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sk-lumen · 2 years

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You win if you uphold your boundaries. You lose if you cave in.

When you have high standards, you're assertive, and you don't play around with boundaries, a lot of people may think you're a b****.

And that may be uncomfortable for some of you peoplepleasers. But here's the thing.

Those same men will also secretly admire your self-respect. They may resent that your boundaries and standards exclude them from your special club, they may push back and complain and argue against them.

But ultimately, first of all you'll be protecting your peace & standards. And secondly, they will respect you more. You'll be the one that got away, you'll be the one they remember, the one they can't forget, because you stood out. It's a win-win.

Caving in to people-pleasing and rejecting your own needs & boundaries is a lose-lose situation. You're not honoring yourself, and while you'll be superficially appeasing the other person, they surely won't respect you for it. Toxic people, especially narcissists, will take what they can from you and then they'll move on to do it with others. Nobody is going to admire and clap for you for being a doormat.

#boundaries #high standards #high value woman #level up #glow up #assertivity #people pleasing #respect #self worth #confidence #articles #writings

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secretdazedragon · 3 months

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Assert dominance by making direct eye contact while they're sucking your neck

#interview with the vampire #iwtv fanart #iwtv #armand #louis de pointe du lac #lestat de lioncourt #nicolas de lenfent #daniel molloy #loumand #lesmand #armand's guide to assert dominace

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fujoxi · 2 days

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May I request a maid lifting her skirt 🤲

#two of them thursday #be more assertive anon! maids love following orders #asks #my art #maid #nsft

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bluef00t · 4 days

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The Shawn & Gus dynamic in Psych is so subtly yet beautifully shaped by the fact that they cast a naturally deadpan introvert to play the world's most hyperactive attention-seeking detective, then cast a chronic theater kid to play his supposedly boring, reasonable best friend

#Shawn's friendly and reasonable tone as he manufactures 8 deranged lies for attention in a row #vs Gus' increasingly hysterical assertions that he is being VERY normal and rational given the circumstances. SHAWN.#make a legendary pair #psych

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yennas-stuff · 2 months

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Nesta is actually so brave for reading smut in a place where everyone can smell your horniness.

Go off and get off, queen. Let them know. 💅

#nesta archeron #pro nesta #she's asserting her dominance

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poorly-drawn-mdzs · 7 months

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Horse Meshi. Delicious, in Horse.

#dungeon meshi #laois touden #marcille donato #senshi #chilchuk tims #Anne II #I am over a week late to make this relevant but dear god I love the kelpie chapter.#if not for the several layers of foreshadowing then the reveal that nearly everyone in the party is a passionate horse lover.#Truly the best part of dungeon meshi is the sheer love of horses each character has. Fantastic equines by Ryoko Kui.#Chilchuck gets to be a little wary given what goes down in the bicorn chapter.#Rest in peace Anne I and Anne II. You were beautiful horses.#The pain I felt upon re-reading dungeon meshi and realizing that Senshi called the kelpie Anne...Hurts bad!#By the way I have strong feeling about MLP AU with these characters - but I would like to assert that Senshi is earth pony coded #and chilchuck is pegasus coded. I was struggling to draw my vision and went with whatever my pen chose.#Laios is a griffin because...come on if he made a MLP AU of his friends he would be nothing else.

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cristinabcn · 2 years

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PAREJAS FELICES y UNIDAS

HAPPY AND UNITED COUPLES Para ser una pareja feliz y unida, hay que CULTIVARSE y mantenerse todos los días como pareja para fortaleces los lazos y “desarrollarse juntos”. Para conseguirlo en principio hay cosas que no debemos hacer como el dejar las cosas al azar o relajarte por que crees que ya lo tienes o la tienes comiendo de tu mano. La pareja se debe cuidar mucho ya sea hablando en calma,…

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pokeberry5 · 8 months

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a visit from an old friend

bruharvey :-) w/leyendecker as ref:

#i like btas harvey #harvey dent #two face #bruce wayne #bruharvey #twobats #dc #sart #btas #harvey goes to visit bruce and needs to have assert control over the situation but bruce wouldve taken care of him w/o the threat o7

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k-wame · 11 months

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Maxwell Caulfield as Roy Alston The Boys Next Door (1985) · Horror · Crime · dir. Penelope Spheeris

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madamemiz · 2 months

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when the former god of death is brought down to your level, then brought even lower, below you, and it's so very cute :)

#listen. listen. the lamb is a cheeky little asshole and maybe a bit drunk on power. just a tad #cotl #cotl narinder #cotl lamb #narilamb #id like to think suddenly having a flesh and blood body is overwhelming for narinder. like. the very first thing he does is curl up and cry #he's still a bit hauty after but much more mellow. meek. perhaps the lamb takes advantage of that. perhaps they're very aware #of what they're doing. maybe it feel good to feel powerful #anyway i like toxic codependent narilamb where the lamb is more assertive. hi #crown big mad about this btw

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legobiwan · 2 months

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"First, let's get something out of the way: a human's ability to grasp reality is painfully limited. You don't even have free will! Don't believe me? Okay, rip a dollar in half right now. Didn't do it? Didn't think so!"

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"PS: Look what I just ripped in half! Suck it!"

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I love Stan so, so much for this.

#hello there #book of bill #book of bill spoilers #stanley pines #bill cipher #this means stan #1. read the whole fucking book and PAID ATTENTION #2. wrote a snarky insouciant response to make his brother feel better and emphasize what little control bill has over their lives #3. ripped actual money in half to his assert (and more importantly his brother's) free will #it's such a serious moment in what seems to be an unserious response #except in this same letter he encodes the message 'love ya bro' making it look like swearing #not what he seems indeed #oh boi are he and ford going to have some CONVERSATIONS #conversations which i would like to write

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heynhay · 2 months

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scene from where the apple falls by @jupiters-junipers :-) wholeheartedly recommend any and all of her work

#klance #voltron #vld #ok now time to freak it in the tags #to be honest i saw colleen blogging her read of New and the two of us went back and forth in dms for like 20 mins straight #abt all the things we like abt europas work #and i was like okay i have to assert my membership in the europa fan club too hang on #ive had 'draw europa report scene' in my art to-do file for months but thbeyre all so good #i couldnt choose!#due west is obviously The One the flagship #but they all deserve love....#i tell you to be honest im a coward i usually avoid any unfinished fics cause i like to binge but for europas work its simply worth it #anyway i envy you if you dont know who im talking abt bc that means u get to read her work for the first time...sighs dreamily #art #my art #ANYWAY THIS ONE IS SAD. EUROPA UNDERSCORE REPORT YOU ARE A TWISTED INDIVUDAL (affectionate)#im putting my life in ur hands with those happy ending tags.... save me help me..... auuughghh...

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sugarcarnation · 3 months

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little chuuya is absolutely devastating and i can’t help but make it worse by noticing that throughout this entire exchange he remains faceless. he has no real identity of his own he’s being defined by the people around him

and this is paralleled in the scene where he talks to dazai directly after the flashback. we still never see his face