#Fresh Out The Bank

[mendingmusic]

Fresh Out The Bank (feat. Dave)

[inkskinned]

no, but really, we need to talk about the casual objectification that has become the fallback discourse of the internet: if you're pretty and dressed nicely, you're a slut. and if you're even vaguely outside of their body standard, you're fucking disgusting.

too-frequently, people position sex workers as being "the problem". they sneer you're addicted to pornography, you don't know what a real woman looks like. but real women are in pornography. the real bodies on display are not the issue here: the issue is that other people feel extremely confident when commenting on someone's physique.

2000's super-thin is slowly worming its way back into the public ideal. recently i saw someone get told to "go for a run", despite the fact she was on the thinner side of average. not that it would ever be appropriate to say that: but it's kind of like sticker shock when you see it. people think that is fat? holy shit. do they just have no idea about things?

but what are you going to do about it? that's the problem, right. because chances are - you're a normal person. we can say normalize carrying fat on your body, but we are not the billion-dollar diet industry. we are not the billion-dollar fashion industry. we are just, like. people. who are trying to make content on the internet, without being treated shittily.

as someone who has been on both sides of things: you are treated better when you are thin and pretty. this is statistically correct. i am not saying that you cannot be bullied for being thin; i'm saying there are objective institutional biases against certain bodytypes. there are videos of men and women who lost weight all saying: i now know for a fact exactly how much worse you're treated. in the comments, some asshole inevitably says something akin to you deserved to be dehumanized when you were fat.

which means that ... the easiest thing to do is be pretty and thin. it is the path of least resistance, because of course it is, because any time you post a picture of yourself without a thigh gap, someone immediately comments something like you need to try a diet.

the other half is also dehumanizing though, huh, just in a different way. when i put on makeup and nice clothes, i am told i slept my way to the top as a professional. do you know how many women in STEM have told me they purposefully dress to "unimpress" because they already struggle to be taken seriously and if they're ever considered pretty - it for some reason takes away from their authority.

so they make it seem like it's your fault. you, existing in a body - it's your fault! if you didn't want shitty comments, don't have a body. they position us against each other like chess pieces; vying for male attention we don't even need.

and i can be an authority on this unless you think i'm fat and unattractive. when i am pretty and thin, i'm an activist. when i am just a normal person who makes a good point: i am immediately dismissed. nobody fucking believes you if you're not seen as attractive. you literally lose value. you cease to exist.

but the whole time, it feels like - is anyone actually grounded the fuck in reality? the line of "pretty and thin" keeps shifting. nobody seems to understand what "a normal weight" even looks like, because it's not something that exists - you cannot tell a person's health by looking at their body. even if you think you could tell that, even if you're sure a person is dangerously overweight - people are not your dolls. they do not need to be dressed up or displayed properly to soothe your aesthetics. you aren't concerned for them, you're stealing their agency. you don't get to say if they're "allowed" to take pictures and post them on the internet - you don't get to tell them how to exist.

people hide behind "the obesity epidemic" without any actual qualifications. they crow things about "normalizing unhealthiness".

but it's bullshit. i have visible abs. there is a pair of parallel lines on my body, even when i'm relaxed; where my obliques meet my abdominal wall. i am proud of this because it means i'm strong, because i overcame an eating disorder only to be ripped as fuck. it is genetic and physical luck that i even get any definition, i'm pleased as punch.

but it does mean that my abdominal wall sticks out a little bit. the other day i posted a video of myself dancing, and, for a moment, my shirt slipped. you could see a little bit of my stomach. i was cartwheeling to the floor. moments before this, i'd had my foot over my head.

a guy slid into my DMs. a row of vomiting emojis prefaced: you should really lose some weight before you think about dancing.

i stared at it for a long time. there was a time when i would have been triggered by this, where it would have encouraged me to starve myself. i would have ignored the fact i'm flexible, agile, good at jumping: i would have lost the weight for a stranger's passing comment. i would have found myself and my body fucking disgusting.

and for what? to please what? because why? so that he can exist in this world without an unchallenged eyeball? what would my self-hatred even accomplish? usually i write paragraphs. obviously. on this particular occasion, in this body i've been at war with for ages: i just felt exhausted.

it shouldn't be even worth saying. it shouldn't be hard to explain. all of this emotional turmoil when he cannot even comprehend the most basic truth: i am not an object on display for him.

[morganpdf]

not 2 sound old but love going 2 target for an sd card and being surprised that i could get a 32 gb one for 13.99 LMAO like. its not 2013 anymore ofc the price changed since you bought the 2gb one originally for your 3ds

[wellisntthatinteresting]

The Tortured Jiara Department #9

I gotta say, as I was preparing to post this song came out of nowhere. But it’s kinda perfect…

🎵Song

Fresh Out The Slammer

💿Track number

7

👫Whose vibes are we picking up on?

Kiara/Jiara season 3 vibes, with Kie being on lockdown in various ways (Singh, parents, Kittyhawk)

💕Lyric loves

“Now, pretty baby, I'm running back home to you / Fresh out the slammer, I know who my first call will be to”

“All those nights you kept me going / Swirled you into all of my poems / Now we're at the starting line, I did my time”

“And no matter what I've done, it wouldn't matter anyway / Ain't no way I'm gonna screw up now that I know what's at stake”

✍️Wellisntthatinteresting’s take

Color me surprised that a song with “slammer” in the title isn’t all about JJ. But here we are. The proverbial slammer can be interpreted in the traditional sense (how many times was Kie held against her will in S3 again?🤔). But almost as important, Kiara and JJ are prisoners of their own inner demons and thoughts, which is why the burn in S3 is so painfully slow as actions catch up with thoughts and feelings.

8/10 This one is another slow burner but with more listens, really becomes a solid track. The breathiness in the vocals evokes a sense of longing that I think works really well in the context of Jiara.

[cold--carnage]

idk who I am tbh but I don't feel well

[simly-sunshine]

TTPD is going to destroy me mind body and soul

[muirneach]

scribbling on notepad like a detective…. in order to feel human…. you have to be an active community member…

[mybrainproblems]

when you discover that half the groceries you bought last night were bad but you threw the receipt away so that's $10+ in the trash and then the cost of having to re-buy the same things

[bitchfitch]

also I've decided that as a fun companion to the fact Chase's fangs are lil pop ons he bought on ebay, vampires in that universe do not have fangs. They still need blood to survive, and they are driven to bite, but there is nothing special about their teeth other than them being very sturdy. Despite this their pop culture is the same as ours and basically everyone thinks vampires have fangs.

Chase has a hello kitty pocket knife to help with this issue but if he's hungry enough he will not take the time to get it out before gnashing on someone.

[pinktinselmonstrosity]

one of my all time favourite hobbies is wandering aimlessly around a market. pick up some interesting cheeses. look at some local homemade pottery. buy a scotch egg from a combination butchers/candy shop. rifle through some vintage clothes. ideal morning activity

[foxcassius]

okay so i put the cash i have left in japan in front of me and stared at it and i think i will be okay so long as sending my suitcases does not cost MORE than ¥12,000. i have to put ¥10,000 back in my bank account for fucking docomo, i need another ¥10,000 to pay for trains to the goddamn airport because transportation in japan is not anywhere near as cheap as the internet would lead you to believe, then the ¥12,000 for having the suitcases taken to my airbnb and i'll have ¥5,000 left to. eat at all until i leave the country. and when i check my second bag i will simply have to use my american debit card bc thats All i have here 👍

[narutomaki]

was gifted an immersion(? the handheld ones) blender recently and cried. bcus I can now blend vegetables easily. lmao.

immediately made veggie slop

I feel like I've mentioned this already I'm just really happy with it bcus I made a smoothie tonight :)

it tastes bad lmfao

[bijoumikhawal]

Funds for Haiti and Haitian Americans

A Haitian American woman with long Covid and her daughter with cancer have both been struggling to raise funds that would help them during their illnesses. Both of them live in the Midwest, which is where a lot of the most recent fear mongering has been centered.

COJEHA is a Haitian organization that provides financial support for youth, teaches agricultural skills, helps ensure children attend school, and teaches other soft life skills. They're working on building a farm with fish and vegetable crops where teaching occurs, which will also increase local access to fresh food.

P4H Global is the organization that has been working on building the canal connected to the Massacre River, another agricultural project. They have also been working to support education in Haiti, with both teachers and students.

The Haitian Community Center in Springfield, Ohio. Springfield's food bank, community health center, and a local Catholic organization that provides aid are also accepting donations.

Richard Pierrin is a journalist who has had to flee Haiti and is trying to get a visa that will allow him to work, and that doesn't end after 3 months.

Marc Henry and his family have been dealing with food insecurity for months, and are trying to get funds so they can eat, as well as supplies like livestock and fishing equipment so they can sustain themselves even after the fundraiser is done. They're close to their goal.

An elderly couple's home was damaged multiple times over the last few years and they are trying to raise funds to finish construction. They are also very close to their goal.

A fundraiser for children in Jacmel to provide food, water, and clothes.

A fund for several families to secure plane tickets out of the country

OTRAH is an organization that helps trans Haitians and wants to expand their services to combat HIV. They don't have a gofundme, instead donations are discussed over email.

There is also this thread of Haitian gofundmes which updates fairly regularly

This document explaining the leadup to where we are now also names some organizations that could use financial support

[vargamornight]

credit scores are so fucking fake, i just filed an appeal for a collections debt and basically said "nuh uh" and they removed it in like two days

[carolinemathildes]

and when I start taking vitamin d and going for more walks and spending more time around others and I’m still depressed and want to die every day then what???

[futuristicallyshadowyface]

Can't even come back from a fucking hair cut in peace bro it's always "yeah everyone actually hates you" like my GOD why is my name always in your fucking mouth find something else to talk about