually understand it, and how Ni-users have explained it to me.

Since the primary goal for Ni is to find “a singular truth,” it absorbs and internally processes intuitive information (reading between the lines, insights, hunches, a sense of something ‘missing’ and seeking to find that missing piece); the conclusions it reaches will be similar to Ne under similar circumstances (this person is lying to me about that, for this reason), but the Ni does not need external affirmation to believe in their conclusion, nor are they as likely to change it based on the whims of additional information.

Ne’s approach life with a mentality of, “Here is my idea / intuitive conclusion about this -- do you think it sounds valid?” because Ne craves external affirmation on their ideas as being the right idea among many. So, going off the example I used last time about a friend vanishing and the intuitive deciding it’s because the friend does not like / is bored with the book they sent them; a Ni might also reach that conclusion and operate on that assumption, without asking for anyone else’s input on the idea itself. The Ne might reach that conclusion and turn to someone they trust, explain their Ne-reasoning to them, and ask, “Does this seem like the most reasonable explanation to you?” If validated, the Ne operates under that assumption; if the person says, “No, I know this about them, and you should factor this in...” the Ne’s hypothesis about the person’s behavior changes on the spot.

A good literary example of high Ne, in these terms, is Elizabeth Bennet, who operates under her (wrong) assumptions about Mr. Darcy, confident in her perceptions about him and her intuitive interpretation of the situation; she seeks out ideas that reinforce these views (Wickham) but literally changes her strong opinion of Darcy overnight when he explains himself to her in a letter; Wickham is astonished that she has done such a complete reversal from “someone I hate” to “I could fall in love with this man.” All Ne needed was more information / his side of the argument and POOF, the presupposition vanished. Her entire perspective changed based on intuitive objectivity.

Of course, if the up side of Ne is flexibility, the down-side is lack of commitment to a single perspective or idea, which can lead to flighty behavior (and, as an INTJ friend says, “the rapid change of topics / mental distraction that baffles me”; I should mention I had denied changing topics rapidly, and she laughed). Ne is prone to what I call a “flypaper” mentality -- every idea sticks to it, and Ne will run with it, sometimes without pausing to consider if it’s valid.

Ni’s take much longer to reach intuitive conclusions, but are far less likely to change them once their mind is made up (Ni-doms are more prone to this than Ni-auxes, but imbalanced ENXJs still do it). Their visions are always singular and often quick -- leaping ahead to a future implication or action and then engaged in a subconscious reversal-processing, where Ni assembles abstract information to fill in the gaps between now and then. Because these things are hard to articulate (introverted function), Ni’s do not volunteer this information; often what you hear is the result or conclusion, not the reasoning.

An ENFJ explained it that she gets a “flash” or a visual image of her future self in a specific career, and then Se triggers her into immediate action to make that vision a reality -- like, signing up for a class. She does not “worry” about how to get there, because she waits for the right door to open, and will know it when she sees it -- she described it as walking along a corridor and darting through a door when it opens. Because her Ni / Se is healthy, she is not afraid to correct or shift her vision once she realizes the limits of her abilities (Se, coming to terms with that Ni maybe overestimated the multi-tasking involved). When in a situation that requires her to interpret someone’s future motives, she becomes quiet / withdrawn / analytical, decides in her own mind the likely outcome, and then responds to head it off if it is destructive (as opposed to a Ne asking for her opinion on whether “this idea / motive is correct”). She cannot imagine not having a future self to strive toward.

When we discussed how we approach writing projects, we discovered her Ni approach is an unconscious weaving of the story in a particular direction, whereas mine is a process of reshuffling and discovery (Ne). She was a bit horrified to learn I will take away, or give, different characters different names, careers, roles in the story, or plot arcs as the story revolves; to her, those things are “fixed” and cannot change. (”What do you mean Alfred used to be a falconer and now he’s a priest, and his name was Gethin before?!”) She will not plan out everything in advance internally as my INFJ friend does (INFJ can spend up to a year crafting a story in her head, then sit down and write it all out with no overhauls of character / plot / etc) but their approach is similar -- in writing and in life. Singular forward motion, based on instinct.

If the strength of a Ni can be accuracy, its weakness can be rigidity. Since they are unlikely to change their minds once they have found “the truth,” if their Se development is good and they have solid judging functions, this causes no problems -- but if they are going off intuition with no Se evidence / attachment to reality, or have poor judging functions, it can be like arguing with a brick wall. Their desire to find “one truth” can mean shooting down any external theory or possibility or piece of information that proves their Ni’s chosen truth or ideas about life wrong. They will use Se only to find evidence that supports their chosen view of reality, which may be completely detached from reality.

For example, let’s say INFJ decides friend is avoiding them because they hate the book INFJ gave them. Friend comes along and truthfully argues no, that was not the case; I got snowed under with work at the same time my cat got sick and my social life was nonexistent for six weeks. An unhealthy Ni will reject this information and insist the person is lying to them, since THEY KNOW THE TRUTH. Their friend can argue until they are blue in the face, and produce evidence, and the unhealthy INFJ will still walk away convinced their friend has gone to elaborate lengths to sell them a lie.

I hope that helps.

- ENFP Mod