#AskAmy

[shadowxamyweek]

*gently slides a box of the fancy fairy lights across the table to amy*

For the pillow fort

[The fort is almost completed. As Amy tries to stretch a fitted sheet from one tower of pillows to the other, she trips on something.] Amy: What-? (O.O) Oh! [She finds the note along with the small box of battery-operated fairy lights] Amy: Ooooooh yes yes yes yes yes yes yes! Shadow:(•ิ_•ิ)? [Amy just gives a peel of high-pitched, scheming laughter as she tucks the box away, saving it for the last touches.] Shadow:...(ᓀ ᓀ);

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[askamydaily]

Grandson’s prom gown horrifies his gran

[Photo credit: Lisa Brewster: Flickr https://www.flickr.com/photos/sophistechate/9269569765]

Dear Amy: I have one son and two grandsons.

The older grandson, age 17, appeared at his prom wearing a full-length purple gown with nail polish to match.

I privately told my son (his father) that I was concerned for my grandson’s safety, as he would be a target if he is so flamboyant.

My son became very defensive and said that people can love who they want, and that society needs to get used to it. I agree. But there are people out there who don’t like this “in your face” behavior.

I have not mentioned this again. I don’t want to alienate my son or grandson, but the prospect of having a LGBTQ grandson makes me sick.

He spends most of his time alone in his room and is very sullen. His maternal grandfather committed suicide last year, so I am concerned about the mental health of the entire family.

They are receiving counseling individually and as a family.

Can I do anything other than cry myself to sleep?

Could this be a phase, or will he always be like this?

– Devastated Grandma

Dear Devastated: I have a blunt question for you: Are you going through a phase, or will you always be like this?

I hope it’s a phase.

Yes, you worry. Yes, you fret. But the role of a grandparent is actually so simple: All you have to do is to love your grandchildren – exactly as they are, exactly as they present to you; through phases, representations, or revelations – and through whatever joys or challenges they encounter.

Can you imagine the impact on this family if you just simply loved and accepted all of them, no matter what?

You might not understand why your grandson would make the choice to go to the prom wearing what sounds like an amazing outfit. But that sullen teenager left his bedroom, got dolled-up, and took himself to the prom!

(I wish I’d had an ounce of that kind of courage at his age.)

Furthermore, his father is his ally! Give yourself credit for raising a man who is a good parent.

This family is receiving professional support (another very wise choice).

Your only job here is to find a way around your own fears, and to relieve yourself of the burden to judge this family – and instead to love all of them, just as they are.

[inbrookline]

I have a close friend who is always well dressed in the most expensive designer fashions. Additionally she likes to buy high end gifts for her friends. LV, Chanel, Hermes, D&G, etc., etc., during a recent visit from my son and daughter in law, who live in Germany. my daughter in law asked by why have bootleg/knock off/counterfeit items. i had no idea they were not real. None of the items I’ve received are authentic. I dont need more accessories and I don't wish to wear counterfeit items. Should i say nothing and discontinue wearing the fakes?

[il-lele-permaloso]

ciao questo è un ask ti ho askato qualcosa sei contento dell'ask? askami ciao

Ask

[redhatmeg]

Hot take on Jacek Kaczmarski /// Jeśli przesadzam z askami, to powiedz ^^;

Hot take on Jacek Kaczmarski, hm... I don't have anything about him, aside from the fact that once in a while I discover something new from him and I listen to it constantly. Recently it was Upadek Ikara which was perfect for my Hercules: The Animated Series phase XD.

And no, you don't overdo the asks. If anything, I'm disappointed that you're the only one asking about anything.

Come on, people. I can do fandoms, I can do movies, anime and shows. I can even talk about Christmas.

[petnews2day]

Neighbors never offer compensation for watching their dog – Chicago Tribune

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Neighbors never offer compensation for watching their dog – Chicago Tribune

Dear Amy: Friends ask us regularly to watch their dog, but never offer us any compensation. We are not asking for cash, but a gift card would be nice. They ask us to do this every year for one week in the summer, and then other periods throughout the year, usually lasting for a few […]

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[satorugojowidow]

Um i feel kiind of guilty coming forward but im not sure what to do anymore. I'm a cis guy. And my mother humiliated me - and also did so on feminist dot com (though she deliberately left out how much of it was forced and how extreme it actually got and that it had been happening for at least five years by the time she bragged to "Ask Amy"). https://www.feminist.com/askamy/girls/604_girls2.html

I believe it is important to not internalize gender roles in our kids, but gender does exist in the culture we live in and it is normal that children would tend to assume one of their choices. I believe parents must be open and offer different options, but should respect the decision the children make about themself. Decisions that can change as they grow up and that is normal because identity is a lifetime process. Forcing you to dress with clothes and show a gender expression you don’t feel comfortable with it it’s not okay. I don’t have all the details, but it can be understood as a form of abuse. This behavior of forcing children to meet parent’s expectations or failed dreams is very common with parents of children that are forced to do beauty contests or start a career in art or sport from a very young age. Again, I don’t know all the details, but as a feminist myself I believe it is wrong to try to model our children according to some “theory” and is totally opposed to what feminism as a movement and field of social studies proposes. Feminism is about understanding children as human with rights, that should be raised with love and freedom to become what they chose to be.

[pensarecool2]

i feel kiind of guilty coming forward but im not sure what to do anymore. I'm a cis guy. And my mother humiliated me - and also did so on feminist dot com (though she deliberately left out how much of it was forced and how extreme it actually got and that it had been happening for at least five years by the time she bragged to "Ask Amy"). https://www.feminist.com/askamy/girls/604_girls2.html

Why are you telling me this? Please don't send me more asks like this. This has nothing to do with me and is not anything I want to deal with.

I'll probably block you, if we're being honest here.

[askamitie]

I wrote out a localization of it a while back could like cover it for funsies lmao no fun visuals tho

Since I’m the AskAmi blog anywya.

[shadowxamyweek]

How do you guys feel about Silver being your son? I mean, Shadow lives forever, so I could definitely see Shadow having Silver. And then Silver could inherit his kindness and naivety from Amy...

But overall, what are YOUR opinions on that thought? And do you think Amy would be a "Momma Bear"?

Amy: It's weird- you're not the first person to ask about that here. Hope you don't mind that we just sort of, you know, address this all at once. Shadow: ...Silver is from 200 years in the future. Amy: That's the thing you respond with? Shadow: It- it's the most logical and irrefutable piece of evidence we have! Amy: Shadow, if time travel is real, then it doesn't matter where we think he's from. For all we know, he could be from 1,000 years in the future, 2,000 years in the past, or from present day. 200 years ahead of our time is just where he calls home and where he says he's from. Shadow: ... Okay? Amy: So I'm a bit more concerned as to why people think he's *our* child. *Ours*. Shadow: ... (⊙_⊙) Amy: Yeah, okay, now you get it. Shadow: He... but... what... no... wait... Amy: Wow, alright, you might have broken him. Shadow: (＠_＠);;; Amy: While Shadow processes that, I'll address the rest of what you wrote. We don't actually know for sure if Shadow *will* live forever. Part of the goal Robotnik had, based on what we've been able to find and what Shadow has been comfortable sharing, was immortality. There's no way to know if that goal has been achieved with Shadow. Like, Shadow's been through a lot, the fall to Earth from the ARK being one of them, don't get me wrong. *Amy shudders.* Amy: But, not to downplay that, Sonic has been through similar things and has survived. Heck, look at what we all went through on the Starfall Islands. So to automatically assume that Shadow is going to live forever might not be... might not be correct. I'm not going to lie... I kinda hope that's wrong, just because of, um... how he talked about it... that one time... anyway. *Amy clears her throat* Amy: As to the rest though, I know Rouge has joked that Silver follows Shadow around like a little lost duckling. Heck, I've even noticed Silver starting to act like Shadow sometimes. That's probably because Shadow is weirdly patient with Silver. Like, no matter what happens, Shadow never loses his cool with the guy, answers all his questions, is always willing to help. Shadow is... for all intents and purposes... kinda... you know what nevermind Shadow has absolutely taken up the role of being Silver's dad. Shadow: Σ(O_O) Amy: I mean you have! Shadow: We're practically the same age! ლ(ಠ_ಠ ლ) Amy: Doesn't matter. You are absolutely being a dad-friend to Silver. You are his dad in spirit. Shadow: ...(ᓀ ᓀ) Amy: You're not denying it. Shadow: You're implicating yourself in this, you know that. Amy: *How?* Shadow: If I fit the parameters of 'dad-friend,' then you are absolutely his 'mom-friend.' Amy: That- that's not the same! I'm nice to everyone! Shadow: Different types of nice. You are not nice to everyone like you are nice to Silver. Amy: No, wait, come on. No- Shadow: And to their point of 'mama-bear,' do I need to remind you about what happened at the sandwich shop last month? Amy: No... Shadow: The question was rhetorical. Amy: Shadow-! Shadow: Silver picked a meal that would give him pickles, since he loves pickles, and when failed to get any, you took it upon yourself to march up to the counter and not only *ask* for the pickles he was supposed to get, but then *demanded* he get extra! Amy: He wanted pickles! Shadow: I had already given him mine! *Amy points accusingly* Amy: Dad-friend. Dad-friend behavior right there. Shadow: STOP IT!

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Dear Barb: Answers to Your Everyday Questions

[tommywiseau]

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[ekamy]

🐶🍏🌤

🐶 Do you have any pets?

Two! A cocker spaniel poodle mix who is 11 years old named Marty, and a 4-month old black cat named Tombo. 😊

🍏 Favorite Fruit?

I love oranges!! Especially clementines.

⛅ Favorite type of weather?

Sunny but with a nice Fall breeze. 🍂

[celestiowls-nest]

I hope you know , your adorable and an incredible human. I hope life is good to you in the future.

Thankyou