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Anxious Attachment Recovery: Simplified Strategies for Emotional Healing and Relationship Growth" is your comprehensive guide to transforming anxious attachment into secure, confident connections.

Written with empathy and expertise, "Anxious Attachment Recovery" breaks down the complexities of attachment theory into accessible, actionable steps. You’ll explore the roots of anxious attachment, learn to identify and challenge negative thoughts, build emotional awareness, and develop secure attachment habits. Each chapter is designed to empower you with tools for nurturing healthy relationships, strengthening self-esteem, and embracing personal growth.

This book is packed with exercises, journaling prompts, and daily affirmations to support your journey toward emotional healing. With chapters dedicated to overcoming negative thought patterns, building trust, and cultivating independence, "Anxious Attachment Recovery" is your roadmap to a more fulfilling, balanced life.

If you're new to the concept of attachment styles or have been struggling with anxious attachment for years, this book offers the guidance and support you need to reclaim your sense of self-worth, build stronger relationships, and create lasting change. Take the first step towards healing today and discover the confidence to thrive in your relationships and beyond. Buy your copy today!

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The Strange Situation and Attachment Patterns of Mary Ainsworth

In 1970′s research, the psychologist named Mary Ainsworth devised the “Strange Situation” which is a semi-structured laboratory procedure that allows to identify with no lengthy home observation about the infants who effectively use a primary caregiver as a secure base. The procedure was involve a series of eight episodes which lasting in approximately 3 minutes each, whereas the mother, child and the stranger are introduced, separated and reunited. However, the strange situation designed to observe attachment security in children within the context of caregiver relationships or to tell something about the quality of the relationship they had.

Ainsworth’s Attachment Patterns

“Attachment pattern are ways of thinking and behavioral strategies that children develop in order to feel safe and to maximize their opportunities for receiving care and protection from close adults”

In 1970, upon doing the strange situation procedure, Ainsworth identified the four attachment styles or pattern such as secure attachment, insecure-avoidant attachment, insecure-ambivalent/resistant attachment, and disorganized attachment.

The Four Attachment Patterns

SECURE ATTACHMENT PATTERN

“When a child was in a room, it will explore while its parent is present and when its parent leaves the room, the child will start to show of missing its parent during their separation. Someway, the kids in secure attachment pattern was able to separate from their parents but they would be very upset and when their parents would come back they would be happy. Their preference to the parent over stranger is evident. Yet, they seek comfort from their parents/caregiver.”

INSECURE-AVOIDANT ATTACHMENT PATTERN

“The child here was often fails to cry when it was separated in its parent and they avoid and ignore their parent when reunited (by moving away, leaning out of arms if picked up, and turning away). Children in this attachment pattern will show a no preference between a parent and a complete stranger.”

INSECURE-AMBIVALENT/RESISTANT ATTACHMENT PATTERN

“The child here may be wary or distressed prior to separation of their parents and they will show a little exploration of their environment. In this attachment pattern, children would be suspicious to strangers and they seem preoccupied with the status and location of their parent, and may appear angry or passive.”

DISORGANIZED ATTACHMENT PATTERN

“The children of this attachment pattern was most likely develop into psychiatric diagnosis of Reactive Attachment Disorder. Also, the they would display a disorganized or disoriented behaviors when their parents are present. The children here could described as displaying dazed behavior and sometimes they seems like either confused or apprehensive in the presence of their parents.”

When I was a kid, I can say that I have an insecure-ambivalent attachment towards my parents, because as what my mother told me that I’m a crybaby back then at first but gradually as I getting older I become not scared and not a crybaby anymore even if they aren’t around with me. I become not fussy and used to explore things on my own, because according to my mother she didn’t really have her full attention to me because she has a lot of things to do especially in taking care of my sisters who always getting sick before. My father was also busy to his work. That’s why these days, I’m not like others who can simply say “I love you” in a serious way to my parents or to other people (unless if I say it jokingly) because I’m not used to say it, it’s just like I feel awkward or shy when I say it to someone. I actually have difficulties to express my feelings and share my problems to others especially to my parents, because I'm not used to do it since then, it doesn't mean that I didn't trust them, it just like I prefer to keep all of my problems and have a secret battle in facing them, because I'm afraid to be judged I guess or it just like I used to handle all of my problems without the help of others. I also feels like too worried about what other people think about me, which actually caused me anxiety. Anyway, I just realized that the behavior that we have or the way we act as a human person was also depends on how our parents raised us.

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Mary Ainsworth’s Attachment Patterns

Mary Ainsworth is a psychologist who made a big impact on Bowlby's attachment theory. She is known as the mother of attachment theory. Mary Ainsworth modified and improved the theory providing the most famous research which explained the individual differences of new-borns attachment. Mary Ainsworth introduced four patterns of attachment, and these are;

 ·         Avoidant attachment

-       Children will tend to avoid parents or caregivers, showing no preference between a caregiver and a stranger. This might be a result of abusive or neglectful caregivers.

·         Ambivalent attachment

-       Children become very distressed when a parent leaves. As a result of poor parental availability, these children cannot depend on their primary caregiver to be there when they need them.

·         Disorganized attachment

-       Children will display a confusing mix of behavior, disoriented, dazed, or confused. They may avoid the parent. Parents may serve as both a source of comfort and fear, leading to disorganized behavior.

·         Secure attachment

-       Children who can depend on their caregivers show distress when separated and joy when reunited. Although the child may be upset but feel assured when the caregiver will return. The child will seek reassurance from caregivers.

 Among the four patterns of attachment, the best matches my attachment style would be the secure attachment because I am too attached to my caregiver. I see my caregiver as my mother even though she is my aunt. I feel happy when she is around, but when she would be separated from me, I would cry and feel distressed. In short, I am so attached to my caregiver that I can't afford to be separated from her. My aunt is my caregiver because my mother is not around all the time because of work. My mother would return home once a week because her work is far from Davao. My father on the other hand is always around, but he would leave me with my caregiver to take care of me.

My caregiver or my aunt would take care of me 24/7. Her behavior when I was younger, if I may recall, she would feed me, makes me happy, buys me branded things, and dress me up in a fashionable way. My response to that is, I’m happy when I’m with her, and I would always behave whenever she is around.

The possible effect is I'm so attached to her that I consider her as my mother, until now in the present time. Our relationship is like a mother-daughter tandem even until now. Another effect is I'm not close to my mother because she is not around most of the time. I feel awkward when I'm with her. My mother gets jealous of me and my aunt. Now, in the present time, I've observed that my mother is reaching out to me, and I'm also trying to reach out to her like opening up to her more, have a bond with her, and many more. Regarding my father, I am so close to him because I am also attached to him. I consider my father as my best buddy. Lastly about my caregiver or aunt, she is the reason why I am like this because of her teachings and influence. She is my life coach, teacher, energizer, partner-in-crime, and my second mother.

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Mary Ainsworth’s Attachment Patterns

In psychology, the theory of attachment can be applied to adult and child relationships including friendships, emotional affairs, and adult romantic or platonic relationships and in some cases relationships with inanimate objects . Attachment theory, initially studied in the 1960s and 1970s primarily in the context of children and parents, was extended to adult relationships in the late 1980s.

Four main styles of attachment have been identified in adults:

         Secure attachment

        Avoidant attachment

        Ambivalent attachment

        Disorganized attachment

Once a child has developed a clear attachment, at about 6 to 8 months of age, several related behaviors also begin appearing. Stranger anxiety and separation anxiety, attachment behaviors that are rare before 5 to 6 months, rise in frequency until about 12 to 16 months, and then decline.

There are four patterns of attachment, including:

         Secure attachment

Children who can depend on their caregivers show distress when separated and joy when reunited. Although the child may be upset, they feel assured that the caregiver will return. When frightened, securely attached children are comfortable seeking reassurance from caregivers.

       Avoidant attachment

Children with an avoidant attachment tend to avoid parents or caregivers, showing no preference between a caregiver and a complete stranger. This attachment style might be a result of abusive or neglectful caregivers. Children who are punished for relying on a caregiver will learn to avoid seeking help in the future.

         Ambivalent attachment 

Child shows little exploration and is wary of stranger. Greatly upset when separated from mother, but not reassured by mother’s return or her efforts at comforting. Child both seeks and avoids contact at different times. May show anger toward mother at reunion, and resists both comfort from and contact with stranger.

         Disorganized attachment

 These children display a confusing mix of behavior, seeming disoriented, dazed, or confused. They may avoid or resist the parent. Lack of a clear attachment pattern is likely linked to inconsistent caregiver behavior. In such cases, parents may serve as both a source of comfort and fear, leading to disorganized behavior.

The central theme of attachment theory is that primary caregivers who are available and responsive to an infant's needs allow the child to develop a sense of security. The infant knows that the caregiver is dependable, which creates a secure base for the child to then explore the world.

Among the four patterns of attachment, best matches on my attachment style is secure attachment. I asked my mom, dad and grandma about this four attachments and they said that I am suitable or fits me the secure attachment. They said that when I was a child I tend to  depend on my mom that show distress when separated and joy when reunited. I may be upset but I feel assured that my mom will return. And when someone or one of the family member scolded I always run to my mom and ask for help.

At the present, I still adhere to that attachment style which is the secure attachment. I just observed that I felt attach to my mom up until now and when she’s on grocery or in the market and left me at home I really felt upset but when the moment she arrived joys in my heart. And also when I do have a problem I always run into her.

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Anxious Attachment Recovery: Simplified Strategies for Emotional Healing and Relationship Growth

Anxious Attachment Recovery: Simplified Strategies for Emotional Healing and Relationship Growth" is your comprehensive guide to transforming anxious attachment into secure, confident connections.

Written with empathy and expertise, "Anxious Attachment Recovery" breaks down the complexities of attachment theory into accessible, actionable steps. You’ll explore the roots of anxious attachment, learn to identify and challenge negative thoughts, build emotional awareness, and develop secure attachment habits. Each chapter is designed to empower you with tools for nurturing healthy relationships, strengthening self-esteem, and embracing personal growth.

This book is packed with exercises, journaling prompts, and daily affirmations to support your journey toward emotional healing. With chapters dedicated to overcoming negative thought patterns, building trust, and cultivating independence, "Anxious Attachment Recovery" is your roadmap to a more fulfilling, balanced life.

If you're new to the concept of attachment styles or have been struggling with anxious attachment for years, this book offers the guidance and support you need to reclaim your sense of self-worth, build stronger relationships, and create lasting change. Take the first step towards healing today and discover the confidence to thrive in your relationships and beyond. Buy your copy today!

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