#Mod axel

[aro-culture-is]

aro culture is not being out to your family as "aromantic" but being known as the relative who isn't interested in dating or marriage

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[just-aro]

Hi! I was wondering what the difference was between a non split attraction aromantic and then a unit aromantic?

Because they’re different things but I don’t really understand how different if that makes sense?

hi! historically speaking, unit aro was designed to be a different term for the same experience as non-sam aro. the thought was that, as aromanticism explicitly refers to a form of attraction under the non-sam model, the term was self-contradicting, and it would be nice to have a different term. there were a lot of proposed terms, including unit aro. (two links)

unit aro was defined to describe the idea of experiencing attraction as a "unit", and that unit being "aromantic". prime aro was defined as aromanticism being the "primary" lens/identity through which you experience your identity. arch aro was that aromanticism was your "overarching" identity.

ultimately, the differences are... largely linguistic, but each does have a slightly different feeling to it. our system hadn't realized we were plural yet when this discussion was happening, and had a big problem with unit aro that we couldn't articulate then that was probably because of our plurality. we mostly just call ourselves aro, and in some circles may elaborate as per individual preferences (ie, phoenix identifies as gay and aro, alexander as just aro, myself as aroqueer).

we broadly don't expand on our identity beyond being aro in spaces that aren't solely aromantic, because being aromantic is the most important part of our experience in orientation. we vibe more with the concept of prime aro, but can't stand the shortening being primaro tbh, and honestly... just don't care.

-- axel

[yfmimagines]

[aro-culture-is]

Previously partnered autistic aro culture is using big scientific words in casual conversation because they're words and people are allowed to say them and your ex thinking you're a pretentious asshole and that you think you're smarter than everyone else.

oh hey, mood

[aro-culture-is]

aro culture is being a very confusing person.

born female, physically presenting as male (because headmates), is intensely aesthetically and sexually attracted to masculinity, and because many people equate sex=romance, they have troubles understanding how I'm aro despite the sexual attraction I feel.

I actually don't know how to introduce myself to people anymore without confusing people haaaard. It's like bashing someone's expectations of me at each turn!

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[aro-culture-is]

tarot reading aro culture is looking up “[insert thing that has nothing to do with romance] tarot spread” AND STILL GETTING LOVE SPREADS SOMEHOW like THAT’S NOT WHAT I SEARCHED FOR 😭😭😭😭

It’s literally every time, without fail. Life’s tough out there for an aro tarot enjoyer (a t-aro-t?)

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[aro-culture-is]

aro culture is seeing hanahaki as a horror story. what do you mean this person is dying and it's my fault if they die?

fr fr

[aro-culture-is]

Quick question: so the ace community has lots of different things that are considered ace, like cake, garlic bread, and dragons. Is there anything similar the aro community has? I'm arospec and ace, and on Ace Week I like to eat the related foods. Just wondering if there's anything similar I can do for Aro Week. If not, discount Valentine's Day chocolate it is.

assorted aro types of things, definitely missing some:

white aro ring

i've asked before about food, and gotten the clever response of mac-aro-ni, though that's not big... yet

lots of puns about arrows. so many. the weapon, but we could probably do things with the shape

the color green, snakes, frogs, and assorted green things

realistic heart emoji, <2, green heart emoji

i'm so missing things but this is what my brain is giving me, public aro comments, go!

[aro-culture-is]

Aro culture is shrieking in excitement when a pride collection includes the aro flag!!!!

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[aro-culture-is]

aro culture is my dream life is renting out a group of apartments or like. a duplex. and living there with all my friends

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[aro-culture-is]

aro culture is spending hours planning out your dream wedding as a kid only to realize later you didn’t actually care about the getting married part and never even thought about your imaginary partner you just really wanted a big fancy party in an aquarium…

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[aro-culture-is]

Trans aro culture is looking back at all your childhood 'crushes' and going "oh that was gender envy"

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[aro-culture-is]

Aro culture is having a period of time where you question if you are aro, then you hear about some allo-specific Nonsense and go 'yep. No question there actually. I am aro'

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[aro-culture-is]

Aro culture is i have a game idea.

1. Pick a statement allos tell us about romance. Example: "Oh you'll find a romantic partner soon"

2. Now swap romance with some niche hobby that you have no interest in doing

3. Now it sounds like this "Oh you'll find a perfect horse soon."

What does this do? To put into perspective that indiscriminately forcing romance on ALL of us is actually weird. It's actually funny and strange once you swap romance with something else. Then you realize, oh how is forcing romance to everyone normal? It's not! It's just as funny and strange too, actually.

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[aro-culture-is]

Aro culture is being so damn sleepy rn

huge mood

[aro-culture-is]

aro culture is reading/ watching a piece of media and loving this amazing friendship two characters have... but then they start to stare at each other for a little too long... so then you slowly realise what the writer has planned and want to pull your hair out and scream

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