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pirateprincessjess · 4 months

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How do you get this far into adulthood *on the internet* without basic knowledge on how to cook are you stupid on purpose

Dang, I wouldn’t say that I’m stupid just because I didn’t know one thing.

My parents hate vegetables. Every meal I had at home growing up was either a frozen box meal or a from a can. My family didn’t teach me how to cook. They taught me how to heat up a frozen meal.

Now I absolutely love vegetables, and I love cooking. Unfortunately it’s hard to learn basic cooking skills as an adult because I tend to get called stupid when I admit that I don’t know something.

#where else was i supposed to learn this shit.#I took a basic cooking class and they assumed I had more knowledge than I started with #these are the kind of things that people expect your family to teach you #and if your family fails to do so #then everyone just calls you stupid

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dailyloopdeloop · 4 months

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DAY 71: shy

#codacheetah #isat #loop isat #isabeau isat #isat spoilers #i'll never get over loop being described as 'shy'. what a wonderful image #top one casual remarks from isabeau that cleaves loop's facade #like loop's personality is just a targeted missile to piss siffrin off. they're not at all confident and snarky #they're doing like the physical manifestation of winning an argument against yourself in the shower #second they see the party though Oopsies we're in scary territory. That's your family and they dont know it's you Oops #ok anyways ever since i saw that post i was like damn. this is just how i view loop in party postcanon #for as much as I think they SHOULD go explore around and be their own person for a while i think realistically they would not do that.#theyre going to go be a weird freak hovering around the party and refusing to socialize with anyone but siffrin and theyre gonna feel awful #(read: they're going to antagonize siffrin and it fails tremendously bc now The Rumor Come Out and siffrin knows what loop is doing.)#like loop as much as they can barely stand to even look at isabeau (for instance) i think their claws are sunk far too deep in.#onehats maybe the circumstances are different because there is a gap in understanding. there's no point forcing siffrin to confront the #obvious conclusion that loop is them (and thus siffrin's happy ending nails loop's coffin)#(THIS IS IGNORING TWOHATS PREREQS GOTTEN ONEHATS. BC THATS ITS OWN CAN OF WORMS)#but twohats. idk. for as much as it lets loop release some of their rage and process their feelings a bit. i think it might also be the pus #that makes loop consider their own existence as a person a bit more. theyre not a sponsor->corpse theyre just loop #theyre just somebody who wants desperately. they want to stay with them #theyre still siffrin. if also loop.#i think loop would force themself to reconnect with the party in the same vein as siffrin forcing himself to communicate more.#but of course having conviction and living an experience are not the same thing. so siffrin's going to flounder the emotional honesty thing #tremendously and loop's going to be. blair witching it in the corner.#hey i might have forgotten which post i was writing the tags under. oopsies #idk if these tags are comprehensible at all. i just really want to see loop fail upwards into friendship with everyone

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biggest-gaudiest-patronuses · 2 years

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This election day, I'm thinking of my Nana.

I'm thinking of how as a young woman, she fled political violence in her native Colombia to build a new home in a more stable country. I'm thinking about how she lived a long life, but not long enough to see her home country elect its first ever progressive president (just a few months ago!).

Coincidentally, I was living in Colombia at that time (in the very city she grew up in), and I was able to witness what felt like a miracle. A very conservative country, suffering from the violent inheritance of colonization and catholic invasion and the war on drugs, against a backdrop of the dangerous global rise of the far right--this unlikely country managed to elect one of the most progressive heads of state in the world, in 2022. That's a pretty big deal.

And I'm thinking about this, this election day, because that election was won by a very thin margin. I'm thinking about how it almost didn't happen. I'm thinking about how it was only possible thanks to the highest voter turnout in 20 year. And I am thinking about the countless number of voters who chose to vote for the first time. I am thinking of the poorest and most disenfranchised citizens who showed up at the polls. I am thinking of the indigenous women who rode 12 hours on public buses to vote at the 'nearest' polling stations. I am thinking of all the money and corruption that went into preventing minority citizens from voting, and I'm thinking about how they showed up in the millions and voted anyway.

I am thinking that I would like to see a miracle like that in my own home country.

So if you're on the fence about waiting in line today to cast your vote, I hope that you will think--about the country you want to live in, the future you hope will unfold, and about all of the people it takes to make a miracle.

Because history may deem us nameless and faceless, but when we show up en masse, we are the ones who make history happen.

And yes, maybe also spare a thought for my Nana. Who was in fact a very angry and judgemental woman who supported the republican party for 50+ years, and who would be turning in her grave right now (if the family hadn't had her cremated). Think about the mean angry ghost of my Colombian grandmother, who very much wants you to not show up at the polls to support abortion and other sinful progressive values. Think about her. Do it for her. Do it for Nana.

#Do it! for her #not a shitpost #serious post #politics #ask to tag #I love you Nana but i disagree SO vehemently with almost all of your personal political and religious values #also you should have treated my mom SO MUCH BETTER when she was a kid. all of your kids really #i see you very much as a victim of religious trauma & childhood poverty #followed by the cultural isolation of being a first generation immigrant with no local hispanic community to provide support #plus the failure of late 20th century mental health care almost certainly compounded by medical sexism #recognize sympathize and am indignant on your behalf for all of those reasons and more #but that truth can also coexist alongside the truth that #hot DAMN Nana you and Papa very much failed to provide your children with an emotionally safe and stable environment in which to grow #and me and my sibs are still dealing with the generational trauma #and who knows how many of my cousins. I HAVE TWENTY-ONE COUSINS AND I DON'T TALK TO ANY OF THEM #that is too many cousins to not be in contact with any of them #(and fyi that's on *one* side of the family. on the other side are a dozen half-aunts-and-cousins I've never met #because Other Grandpa was a Certified Piece of Shit)#Anyway. ANYWAY...#apparently i really needed to overshare today. know what? no judgement. judgement free zone #i have no judgement thoughts or opinions i am finally FREE #........gosh that sounds so relaxing #ANYway #yeah. break the cycle of abuse or your descendants will grow up and critique your parenting choices on third-tier social media platforms #when people say 'they will always be remembered' at a funeral--that is a THREAT #what they actually mean is 'OH HONEYBUN YOU DONE FUCKED UP'#.........i want that in my eulogy actually

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tacagen · 3 months

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one of the things that fascinate me about thawne: yes, he CAN be normal with kids! surprisingly normal!

((not at all times, though. his mental illness still spills through and as usual he, in trying to manipulate or hurt others, spits out at them the exact stuff that would hurt him (or have in his childhood/barry's rejection interpretation) the most in the first place lmao))

but at the same time. his like second instinct when doing his bullshit is FUCK THEM (as) KIDS

(and, well. whatever this classifies as)

#whats wrong with him. seriously. he loves picking fights with literal children So Much #AND NONE OF THEM WITH WALLY ON THE MATTER OF BEING THE BIGGEST FLASH FAN. HOW DID THAT NEVER HAPPEN #about the middle page. honestly i DIDNT remember he is a Jerk in that way too until i checked his interactions with bart for this post #this man officially should not be allowed near children as a mentor.#just straight up drops ALL his insecurities on a poor kid in trying to make him feel ashamed. NO breaking the abuse cycle for this bad boy #the only thing he doesnt say is the direct 'you are a disappointment' altho the message is still the same 💀💀💀💀💀💀#AND I BET HES HELLA PROUD OF THAT. I MEAN CONSIDERING THIS FACT IG HE DOES TRY TO BE BETTER THAN HIS PARENTS. SOMEWHAT.#and omg he formulates his point like in problem based learning (leading the child to making the correct conclusion themselves)#im dying. professor to the fucking core.#and the way he feels the need to bring up flash facts in his appeal?? EO YOURE SO HOPELESS. THIS IS 100% HOW BART SAW HIM THROUGH #and god knows what he told thad promising to get him out of the speed force if he fought barry there and whether he was going to fulfill it #and do you even IMAGINE how FUCKED barry's mental condition would be growing up if thawne fulfilled his button threat #and i really REALLY wonder about the tornado twins and their relationship with 'uncle eobard' but that will be a separate post #he doesnt know any other way tho. and he might be actually mad at bart for not supporting his every action as The Flash #like. he tries to play family but the second they question he just goes WHATEVER. I DONT NEED IT. FLASH OF MY VISION RUNS ALONE #his problem is that he just wants attention. he doesnt see family/heroing for what 'its really about' or downsides that may come with them #everything is so idealized in his head. and the moment he faces reality with its complications the concept immediately gets antagonized.#and then he reconsiders and changes the conditions but fails each time never realizing the problem is his mindset and not everything else #black white at its finest yall #and man. RELATABLE.#also WHY is he standing LIKE A STATUE when appearing in front of bart????😭😭😭😭#poor museum rat has no idea what heroes in real life stand like #eobard thawne #professor zoom #reverse flash #the reverse flash #bart allen #the flash #dc

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stromer · 5 months

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call me crazy... but i think hockey belongs in the desert idk

#just like. absolutely gutted that some little kid lost their favorite hockey team today #coolest jerseys in the league... AURA that's just absolutely unmatched on all regards. gone like that #the genuine lack of empathy i've encountered reading comments and what not. these people are actual sickos.... do they even SEE IT?#and ownership ONLY TOLD THE PLAYERS/STAFF BECAUSE THE RELOCATION NEWS GOT LEAKED!!!!!!!!! waht the hell #staff/communities/families/writers/players etc etc are all losing something... like garyb can always Get Bent but these are real ppl!#pouring your heart out into a team for so many years; none of which have been easy just to get this in return #fucking utah.... to play in an arena that is literally not even built for hockey........ like we've lost the plot so incredibly bad esp whe #the top goal scorer in the league is literally from arizona LOL #say all you want abt yotes failing but they knew friendship... they knew love... they knew how to see the world in a grain of sand...#i'm not even a diehard yotes fan but this just blows and az deserves better than this

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earlgodwin · 1 year

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THE BORGIA SIBLINGS + descriptions by their portrayers "I will not have this family at war with itself."

#and yet rodrigo played them like pawns and pit them against each other (unintentionally since he's too blinded by his ambitions lol)#i mean i do love rodrigo but but he fucked his children up with his ambitions and favoritism #especially juan...he set him up to fail by singling him out making him gather his siblings' resentment when all juan wanted was harmony #a cheerful little shit full of bravado until the weight of expectations sucked the life out of him #and then being shunned by his family and having no single peer and no one to hold him or guide his misguided soul #and cesare was boiling with jealousy because of juan's position like bro juan didn't even ask for it??#how about you direct all your anger @ rodrigo instead of direvting them to your desperate little brother ?#ANYWAYS they're all so prettyyyy #juan borgia #lucrezia borgia #cesare borgia #the borgias #theborgiasedit #perioddramaedit #david oakes #the borgia siblings #cinemapix #holliday grainger #dailytvfilmgifs #by jen

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swagging-back-to · 3 months

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worst trope is found family separating as soon as the antagonist is dealt with.

#yes this is about voltron and it's also about guardians of the galaxy #what james gunn did to gamora in GOTG3 is criminal #i understand why they did it but to end with her GOING BACK TO THE RAVAGERS?#fail end.#seriously #and it doesnt even make sense bc ofc the high evolutionary isnt going to be the last problem they would deal with #in just a few years they encountered 5 people trying to destroy the universe and who were incredibly difficult foes #youre finna tell me there will never be a situation like that for the rest of their lives?#gtfo #and mantis' end was dumb too not even sorry #i can tolerate drax and nebula's ends.#but everyone else?#stupid #even peter's ending was fucking moronic. bro can pop in on the weekends he doesnt need to be a live in nurse for his grandpa #it's just such a major letdown and sucks everytime a director/author decides to split up the found family permanently #at least with voltron you can rationalize it by saying 'oh they never really wouldve hung out with eachother if they werent forced to for #voltron and werent forced to fight a war together.' and i can see it bc none of them DO hang out together before voltron #they barely even hang out AFTER they become voltron #keith and shiro hang out bc of the adoption/fostering/mentoring thing. lance and hunk MIGHT hang out bc they were already teammates #it's important to note that we never really see hunk and lance being bffs. theyre just friendly to eachother.#this becomes even more apparent once hunk and pidge actually become friends. it's very obvious hunk was just being friendly to lance.#just friendly.#(take this with a grain of salt bc ive only watched the whole series one time. i refuse to acknowledge anything after se 2.)#so yeah it does make more sense theyd all go their own ways but not even the small friend groups stay together at the end!#pidge and hunk are in completely different galaxies from eachother. same with keith and shiro #lance is isolated from all of them bc post se 3 writing team genuinely hated him and failed him as a character.#but GOTG3? they CHOSE to band together time and time again. they CHOSE to be a team. they CHOSE to be family #for every single one of them to say 'nah fuck that i want to be on my own bc uhhh reasons!' is a lame ending.#period.#gotg3

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cloudysarts · 8 months

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imagine if the federation tried to make a phoenix with birdperson's daughter wouldn't that be fucked up hahaha < insane

like father like daughter.

(pr0/c0mship dni)

#Rick and Morty #rick n morty #rnm #ram #fanart #Birdperson #Birddaughter #bird person #bird daughter #phoenixperson #phoenixdaughter #phoenix person #birdrick #if you squint #ive had this idea for a long time i hope no one beat me to it #ive doodled her a little but i was DYINGGG to make her a full design so . behold #rick and morty oc #angst #i tried to make it look like bp got his ass kicked in a fight with her before eventually shutting her down . if that wasnt obvious #i have lots of Thoughts for why i made her design the way i did so feel free to ask :p #blood #cyborg #something something parallel to rick projecting all of his negative experiences onto beth and continuing the cycle of abuse etc #compared to bp who tried his best but his kid was doomed to fail being the child of a criminal and the leader of the federation #my original caption for this was 'birdpersons worst nightmare'. because imagine seeing via ur best friend #the kind of negative effects that letting your past control your life can have. so you vow to do better for ur future family #only to watch your kid end up JUST. LIKE. YOU. especially all the parts of you you didnt want her to be #and having to wonder if it was your fault. IDK IM INSANE IM CRAZY birddaughter best charatcer i need her back </3 #cloudysarts

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moeblob · 1 year

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Day 4: Dirt (and Imitation)

I realized while coloring the Muspell sisters that Hrid canonically has a grimy phase in book 2 so. Here we are. Two ways to handle a sibling covered in dirt. (care for them or insult them)

#fe heroes #laegjarn #laevatein #hrid #fjorm #fire emblem siblings week 2023 #me trying SO HARD to not only draw the nifl siblings and failing challenge #listen i just really think hrid is neat! i cant help that i wanna draw him so much!#and the week theme of siblings coincides PERFECTLY with my take on him as sibling adopter extraordinaire #thank you for your time have gross and stinky hrid #i know now (someone reminded me how) that thats not the reason behind knowing who the imposter is #but imagine the power of siblings as the reasoning instead ok #just think about the bond between family that involves teasing your big bro about being a stinky man #and that is the biggest red flag of all that you dont call him out #also yeah i was like teehee gonna draw the laesibs then ..... didnt wanna do the armor #so i just tossed em in hoodies AFTER i drew laevateins horns and so im like well guess i gotta draw laegs too

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s1llycilantro · 1 year

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why does it feel like the only people who actually understand Kai's personality end up being autistic people. Saw someone say he's cold and overly serious. I'm sorry?? are we talking about the same character?? The guy who forced Joe to call him Mr. Kebab?? The same dude whohad major beef with Alice over a fucking necklace??? Who chased Reko to tell her ghost stories?? Fuck in the manga he's such a little dweeb constantly.

Just because he's monotone and, I will die on this hill, has MANY autistic traits and or symptoms it doesn't mean he's this cool calm collected dude with his life together. This sounds like utter gibberish but all I wanted to do today was happily scroll through the Kai Satou tag and was slapped in the face with mischaracterization every now and again. To quote Nao he is simply silly and cute. And heavily burdened by the sins of his family as well as his own. But that's another story

#Kai Satou #your turn to shine #yttd #joe tazuna #nao egokoro #sara chidouin #reko yabusame #alice yabusame #yttd kai #I'm so normal about him (lie)#I have so many opinions and thoughts on his character #why do so many ppl fail to understand him he's like the guy ever #also yes i did see someone say kai had his life put together and just stared at it for a bit because HOW #motherfucker vehemently lived by serving other people he has no sense of self worth/value #and is terrified of letting himself get close to good people out of fear that he'll hurt them #and that SUCKS because that's EXACTLY WHAT HAPPENED ☹️#i could go more in depth but i'm thinking so many thoughts abt the satou family #theyre so tragic

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patheticblorbloscholar · 4 months

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People have had two years to read the fucking comic and people still think Spider is going to be a villain. There truly is a media literacy problem in this country and it makes me so frustrated. The conclusions they are drawing have zero evidence in canon.

#Im so frustrated #james camerons avatar #sully family saga #spider sully #spider sully formally Socorro #I want to pull my hair out #spider soccoro #someone come get your kids #read the fucking comic #Listen to James cameron #maybe rewatch the first movie #do something you are driving me insane #Fandom wank #If they dont improve they truly are doomed to fail

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diagonal-queen · 8 months

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can't believe none of you have mentioned that in kunikida's new years mayoi side story, he asks yosano for help cleaning ranpo's desk because he 'doesn't know what he's allowed to touch' help that's so precious to me. he respects his coworkers so much i can'tfucking handle it they are just a little family

AND THEN YOSANO IS LIKE 'oh tanizaki while you're out shopping can you buy some candy and ramune. ranpo's almost out we need to top him up' why is this 26 year old manchild receiving more love from his coworkers than i ever have from my parents

#dia's daydreams #dazai's paperwork is canonically SO messy that tanizaki compares it to 'geological layers'#and he found an unfinished report of dazai's from the week prior. the only thing filled out was the *date*. i'm crying #and the way kunikida is like 'please can you do this thing for me' and everyone is like 'yea sure' and he's like 'thank you so much. this m #eans more to me than you'll ever realise. i appreciate it more than you know. many thanks'#like goddamnit wtf kunikida stop being perfect challenge failed #also him warning naomi and haruno against going out alone in the dark he's so sweet #and then they convince him to let loose and come see fireworks with them?? help they ARE a family #and then kunikida being like 'i did your stupid fucking papers for you' and dazai just saying 'i appreciate that'#no dumb quips just a little 'thanks man'. like help thats so sweet im gonna kms

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pucaantaibhse · 10 months

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The contrast and the parallels between Tula in the preview for next week’s episode confronting Ava for trying to blame the family instead of letting herself feel sad, and her getting mad at Lila for suggesting that that she’s mad at Geoffrey for dying… it’s delicious.

#on one hand she’s encouraging Ava to feel her emotions while discouraging Lila #but if she’d grown up with EVERYTHING bad happening to a family member being attributed to their own failings #it kind of makes sense she’d have a knee-jerk reaction to Lila ‘doing the same’ so to speak #Brennan lee mulligan your characters make me feral #burrow’s end #dimension 20 #d20 #d20 tula #d20 Ava #d20 lila #burrow’s end spoilers

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zhongrin · 10 months

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"i really hope you don't have any more work for the rest of this year. fingers crossed [client] isn't giving us more work, but if they do i'm dumping it to january."

"here's my performance evaluation for the team this year: you guys didn't take enough day offs, so make sure to do so next year."

"friendly reminder to remember to log out from all work apps when you go on your holidays!"

"cancelling this meeting session because of festive season. happy holidays all!"

;w; dear gods, i love my coworkers and the working culture in this company so much

#rin rambles #(these are all said by 4 different people btw)#this is my payment for sticking by a company who made me do deployment till 4am in the office and calls back in at 9am the same day #for a whole 5+ years #work to live not live to work #i dont even need titles atp i can live comfortably enough and i'm satisfied #well for most months #and that's enough #which reminds me #i should use that dental and specs insurance next year hskdjskdj #i would fail so hard at being a mom how tf do you research on which dental ppaces are good but also within budget and #dont fking pressure you into filling every single spot on your teeth #neither school nor my family taught me about the importance of proper health care and it's such a sad reality sometimes

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marbleheavy · 2 years

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hmm question for all socialized as a teenage girl, did y’all hate your moms?

#it’s just such a prevalent choice in media that it’s normalized into society but it doesn’t feel normal #it feels very white nuclear family #like obv w/ puberty there are strained relationships with everyone close to you #but i don’t think that should be classified as “hating your mom”#i didn’t hate my mom and would never feel comfortable saying that bc i know people that genuinely do hate their moms and for good reason so #i wouldn’t ever say that about my mom trying even when she failed #idk many thoughts and i’m not being clear and also very open to changing thoughts and understandings i just want other experiences #cw mommy issues #mommy issues #cw mothers #is that a cw #idk just wanna be careful #marble woes

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wonder-worker · 6 months

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A.J Pollard’s biography on Edward IV was so cringe lol (generic; minor but frustrating inaccuracies; intensely judgmental at times and oddly dismissive at others while never considering the broader context; entirely diminished and trivialized Elizabeth Woodville as both queen and wife of his main subject in the name of "defending" her; created a false dichotomy between Edward and Henry VII’s styles of ruling and lauded the latter at the former’s expense even though Henry literally followed Edward’s example for the very things Pollard was criticizing Edward for; had a downright nonsensical and thoroughly misleading conclusion about Edward’s legacy & Richard’s usurpation that was based entirely on hindsight, Pollard's own assumptions, and the complete downplaying Richard’s agency and actions to emphasize what Pollard wrongly and misleadingly claimed were Edward's so-called 'failings', etc, etc)

I wanted to buy his book on Henry V but after reading this shitshow and the synopsis of that book, im guessing it's going to be 10x worse, so...no thanks

#history media #this was written months ago im posting it to get it out of my drafts #it wasn't necessarily BAD. it was generic and readable. but it was very disappointing and misleading and its conclusion was just nonsense #listen I have no patience for the dumbfuck idea that edward somehow had the ultimate responsibility for his own son's deposition because #of his 'policies' during his reign. like I said it's based fully on hindsight and entirely devoid of actual context. it's bafflingly stupid #literally everyone expected Edward V to succeed his father and 'both hoped for and expected' (Croyland's own words) a successful reign #Edward V's deposition was richard and solely Richard's fault lol this should not be difficult to understand #the reason Richard's usurpation was possible in the first place was bcause everyone expected E5 to succeed and didn't expect Richard #do to what he did. nothing would have happened without his initiative and decisions. it had nothing to do with Edward's 'policies'#Edward's policies were fine. henry vii - who pollard vaunts to no end - literally *followed* them #and claiming that he failed to unite England under the Yorkist dynasty is just plain stupid #buddy if he truly failed at that then neither Richard III nor Henry VII would have thrones lol. both emphasized continuity with #him when aiming for the throne. like the whole point of 1483-85 was that it was a conflict WITHIN the 'Yorkist' dynasty #it was not an external threat against it.#'his legacy failed' his legacy didn't fail his brother destroyed it (while also presenting himself as his heir because logic what's logic?)#henry's victory was very much the triumph of his legacy (a claimant chosen by his supporters as the husband of his daughter)#like this is really not my interpretation it is literally what happened #i'm not trying to glorify e4 but his son did inherit the throne in a more advantageous circumstances than any other minor king of england #and frankly than most other adult kings. dumping blame on Edward's literal corpse rather than acknowledge Richard's agency is so tasteless #the problem isn't that edward made a mistake in trusting his brother. many other kings including Henry V also trusted theirs.#the problem is that his brother was willing to break that trust in a way that was unprecedented and broke all political norms of that age #ie: Richard's usurpation occurred because of Richard who re-ignited conflict to make himself king. please drill this into your head #also btw this illogical 'interpretation' is based entirely on Charles Ross' hatred and derision towards Elizabeth Woodville and her family #if you agree with this inteterpretation you agree with his vilification of them 🤷🏻‍♀️#anyway if you want a better interpretation that's actually analytical and looks a relevant rather than a flawed retrospective perspective #i would recommend rosemary horrox's 'richard iii: a study of service' and david horspool's 'richard iii: a ruler and his reputation'#anyway one last time: STOP downplaying Richard's agency and actions. historians who do this are stupid and embarrassing. bye.#(i should really post horspool's glorious takedown of ross and Pollard huh? it was very entertaining to read)

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