#bbb.prompt

[your-bigender-big-brother]

What is your experience with being agender, libragender, nullgender, or gendervoid? Does it influence how you present yourself? Is your presentation separate from your gender? I'd love to know!

- Your Bigender Big Brother 💙💚

[your-bigender-big-brother]

As a demiboy (among other things), I love the way the flag looks. My favorite is the combination of gray and blue. Those two colors together are really growing on me and I'm enjoying gray as a color all on its own.

What about you? Is there something specific you like about a certain pride flag?

- Your Bigender Big Brother 💙💚

[your-bigender-big-brother]

For those who are maverique, either entirely or in part, what does that mean for you? I would love to learn more about the identity!

- Your Bigender Big Brother 💙💚

[your-bigender-big-brother]

Here’s some intersectional positivity for those with many facets to their identity that are inseparable from one another!

Do you experience this? Do you have two or more pieces of you that absolutely stay glued together no matter what?

- 💙💚

[your-bigender-big-brother]

I am proudly a man and also neutrois! I'm a nonbinary man, a demiguy, a man in a way that feels abinary. I'm a man in a neutral way, but also mostly a man. I'm neutrois, but only through the lens of manhood. I have a complicated relationship with being a man, but I'm still very much proud of my identity!

What about you? What are you proud of?

- Your Bigender Big Brother 💙💚

[your-bigender-big-brother]

For those who recently discovered that you have more than one gender: Are things more complicated knowing you have more than one gender? Or are things a lot easier now that you have a better idea of how many genders you have? Do you think you might have even more genders than you do right now? Tell me about it! - Your Bigender Big Brother 💙💚

[your-bigender-big-brother]

If you chose your name, why did you choose it?

- Your Bigender Big Brother 💙💚

[your-bigender-big-brother]

Sometimes I have to trim my mustache because I get food in it and have to wash my face after eating some things. Some guys might see this as annoying to deal with but it always reminds me of how far I've come in my transition!

Does anyone have any similar experiences?

- Your Bigender Big Brother 💙💚

[your-bigender-big-brother]

Support, love, and positivity for anyone who is xenogender, xingender, xeno-aligned, xenine, or anything similar. Gender is so variable and conventional language doesn't always do a good job at describing it. Sometimes, we need to look far beyond the binary for labels that fit our unique experiences. We need to recognize that there are people with these experiences in our communities who need support and validation. Go show some love to a xenic individual today!

Do you have a favorite xenogender blog or artist that you want to share? What about specific types of media that represent the xenic experience? Feel free to share whatever you know!

- Your Bigender Big Brother 💙💚

[your-bigender-big-brother]

If you want a way to keep track of your gender and labels, try starting a Gender Journal! A Gender Journal is a space for you to write down everything you want to about gender, potential labels, pronouns or terms you like, or anything else related to gender. It doesn’t need to be anything aesthetically pleasing or even use more than one color pen. It can be a simple notebook with a pen you can grab to quickly jot down thoughts and ideas. Separating it into sections with tabs can help, but is not necessary.

I have an entire notebook dedicated to writing labels that resonate with me, tracking days that I come out as different genders (from coming out as trans to coming out as a demiboy to coming out as bigender, with dates included), pronoun practice, and whatever else I want to write about!

Here is what you can include in a Gender Journal:

If you're trying to find a label that you want to use regularly but you're unsure which one you want to use, make a big list of gender labels you like and rate them with a score from 1 to 5 - from the least fitting to the most fitting. Cross out ones you no longer vibe with. Include dates so you know when you added terms and when you omitted them.

Try making a hoard of interesting labels with their definitions included. If you want, you can include what you like about the label or draw what the flags look like.

Make a hoard of pronouns you like, and dedicate a space for pronoun practice and write some paragraphs about yourself in the third person. Create a pros and cons list or notes on what you like or dislike about certain sets of pronouns - "I like thon/thons because they have a they/them sort of vibe, but they don't start with a vowel which is what I prefer."

Include a name hoard, which is great for the pronoun practice section. You can sort the names into when you would use them - if your gender feels more feminine, you might use a certain set of names, but you change to names that feel more masculine on those more masculine days. This works for anyone whose gender changes day to day, or in certain circumstances.

List some colors or aesthetics that match your gender experience. Use abstract concepts to describe it. Write down songs that have a specific gender vibe.

Have a list of characters that you relate to because of their gender or expression. Write down details on why you relate so much to these characters - it can be their facial hair, their pronouns, the way they dress, the accessories they wear, or even the kind of species they are.

What do you think? Would you ever try making a Gender Journal? - Your Bigender Big Brother 💙💚

[your-bigender-big-brother]

Pronouns that give me good feels:

ey/em/eirs e/em/eirs e/em/es e/im e/ir hu/hum hy/hym hey/hem

What about you? What pronouns make you feel really good?

- Your Bigender Big Brother 💙💚

[your-bigender-big-brother]

What kind of pride flag merch do you wish you could see more often at pride events?

- Your Bigender Big Brother 💙💚

[your-bigender-big-brother]

I've been scrapbooking about gender and new updates from my life. I don't like the font I made for the title of the YB3 page, but the gender spread is kinda nice!

Anyone else have trans-related art to share?

- Your Bigender Big Brother 💙💚

(Bonus: Dual-wielding.)

[your-bigender-big-brother]

Organizing Your Gender Hoard

Gender hoarding is the experience of "hoarding" or "collecting" gender terms that resonate with you. You might not identify as any genders in your hoard (called a non-oriented gender hoarder) or you may identify as every gender in your hoard (called an omni-oriented gender hoarder.)

We might organize our terms into categories based on how you use your hoard. Is your hoard used for questioning your own identity? Is it used to figure out all the genders of your many headmates? Are these terms just for your OCs' genders?

Here are some ways we might organize our gender hoard:

Terms based on abstract concepts, alignments, emotions, colors, etc. and organized into each of these. Does it feel like a warm gender? Does it make you think of a stormy sea? Is it aligned with an obscure aesthetigender that reminds you of childhood? Categories like "Warm", "Stormy", "Nostalgia", or others would work well here. You could even go more general - "Temperature", "Weather", or "Aesthetic" might be helpful.

Organized into Yes, Maybe, No. Use the Trello app for this (which also works on desktop), with a list for Yes, a list for Maybe, and a list for No. Each card can be a gender label. Now you can easily drag them from one list to another and easily add new labels over time. The labels that feel like they might fit you can easily change over time, so having the flexibility to change your mind can help a lot.

Organized alphabetically. This works well for a large hoard and is the easiest way to organize everything.

Separated into terms that reflect one half and terms that reflect the other half. Maybe half of your identity feels void-in-nature, so you have one half of your hoard dedicated to void-related identities. Maybe the other half feels xenic, so those terms are all genders that are xeno-aligned or xenic in some way. You can split your hoard into thirds or fourths as well.

"Backburner" terms: These are labels you don't specifically want to use, but you want to put it aside to remind you to look into it later. These can be unorganized, like jotting down a quick note for later.

Terms that give off a general vibe. Reminds you of nature? Reminds you of space? Makes you think of a specific character, song, or theme? A vague theme works just as well as a specific theme.

Separated into keywords - "fluid", "flux", "void", "floral", "food", "song", "color", "male", "female", "niaspec", etc. If you have your hoard in a document, you can search for labels using these keywords - just press Ctrl + F on desktop to search.

And of course, you can use a combination of all of these to sort all the labels in your hoard.

How do you organize your gender hoard? - Your Bigender Big Brother 💙💚

[your-bigender-big-brother]

I'm constantly aware of how many aspects of my identity intersect with my gender - plurality (and having headmates with different genders), otherkinity (and how my species might not have the same kind of understanding of gender as humans do), autism (and how my brain wiring might change how I view my gender), and many other little details. All of these things overlap with how I experience and understand gender for myself.

What about you? Are there aspects of your identity that overlap with your gender? How do these things change your experience with gender? - Your Bigender Big Brother 💙💚

[your-bigender-big-brother]

My weirdest issue: My beard is big and itchy and cumbersome, but shaving it down might make me dysphoric because of Baby Face™. Sometimes I struggle with my long hair but the other way around: I have a lot of hair that's difficult to deal with, but I'm afraid cutting my hair too short will make me look too masculine!

Anyone else have these issues?

- Your Bigender Big Brother 💙💚